Guest guest Posted July 2, 2005 Report Share Posted July 2, 2005 --- In , " saralaughs02 " <saralaughs02@y...> wrote: > I ordered some stuff from the internet. I think I have my mind about > what I'm going to do Wishing you the best, Sara! Sierra Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 2, 2005 Report Share Posted July 2, 2005 > I ordered some stuff from the internet. I think I have my mind about > what I'm going to do Wishing you the best, Sara! Sierra Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 2, 2005 Report Share Posted July 2, 2005 Hello Sara, My name is Toni. I also have RA, OA and Fibro. I am like you and am not too thrilled with the many of the meds. I will have to tell you first need a good work up by a rheummy. Not all rheummies are evil and many will start conservative..you need to express your concern about meds as well as your desire to try complimentary treatments such as herbs, massage or whatever it is you have on your mind. As far as not being able to find time to go to the rheummy..well I can only assume you NEVER got to doctor or dentist because you can not take time out for yourself. This attitude is really counter productive to your goal. If you do not take time to get yourself straight you will NOT have to worry about being around for your kids. Check around in your community as far as choices for rheummies. You may find one that can work with your schedule. Possibly waiting until school reopens may help your situation. I was dx'd almost 4 yrs ago and it has been one hell of a ride so far. My first rheummy was great and listened and we worked to find meds that worked for me and did not have side effects. Well he moved away and I got a new rheummy that was total jerk. I was left on MTX until it threatened my life. I have had many other bad experiences with other drugs. Finally I took matters into my own hands and started refusing many treatments he was forcing on me. I also told him he was being a jerk and NOT listening to what I had to say...and I reminded him who paid his salary. Well after two years he also moved away. I just went to see my third rheummy and so far I love him. He is an excellent listener. He has decided that we need to start from scratch..one med or treatment at a time. That mixing a bunch of stuff up together would create a mess and he would not be able to tell what was causing side effects and what was really helping me. For a long time I had asked my old docs about anti-biotic therapy...they all said not and wanted me on the high tech most aggressive and most expensive drugs...these drugs also carry the most side effects and potential for life threatening problems. My new doc is starting anti-biotic therapy. No prednisone at this point. We are trying to spare my stomach from problems. So I use Lodine Xl. Nexium, Doxycycline and and nortriptiline for sleep. He believes in keeping it simple. He also does believe in complimentary therapy as well. It has taken FOUR long years to finally find a doc that works for me....so don't give up yet. You will find that many hear have gone through quite a few docs until they find a good doc. I can tell you that I have done many things to try and improve on my health. I have tried many herbal remadies with some improvement. I have undergone lapband weightloss surgery and lost weight, change my diet, now exercise, reduced my stress levels, and changed many things in my life. All have given me relief in my symptoms. I had a none month remission with no meds at all immediately follow my lapband surgery...but remissions do not last forever. As far as your husbands attitude. This is not uncommon...it sounds like he is afraid of what the future holds with you marriage and your life. Since he lost his father so suddenly. My hubby was also very slow to warm up to the idea. Everyone does not adapt to change at the same pace. Give him time. Provide the reading material and try to insist that he goes to the doc with you. This is well worth a babysitter...its YOUR life and YOUR marriage and YOUR kids lives. Also he may feel that you are being a drama queen cause he survived tragedy and did fine and feels you should be able to do the same. I feel that we all go through all the stages of grief and loss with dealing with this disease. We don't all cope in the same way or in the same amount of time. If you really feel this upset..please seek professional counseling for you and for your family. It does help. Meds can also help with the depression and grief. It does not make you weak...you are a person in need of a little help to get through this bump on life. I always keep in mind that I do this FOR my family and especially MY kids. I want to see grand and great grand children. I want to be able to run and play with them. I do not know how old you are...if you posted it I missed it...but I am 40 and was dx'd at 36. I suffered for a 1-2 yrs before that just thinking I was being lazy. You may write me off the group if you like....I will not go through all my meds and side effects again here...if you search the archiaves you will find my posts about medication complications. I will try to answer any questions you have about my experiences. Just don't give up! Toni In a message dated 7/2/05 9:11:17 P.M. Central Daylight Time, writes: Date: Sat, 02 Jul 2005 03:25:48 -0000 From: " saralaughs02 " <saralaughs02@...> Subject: The Next Step I ordered some stuff from the internet. I think I have my mind about what I'm going to do, IF the side effects won't kill me in a day. If there's risk of a heart attack, I will not take it. I'd rather die a slow painful death where I get to set my affairs in order, than a quick relatively painless one where I leave my kids wondering what the hell just happened to their mother, their life and themselves. My kids are by 2 marriages, and they would be split up if I die before they reach age of majority. Today has been a very bad day, pain-wise. Swelling in my ankles is getting every day. My husband seems unphased by this. I don't think he believes me (the degree of seriousness) and he's not interested in reading up on anything. His father died from a stroke (a side effect from the drugs) during treatment of cancer - a cancer which they told him he would make a full and complete recovery from. They caught it early, and they weren't really even worried about it. He left behind 6 kids, the oldest being mid-20's, the youngest a senior in high school. He also takes a very non-chalant attitude about my being upset at facing injections for the rest of my life. " Well, do what you gotta do, " as he practically shrugs his shoulders and walks away from me. This hurts most of all, but I should know by now to expect nothing more from him. This is not and will not be a pleasant time in my home. I feel let down by him and pixxed off at myself. C'est la vie. Sara Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 2, 2005 Report Share Posted July 2, 2005 Hello Sara, My name is Toni. I also have RA, OA and Fibro. I am like you and am not too thrilled with the many of the meds. I will have to tell you first need a good work up by a rheummy. Not all rheummies are evil and many will start conservative..you need to express your concern about meds as well as your desire to try complimentary treatments such as herbs, massage or whatever it is you have on your mind. As far as not being able to find time to go to the rheummy..well I can only assume you NEVER got to doctor or dentist because you can not take time out for yourself. This attitude is really counter productive to your goal. If you do not take time to get yourself straight you will NOT have to worry about being around for your kids. Check around in your community as far as choices for rheummies. You may find one that can work with your schedule. Possibly waiting until school reopens may help your situation. I was dx'd almost 4 yrs ago and it has been one hell of a ride so far. My first rheummy was great and listened and we worked to find meds that worked for me and did not have side effects. Well he moved away and I got a new rheummy that was total jerk. I was left on MTX until it threatened my life. I have had many other bad experiences with other drugs. Finally I took matters into my own hands and started refusing many treatments he was forcing on me. I also told him he was being a jerk and NOT listening to what I had to say...and I reminded him who paid his salary. Well after two years he also moved away. I just went to see my third rheummy and so far I love him. He is an excellent listener. He has decided that we need to start from scratch..one med or treatment at a time. That mixing a bunch of stuff up together would create a mess and he would not be able to tell what was causing side effects and what was really helping me. For a long time I had asked my old docs about anti-biotic therapy...they all said not and wanted me on the high tech most aggressive and most expensive drugs...these drugs also carry the most side effects and potential for life threatening problems. My new doc is starting anti-biotic therapy. No prednisone at this point. We are trying to spare my stomach from problems. So I use Lodine Xl. Nexium, Doxycycline and and nortriptiline for sleep. He believes in keeping it simple. He also does believe in complimentary therapy as well. It has taken FOUR long years to finally find a doc that works for me....so don't give up yet. You will find that many hear have gone through quite a few docs until they find a good doc. I can tell you that I have done many things to try and improve on my health. I have tried many herbal remadies with some improvement. I have undergone lapband weightloss surgery and lost weight, change my diet, now exercise, reduced my stress levels, and changed many things in my life. All have given me relief in my symptoms. I had a none month remission with no meds at all immediately follow my lapband surgery...but remissions do not last forever. As far as your husbands attitude. This is not uncommon...it sounds like he is afraid of what the future holds with you marriage and your life. Since he lost his father so suddenly. My hubby was also very slow to warm up to the idea. Everyone does not adapt to change at the same pace. Give him time. Provide the reading material and try to insist that he goes to the doc with you. This is well worth a babysitter...its YOUR life and YOUR marriage and YOUR kids lives. Also he may feel that you are being a drama queen cause he survived tragedy and did fine and feels you should be able to do the same. I feel that we all go through all the stages of grief and loss with dealing with this disease. We don't all cope in the same way or in the same amount of time. If you really feel this upset..please seek professional counseling for you and for your family. It does help. Meds can also help with the depression and grief. It does not make you weak...you are a person in need of a little help to get through this bump on life. I always keep in mind that I do this FOR my family and especially MY kids. I want to see grand and great grand children. I want to be able to run and play with them. I do not know how old you are...if you posted it I missed it...but I am 40 and was dx'd at 36. I suffered for a 1-2 yrs before that just thinking I was being lazy. You may write me off the group if you like....I will not go through all my meds and side effects again here...if you search the archiaves you will find my posts about medication complications. I will try to answer any questions you have about my experiences. Just don't give up! Toni In a message dated 7/2/05 9:11:17 P.M. Central Daylight Time, writes: Date: Sat, 02 Jul 2005 03:25:48 -0000 From: " saralaughs02 " <saralaughs02@...> Subject: The Next Step I ordered some stuff from the internet. I think I have my mind about what I'm going to do, IF the side effects won't kill me in a day. If there's risk of a heart attack, I will not take it. I'd rather die a slow painful death where I get to set my affairs in order, than a quick relatively painless one where I leave my kids wondering what the hell just happened to their mother, their life and themselves. My kids are by 2 marriages, and they would be split up if I die before they reach age of majority. Today has been a very bad day, pain-wise. Swelling in my ankles is getting every day. My husband seems unphased by this. I don't think he believes me (the degree of seriousness) and he's not interested in reading up on anything. His father died from a stroke (a side effect from the drugs) during treatment of cancer - a cancer which they told him he would make a full and complete recovery from. They caught it early, and they weren't really even worried about it. He left behind 6 kids, the oldest being mid-20's, the youngest a senior in high school. He also takes a very non-chalant attitude about my being upset at facing injections for the rest of my life. " Well, do what you gotta do, " as he practically shrugs his shoulders and walks away from me. This hurts most of all, but I should know by now to expect nothing more from him. This is not and will not be a pleasant time in my home. I feel let down by him and pixxed off at myself. C'est la vie. Sara Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 3, 2005 Report Share Posted July 3, 2005 Thank you, Toni! I think yours is one of the posts that I saved for my DH to read. The 6 pages of info I gave to him are still setting on the computer monitor. *oh well* Re: docs: The name of the Rheum I got was a referral from our family Orthropedic doc. The Ortho used to be the team Ortho for the Pittsburgh Pirates. I couldn't get in w/ named Rheum, so I took an associate for the first appt. If I don't like her, I'll schedule an appt w/ named doc in September/October. I am concerned about going in w/ no references on this lady doc but I'll see what she says. DH would never go to an appt w/ me. He can certainly find time for softball and doing what he wants, but it's assumed that he can leave and since I'm a SAHM, I will just wait til he gets back. Which I do bc who's going anywhere w/ 4 kids, right? I take time out in my computer time. The RA is something that I will definately facing alone. I will no longer be offering any info to my DH regarding this unless he asks first. I do get the feeling that he thinks I'm exaggerating w/ the fatigue and pain, but there is nothing I can do to change his mind. I've shown him pics on the internet of what RA looks like unTxed. He got quiet and just said, " Well, don't change your majors until you find out what that guy says. " He doesn't even know my doc is a woman. *sigh* In spite of his ignorant attitude toward me, I will march on. And one day, if he doesn't get on board eventually, I will move on. I know that I certainly deserve better than this and I know I don't need him ~ or any man for that matter. Someday, he will regret it but by then, I will be so far gone, he won't know what hit him. C'est la vie. Sara > > Hello Sara, > My name is Toni. I also have RA, OA and Fibro. I am like you and am not > too thrilled with the many of the meds. I will have to tell you first need a > good work up by a rheummy. Not all rheummies are evil and many will start > conservative..you need to express your concern about meds as well as your desire > to try complimentary treatments such as herbs, massage or whatever it is you > have on your mind. > > As far as not being able to find time to go to the rheummy..well I can only > assume you NEVER got to doctor or dentist because you can not take time out > for yourself. This attitude is really counter productive to your goal. If > you do not take time to get yourself straight you will NOT have to worry about > being around for your kids. Check around in your community as far as choices > for rheummies. You may find one that can work with your schedule. Possibly > waiting until school reopens may help your situation. > > I was dx'd almost 4 yrs ago and it has been one hell of a ride so far. My > first rheummy was great and listened and we worked to find meds that worked for > me and did not have side effects. Well he moved away and I got a new > rheummy that was total jerk. I was left on MTX until it threatened my life. I > have had many other bad experiences with other drugs. Finally I took matters > into my own hands and started refusing many treatments he was forcing on me. I > also told him he was being a jerk and NOT listening to what I had to > say...and I reminded him who paid his salary. Well after two years he also moved > away. > > I just went to see my third rheummy and so far I love him. He is an > excellent listener. He has decided that we need to start from scratch..one med or > treatment at a time. That mixing a bunch of stuff up together would create a > mess and he would not be able to tell what was causing side effects and what > was really helping me. > > For a long time I had asked my old docs about anti-biotic therapy...they all > said not and wanted me on the high tech most aggressive and most expensive > drugs...these drugs also carry the most side effects and potential for life > threatening problems. > > My new doc is starting anti-biotic therapy. No prednisone at this point. > We are trying to spare my stomach from problems. So I use Lodine Xl. Nexium, > Doxycycline and and nortriptiline for sleep. He believes in keeping it > simple. He also does believe in complimentary therapy as well. > > It has taken FOUR long years to finally find a doc that works for me....so > don't give up yet. You will find that many hear have gone through quite a > few docs until they find a good doc. > > I can tell you that I have done many things to try and improve on my health. > I have tried many herbal remadies with some improvement. I have undergone > lapband weightloss surgery and lost weight, change my diet, now exercise, > reduced my stress levels, and changed many things in my life. All have given me > relief in my symptoms. I had a none month remission with no meds at all > immediately follow my lapband surgery...but remissions do not last forever. > > As far as your husbands attitude. This is not uncommon...it sounds like he > is afraid of what the future holds with you marriage and your life. Since he > lost his father so suddenly. My hubby was also very slow to warm up to the > idea. Everyone does not adapt to change at the same pace. Give him time. > Provide the reading material and try to insist that he goes to the doc with > you. This is well worth a babysitter...its YOUR life and YOUR marriage and > YOUR kids lives. Also he may feel that you are being a drama queen cause he > survived tragedy and did fine and feels you should be able to do the same. > > I feel that we all go through all the stages of grief and loss with dealing > with this disease. We don't all cope in the same way or in the same amount > of time. If you really feel this upset..please seek professional counseling > for you and for your family. It does help. Meds can also help with the > depression and grief. It does not make you weak...you are a person in need of a > little help to get through this bump on life. > > I always keep in mind that I do this FOR my family and especially MY kids. > I want to see grand and great grand children. I want to be able to run and > play with them. I do not know how old you are...if you posted it I missed > it...but I am 40 and was dx'd at 36. I suffered for a 1-2 yrs before that just > thinking I was being lazy. > > You may write me off the group if you like....I will not go through all my > meds and side effects again here...if you search the archiaves you will find my > posts about medication complications. I will try to answer any questions > you have about my experiences. > > Just don't give up! > Toni > > In a message dated 7/2/05 9:11:17 P.M. Central Daylight Time, > writes: > > Date: Sat, 02 Jul 2005 03:25:48 -0000 > From: " saralaughs02 " <saralaughs02@y...> > Subject: The Next Step > > I ordered some stuff from the internet. I think I have my mind about > what I'm going to do, IF the side effects won't kill me in a day. If > there's risk of a heart attack, I will not take it. I'd rather die a > slow painful death where I get to set my affairs in order, than a > quick relatively painless one where I leave my kids wondering what > the hell just happened to their mother, their life and themselves. > My kids are by 2 marriages, and they would be split up if I die > before they reach age of majority. > > Today has been a very bad day, pain-wise. Swelling in my ankles is > getting every day. My husband seems unphased by this. I don't think > he believes me (the degree of seriousness) and he's not interested in > reading up on anything. His father died from a stroke (a side effect > from the drugs) during treatment of cancer - a cancer which they told > him he would make a full and complete recovery from. They caught it > early, and they weren't really even worried about it. He left behind > 6 kids, the oldest being mid-20's, the youngest a senior in high > school. He also takes a very non-chalant attitude about my being > upset at facing injections for the rest of my life. " Well, do what > you gotta do, " as he practically shrugs his shoulders and walks away > from me. This hurts most of all, but I should know by now to expect > nothing more from him. > > This is not and will not be a pleasant time in my home. I feel let > down by him and pixxed off at myself. > > C'est la vie. > > Sara > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 3, 2005 Report Share Posted July 3, 2005 Thank you, Toni! I think yours is one of the posts that I saved for my DH to read. The 6 pages of info I gave to him are still setting on the computer monitor. *oh well* Re: docs: The name of the Rheum I got was a referral from our family Orthropedic doc. The Ortho used to be the team Ortho for the Pittsburgh Pirates. I couldn't get in w/ named Rheum, so I took an associate for the first appt. If I don't like her, I'll schedule an appt w/ named doc in September/October. I am concerned about going in w/ no references on this lady doc but I'll see what she says. DH would never go to an appt w/ me. He can certainly find time for softball and doing what he wants, but it's assumed that he can leave and since I'm a SAHM, I will just wait til he gets back. Which I do bc who's going anywhere w/ 4 kids, right? I take time out in my computer time. The RA is something that I will definately facing alone. I will no longer be offering any info to my DH regarding this unless he asks first. I do get the feeling that he thinks I'm exaggerating w/ the fatigue and pain, but there is nothing I can do to change his mind. I've shown him pics on the internet of what RA looks like unTxed. He got quiet and just said, " Well, don't change your majors until you find out what that guy says. " He doesn't even know my doc is a woman. *sigh* In spite of his ignorant attitude toward me, I will march on. And one day, if he doesn't get on board eventually, I will move on. I know that I certainly deserve better than this and I know I don't need him ~ or any man for that matter. Someday, he will regret it but by then, I will be so far gone, he won't know what hit him. C'est la vie. Sara > > Hello Sara, > My name is Toni. I also have RA, OA and Fibro. I am like you and am not > too thrilled with the many of the meds. I will have to tell you first need a > good work up by a rheummy. Not all rheummies are evil and many will start > conservative..you need to express your concern about meds as well as your desire > to try complimentary treatments such as herbs, massage or whatever it is you > have on your mind. > > As far as not being able to find time to go to the rheummy..well I can only > assume you NEVER got to doctor or dentist because you can not take time out > for yourself. This attitude is really counter productive to your goal. If > you do not take time to get yourself straight you will NOT have to worry about > being around for your kids. Check around in your community as far as choices > for rheummies. You may find one that can work with your schedule. Possibly > waiting until school reopens may help your situation. > > I was dx'd almost 4 yrs ago and it has been one hell of a ride so far. My > first rheummy was great and listened and we worked to find meds that worked for > me and did not have side effects. Well he moved away and I got a new > rheummy that was total jerk. I was left on MTX until it threatened my life. I > have had many other bad experiences with other drugs. Finally I took matters > into my own hands and started refusing many treatments he was forcing on me. I > also told him he was being a jerk and NOT listening to what I had to > say...and I reminded him who paid his salary. Well after two years he also moved > away. > > I just went to see my third rheummy and so far I love him. He is an > excellent listener. He has decided that we need to start from scratch..one med or > treatment at a time. That mixing a bunch of stuff up together would create a > mess and he would not be able to tell what was causing side effects and what > was really helping me. > > For a long time I had asked my old docs about anti-biotic therapy...they all > said not and wanted me on the high tech most aggressive and most expensive > drugs...these drugs also carry the most side effects and potential for life > threatening problems. > > My new doc is starting anti-biotic therapy. No prednisone at this point. > We are trying to spare my stomach from problems. So I use Lodine Xl. Nexium, > Doxycycline and and nortriptiline for sleep. He believes in keeping it > simple. He also does believe in complimentary therapy as well. > > It has taken FOUR long years to finally find a doc that works for me....so > don't give up yet. You will find that many hear have gone through quite a > few docs until they find a good doc. > > I can tell you that I have done many things to try and improve on my health. > I have tried many herbal remadies with some improvement. I have undergone > lapband weightloss surgery and lost weight, change my diet, now exercise, > reduced my stress levels, and changed many things in my life. All have given me > relief in my symptoms. I had a none month remission with no meds at all > immediately follow my lapband surgery...but remissions do not last forever. > > As far as your husbands attitude. This is not uncommon...it sounds like he > is afraid of what the future holds with you marriage and your life. Since he > lost his father so suddenly. My hubby was also very slow to warm up to the > idea. Everyone does not adapt to change at the same pace. Give him time. > Provide the reading material and try to insist that he goes to the doc with > you. This is well worth a babysitter...its YOUR life and YOUR marriage and > YOUR kids lives. Also he may feel that you are being a drama queen cause he > survived tragedy and did fine and feels you should be able to do the same. > > I feel that we all go through all the stages of grief and loss with dealing > with this disease. We don't all cope in the same way or in the same amount > of time. If you really feel this upset..please seek professional counseling > for you and for your family. It does help. Meds can also help with the > depression and grief. It does not make you weak...you are a person in need of a > little help to get through this bump on life. > > I always keep in mind that I do this FOR my family and especially MY kids. > I want to see grand and great grand children. I want to be able to run and > play with them. I do not know how old you are...if you posted it I missed > it...but I am 40 and was dx'd at 36. I suffered for a 1-2 yrs before that just > thinking I was being lazy. > > You may write me off the group if you like....I will not go through all my > meds and side effects again here...if you search the archiaves you will find my > posts about medication complications. I will try to answer any questions > you have about my experiences. > > Just don't give up! > Toni > > In a message dated 7/2/05 9:11:17 P.M. Central Daylight Time, > writes: > > Date: Sat, 02 Jul 2005 03:25:48 -0000 > From: " saralaughs02 " <saralaughs02@y...> > Subject: The Next Step > > I ordered some stuff from the internet. I think I have my mind about > what I'm going to do, IF the side effects won't kill me in a day. If > there's risk of a heart attack, I will not take it. I'd rather die a > slow painful death where I get to set my affairs in order, than a > quick relatively painless one where I leave my kids wondering what > the hell just happened to their mother, their life and themselves. > My kids are by 2 marriages, and they would be split up if I die > before they reach age of majority. > > Today has been a very bad day, pain-wise. Swelling in my ankles is > getting every day. My husband seems unphased by this. I don't think > he believes me (the degree of seriousness) and he's not interested in > reading up on anything. His father died from a stroke (a side effect > from the drugs) during treatment of cancer - a cancer which they told > him he would make a full and complete recovery from. They caught it > early, and they weren't really even worried about it. He left behind > 6 kids, the oldest being mid-20's, the youngest a senior in high > school. He also takes a very non-chalant attitude about my being > upset at facing injections for the rest of my life. " Well, do what > you gotta do, " as he practically shrugs his shoulders and walks away > from me. This hurts most of all, but I should know by now to expect > nothing more from him. > > This is not and will not be a pleasant time in my home. I feel let > down by him and pixxed off at myself. > > C'est la vie. > > Sara > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 7, 2009 Report Share Posted January 7, 2009 Dyann, I hear you when you say you are sick and tired of being in pain. Still...please realize that there is no such thing as a sure thing following this surgery...at least if you have extensive surgery similar to what many of us had. Did DrBecker detail what he would do surgically? I am not trying to burst your bubble...just trying to alert you that if this surgeon is promising you " a painfree, kickboxing kind of life, then he is " one of a kind " . Some of us have gotten close to that....but it just sounds like he was being too cavalier. If it was me I would have some concerns that I didn't get clear answers to my questions about previous patients, nor a willingness to put you in touch. Yes, that takes a little time, but it is not a problem for most surgeons staff to arrange such a thing....if there are sufficient numbers of similar patients, which I think is what you want. If you are going to pursue surgery with this doctor I would insist on some reference patients. Many of us have waited 6-12 weeks for a appt with a particularly sought after surgeon. I would say you should at least schedule the very next open appointment with Horton and ask the scheduler to keep you on the list if something opens up sooner. DrBecker may have trained with DrHorton, but he doesn't seem to be a member of the SRS, he sounds a bit like he is overpromising you. Try to see the angst you are feeling now as a normal reaction to the enormity of the situation you are in. I think making these decisions is a " life decision " , along the order of should I marry this guy?, should I have a child?....because the quality of the rest of your life will rest on how this all goes. Go slow in your decisionmaking and be meticulous in your preparations and you will at least feel that you have done every thing possible to give yourself the very best chances for a good outcome. Unless DrBecker told you that surgery need to be scheduled quickly for emergency or another specific reason, waiting 3 months for a good 2nd opinion is nothing when you consider how many more years of pain free living you hope to have. Go slow on that next step. Thats my $.02! Take Care, Cam Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 8, 2009 Report Share Posted January 8, 2009 HI Dyann, I agree with Cam completely. And, it seems to me that if it is going to take such a long time for him to find out which of his patients had this surgery, then he doesn't have enough of them. I would be very wary. Bonnie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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