Re: Re: Mom/Imogene

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Oh Imogene, I am bouncing with laughter, as you say. Did you look in Don's

shoes? That is one of the places that Jim hid money and keys. Remember, I found

Jim's wedding ring in the guest closet only 3 months ago under a baseball cap.

He lost it 2 years ago and I gave it up for loss. He was hiding it so no one

would steal it, then he couldn't remember where he hid it. Look in closets too.

You will find the Life Alert Button someday and have yourself a good laugh. I

know there is stuff around this house that I will find one day when I really

clean the whole house out. I am sure there is stuff I forgot was missing. The

best yet, is when I cleaned out a closet and found $200.00 in the toe of an old

shoe that I almost tossed in the trash without looking in it, but I remembered

that Jim hid things in shoes. Lucky me!

Another shoe story, that I am sure I posted long ago is worth telling again,

because you really need to know to look in shoes. It was another day that Jim

wanted the keys to the car, when he was in his driving frenzy before the " Kill

Switch " was installed to end his driving days. I would not let him have the keys

and I stuck them in my pocket. Little did I know at that time, he had copies of

car keys made. Anyway, he wanted my keys and I fell asleep on the bed with the

keys in my pocket. The keys fell out of my pocket on the floor at some point

while I was sleeping and guess who was up wandering around and found the keys on

the floor.

Well, he put them in his shoe and when I woke up and discovered the keys were

missing, he acted as if he knew nothing about it and never admitted he had them.

Thing is, it was not only my car keys, but house keys also that he had, but

didn't admit to it. I was so upset, that I didn't want to cook dinner and said

we are going out to dinner and we didn't leave until around 8PM, because I was

searching everywhere for my keys that I never found, so I grabbed an extra car

key that I had and locked the door manually from the inside and off we went. It

wasn't until we got home around 10PM, that I realized DUH! that I did not have

the house keys, because they were missing and I was angry at Jim. Mind you, we

had several copies of car keys hidden around, but not house keys and there were

no extra house keys hidden anywhere. I had to get a brick from the garden and

throw it through the bathroom window and then I could reach in and unlock the

latch to slide it

open and got a ladder and climbed in and went around to the front door to let

Jim in. I snuck around and watched him and he went right to his shoe and took my

keys out. He remembered and knew exactly where they were. He never remembered

where anything else he hid was, but he always remembered where he hid car keys.

LOL Now, we had a huge gaping hole in the bathroom window and I had to tape it

all up, because it was a windy night and I called the glass repair man in the

morning.

I am having fun reading all your adventures Imogene. I know exactly what you are

going through.

Lotsa Love, Jan

Mom

>

> Hi Group: This is my first posting. I am new to all of this. My mom

of 75

> years young has LBD. It took several years to get a correct

diagnosis

> because she has had several strokes and they kept putting most of

her

> symptoms off to mini strokes. Finally, her hallucinations began to

get

> frightening to her and I took her back to a neurologist who

diagnosed her

> with LBD. Although it was devasting to hear, I was glad there was

some rhym

> & reason to the insanity we were going through. It explained so

much and as

> I look back, I can see most of the symptoms, right down to the

runny nose.

> My mother was always such an humble person who loved everyone and

everyone

> loved her. Her personality seems to change day to day. Some days I

can do

> nothing right and some days I am the best thing since ice cream.

She has

> live with my husband and me for the past two years. It is getting

harder

> and harder simply because we are tied down. She cannot be left

alone. She

> is prone to falls and smokes (can you believe that!). We are afraid

she

> will fall and get really injured. She actually fell out the back

door in

> the middle of the night almost a year ago and broke her back.

Although it

> healed fine, she is still in a lot of pain and has to take

Oxycontin. The

> big thing now is her hallucinations are getting worse and worse.

She is

> getting tired of my husband and me not telling the " people " to

leave and not

> calling to police. In fact, she herself, called the police one day

when her

> daytime caregiver was in the bathroom. Although I had called and

told them

> to disregard it should this happen, they are required to come out

anyway as

> it could actually be the real thing. Fortunately one of the

responders goes

> to our church and was familiar with out situation. He just

pretended to run

> them off and she was ok for about an hour, then the people were

back again.

> Mom began having hallucinations about 5 or 6 years ago. When they

first

> started, they were things I had heard her speak of concerning her

childhood.

> For the last 11/2 they have become more scary for her. She was a

magistrate

> for the last 12 working years and the people she sees now are like

the folks

> she would see then. She also sees monkeys and actually has my 3

year old

> granddaughter trying to help her catch them from under her bed. She

spends

> more time on the floor trying to get rid of the monkeys than on her

feet.

> My husband and I are just so frustrated with it. We have tried

everything

> from agreeing with her to trying to reason with her. It is useless

trying

> to make her understand that they aren't there when she sees them as

plain as

> I see her. We are Christians so I have begun praying over her room

and her

> and telling her the people are just angels sent to protect her. She

doesn't

> believe this either. Any suggestions would be extremely

appreciated. She

> takes Exelon and Namenda which are wonderful. Glad to finally have

someone

> who has experienced the same thing and understands that I can talk

to. My

> poor husband (we have only been married 8 years) is at his wits

end. He is

> so good with her but he like to go and do and get out and we can't

do that.

> I have one brother who will take mom for a few hours one Saturday a

month or

> have her come spend the night one weekend a month and we have a

full time

> daytime caregiver since my husband and I both have to work. Any

> suggestions?

>

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