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Gladys,

I didn't have one done on Mom either. I think the law is if there is some

question as to cause of death. But otherwise I don't think there are any

requirements to have one.

Hugs,

Donna R

Caregave for Mom (after I brought her from WI to MI) for 3 years and 4th year in

a nh.

She was almost 89 when she died in '02. No dx other than mine.

autopsy?

My mother has made it clear to us for years that she doesn't want one done.

How important is it

to do one?

Gladys

PS I know the law requires it in some places.

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Gladys: There are no rules about an autopsy having to

be done unless there is some question as to what might

have caused an untimely or possibly a criminal death.

We had discussed it briefly, but he had never

indicated he would not want an autopsy. The reason I

feel so very strongly (to put it mildly) to have an

autopsy is because we have four children, 13

grandchildren, 10 and soon-to-be 11 great

grandchildren. My husband was the fifth of his 13

family members to have Alzheimer's/LBD/vascular

dementia. His mother and father married brother and

sister, and five of their seven children had some form

of dementia, as well. After my husband's dx of AD, I

heard of a family DNA study through the University of

Indiana so that research might be able to find a

common gene that possibly causes dementia in families

with a strong history of it. As a result, we joined

this family study, and to date, 25 members of both

these families have had DNA taken. They will take

more as time goes along and family members reach the

age of 50. They do the autopsies at no charge for

being in the study so they have the brain tissue for

their research. His brother and sister with dementia

were in this study, so their brain tissue was sent in;

both of them showed AD. My husband's showed AD and

LBD as well as a possible stroke at some time. I

chose to have the body autopsy done, for medical

reasons as to the actual cause of death. I won't go

into it right now, as I have in the past, but some of

the meds he was given in the hospital and nursing home

I believed might have contributed to a rapid decline.

I am not sorry that either one were done. I learned

what caused his death; I also learned what dementia he

had, as the doctors and NH had told me repeatedly he

didn't have LBD. I knew there was more than AD

involved because of his reactions to drugs and many of

his symptoms.

My take on this is that if we don't have autopsies

done and have brain tissue researched, how are we

going to find out what causes it, what can we do to

prevent and/or cure it? With such a strong family

history of dementia, I could not rest without doing

something in the hopes that these 27 direct

descendants may be able to do something to prevent

these diseases. Already, four of my grandchildren not

only have the possibility of a genetic connection with

their grandfather, my husband, they have grandparents

on the other side of the family who have had AD, LBD,

and vasculitis (similar to Parkinson's). I would do

anything I possibly can to see that this disease is

someday stopped in its tracks.

Each person involved has to make the decision on

his/her own. My personal feeling is that when death

occurs, the body is a shell, and having an autopsy

done is no worse than embalming or cremating. There

was absolutely nothing in my husband's appearance to

show that both these autopsies had been done.

Now, I'll get off the soapbox. I'm sure lots of you

will disagree with me.

June C.

--- Gladys Stefany wrote:

> My mother has made it clear to us for years that she

> doesn't want one done.

> How important is it

> to do one?

>

> Gladys

>

> PS I know the law requires it in some places.

>

> [Non-text portions of this message have been

> removed]

>

>

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June, I agree with you. I'm just torn because I would never want to violate

my mother's very clear wishes.

Gladys

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Gladys: There are no rules about an autopsy having to

be done unless there is some question as to what might

have caused an untimely or possibly a criminal death.

We had discussed it briefly, but he had never

indicated he would not want an autopsy. The reason I

feel so very strongly (to put it mildly) to have an

autopsy is because we have four children, 13

grandchildren, 10 and soon-to-be 11 great

grandchildren. My husband was the fifth of his 13

family members to have Alzheimer's/LBD/vascular

dementia. His mother and father married brother and

sister, and five of their seven children had some form

of dementia, as well. After my husband's dx of AD, I

heard of a family DNA study through the University of

Indiana so that research might be able to find a

common gene that possibly causes dementia in families

with a strong history of it. As a result, we joined

this family study, and to date, 25 members of both

these families have had DNA taken. They will take

more as time goes along and family members reach the

age of 50. They do the autopsies at no charge for

being in the study so they have the brain tissue for

their research. His brother and sister with dementia

were in this study, so their brain tissue was sent in;

both of them showed AD. My husband's showed AD and

LBD as well as a possible stroke at some time. I

chose to have the body autopsy done, for medical

reasons as to the actual cause of death. I won't go

into it right now, as I have in the past, but some of

the meds he was given in the hospital and nursing home

I believed might have contributed to a rapid decline.

I am not sorry that either one were done. I learned

what caused his death; I also learned what dementia he

had, as the doctors and NH had told me repeatedly he

didn't have LBD. I knew there was more than AD

involved because of his reactions to drugs and many of

his symptoms.

My take on this is that if we don't have autopsies

done and have brain tissue researched, how are we

going to find out what causes it, what can we do to

prevent and/or cure it? With such a strong family

history of dementia, I could not rest without doing

something in the hopes that these 27 direct

descendants may be able to do something to prevent

these diseases. Already, four of my grandchildren not

only have the possibility of a genetic connection with

their grandfather, my husband, they have grandparents

on the other side of the family who have had AD, LBD,

and vasculitis (similar to Parkinson's). I would do

anything I possibly can to see that this disease is

someday stopped in its tracks.

Each person involved has to make the decision on

his/her own. My personal feeling is that when death

occurs, the body is a shell, and having an autopsy

done is no worse than embalming or cremating. There

was absolutely nothing in my husband's appearance to

show that both these autopsies had been done.

Now, I'll get off the soapbox. I'm sure lots of you

will disagree with me.

June C.

--- Gladys Stefany wrote:

> My mother has made it clear to us for years that she

> doesn't want one done.

> How important is it

> to do one?

>

> Gladys

>

> PS I know the law requires it in some places.

>

> [Non-text portions of this message have been

> removed]

>

>

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I know it would be very hard to do that. Is she still

lucid enough to discuss this, or is she past that?

When I approached my husband about the DNA study, I

talked to him about all the kids and grandkids, and

didn't we want to do something to keep them from

getting it. He was still enough with it that he

agreed. I don't know if you could approach her if she

still can make decisions, and see if she might change

her mind. Just a thought.

--- Gladys Stefany wrote:

> June, I agree with you. I'm just torn because I

> would never want to violate

> my mother's very clear wishes.

>

> Gladys

>

> -- Re: autopsy?

>

> Gladys: There are no rules about an autopsy having

> to

> be done unless there is some question as to what

> might

> have caused an untimely or possibly a criminal

> death.

> We had discussed it briefly, but he had never

> indicated he would not want an autopsy. The reason

> I

> feel so very strongly (to put it mildly) to have an

> autopsy is because we have four children, 13

> grandchildren, 10 and soon-to-be 11 great

> grandchildren. My husband was the fifth of his 13

> family members to have Alzheimer's/LBD/vascular

> dementia. His mother and father married brother and

> sister, and five of their seven children had some

> form

> of dementia, as well. After my husband's dx of AD,

> I

> heard of a family DNA study through the University

> of

> Indiana so that research might be able to find a

> common gene that possibly causes dementia in

> families

> with a strong history of it. As a result, we joined

> this family study, and to date, 25 members of both

> these families have had DNA taken. They will take

> more as time goes along and family members reach the

> age of 50. They do the autopsies at no charge for

> being in the study so they have the brain tissue for

> their research. His brother and sister with

> dementia

> were in this study, so their brain tissue was sent

> in;

> both of them showed AD. My husband's showed AD and

> LBD as well as a possible stroke at some time. I

> chose to have the body autopsy done, for medical

> reasons as to the actual cause of death. I won't go

> into it right now, as I have in the past, but some

> of

> the meds he was given in the hospital and nursing

> home

> I believed might have contributed to a rapid

> decline.

> I am not sorry that either one were done. I learned

> what caused his death; I also learned what dementia

> he

> had, as the doctors and NH had told me repeatedly he

> didn't have LBD. I knew there was more than AD

> involved because of his reactions to drugs and many

> of

> his symptoms.

>

> My take on this is that if we don't have autopsies

> done and have brain tissue researched, how are we

> going to find out what causes it, what can we do to

> prevent and/or cure it? With such a strong family

> history of dementia, I could not rest without doing

> something in the hopes that these 27 direct

> descendants may be able to do something to prevent

> these diseases. Already, four of my grandchildren

> not

> only have the possibility of a genetic connection

> with

> their grandfather, my husband, they have

> grandparents

> on the other side of the family who have had AD,

> LBD,

> and vasculitis (similar to Parkinson's). I would do

> anything I possibly can to see that this disease is

> someday stopped in its tracks.

>

> Each person involved has to make the decision on

> his/her own. My personal feeling is that when death

> occurs, the body is a shell, and having an autopsy

> done is no worse than embalming or cremating. There

> was absolutely nothing in my husband's appearance to

> show that both these autopsies had been done.

>

> Now, I'll get off the soapbox. I'm sure lots of you

> will disagree with me.

>

> June C.

>

> --- Gladys Stefany wrote:

>

> > My mother has made it clear to us for years that

> she

> > doesn't want one done.

> > How important is it

> > to do one?

> >

> > Gladys

> >

> > PS I know the law requires it in some places.

> >

> > [Non-text portions of this message have been

> > removed]

> >

> >

>

>

>

>

>

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Cognitively, she's lucid enough to discuss it, but not emotionally. She

told me categorically this afternoon that she does NOT have LBD. Whatever

is wrong with her is because she moved up here because she never had these

problems in FL.

We're trying to break through the denial so she can develop some peace and

understanding of what is happening to her but we're not having any luck at

all.

Gladys

-- Re: autopsy?

>

> Gladys: There are no rules about an autopsy having

> to

> be done unless there is some question as to what

> might

> have caused an untimely or possibly a criminal

> death.

> We had discussed it briefly, but he had never

> indicated he would not want an autopsy. The reason

> I

> feel so very strongly (to put it mildly) to have an

> autopsy is because we have four children, 13

> grandchildren, 10 and soon-to-be 11 great

> grandchildren. My husband was the fifth of his 13

> family members to have Alzheimer's/LBD/vascular

> dementia. His mother and father married brother and

> sister, and five of their seven children had some

> form

> of dementia, as well. After my husband's dx of AD,

> I

> heard of a family DNA study through the University

> of

> Indiana so that research might be able to find a

> common gene that possibly causes dementia in

> families

> with a strong history of it. As a result, we joined

> this family study, and to date, 25 members of both

> these families have had DNA taken. They will take

> more as time goes along and family members reach the

> age of 50. They do the autopsies at no charge for

> being in the study so they have the brain tissue for

> their research. His brother and sister with

> dementia

> were in this study, so their brain tissue was sent

> in;

> both of them showed AD. My husband's showed AD and

> LBD as well as a possible stroke at some time. I

> chose to have the body autopsy done, for medical

> reasons as to the actual cause of death. I won't go

> into it right now, as I have in the past, but some

> of

> the meds he was given in the hospital and nursing

> home

> I believed might have contributed to a rapid

> decline.

> I am not sorry that either one were done. I learned

> what caused his death; I also learned what dementia

> he

> had, as the doctors and NH had told me repeatedly he

> didn't have LBD. I knew there was more than AD

> involved because of his reactions to drugs and many

> of

> his symptoms.

>

> My take on this is that if we don't have autopsies

> done and have brain tissue researched, how are we

> going to find out what causes it, what can we do to

> prevent and/or cure it? With such a strong family

> history of dementia, I could not rest without doing

> something in the hopes that these 27 direct

> descendants may be able to do something to prevent

> these diseases. Already, four of my grandchildren

> not

> only have the possibility of a genetic connection

> with

> their grandfather, my husband, they have

> grandparents

> on the other side of the family who have had AD,

> LBD,

> and vasculitis (similar to Parkinson's). I would do

> anything I possibly can to see that this disease is

> someday stopped in its tracks.

>

> Each person involved has to make the decision on

> his/her own. My personal feeling is that when death

> occurs, the body is a shell, and having an autopsy

> done is no worse than embalming or cremating. There

> was absolutely nothing in my husband's appearance to

> show that both these autopsies had been done.

>

> Now, I'll get off the soapbox. I'm sure lots of you

> will disagree with me.

>

> June C.

>

> --- Gladys Stefany wrote:

>

> > My mother has made it clear to us for years that

> she

> > doesn't want one done.

> > How important is it

> > to do one?

> >

> > Gladys

> >

> > PS I know the law requires it in some places.

> >

> > [Non-text portions of this message have been

> > removed]

> >

> >

>

>

>

>

>

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As fast as LBD can change, you might watch for an

opening later on. As long as she doesn't think

anything is wrong, it would be very difficult to try

to talk to her about it.

--- Gladys Stefany wrote:

> Cognitively, she's lucid enough to discuss it, but

> not emotionally. She

> told me categorically this afternoon that she does

> NOT have LBD. Whatever

> is wrong with her is because she moved up here

> because she never had these

> problems in FL.

>

> We're trying to break through the denial so she can

> develop some peace and

> understanding of what is happening to her but we're

> not having any luck at

> all.

>

> Gladys

>

> -- Re: autopsy?

> >

> > Gladys: There are no rules about an autopsy

> having

> > to

> > be done unless there is some question as to what

> > might

> > have caused an untimely or possibly a criminal

> > death.

> > We had discussed it briefly, but he had never

> > indicated he would not want an autopsy. The

> reason

> > I

> > feel so very strongly (to put it mildly) to have

> an

> > autopsy is because we have four children, 13

> > grandchildren, 10 and soon-to-be 11 great

> > grandchildren. My husband was the fifth of his 13

> > family members to have Alzheimer's/LBD/vascular

> > dementia. His mother and father married brother

> and

> > sister, and five of their seven children had some

> > form

> > of dementia, as well. After my husband's dx of

> AD,

> > I

> > heard of a family DNA study through the University

> > of

> > Indiana so that research might be able to find a

> > common gene that possibly causes dementia in

> > families

> > with a strong history of it. As a result, we

> joined

> > this family study, and to date, 25 members of both

> > these families have had DNA taken. They will take

> > more as time goes along and family members reach

> the

> > age of 50. They do the autopsies at no charge for

> > being in the study so they have the brain tissue

> for

> > their research. His brother and sister with

> > dementia

> > were in this study, so their brain tissue was sent

> > in;

> > both of them showed AD. My husband's showed AD

> and

> > LBD as well as a possible stroke at some time. I

> > chose to have the body autopsy done, for medical

> > reasons as to the actual cause of death. I won't

> go

> > into it right now, as I have in the past, but some

> > of

> > the meds he was given in the hospital and nursing

> > home

> > I believed might have contributed to a rapid

> > decline.

> > I am not sorry that either one were done. I

> learned

> > what caused his death; I also learned what

> dementia

> > he

> > had, as the doctors and NH had told me repeatedly

> he

> > didn't have LBD. I knew there was more than AD

> > involved because of his reactions to drugs and

> many

> > of

> > his symptoms.

> >

> > My take on this is that if we don't have autopsies

> > done and have brain tissue researched, how are we

> > going to find out what causes it, what can we do

> to

> > prevent and/or cure it? With such a strong family

> > history of dementia, I could not rest without

> doing

> > something in the hopes that these 27 direct

> > descendants may be able to do something to prevent

> > these diseases. Already, four of my grandchildren

> > not

> > only have the possibility of a genetic connection

> > with

> > their grandfather, my husband, they have

> > grandparents

> > on the other side of the family who have had AD,

> > LBD,

> > and vasculitis (similar to Parkinson's). I would

> do

> > anything I possibly can to see that this disease

> is

> > someday stopped in its tracks.

> >

> > Each person involved has to make the decision on

> > his/her own. My personal feeling is that when

> death

> > occurs, the body is a shell, and having an autopsy

> > done is no worse than embalming or cremating.

> There

> > was absolutely nothing in my husband's appearance

> to

> > show that both these autopsies had been done.

> >

> > Now, I'll get off the soapbox. I'm sure lots of

> you

> > will disagree with me.

> >

> > June C.

> >

> > --- Gladys Stefany wrote:

> >

> > > My mother has made it clear to us for years that

> > she

> > > doesn't want one done.

> > > How important is it

> > > to do one?

> > >

> > > Gladys

> > >

> > > PS I know the law requires it in some places.

> > >

> > > [Non-text portions of this message have been

> > > removed]

> > >

> > >

> >

> >

> >

> >

> >

>

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Gladys,

I don't think you are going to have much luck " breaking through her denial. " If

she doesn't want to believe it, she probably won't no matter how hard you work.

You just work yourself up and she can't do what you are asking.

She has decided what the problem is, for all her own reasons, and I would

guess she doesn't want to know.

My Mom wouldn't have wanted an autopsy and I just guessed that. She never told

me that. I had to do the best I could without her knowledge.

Should we all have them done, probably. But some would not feel comfortable

about it and I think they should have that right.

I am making sure my kids know what I want, way ahead of time, just in case.

Just my humble opinion.

Hugs,

Donna R

Caregave for Mom (after I brought her from WI to MI) for 3 years and 4th year in

a nh.

She was almost 89 when she died in '02. No dx other than mine.

Re: autopsy?

>

> Gladys: There are no rules about an autopsy having

> to

> be done unless there is some question as to what

> might

> have caused an untimely or possibly a criminal

> death.

> We had discussed it briefly, but he had never

> indicated he would not want an autopsy. The reason

> I

> feel so very strongly (to put it mildly) to have an

> autopsy is because we have four children, 13

> grandchildren, 10 and soon-to-be 11 great

> grandchildren. My husband was the fifth of his 13

> family members to have Alzheimer's/LBD/vascular

> dementia. His mother and father married brother and

> sister, and five of their seven children had some

> form

> of dementia, as well. After my husband's dx of AD,

> I

> heard of a family DNA study through the University

> of

> Indiana so that research might be able to find a

> common gene that possibly causes dementia in

> families

> with a strong history of it. As a result, we joined

> this family study, and to date, 25 members of both

> these families have had DNA taken. They will take

> more as time goes along and family members reach the

> age of 50. They do the autopsies at no charge for

> being in the study so they have the brain tissue for

> their research. His brother and sister with

> dementia

> were in this study, so their brain tissue was sent

> in;

> both of them showed AD. My husband's showed AD and

> LBD as well as a possible stroke at some time. I

> chose to have the body autopsy done, for medical

> reasons as to the actual cause of death. I won't go

> into it right now, as I have in the past, but some

> of

> the meds he was given in the hospital and nursing

> home

> I believed might have contributed to a rapid

> decline.

> I am not sorry that either one were done. I learned

> what caused his death; I also learned what dementia

> he

> had, as the doctors and NH had told me repeatedly he

> didn't have LBD. I knew there was more than AD

> involved because of his reactions to drugs and many

> of

> his symptoms.

>

> My take on this is that if we don't have autopsies

> done and have brain tissue researched, how are we

> going to find out what causes it, what can we do to

> prevent and/or cure it? With such a strong family

> history of dementia, I could not rest without doing

> something in the hopes that these 27 direct

> descendants may be able to do something to prevent

> these diseases. Already, four of my grandchildren

> not

> only have the possibility of a genetic connection

> with

> their grandfather, my husband, they have

> grandparents

> on the other side of the family who have had AD,

> LBD,

> and vasculitis (similar to Parkinson's). I would do

> anything I possibly can to see that this disease is

> someday stopped in its tracks.

>

> Each person involved has to make the decision on

> his/her own. My personal feeling is that when death

> occurs, the body is a shell, and having an autopsy

> done is no worse than embalming or cremating. There

> was absolutely nothing in my husband's appearance to

> show that both these autopsies had been done.

>

> Now, I'll get off the soapbox. I'm sure lots of you

> will disagree with me.

>

> June C.

>

> --- Gladys Stefany wrote:

>

> > My mother has made it clear to us for years that

> she

> > doesn't want one done.

> > How important is it

> > to do one?

> >

> > Gladys

> >

> > PS I know the law requires it in some places.

> >

> > [Non-text portions of this message have been

> > removed]

> >

> >

>

>

>

>

>

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Hi June. As I mentioned in the Brain Biopsy post, we were interested

in having an autopsy done, but procrastinated signing up for one. The

day my mom passed went by so fast at the end we were worn out and

justified not doing the autopsy due to the brain biopsy.

But had we 'thought ahead' we would have had a brain autopsy done on

my mom b/c her 2 aunts had a form of dementia (no autopsies either -

but it was assumed AD) Had my mom's mom not pass away at 74 she may

have had a form of dementia since her 2 sisters had it. The other 2

siblings in the family died early in life (50'ish and 20'ish) so who

knows if they would have developed a form of dementia had they lived

long lives.

Anyway... if there's even an ounce of interest to any of you to have

an autopsy done on your LO - you should plan it now - wait too long

and it could be too late.

If interested read here:

Harvard Brain Tissue Resource Center

The Harvard Brain Tissue Resource Center collects human brain tissue

for brain research. By calling 1-800-BRAIN BANK, (1-) you

can get more information about Making a Donation.

http://www.brainbank.mclean.org/

Also... Here's a few good links re: brain autopsies:

http://www.alz-ri.org/Autopsy.htm

http://med.emory.edu/ADRC/BrainDonation.htm

http://adrc.mc.duke.edu/autopsy.htm

http://www.ftd-picks.org/?p=learnmore.brainautopsy

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Mmmm. Have you asked why she moved in with you if she wasn't having problems in

Florida?

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Gladys, if this helps at all, Mom and I talked seriously enough before LBD took

over that I

knew her wishes and felt comfortable expanding on them when necessary. She also

started going against her rational thoughts as irrational took over and I do not

let myself

second guess the irrational thoughts I did not follow through on. I hope this

makes sense!

, Oakville Ont.

Mother, age 92, died Aug. 12/06 after 13 year decline from PDD

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> > > June, I agree with you. I'm just torn because I

> > > would never want to violate

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I've never talked with my Mom about what's wrong with her, except that she's

sick. She didn't have enough lucid time after the diagnosis and before LBD took

over for us to have any kind of a reasonable, intelligent discussion. She

thinks that she damaged her brain when she fell last year.

While I would want to know what was wrong with me, I think it would serve no

purpose now to tell her that she has a degenerative brain disease and have that

consume every lucid, waking moment that she has. We just encourage her to eat

to regain her strength, to attempt her physical therapy to strengthen her legs,

and we've gotten so damned good at pretending that everything is going to be

okay...*sigh*

Jannis

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with wings as eagles; they shall run, and not be weary; they shall walk and not

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Years ago when Jim was in his right mind in the 70s, he donated his remains as a

cadaver to the University of California San Francisco (UCSF). He had no idea

then that he would have LBD. In the 90s when he was still lucid, he once again

wanted to make sure that they still had his request to do this and had me call

them and they confirmed that they still had him listed and they recently sent a

note confirming again that he is listed. I called them to let them know he has

Lewy Body. I didn't know if they would still accept him, but they said only

contagious diseases like Hepititis, Aides etc. they would not take. The

instruction for the disposition of the remains is it must be unautopsied and

unembalmed for the purposes of medical education and research. I am wondering

while they are studying and doing research if they could do an autopsy. I guess

I should call and find out if this could be a part of their study. They cremate

the remains at the end of

the study. I guess it is the teacher in Jim to still be a teacher in the end

and he found a way not to put a burden of expense for burying or cremation on

the family. It is a donation without cost. Just like Jim always looking for a

way to save............Jan

Re: autopsy?

I've never talked with my Mom about what's wrong with her, except that she's

sick. She didn't have enough lucid time after the diagnosis and before LBD took

over for us to have any kind of a reasonable, intelligent discussion. She

thinks that she damaged her brain when she fell last year.

While I would want to know what was wrong with me, I think it would serve no

purpose now to tell her that she has a degenerative brain disease and have that

consume every lucid, waking moment that she has. We just encourage her to eat

to regain her strength, to attempt her physical therapy to strengthen her legs,

and we've gotten so damned good at pretending that everything is going to be

okay...*sigh*

Jannis

" They that wait upon the LORD shall renew their strength; they shall mount up

with wings as eagles; they shall run, and not be weary; they shall walk and not

faint. " -- Isaiah 40:31

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