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Oh , please don't take me wrong- There is NO excuse for his behavior and the

way he spoke to Shaun. I totally like Shaun (heck- so far I like everyone except

******). And you would never hear me speak like that. I was just trying to

figure out why he would have an outburst like that.

 

Sandy

________________________________

To: " Hugs-N-Pain " <Hugs-N-Pain >

Sent: Sun, January 23, 2011 2:50:45 AM

Subject: Re: Fwd: (no subject)

 

I'm sorry sandy but we all take different drugs on this group and no one else is

nasty like that thing is, there is no excuse what so ever to be nasty to Shaun

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x

> I'm curious why he has suddenly gotten so mean & rude. I haven't been a member

> for very long, but it did somewhat shock me when I read his first couple of

> postings that were so disgusting. Do you think perhaps it's the drugs (pain

> meds) that he's taking? I know it's no excuse, but I have seen my share of

> " controlled substance " abusers that make people act like heathens. When they

> take so many, it's no different (maybe even worse) than an abusive, mean

> alcoholic.

>

> Sandy

>

> ________________________________

>

> To: Hugs-N-Pain

> Sent: Sun, January 23, 2011 1:59:29 AM

> Subject: Fwd: (no subject)

>

>

> This is what im talking about he is rude, uncaring and now he is

> harrassing me offline too...

>

> Love and Peace

> Always

> Shaun and Barb

>

> ____________________________________

> From: donnie3024@...

> To: mnbranch08@...

> Sent: 1/22/2011 11:58:09 P.M. Mountain Standard Time

> Subj: (no subject)

>

> hi barb and shauwn you 2 are probly 2 nice gals i just thank lesbians and

> gays need to stay in the closet it is a sin god didnot make wemon for wemen

> or men for men it is perverted what lesbians and gays do all most everbody

> dont like it donnie

>

>

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I know I didn't mean it to sound nasty my ex husband was a evil man and he

blamed the drink and drugs he use to take like cocaine and ecstasy pills and he

was constantly blaming the drink but he was just an evil twisted man. I know you

wasn't being nasty I apologise I wasn't being nasty at all

Sent from my iPhone

x

> Oh , please don't take me wrong- There is NO excuse for his behavior and

the

> way he spoke to Shaun. I totally like Shaun (heck- so far I like everyone

except

> ******). And you would never hear me speak like that. I was just trying to

> figure out why he would have an outburst like that.

>

>

> Sandy

>

> ________________________________

>

> To: " Hugs-N-Pain " <Hugs-N-Pain >

> Sent: Sun, January 23, 2011 2:50:45 AM

> Subject: Re: Fwd: (no subject)

>

>

> I'm sorry sandy but we all take different drugs on this group and no one else

is

> nasty like that thing is, there is no excuse what so ever to be nasty to Shaun

>

> Sent from my iPhone

> x

>

>

>

> > I'm curious why he has suddenly gotten so mean & rude. I haven't been a

member

>

> > for very long, but it did somewhat shock me when I read his first couple of

> > postings that were so disgusting. Do you think perhaps it's the drugs (pain

> > meds) that he's taking? I know it's no excuse, but I have seen my share of

> > " controlled substance " abusers that make people act like heathens. When they

> > take so many, it's no different (maybe even worse) than an abusive, mean

> > alcoholic.

> >

> > Sandy

> >

> > ________________________________

> >

> > To: Hugs-N-Pain

> > Sent: Sun, January 23, 2011 1:59:29 AM

> > Subject: Fwd: (no subject)

> >

> >

> > This is what im talking about he is rude, uncaring and now he is

> > harrassing me offline too...

> >

> > Love and Peace

> > Always

> > Shaun and Barb

> >

> > ____________________________________

> > From: donnie3024@...

> > To: mnbranch08@...

> > Sent: 1/22/2011 11:58:09 P.M. Mountain Standard Time

> > Subj: (no subject)

> >

> > hi barb and shauwn you 2 are probly 2 nice gals i just thank lesbians and

> > gays need to stay in the closet it is a sin god didnot make wemon for wemen

> > or men for men it is perverted what lesbians and gays do all most everbody

> > dont like it donnie

> >

> >

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i am sorry for the ones i upset if you are a lesbian or gay keep it keep it to

you self dont flont it ask for lesbian moteraters all i am old fashon what one

dose stays behind doors i thout this was a pain group if you are gay or a

lesbian keep it to your self i didnot start this lesbian stuff is that all

everbody wants to talk about it inbareses me i am sorry for the ones i ofended

why cant people keep it to them selfs you dont here me saying what i am lets get

back on pain donnie

> I'm curious why he has suddenly gotten so mean & rude. I haven't been a member

> for very long, but it did somewhat shock me when I read his first couple of

> postings that were so disgusting. Do you think perhaps it's the drugs (pain

> meds) that he's taking? I know it's no excuse, but I have seen my share of

> " controlled substance " abusers that make people act like heathens. When they

> take so many, it's no different (maybe even worse) than an abusive, mean

> alcoholic.

>

> Sandy

>

> ________________________________

>

> To: Hugs-N-Pain

> Sent: Sun, January 23, 2011 1:59:29 AM

> Subject: Fwd: (no subject)

>

>

> This is what im talking about he is rude, uncaring and now he is

> harrassing me offline too...

>

> Love and Peace

> Always

> Shaun and Barb

>

> ____________________________________

> From: donnie3024@...

> To: mnbranch08@...

> Sent: 1/22/2011 11:58:09 P.M. Mountain Standard Time

> Subj: (no subject)

>

> hi barb and shauwn you 2 are probly 2 nice gals i just thank lesbians and

> gays need to stay in the closet it is a sin god didnot make wemon for wemen

> or men for men it is perverted what lesbians and gays do all most everbody

> dont like it donnie

>

>

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Over the years I have been a member of alot of groups, even moderated a few,

but this is the first time I have seen a group that lets a member make

personal attacks on other members and still remain within the group. This

is not about who is lesbian and who is not, its about a member who is

completely intolerant and yet able to remain within the group to further

spread his hate. This life is full of enough drama and those of us who

suffer with pain come here for support....your kind of bigotry and

homophobia has no place here or anywhere, but since it is allowed I will

withdrawl my membership from the group.

-- Fwd: (no subject)

>

>

> This is what im talking about he is rude, uncaring and now he is

> harrassing me offline too...

>

> Love and Peace

> Always

> Shaun and Barb

>

> ____________________________________

> From: donnie3024@...

> To: mnbranch08@...

> Sent: 1/22/2011 11:58:09 P.M. Mountain Standard Time

> Subj: (no subject)

>

> hi barb and shauwn you 2 are probly 2 nice gals i just thank lesbians and

> gays need to stay in the closet it is a sin god didnot make wemon for

wemen

> or men for men it is perverted what lesbians and gays do all most everbody

> dont like it donnie

>

>

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While advertising may not have been acceptable, talking about our lives is.

We’re here for support, and receiving support and giving support is what I

have always believed this list is for. People have talked about their

heterosexual partners a lot….I’ve even read certain people talking about

their marital separations, affairs, etc. We are friends and friends talk about

things. Being a lesbian, or gay is not something that should be ignored or not

allowed to be talked about. It’s part of our lives.

IF we are not allowed to talk about anything other than our pain, I don’t

think that’s possible. Pain affects our lives, in every way and sometimes

talking about how our partners (heterosexual, homosexual or otherwise) and how

that effects our pain is important. I’m thrilled for Shaun that she’s found

her partner, Barb……finding someone to love is a wonderful thing, and if that

person understands our pain, or even shares it, while that is not a great thing,

it’s a way that people can connect to. I can’t imagine being in this

amount of pain and not having people who can support me…that’s one of the

reasons this group is so wonderful…it’s support. Sometimes our families (at

least I think so) tend to get overwhelmed by our issues…they just can’t

deal. Even though my daughter has her own issues, there are times I know

she’s thinking “can we just talk about SOMETHING other than your pain,

pills, doctors or other medical crapâ€â€¦.

I think it’s wonderful, Shaun that you’ve found another woman to love who

can understand what you’re dealing with. Finding love, true accepting love,

is really difficult for anyone…but for those of us who live in pain, I think

it’s even more difficult. We have to consider our partners needs, which can

be difficult when we’re so caught up in our own.

But saying “don’t talk about being a lesbian/gay†is like saying, don’t

talk about your husband/wife, children, family, pets, etc. How can we share

what we’re going through if we’re not allowed to talk about what makes us

what we are. We are MORE than the pain we are in…we are people too….and all

the things in our lives help to make us who we are.

While I can see the no advertising other lists (that just makes sense to me),

not referring to parts of our lives that effect us (like our partners, being

lesbian, Latino, pets, etc) would stop much of the support we get from this

list. Just my opinion, of course….but it makes sense to me.

Marta, AR

If you cannot be a poet, be the poem. ~ Carradine

From: Hugs-N-Pain [mailto:Hugs-N-Pain ] On Beh Of

donnie Gibbs

Sent: Sunday, January 23, 2011 6:58 PM

To: Hugs-N-Pain

Subject: Re: Fwd: (no subject)/

i am sorry for the ones i upset if you are a lesbian or gay keep it keep it to

you self dont flont it ask for lesbian moteraters all i am old fashon what one

dose stays behind doors i thout this was a pain group if you are gay or a

lesbian keep it to your self i didnot start this lesbian stuff is that all

everbody wants to talk about it inbareses me i am sorry for the ones i ofended

why cant people keep it to them selfs you dont here me saying what i am lets get

back on pain donnie

> I'm curious why he has suddenly gotten so mean & rude. I haven't been a member

> for very long, but it did somewhat shock me when I read his first couple of

> postings that were so disgusting. Do you think perhaps it's the drugs (pain

> meds) that he's taking? I know it's no excuse, but I have seen my share of

> " controlled substance " abusers that make people act like heathens. When they

> take so many, it's no different (maybe even worse) than an abusive, mean

> alcoholic.

>

> Sandy

>

> ________________________________

> From: " mnbranch08@... <mailto:mnbranch08%40aol.com> " <mnbranch08@...

<mailto:mnbranch08%40aol.com> >

> To: Hugs-N-Pain <mailto:Hugs-N-Pain%40yahoogroups.com>

> Sent: Sun, January 23, 2011 1:59:29 AM

> Subject: Fwd: (no subject)

>

>

> This is what im talking about he is rude, uncaring and now he is

> harrassing me offline too...

>

> Love and Peace

> Always

> Shaun and Barb

>

> ____________________________________

> From: donnie3024@... <mailto:donnie3024%40yahoo.com>

> To: mnbranch08@... <mailto:mnbranch08%40aol.com>

> Sent: 1/22/2011 11:58:09 P.M. Mountain Standard Time

> Subj: (no subject)

>

> hi barb and shauwn you 2 are probly 2 nice gals i just thank lesbians and

> gays need to stay in the closet it is a sin god didnot make wemon for wemen

> or men for men it is perverted what lesbians and gays do all most everbody

> dont like it donnie

>

>

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This just occurred to me, and wrote it….while inspired by the recent events,

it’s something that’s been in my head for a while….

I am a person in pain.

I am a person with RSD, Fibromyalgia, nerve damage, an enlarged heart and

Chronic Hep C

I am a person who takes Narcotics, not to get high, but to get by

I am a person who is an animal rescue person, an animal lover and a woman who

cares about all life

I am a person who doesn’t find love in specific genders, I love a person, not

a gender

I am a person who is Pagan, but I find acceptance of all beliefs to be

honorable. , god, Jehovah, Allah, are all names for faith

I am a person who believes that all life is precious and all people have value

I am a person, made up by different parts, but not defined by those parts.

I am a person.

I am me

Marta, AR

If you cannot be a poet, be the poem. ~ Carradine

From: Hugs-N-Pain [mailto:Hugs-N-Pain ] On Behalf

Of Marta

Sent: Sunday, January 23, 2011 8:01 PM

To: Hugs-N-Pain

Subject: RE: Fwd: (no subject)/

While advertising may not have been acceptable, talking about our lives is.

We’re here for support, and receiving support and giving support is what I

have always believed this list is for. People have talked about their

heterosexual partners a lot….I’ve even read certain people talking about

their marital separations, affairs, etc. We are friends and friends talk about

things. Being a lesbian, or gay is not something that should be ignored or not

allowed to be talked about. It’s part of our lives.

IF we are not allowed to talk about anything other than our pain, I don’t

think that’s possible. Pain affects our lives, in every way and sometimes

talking about how our partners (heterosexual, homosexual or otherwise) and how

that effects our pain is important. I’m thrilled for Shaun that she’s found

her partner, Barb……finding someone to love is a wonderful thing, and if that

person understands our pain, or even shares it, while that is not a great thing,

it’s a way that people can connect to. I can’t imagine being in this amount

of pain and not having people who can support me…that’s one of the reasons

this group is so wonderful…it’s support. Sometimes our families (at least I

think so) tend to get overwhelmed by our issues…they just can’t deal. Even

though my daughter has her own issues, there are times I know she’s thinking

“can we just talk about SOMETHING other than your pain, pills, doctors or

other medical crapâ€â€¦.

I think it’s wonderful, Shaun that you’ve found another woman to love who

can understand what you’re dealing with. Finding love, true accepting love, is

really difficult for anyone…but for those of us who live in pain, I think

it’s even more difficult. We have to consider our partners needs, which can be

difficult when we’re so caught up in our own.

But saying “don’t talk about being a lesbian/gay†is like saying, don’t

talk about your husband/wife, children, family, pets, etc. How can we share what

we’re going through if we’re not allowed to talk about what makes us what we

are. We are MORE than the pain we are in…we are people too….and all the

things in our lives help to make us who we are.

While I can see the no advertising other lists (that just makes sense to me),

not referring to parts of our lives that effect us (like our partners, being

lesbian, Latino, pets, etc) would stop much of the support we get from this

list. Just my opinion, of course….but it makes sense to me.

Marta, AR

If you cannot be a poet, be the poem. ~ Carradine

From: Hugs-N-Pain <mailto:Hugs-N-Pain%40yahoogroups.com>

[mailto:Hugs-N-Pain <mailto:Hugs-N-Pain%40yahoogroups.com> ] On

Beh Of donnie Gibbs

Sent: Sunday, January 23, 2011 6:58 PM

To: Hugs-N-Pain <mailto:Hugs-N-Pain%40yahoogroups.com>

Subject: Re: Fwd: (no subject)/

i am sorry for the ones i upset if you are a lesbian or gay keep it keep it to

you self dont flont it ask for lesbian moteraters all i am old fashon what one

dose stays behind doors i thout this was a pain group if you are gay or a

lesbian keep it to your self i didnot start this lesbian stuff is that all

everbody wants to talk about it inbareses me i am sorry for the ones i ofended

why cant people keep it to them selfs you dont here me saying what i am lets get

back on pain donnie

> I'm curious why he has suddenly gotten so mean & rude. I haven't been a member

> for very long, but it did somewhat shock me when I read his first couple of

> postings that were so disgusting. Do you think perhaps it's the drugs (pain

> meds) that he's taking? I know it's no excuse, but I have seen my share of

> " controlled substance " abusers that make people act like heathens. When they

> take so many, it's no different (maybe even worse) than an abusive, mean

> alcoholic.

>

> Sandy

>

> ________________________________

> From: " mnbranch08@... <mailto:mnbranch08%40aol.com>

<mailto:mnbranch08%40aol.com> " <mnbranch08@...

<mailto:mnbranch08%40aol.com> <mailto:mnbranch08%40aol.com> >

> To: Hugs-N-Pain <mailto:Hugs-N-Pain%40yahoogroups.com>

<mailto:Hugs-N-Pain%40yahoogroups.com>

> Sent: Sun, January 23, 2011 1:59:29 AM

> Subject: Fwd: (no subject)

>

>

> This is what im talking about he is rude, uncaring and now he is

> harrassing me offline too...

>

> Love and Peace

> Always

> Shaun and Barb

>

> ____________________________________

> From: donnie3024@... <mailto:donnie3024%40yahoo.com>

<mailto:donnie3024%40yahoo.com>

> To: mnbranch08@... <mailto:mnbranch08%40aol.com>

<mailto:mnbranch08%40aol.com>

> Sent: 1/22/2011 11:58:09 P.M. Mountain Standard Time

> Subj: (no subject)

>

> hi barb and shauwn you 2 are probly 2 nice gals i just thank lesbians and

> gays need to stay in the closet it is a sin god didnot make wemon for wemen

> or men for men it is perverted what lesbians and gays do all most everbody

> dont like it donnie

>

>

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marta you are 100 rite i am sorry barb and shauwn you two are lucky to have each

other i wish you 2 the best i it is inportent to have are mates i amlike marta i

am getting ready for to have a stemulater put in i dont need all this i am

moveing on marta willlike hereing this good by everbody barb and shauwn i am

rilly sorry i sead stuff i should not have

> I'm curious why he has suddenly gotten so mean & rude. I haven't been a member

> for very long, but it did somewhat shock me when I read his first couple of

> postings that were so disgusting. Do you think perhaps it's the drugs (pain

> meds) that he's taking? I know it's no excuse, but I have seen my share of

> " controlled substance " abusers that make people act like heathens. When they

> take so many, it's no different (maybe even worse) than an abusive, mean

> alcoholic.

>

> Sandy

>

> ________________________________

> From: " mnbranch08@... <mailto:mnbranch08%40aol.com> " <mnbranch08@...

<mailto:mnbranch08%40aol.com> >

> To: Hugs-N-Pain <mailto:Hugs-N-Pain%40yahoogroups.com>

> Sent: Sun, January 23, 2011 1:59:29 AM

> Subject: Fwd: (no subject)

>

>

> This is what im talking about he is rude, uncaring and now he is

> harrassing me offline too...

>

> Love and Peace

> Always

> Shaun and Barb

>

> ____________________________________

> From: donnie3024@... <mailto:donnie3024%40yahoo.com>

> To: mnbranch08@... <mailto:mnbranch08%40aol.com>

> Sent: 1/22/2011 11:58:09 P.M. Mountain Standard Time

> Subj: (no subject)

>

> hi barb and shauwn you 2 are probly 2 nice gals i just thank lesbians and

> gays need to stay in the closet it is a sin god didnot make wemon for wemen

> or men for men it is perverted what lesbians and gays do all most everbody

> dont like it donnie

>

>

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I dont have a problem with lesbians or gays but I have been judged by some

for being straight but we have had this list a long time and I am not a

babysitter u can block someone on the list and not see what they say if u

like this has been a rough year for me

In a message dated 1/23/2011 9:01:20 P.M. Eastern Standard Time,

myshadowridge@... writes:

While advertising may not have been acceptable, talking about our lives is.

We’re here for support, and receiving support and giving support is what I

have always believed this list is for. People have talked about their

heterosexual partners a lot….I’ve even read certain people talking about

their

marital separations, affairs, etc. We are friends and friends talk about

things. Being a lesbian, or gay is not something that should be ignored or

not allowed to be talked about. It’s part of our lives.

IF we are not allowed to talk about anything other than our pain, I don’t

think that’s possible. Pain affects our lives, in every way and sometimes

talking about how our partners (heterosexual, homosexual or otherwise) and

how that effects our pain is important. I’m thrilled for Shaun that she’s

found her partner, Barb……finding someone to love is a wonderful thing, and

if that person understands our pain, or even shares it, while that is not a

great thing, it’s a way that people can connect to. I can’t imagine being

in this amount of pain and not having people who can support me…that’s

one of the reasons this group is so wonderful…it’s support. Sometimes our

families (at least I think so) tend to get overwhelmed by our issues…they

just can’t deal. Even though my daughter has her own issues, there are times

I

know she’s thinking “can we just talk about SOMETHING other than your

pain, pills, doctors or other medical crapâ€â€¦.

I think it’s wonderful, Shaun that you’ve found another woman to love who

can understand what you’re dealing with. Finding love, true accepting

love, is really difficult for anyone…but for those of us who live in pain, I

think it’s even more difficult. We have to consider our partners needs, which

can be difficult when we’re so caught up in our own.

But saying “don’t talk about being a lesbian/gay†is like saying, don’t

talk about your husband/wife, children, family, pets, etc. How can we share

what we’re going through if we’re not allowed to talk about what makes us

what we are. We are MORE than the pain we are in…we are people too….and

all the things in our lives help to make us who we are.

While I can see the no advertising other lists (that just makes sense to

me), not referring to parts of our lives that effect us (like our partners,

being lesbian, Latino, pets, etc) would stop much of the support we get

from this list. Just my opinion, of course….but it makes sense to me.

Marta, AR

If you cannot be a poet, be the poem. ~ Carradine

From: _Hugs-N-Pain _ (mailto:Hugs-N-Pain )

[mailto:_Hugs-N-Pain _ (mailto:Hugs-N-Pain ) ]

On Beh Of donnie Gibbs

Sent: Sunday, January 23, 2011 6:58 PM

To: _Hugs-N-Pain _ (mailto:Hugs-N-Pain )

Subject: Re: Fwd: (no subject)/

i am sorry for the ones i upset if you are a lesbian or gay keep it keep

it to you self dont flont it ask for lesbian moteraters all i am old fashon

what one dose stays behind doors i thout this was a pain group if you are

gay or a lesbian keep it to your self i didnot start this lesbian stuff is

that all everbody wants to talk about it inbareses me i am sorry for the

ones i ofended why cant people keep it to them selfs you dont here me saying

what i am lets get back on pain donnie

> I'm curious why he has suddenly gotten so mean & rude. I haven't been a

member

> for very long, but it did somewhat shock me when I read his first couple

of

> postings that were so disgusting. Do you think perhaps it's the drugs

(pain

> meds) that he's taking? I know it's no excuse, but I have seen my share

of

> " controlled substance " abusers that make people act like heathens. When

they

> take so many, it's no different (maybe even worse) than an abusive, mean

> alcoholic.

>

> Sandy

>

> ________________________________

> From: " _mnbranch08@..._ (mailto:mnbranch08@...)

<mailto:mnbranch08%40aol.com> " <_mnbranch08@..._

(mailto:mnbranch08@...)

<mailto:mnbranch08%40aol.com> >

> To: _Hugs-N-Pain _ (mailto:Hugs-N-Pain )

<mailto:Hugs-N-Pain%40yahoogroups.com>

> Sent: Sun, January 23, 2011 1:59:29 AM

> Subject: Fwd: (no subject)

>

>

> This is what im talking about he is rude, uncaring and now he is

> harrassing me offline too...

>

> Love and Peace

> Always

> Shaun and Barb

>

> ____________________________________

> From: _donnie3024@..._ (mailto:donnie3024@...)

<mailto:donnie3024%40yahoo.com>

> To: _mnbranch08@..._ (mailto:mnbranch08@...)

<mailto:mnbranch08%40aol.com>

> Sent: 1/22/2011 11:58:09 P.M. Mountain Standard Time

> Subj: (no subject)

>

> hi barb and shauwn you 2 are probly 2 nice gals i just thank lesbians

and

> gays need to stay in the closet it is a sin god didnot make wemon for

wemen

> or men for men it is perverted what lesbians and gays do all most

everbody

> dont like it donnie

>

> [Non-text portions of this message have been removed]

>

>

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ooh that's crap no one can harass u off line unless u give them the

information

In a message dated 1/23/2011 7:57:58 P.M. Eastern Standard Time,

donnie3024@... writes:

i am sorry for the ones i upset if you are a lesbian or gay keep it keep it

to you self don't flont it ask for lesbian moteraters all i am old fashon

what one dose stays behind doors i thout this was a pain group if you are

gay or a lesbian keep it to your self i didnot start this lesbian stuff is

that all everbody wants to talk about it inbareses me i am sorry for the

ones i ofended why cant people keep it to them selfs you dont here me saying

what i am lets get back on pain donnie

> I'm curious why he has suddenly gotten so mean & rude. I haven't been a

member

> for very long, but it did somewhat shock me when I read his first couple

of

> postings that were so disgusting. Do you think perhaps it's the drugs

(pain

> meds) that he's taking? I know it's no excuse, but I have seen my share

of

> " controlled substance " abusers that make people act like heathens. When

they

> take so many, it's no different (maybe even worse) than an abusive, mean

> alcoholic.

>

> Sandy

>

> ________________________________

> From: " _mnbranch08@..._ (mailto:mnbranch08@...) "

<_mnbranch08@..._ (mailto:mnbranch08@...) >

> To: _Hugs-N-Pain _ (mailto:Hugs-N-Pain )

> Sent: Sun, January 23, 2011 1:59:29 AM

> Subject: Fwd: (no subject)

>

>

> This is what im talking about he is rude, uncaring and now he is

> harrassing me offline too...

>

> Love and Peace

> Always

> Shaun and Barb

>

> ____________________________________

> From: _donnie3024@..._ (mailto:donnie3024@...)

> To: _mnbranch08@..._ (mailto:mnbranch08@...)

> Sent: 1/22/2011 11:58:09 P.M. Mountain Standard Time

> Subj: (no subject)

>

> hi barb and shauwn you 2 are probly 2 nice gals i just thank lesbians

and

> gays need to stay in the closet it is a sin god didnot make wemon for

wemen

> or men for men it is perverted what lesbians and gays do all most

everbody

> dont like it donnie

>

>

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I understand about not being a babysitter and having a rough year…..and if I

can help with the list, I’d be more than happy to. My only real complaint

is that we should all be adult enough to treat our fellow list-mates with

respect…for everyone. You can disagree with someone, and that is bound to

happen, and do so in a respectful manner. When a person is incapable of showing

respect, then doing something in the interest of peace on the list seems like a

good idea.

I do appreciate all you do…and I have blocked Donnie’s posts already….but

I hate to see others hurt by a lack of maturity and respect.

Marta, AR

If you cannot be a poet, be the poem. ~ Carradine

From: Hugs-N-Pain [mailto:Hugs-N-Pain ] On Behalf

Of starlyin@...

Sent: Sunday, January 23, 2011 11:39 PM

To: Hugs-N-Pain

Subject: Re: Fwd: (no subject)/

I dont have a problem with lesbians or gays but I have been judged by some

for being straight but we have had this list a long time and I am not a

babysitter u can block someone on the list and not see what they say if u

like this has been a rough year for me

In a message dated 1/23/2011 9:01:20 P.M. Eastern Standard Time,

myshadowridge@... <mailto:myshadowridge%40yahoo.com> writes:

While advertising may not have been acceptable, talking about our lives is.

We’re here for support, and receiving support and giving support is what I

have always believed this list is for. People have talked about their

heterosexual partners a lot….I’ve even read certain people talking about

their

marital separations, affairs, etc. We are friends and friends talk about

things. Being a lesbian, or gay is not something that should be ignored or

not allowed to be talked about. It’s part of our lives.

IF we are not allowed to talk about anything other than our pain, I don’t

think that’s possible. Pain affects our lives, in every way and sometimes

talking about how our partners (heterosexual, homosexual or otherwise) and

how that effects our pain is important. I’m thrilled for Shaun that she’s

found her partner, Barb……finding someone to love is a wonderful thing, and

if that person understands our pain, or even shares it, while that is not a

great thing, it’s a way that people can connect to. I can’t imagine being

in this amount of pain and not having people who can support me…that’s

one of the reasons this group is so wonderful…it’s support. Sometimes our

families (at least I think so) tend to get overwhelmed by our issues…they

just can’t deal. Even though my daughter has her own issues, there are times I

know she’s thinking “can we just talk about SOMETHING other than your

pain, pills, doctors or other medical crapâ€â€¦.

I think it’s wonderful, Shaun that you’ve found another woman to love who

can understand what you’re dealing with. Finding love, true accepting

love, is really difficult for anyone…but for those of us who live in pain, I

think it’s even more difficult. We have to consider our partners needs, which

can be difficult when we’re so caught up in our own.

But saying “don’t talk about being a lesbian/gay†is like saying, don’t

talk about your husband/wife, children, family, pets, etc. How can we share

what we’re going through if we’re not allowed to talk about what makes us

what we are. We are MORE than the pain we are in…we are people too….and

all the things in our lives help to make us who we are.

While I can see the no advertising other lists (that just makes sense to

me), not referring to parts of our lives that effect us (like our partners,

being lesbian, Latino, pets, etc) would stop much of the support we get

from this list. Just my opinion, of course….but it makes sense to me.

Marta, AR

If you cannot be a poet, be the poem. ~ Carradine

From: _Hugs-N-Pain <mailto:_Hugs-N-Pain%40yahoogroups.com> _

(mailto:Hugs-N-Pain <mailto:Hugs-N-Pain%40yahoogroups.com> )

[mailto:_Hugs-N-Pain <mailto:_Hugs-N-Pain%40yahoogroups.com> _

(mailto:Hugs-N-Pain <mailto:Hugs-N-Pain%40yahoogroups.com> ) ]

On Beh Of donnie Gibbs

Sent: Sunday, January 23, 2011 6:58 PM

To: _Hugs-N-Pain <mailto:_Hugs-N-Pain%40yahoogroups.com> _

(mailto:Hugs-N-Pain <mailto:Hugs-N-Pain%40yahoogroups.com> )

Subject: Re: Fwd: (no subject)/

i am sorry for the ones i upset if you are a lesbian or gay keep it keep

it to you self dont flont it ask for lesbian moteraters all i am old fashon

what one dose stays behind doors i thout this was a pain group if you are

gay or a lesbian keep it to your self i didnot start this lesbian stuff is

that all everbody wants to talk about it inbareses me i am sorry for the

ones i ofended why cant people keep it to them selfs you dont here me saying

what i am lets get back on pain donnie

> I'm curious why he has suddenly gotten so mean & rude. I haven't been a

member

> for very long, but it did somewhat shock me when I read his first couple

of

> postings that were so disgusting. Do you think perhaps it's the drugs

(pain

> meds) that he's taking? I know it's no excuse, but I have seen my share

of

> " controlled substance " abusers that make people act like heathens. When

they

> take so many, it's no different (maybe even worse) than an abusive, mean

> alcoholic.

>

> Sandy

>

> ________________________________

> From: " _mnbranch08@... <mailto:_mnbranch08%40aol.com> _

(mailto:mnbranch08@... <mailto:mnbranch08%40aol.com> )

<mailto:mnbranch08%40aol.com> " <_mnbranch08@...

<mailto:_mnbranch08%40aol.com> _ (mailto:mnbranch08@...

<mailto:mnbranch08%40aol.com> )

<mailto:mnbranch08%40aol.com> >

> To: _Hugs-N-Pain <mailto:_Hugs-N-Pain%40yahoogroups.com> _

(mailto:Hugs-N-Pain <mailto:Hugs-N-Pain%40yahoogroups.com> )

<mailto:Hugs-N-Pain%40yahoogroups.com>

> Sent: Sun, January 23, 2011 1:59:29 AM

> Subject: Fwd: (no subject)

>

>

> This is what im talking about he is rude, uncaring and now he is

> harrassing me offline too...

>

> Love and Peace

> Always

> Shaun and Barb

>

> ____________________________________

> From: _donnie3024@... <mailto:_donnie3024%40yahoo.com> _

(mailto:donnie3024@... <mailto:donnie3024%40yahoo.com> )

<mailto:donnie3024%40yahoo.com>

> To: _mnbranch08@... <mailto:_mnbranch08%40aol.com> _

(mailto:mnbranch08@... <mailto:mnbranch08%40aol.com> )

<mailto:mnbranch08%40aol.com>

> Sent: 1/22/2011 11:58:09 P.M. Mountain Standard Time

> Subj: (no subject)

>

> hi barb and shauwn you 2 are probly 2 nice gals i just thank lesbians

and

> gays need to stay in the closet it is a sin god didnot make wemon for

wemen

> or men for men it is perverted what lesbians and gays do all most

everbody

> dont like it donnie

>

>

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I think that Shaun meant Donnie was harassing her off LIST, not offline. Since

whenever a email shows up in my box, the person’s email is clearly displayed.

That gives anyone the ability to take harassment off list…..which is what

(correct me if I’m wrong, Shaun) is what was meant.

BUT, just to be clear…with ½ hour, $10 and an email address, you can find the

offline information you want on someone. There are places on the web that you

can search for people and get their address, phone number and often even other

personal information quickly and cheaply online.

Marta, AR

If you cannot be a poet, be the poem. ~ Carradine

From: Hugs-N-Pain [mailto:Hugs-N-Pain ] On Behalf

Of starlyin@...

Sent: Sunday, January 23, 2011 11:44 PM

To: Hugs-N-Pain

Subject: Re: Fwd: (no subject)/

ooh that's crap no one can harass u off line unless u give them the

information

In a message dated 1/23/2011 7:57:58 P.M. Eastern Standard Time,

donnie3024@... <mailto:donnie3024%40yahoo.com> writes:

i am sorry for the ones i upset if you are a lesbian or gay keep it keep it

to you self don't flont it ask for lesbian moteraters all i am old fashon

what one dose stays behind doors i thout this was a pain group if you are

gay or a lesbian keep it to your self i didnot start this lesbian stuff is

that all everbody wants to talk about it inbareses me i am sorry for the

ones i ofended why cant people keep it to them selfs you dont here me saying

what i am lets get back on pain donnie

> I'm curious why he has suddenly gotten so mean & rude. I haven't been a

member

> for very long, but it did somewhat shock me when I read his first couple

of

> postings that were so disgusting. Do you think perhaps it's the drugs

(pain

> meds) that he's taking? I know it's no excuse, but I have seen my share

of

> " controlled substance " abusers that make people act like heathens. When

they

> take so many, it's no different (maybe even worse) than an abusive, mean

> alcoholic.

>

> Sandy

>

> ________________________________

> From: " _mnbranch08@... <mailto:_mnbranch08%40aol.com> _

(mailto:mnbranch08@... <mailto:mnbranch08%40aol.com> ) "

<_mnbranch08@... <mailto:_mnbranch08%40aol.com> _ (mailto:mnbranch08@...

<mailto:mnbranch08%40aol.com> ) >

> To: _Hugs-N-Pain <mailto:_Hugs-N-Pain%40yahoogroups.com> _

(mailto:Hugs-N-Pain <mailto:Hugs-N-Pain%40yahoogroups.com> )

> Sent: Sun, January 23, 2011 1:59:29 AM

> Subject: Fwd: (no subject)

>

>

> This is what im talking about he is rude, uncaring and now he is

> harrassing me offline too...

>

> Love and Peace

> Always

> Shaun and Barb

>

> ____________________________________

> From: _donnie3024@... <mailto:_donnie3024%40yahoo.com> _

(mailto:donnie3024@... <mailto:donnie3024%40yahoo.com> )

> To: _mnbranch08@... <mailto:_mnbranch08%40aol.com> _

(mailto:mnbranch08@... <mailto:mnbranch08%40aol.com> )

> Sent: 1/22/2011 11:58:09 P.M. Mountain Standard Time

> Subj: (no subject)

>

> hi barb and shauwn you 2 are probly 2 nice gals i just thank lesbians

and

> gays need to stay in the closet it is a sin god didnot make wemon for

wemen

> or men for men it is perverted what lesbians and gays do all most

everbody

> dont like it donnie

>

>

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I will tell you something I would rather be a lesbian than have a man in my life

as all they do is put you down and say nasty things, your email has just proved

that, if people want to talk about being a lesbian or gay than it's up to them

they are not going to stop posting things just because it upsets you, I don't

know who you think you are but I do know you need to go back to school and learn

how to write sentences. If I was in charge of this group I would of gotten rid

of you a long time ago as you don't deserve to be on any group if you are going

to slag of lesbians and gays, they all have a heart and feelings and you haven't

got the right to say nasty things about them.

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> i am sorry for the ones i upset if you are a lesbian or gay keep it keep it to

you self dont flont it ask for lesbian moteraters all i am old fashon what one

dose stays behind doors i thout this was a pain group if you are gay or a

lesbian keep it to your self i didnot start this lesbian stuff is that all

everbody wants to talk about it inbareses me i am sorry for the ones i ofended

why cant people keep it to them selfs you dont here me saying what i am lets get

back on pain donnie

>

>

>

> > I'm curious why he has suddenly gotten so mean & rude. I haven't been a

member

>

> > for very long, but it did somewhat shock me when I read his first couple of

> > postings that were so disgusting. Do you think perhaps it's the drugs (pain

> > meds) that he's taking? I know it's no excuse, but I have seen my share of

> > " controlled substance " abusers that make people act like heathens. When they

> > take so many, it's no different (maybe even worse) than an abusive, mean

> > alcoholic.

> >

> > Sandy

> >

> > ________________________________

> >

> > To: Hugs-N-Pain

> > Sent: Sun, January 23, 2011 1:59:29 AM

> > Subject: Fwd: (no subject)

> >

> >

> > This is what im talking about he is rude, uncaring and now he is

> > harrassing me offline too...

> >

> > Love and Peace

> > Always

> > Shaun and Barb

> >

> > ____________________________________

> > From: donnie3024@...

> > To: mnbranch08@...

> > Sent: 1/22/2011 11:58:09 P.M. Mountain Standard Time

> > Subj: (no subject)

> >

> > hi barb and shauwn you 2 are probly 2 nice gals i just thank lesbians and

> > gays need to stay in the closet it is a sin god didnot make wemon for wemen

> > or men for men it is perverted what lesbians and gays do all most everbody

> > dont like it donnie

> >

> >

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I totally agree with you tammi but he is not worth it don't leave the group

because of his nasty mouth if you do that he has won

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> Over the years I have been a member of alot of groups, even moderated a few,

> but this is the first time I have seen a group that lets a member make

> personal attacks on other members and still remain within the group. This

> is not about who is lesbian and who is not, its about a member who is

> completely intolerant and yet able to remain within the group to further

> spread his hate. This life is full of enough drama and those of us who

> suffer with pain come here for support....your kind of bigotry and

> homophobia has no place here or anywhere, but since it is allowed I will

> withdrawl my membership from the group.

>

>

>

>

> -- Fwd: (no subject)

> >

> >

> > This is what im talking about he is rude, uncaring and now he is

> > harrassing me offline too...

> >

> > Love and Peace

> > Always

> > Shaun and Barb

> >

> > ____________________________________

> > From: donnie3024@...

> > To: mnbranch08@...

> > Sent: 1/22/2011 11:58:09 P.M. Mountain Standard Time

> > Subj: (no subject)

> >

> > hi barb and shauwn you 2 are probly 2 nice gals i just thank lesbians and

> > gays need to stay in the closet it is a sin god didnot make wemon for

> wemen

> > or men for men it is perverted what lesbians and gays do all most everbody

> > dont like it donnie

> >

> >

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Don't you think it's a bit late to say sorry after what you have said

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> marta you are 100 rite i am sorry barb and shauwn you two are lucky to have

each other i wish you 2 the best i it is inportent to have are mates i amlike

marta i am getting ready for to have a stemulater put in i dont need all this i

am moveing on marta willlike hereing this good by everbody barb and shauwn i am

rilly sorry i sead stuff i should not have

>

>

>

> > I'm curious why he has suddenly gotten so mean & rude. I haven't been a

member

>

> > for very long, but it did somewhat shock me when I read his first couple of

> > postings that were so disgusting. Do you think perhaps it's the drugs (pain

> > meds) that he's taking? I know it's no excuse, but I have seen my share of

> > " controlled substance " abusers that make people act like heathens. When they

> > take so many, it's no different (maybe even worse) than an abusive, mean

> > alcoholic.

> >

> > Sandy

> >

> > ________________________________

> > From: " mnbranch08@... <mailto:mnbranch08%40aol.com> "

<mnbranch08@... <mailto:mnbranch08%40aol.com> >

> > To: Hugs-N-Pain <mailto:Hugs-N-Pain%40yahoogroups.com>

> > Sent: Sun, January 23, 2011 1:59:29 AM

> > Subject: Fwd: (no subject)

> >

> >

> > This is what im talking about he is rude, uncaring and now he is

> > harrassing me offline too...

> >

> > Love and Peace

> > Always

> > Shaun and Barb

> >

> > ____________________________________

> > From: donnie3024@... <mailto:donnie3024%40yahoo.com>

> > To: mnbranch08@... <mailto:mnbranch08%40aol.com>

> > Sent: 1/22/2011 11:58:09 P.M. Mountain Standard Time

> > Subj: (no subject)

> >

> > hi barb and shauwn you 2 are probly 2 nice gals i just thank lesbians and

> > gays need to stay in the closet it is a sin god didnot make wemon for wemen

> > or men for men it is perverted what lesbians and gays do all most everbody

> > dont like it donnie

> >

> >

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You seriously need to get rid of this ---- sorry he isn't a man

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> I understand about not being a babysitter and having a rough year…..and if I

can help with the list, I’d be more than happy to. My only real complaint is

that we should all be adult enough to treat our fellow list-mates with

respect…for everyone. You can disagree with someone, and that is bound to

happen, and do so in a respectful manner. When a person is incapable of showing

respect, then doing something in the interest of peace on the list seems like a

good idea.

>

> I do appreciate all you do…and I have blocked Donnie’s posts

already….but I hate to see others hurt by a lack of maturity and respect.

>

> Marta, AR

>

> If you cannot be a poet, be the poem. ~ Carradine

>

> From: Hugs-N-Pain [mailto:Hugs-N-Pain ] On

Behalf Of starlyin@...

> Sent: Sunday, January 23, 2011 11:39 PM

> To: Hugs-N-Pain

> Subject: Re: Fwd: (no subject)/

>

> I dont have a problem with lesbians or gays but I have been judged by some

> for being straight but we have had this list a long time and I am not a

> babysitter u can block someone on the list and not see what they say if u

> like this has been a rough year for me

>

> In a message dated 1/23/2011 9:01:20 P.M. Eastern Standard Time,

> myshadowridge@... <mailto:myshadowridge%40yahoo.com> writes:

>

> While advertising may not have been acceptable, talking about our lives is.

> We’re here for support, and receiving support and giving support is what I

> have always believed this list is for. People have talked about their

> heterosexual partners a lot….I’ve even read certain people talking about

their

> marital separations, affairs, etc. We are friends and friends talk about

> things. Being a lesbian, or gay is not something that should be ignored or

> not allowed to be talked about. It’s part of our lives.

>

> IF we are not allowed to talk about anything other than our pain, I don’t

> think that’s possible. Pain affects our lives, in every way and sometimes

> talking about how our partners (heterosexual, homosexual or otherwise) and

> how that effects our pain is important. I’m thrilled for Shaun that she’s

> found her partner, Barb……finding someone to love is a wonderful thing, and

> if that person understands our pain, or even shares it, while that is not a

> great thing, it’s a way that people can connect to. I can’t imagine being

> in this amount of pain and not having people who can support me…that’s

> one of the reasons this group is so wonderful…it’s support. Sometimes our

> families (at least I think so) tend to get overwhelmed by our issues…they

> just can’t deal. Even though my daughter has her own issues, there are times

I

> know she’s thinking “can we just talk about SOMETHING other than your

> pain, pills, doctors or other medical crapâ€â€¦.

>

> I think it’s wonderful, Shaun that you’ve found another woman to love who

> can understand what you’re dealing with. Finding love, true accepting

> love, is really difficult for anyone…but for those of us who live in pain, I

> think it’s even more difficult. We have to consider our partners needs,

which

> can be difficult when we’re so caught up in our own.

>

> But saying “don’t talk about being a lesbian/gay†is like saying,

don’t

> talk about your husband/wife, children, family, pets, etc. How can we share

> what we’re going through if we’re not allowed to talk about what makes us

> what we are. We are MORE than the pain we are in…we are people too….and

> all the things in our lives help to make us who we are.

>

> While I can see the no advertising other lists (that just makes sense to

> me), not referring to parts of our lives that effect us (like our partners,

> being lesbian, Latino, pets, etc) would stop much of the support we get

> from this list. Just my opinion, of course….but it makes sense to me.

>

> Marta, AR

>

> If you cannot be a poet, be the poem. ~ Carradine

>

> From: _Hugs-N-Pain <mailto:_Hugs-N-Pain%40yahoogroups.com> _

(mailto:Hugs-N-Pain <mailto:Hugs-N-Pain%40yahoogroups.com> )

> [mailto:_Hugs-N-Pain <mailto:_Hugs-N-Pain%40yahoogroups.com> _

(mailto:Hugs-N-Pain <mailto:Hugs-N-Pain%40yahoogroups.com> ) ]

> On Beh Of donnie Gibbs

> Sent: Sunday, January 23, 2011 6:58 PM

> To: _Hugs-N-Pain <mailto:_Hugs-N-Pain%40yahoogroups.com> _

(mailto:Hugs-N-Pain <mailto:Hugs-N-Pain%40yahoogroups.com> )

> Subject: Re: Fwd: (no subject)/

>

> i am sorry for the ones i upset if you are a lesbian or gay keep it keep

> it to you self dont flont it ask for lesbian moteraters all i am old fashon

> what one dose stays behind doors i thout this was a pain group if you are

> gay or a lesbian keep it to your self i didnot start this lesbian stuff is

> that all everbody wants to talk about it inbareses me i am sorry for the

> ones i ofended why cant people keep it to them selfs you dont here me saying

> what i am lets get back on pain donnie

>

>

>

> > I'm curious why he has suddenly gotten so mean & rude. I haven't been a

> member

>

> > for very long, but it did somewhat shock me when I read his first couple

> of

> > postings that were so disgusting. Do you think perhaps it's the drugs

> (pain

> > meds) that he's taking? I know it's no excuse, but I have seen my share

> of

> > " controlled substance " abusers that make people act like heathens. When

> they

> > take so many, it's no different (maybe even worse) than an abusive, mean

> > alcoholic.

> >

> > Sandy

> >

> > ________________________________

> > From: " _mnbranch08@... <mailto:_mnbranch08%40aol.com> _

(mailto:mnbranch08@... <mailto:mnbranch08%40aol.com> )

> <mailto:mnbranch08%40aol.com> " <_mnbranch08@...

<mailto:_mnbranch08%40aol.com> _ (mailto:mnbranch08@...

<mailto:mnbranch08%40aol.com> )

> <mailto:mnbranch08%40aol.com> >

> > To: _Hugs-N-Pain <mailto:_Hugs-N-Pain%40yahoogroups.com> _

(mailto:Hugs-N-Pain <mailto:Hugs-N-Pain%40yahoogroups.com> )

> <mailto:Hugs-N-Pain%40yahoogroups.com>

> > Sent: Sun, January 23, 2011 1:59:29 AM

> > Subject: Fwd: (no subject)

> >

> >

> > This is what im talking about he is rude, uncaring and now he is

> > harrassing me offline too...

> >

> > Love and Peace

> > Always

> > Shaun and Barb

> >

> > ____________________________________

> > From: _donnie3024@... <mailto:_donnie3024%40yahoo.com> _

(mailto:donnie3024@... <mailto:donnie3024%40yahoo.com> )

> <mailto:donnie3024%40yahoo.com>

> > To: _mnbranch08@... <mailto:_mnbranch08%40aol.com> _

(mailto:mnbranch08@... <mailto:mnbranch08%40aol.com> )

> <mailto:mnbranch08%40aol.com>

> > Sent: 1/22/2011 11:58:09 P.M. Mountain Standard Time

> > Subj: (no subject)

> >

> > hi barb and shauwn you 2 are probly 2 nice gals i just thank lesbians

> and

> > gays need to stay in the closet it is a sin god didnot make wemon for

> wemen

> > or men for men it is perverted what lesbians and gays do all most

> everbody

> > dont like it donnie

> >

> >

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I am already in enough pain. It is additional pain to read about people having

differences on the group based on sex preference. Lets all take a deep breath

and remember that understanding and comforting folks whose lives are disrupted

by nagging chronic pain is the whole reason for the group. Everything else is

just who we are. God's blessings to you all.

To: Hugs-N-Pain

From: lisa.turner851@...

Date: Mon, 24 Jan 2011 08:49:55 +0000

Subject: Re: Fwd: (no subject)/

You seriously need to get rid of this ---- sorry he isn't a man

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> I understand about not being a babysitter and having a rough year…..and if I

can help with the list, I’d be more than happy to. My only real complaint is

that we should all be adult enough to treat our fellow list-mates with

respect…for everyone. You can disagree with someone, and that is bound to

happen, and do so in a respectful manner. When a person is incapable of showing

respect, then doing something in the interest of peace on the list seems like a

good idea.

>

> I do appreciate all you do…and I have blocked Donnie’s posts already….but I

hate to see others hurt by a lack of maturity and respect.

>

> Marta, AR

>

> If you cannot be a poet, be the poem. ~ Carradine

>

> From: Hugs-N-Pain [mailto:Hugs-N-Pain ] On

Behalf Of starlyin@...

> Sent: Sunday, January 23, 2011 11:39 PM

> To: Hugs-N-Pain

> Subject: Re: Fwd: (no subject)/

>

> I dont have a problem with lesbians or gays but I have been judged by some

> for being straight but we have had this list a long time and I am not a

> babysitter u can block someone on the list and not see what they say if u

> like this has been a rough year for me

>

> In a message dated 1/23/2011 9:01:20 P.M. Eastern Standard Time,

> myshadowridge@... <mailto:myshadowridge%40yahoo.com> writes:

>

> While advertising may not have been acceptable, talking about our lives is.

> We’re here for support, and receiving support and giving support is what I

> have always believed this list is for. People have talked about their

> heterosexual partners a lot….I’ve even read certain people talking about their

> marital separations, affairs, etc. We are friends and friends talk about

> things. Being a lesbian, or gay is not something that should be ignored or

> not allowed to be talked about. It’s part of our lives.

>

> IF we are not allowed to talk about anything other than our pain, I don’t

> think that’s possible. Pain affects our lives, in every way and sometimes

> talking about how our partners (heterosexual, homosexual or otherwise) and

> how that effects our pain is important. I’m thrilled for Shaun that she’s

> found her partner, Barb……finding someone to love is a wonderful thing, and

> if that person understands our pain, or even shares it, while that is not a

> great thing, it’s a way that people can connect to. I can’t imagine being

> in this amount of pain and not having people who can support me…that’s

> one of the reasons this group is so wonderful…it’s support. Sometimes our

> families (at least I think so) tend to get overwhelmed by our issues…they

> just can’t deal. Even though my daughter has her own issues, there are times I

> know she’s thinking “can we just talk about SOMETHING other than your

> pain, pills, doctors or other medical crap”….

>

> I think it’s wonderful, Shaun that you’ve found another woman to love who

> can understand what you’re dealing with. Finding love, true accepting

> love, is really difficult for anyone…but for those of us who live in pain, I

> think it’s even more difficult. We have to consider our partners needs, which

> can be difficult when we’re so caught up in our own.

>

> But saying “don’t talk about being a lesbian/gay” is like saying, don’t

> talk about your husband/wife, children, family, pets, etc. How can we share

> what we’re going through if we’re not allowed to talk about what makes us

> what we are. We are MORE than the pain we are in…we are people too….and

> all the things in our lives help to make us who we are.

>

> While I can see the no advertising other lists (that just makes sense to

> me), not referring to parts of our lives that effect us (like our partners,

> being lesbian, Latino, pets, etc) would stop much of the support we get

> from this list. Just my opinion, of course….but it makes sense to me.

>

> Marta, AR

>

> If you cannot be a poet, be the poem. ~ Carradine

>

> From: _Hugs-N-Pain <mailto:_Hugs-N-Pain%40yahoogroups.com> _

(mailto:Hugs-N-Pain <mailto:Hugs-N-Pain%40yahoogroups.com> )

> [mailto:_Hugs-N-Pain <mailto:_Hugs-N-Pain%40yahoogroups.com> _

(mailto:Hugs-N-Pain <mailto:Hugs-N-Pain%40yahoogroups.com> ) ]

> On Beh Of donnie Gibbs

> Sent: Sunday, January 23, 2011 6:58 PM

> To: _Hugs-N-Pain <mailto:_Hugs-N-Pain%40yahoogroups.com> _

(mailto:Hugs-N-Pain <mailto:Hugs-N-Pain%40yahoogroups.com> )

> Subject: Re: Fwd: (no subject)/

>

> i am sorry for the ones i upset if you are a lesbian or gay keep it keep

> it to you self dont flont it ask for lesbian moteraters all i am old fashon

> what one dose stays behind doors i thout this was a pain group if you are

> gay or a lesbian keep it to your self i didnot start this lesbian stuff is

> that all everbody wants to talk about it inbareses me i am sorry for the

> ones i ofended why cant people keep it to them selfs you dont here me saying

> what i am lets get back on pain donnie

>

>

>

> > I'm curious why he has suddenly gotten so mean & rude. I haven't been a

> member

>

> > for very long, but it did somewhat shock me when I read his first couple

> of

> > postings that were so disgusting. Do you think perhaps it's the drugs

> (pain

> > meds) that he's taking? I know it's no excuse, but I have seen my share

> of

> > " controlled substance " abusers that make people act like heathens. When

> they

> > take so many, it's no different (maybe even worse) than an abusive, mean

> > alcoholic.

> >

> > Sandy

> >

> > ________________________________

> > From: " _mnbranch08@... <mailto:_mnbranch08%40aol.com> _

(mailto:mnbranch08@... <mailto:mnbranch08%40aol.com> )

> <mailto:mnbranch08%40aol.com> " <_mnbranch08@...

<mailto:_mnbranch08%40aol.com> _ (mailto:mnbranch08@...

<mailto:mnbranch08%40aol.com> )

> <mailto:mnbranch08%40aol.com> >

> > To: _Hugs-N-Pain <mailto:_Hugs-N-Pain%40yahoogroups.com> _

(mailto:Hugs-N-Pain <mailto:Hugs-N-Pain%40yahoogroups.com> )

> <mailto:Hugs-N-Pain%40yahoogroups.com>

> > Sent: Sun, January 23, 2011 1:59:29 AM

> > Subject: Fwd: (no subject)

> >

> >

> > This is what im talking about he is rude, uncaring and now he is

> > harrassing me offline too...

> >

> > Love and Peace

> > Always

> > Shaun and Barb

> >

> > ____________________________________

> > From: _donnie3024@... <mailto:_donnie3024%40yahoo.com> _

(mailto:donnie3024@... <mailto:donnie3024%40yahoo.com> )

> <mailto:donnie3024%40yahoo.com>

> > To: _mnbranch08@... <mailto:_mnbranch08%40aol.com> _

(mailto:mnbranch08@... <mailto:mnbranch08%40aol.com> )

> <mailto:mnbranch08%40aol.com>

> > Sent: 1/22/2011 11:58:09 P.M. Mountain Standard Time

> > Subj: (no subject)

> >

> > hi barb and shauwn you 2 are probly 2 nice gals i just thank lesbians

> and

> > gays need to stay in the closet it is a sin god didnot make wemon for

> wemen

> > or men for men it is perverted what lesbians and gays do all most

> everbody

> > dont like it donnie

> >

> >

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