What to say to FOO friends and family when going NC?

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I'm trying to figure who to continue relationships with directly

outside of the FOO.

- Nada's brother and sisters will get a simple holiday card with my

signature on it if they send me one. They live on the either side

of the US and none of us have been particularly close.

- Friends of Nada, I'm dropping contact and/or won't pursue a

realtionship with.

I have one grey area that I'm not sure of though. The daughter of

one of my mom's friends has been keeping in contact with me via

emails and letters. She is in her early 30's, but developmentally

about 10-12 years-old. I've been keeping in contact with her out of

kindess because she doesn't work or seem to have much of a social

life (red flags...I know). I'm not comfortable telling her about

the situation with the FOO and she wouldn't get why I don't talk to

them. I don't get much from the relationship, so it wouldn't be a

loss for me to stop responding, but I would feel real bad to end

contact with her without telling her why. I wouldn't want her to

think she had done something wrong.

Uugh! Any suggestions on how to graciously bow out?

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