Do BPs know their actions hurt others - was - Re: Hi! I'm new here.

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Lizzy,,

It's great that you guys validated my personal and educated belief

that nadas view there constituents as an extension of themselves to

accomplish means to their own ends. They don't merit or love the

individual. This is the sum of all the parts: the hydra, the witch,

waif, queen etc, the foo. All tools to create their chaos, all one in

the same. Are nadas accountable for creating this symphony of

destruction and pain that we lay in the wake of (knowing or

unknowing)? I think it depends on the KO viewing the looking glass.

Individuals may be bias in there branding of blame. One may think

their nada is completely autonomous in her decision making, because

they feel guilty for the policy of NC or one may stand all the weight

on the illness because they have vested interest in staying or leaving

or opposite of each. One may also look to predestined powers or the

will of a higher source in the actions of their nada. I think this

question gets right to the core of being a KO and although we have DSM

codes and studies that unwrap the science of our nada's a lot of us

remain guarded on this very question, because it makes up such a

large part of our being and core beliefs. Until its proven, I'll

respect every position that a KO takes; this belief keeps us from and

creates pain.

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> > Perhaps it is because Yeti was an N/BPD, not 'just' a BPD, but I can

> > say that she *DOES* know her actions hurt others, but does not care

> > because others don't exist to her. She does not view others as being

> > worthy of her concern (unless they are useful because she's actively

> > manipulating/abusing them to get what she wants.).

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