Guest guest Posted April 9, 2004 Report Share Posted April 9, 2004 is Machine jotted this down: > What do you aspies think about the stuff being said about people > with Asperger's Syndrome being unable to love anybody? It's bullshit. DeGraf ~*~ http://www.sonic.net/mustang/moggy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 9, 2004 Report Share Posted April 9, 2004 >is Machine jotted this down: >> What do you aspies think about the stuff being said about people > > with Asperger's Syndrome being unable to love anybody? And DeGraf responded: >It's bullshit. What she said. --Parrish Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 9, 2004 Report Share Posted April 9, 2004 At 03:53 PM 4/9/2004 -0400, Parrish S. Knight wrote: > >is Machine jotted this down: > >> What do you aspies think about the stuff being said about people > > > with Asperger's Syndrome being unable to love anybody? > >And DeGraf responded: > >It's bullshit. > > >What she said. > >--Parrish what they said -jypsy ________________________________ Ooops....Wrong Planet! Syndrome Autism Spectrum Resources www.PlanetAutism.com jypsy@... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 9, 2004 Report Share Posted April 9, 2004 is Machine wrote: > Dear list members, > > What do you aspies think about the stuff being said about people with > Asperger's Syndrome being unable to love anybody? I think it is an excuse by some people that find themselves too prejudiced to love one of us. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 9, 2004 Report Share Posted April 9, 2004 > What do you aspies think about the stuff being said about people > with Asperger's Syndrome being unable to love anybody? False. Many autistic people can love. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 9, 2004 Report Share Posted April 9, 2004 Parrish, Of course, you're going to ditto what said, you guys are in love with each other. :-) there is no doubt that autistics have the same emotions as non-autistics, we are not bricks. (, feel free to quote me - " ...we are not bricks. -Camille) People just don't want to hear how we express it, or can't understand how it gets expressed or how we can't support a typical relationship ---in some cases. Camille > >is Machine jotted this down: > >> What do you aspies think about the stuff being said about people > > > with Asperger's Syndrome being unable to love anybody? > > And DeGraf responded: > >It's bullshit. > > > What she said. > > --Parrish Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 9, 2004 Report Share Posted April 9, 2004 > I don't have normal emotions either. Mine are the emotions of a > child, in many ways. If Camille meant that the range of autistic > emotion is the same range as NT emotions, I would agree with that. > Every emotion that is found in some normal people is found in > autistics, but not in every autistic. That's what I'd assumed she meant. My emotions are probably not normal either, but I don't know how to describe them. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 9, 2004 Report Share Posted April 9, 2004 Camille wrote: >there is no doubt that autistics have the same emotions as >non-autistics, we are not bricks. Well....although I hate to break up this lovely consensus, I must say that I do not seem to have exactly the same emotions as are considered " normal. " I certainly can and do love, but missing from my emotional repertoire is the kind of romantic/sentimental kind of love that is the only kind of love some people consider " great " love. That's why being part of a couple never worked for me. I can't generate the proper emotion, much less express them adequately. Jane Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 9, 2004 Report Share Posted April 9, 2004 jypsy [ janet norman-bain ] wrote: >At 03:53 PM 4/9/2004 -0400, Parrish S. Knight wrote: > > >>>is Machine jotted this down: >>> >>> >>>> What do you aspies think about the stuff being said about people >>>> >>>> >>> > with Asperger's Syndrome being unable to love anybody? >>> >>> >>And DeGraf responded: >> >> >>>It's bullshit. >>> >>> >>What she said. >> >>--Parrish >> >> > >what they said > >-jypsy > > > What they all said! Ride the Music AndyTiedye Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 9, 2004 Report Share Posted April 9, 2004 Hi, I guess that all autistics can have some shade of all the emotions. I can't imagine one that doesn't have deep fondness, even if it is for sound or color or math. My daughter has had tiny tints of jealousy, but only barely. I have boat loads of jealousy and have had rage and bitterness. I've had guilt. My daughter has had guilt. She has what looks like supremely tender affection for some people, without strings. Jimmy my retarded autistic friend has had terrible temper fits, he's on drugs now, probably the wrong ones, but he is a ward of the state, basically. He says he loves me. He says he loves his mother and kisses her (sort of) on the cheek. He get's happy and probably sad, although I don't think he's ever told anyone. No one can know what someone else is thinking, so I'm just guessing that we all have the same kinds of set ups for love and hate and envy and pride, etc. I used to think that my ex didn't love his kids, but I think now that he just doesn't have any way to express it in the way that is normally expected. Jane, are you sure that the capacity isn't there, but just the realities of what other's expect sort of never gives it a chance to develop? Like if you could design the perfect person (which is impossible) don't you think you could feel romantic love for that one, so long as there was also the right conditions. Like maybe could be deliriously happy with someone who would live 10 miles away and visit him whenever he decided he wanted to see her, or only communicate by writing, or who sleeps during the day and is up at night and who adores his cats...? I might be able to trust a man and get into a relationship if I could have the perfect conditions, but it's not going to happen. This is not to put anyone on the spot and make them admit that my theory applies to xem. My boss and I have had some good conversations (the man with AS). He said he has NO feelings for animals and that he makes himself pat the dog, because it's the right thing to do. It looks stiff. Now me, I'm all sappy over their dog. Nose to nose, hoping he'll lick my face, talking baby talk to him. His wife has created barriers to my boss showing love, it's like it's never right to her (can't exactly blame her). He loves his kids. I can see that. He has no friends, friendly acquaintences, but no friends. Camille > >there is no doubt that autistics have the same emotions as > >non-autistics, we are not bricks. > > Well....although I hate to break up this lovely consensus, > I must say that I do not seem to have exactly the same > emotions as are considered " normal. " I certainly can and > do love, but missing from my emotional repertoire is the > kind of romantic/sentimental kind of love that is the > only kind of love some people consider " great " love. > That's why being part of a couple never worked for me. > I can't generate the proper emotion, much less express > them adequately. > > Jane Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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