Guest guest Posted May 8, 2007 Report Share Posted May 8, 2007 Good Morning Everyone I would like to thank everyone for keeping me and my family in their prayers and thoughts these last couple of weeks. It was very much appreciated. My Dad passed away on Sat. afternoon 4/28. My Mom, brother and his family and myself were by his side. I spent the next two nights with mom so she wouldn't be alone. My two sisters - one from Colorado Springs, CO and the other with her husband from Stafford, VA flew in the next day. Last week was a hectic week. Dean and I were suppose to close on our property on 4/27, but the bank didn't have their ducks in order, so it was set for 4/30 - the last day of the extension that we had granted to the sellers because they ran into some unexpected delays. Well, I came home from Mom's that morning (4/30)and I had been on the phone with the bank on and off all the way home. We waited around to see if we were going to close or not. One of my last conversations with the bank was that if we didn't close today like the contract stated we needed to, then the bank would have to pay the $750 fine because I wasn't. The bank knew back in March when the closing was going to be. We ended up just signing on the property on 4/30. I told the bank that I wanted to sign the financial part of it first thing in the morning (5/1) because I was going to go back up to Mom's. Well that didn't happen. We finally signed the financial papers at 3:00 on May 1st. I was pissed and I let the bank know that. They kept saying that they didn't get all the information in on time. I just told them that if they had started 4 weeks earlier instead of 4 days then they would of had everything in on time. I spent the rest of the week at Mom's. Dad's funeral was on Wednesday 5/2. Everything turned out beautiful. The weather cooperated. Sunshine, blue skies with some high white clouds and warm temps. I took my sister and brother in law to the airport on Thursday and my other sister to the airport on Saturday. My sister- that lives in state- and I helped mom do the thank you cards on saturday afternoon and I finished them up on sunday afternoon. I finally came back home on Monday. Mom is doing ok. We knew that this was coming when Dad go sick the end of January. Everytime we turned around, it seemed like something else was going wrong. At the end, there were only two days when Dad was somewhat unresponsive before he died. He went down hill fast and I know that was hard for me. You have lunch with him on Wednesday, and by Thursday afternoon he's somewhat unresponsive and by Saturday afternoon he's dead. I'm glad it went fast, because I know that he wouldn't want to suffer. He was in some pain at the end, but they kept him comfortable by giving him risperdol(?sp) fast acting breakthrough pain med. They would just slip it under his tongue and it would dissolve quickly and go to work just as quickly. My neuropathy throughout all of this has been unreal (my pain levels are sky high). My pain levels are typically moderate to high depending on how much I'm on my feet. I haven't been sleeping too well because of the pain and last night was no exception. I think / I know I broke all of the Dr.s restrictions that he has me under during the last 2 weeks. Right now, I can't feel my feet at all. I took an oxycod this morning and I'm waiting for it to kick in so that I can get some more sleep. I didn't have them with me while at mom's because they knock me out, so I had to wait until I got home. I will try to start catching up on my e-mails later today or else sometime this week. I know that it will take me awhile. Hope everyone is doing ok and has as little as pain as possible. Hugs to all Diane-Minnesota Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 8, 2007 Report Share Posted May 8, 2007 Dear Diane, Please accept my condolences on the loss of your father. My father died 21 years ago, after lingering for 15 years, so I'm so glad your father didn't suffer long. Still, losing a parent is hard, and the stress is unbearable. Please let me know if there is anything I can do to make this time easier for you. Best Wishes, Misty Patient & Owner FM/CFS/ME Resources http://fmcfsme.d-3systems.com/ --------------------------------- Ahhh...imagining that irresistible " new car " smell? Check outnew cars at Yahoo! Autos. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 8, 2007 Report Share Posted May 8, 2007 Diane, I am so sorry for your loss. I know this is so hard. And the physical pain and mental pain as well. That darn bank should do something to make for your inconvenience, especially with all that you are going through. I hope your days get better. Hugs, redhatladydiva wrote: Good Morning Everyone I would like to thank everyone for keeping me and my family in their prayers and thoughts these last couple of weeks. It was very much appreciated. My Dad passed away on Sat. afternoon 4/28. My Mom, brother and his family and myself were by his side. I spent the next two nights with mom so she wouldn't be alone. My two sisters - one from Colorado Springs, CO and the other with her husband from Stafford, VA flew in the next day. Last week was a hectic week. Dean and I were suppose to close on our property on 4/27, but the bank didn't have their ducks in order, so it was set for 4/30 - the last day of the extension that we had granted to the sellers because they ran into some unexpected delays. Well, I came home from Mom's that morning (4/30)and I had been on the phone with the bank on and off all the way home. We waited around to see if we were going to close or not. One of my last conversations with the bank was that if we didn't close today like the contract stated we needed to, then the bank would have to pay the $750 fine because I wasn't. The bank knew back in March when the closing was going to be. We ended up just signing on the property on 4/30. I told the bank that I wanted to sign the financial part of it first thing in the morning (5/1) because I was going to go back up to Mom's. Well that didn't happen. We finally signed the financial papers at 3:00 on May 1st. I was pissed and I let the bank know that. They kept saying that they didn't get all the information in on time. I just told them that if they had started 4 weeks earlier instead of 4 days then they would of had everything in on time. I spent the rest of the week at Mom's. Dad's funeral was on Wednesday 5/2. Everything turned out beautiful. The weather cooperated. Sunshine, blue skies with some high white clouds and warm temps. I took my sister and brother in law to the airport on Thursday and my other sister to the airport on Saturday. My sister- that lives in state- and I helped mom do the thank you cards on saturday afternoon and I finished them up on sunday afternoon. I finally came back home on Monday. Mom is doing ok. We knew that this was coming when Dad go sick the end of January. Everytime we turned around, it seemed like something else was going wrong. At the end, there were only two days when Dad was somewhat unresponsive before he died. He went down hill fast and I know that was hard for me. You have lunch with him on Wednesday, and by Thursday afternoon he's somewhat unresponsive and by Saturday afternoon he's dead. I'm glad it went fast, because I know that he wouldn't want to suffer. He was in some pain at the end, but they kept him comfortable by giving him risperdol(?sp) fast acting breakthrough pain med. They would just slip it under his tongue and it would dissolve quickly and go to work just as quickly. My neuropathy throughout all of this has been unreal (my pain levels are sky high). My pain levels are typically moderate to high depending on how much I'm on my feet. I haven't been sleeping too well because of the pain and last night was no exception. I think / I know I broke all of the Dr.s restrictions that he has me under during the last 2 weeks. Right now, I can't feel my feet at all. I took an oxycod this morning and I'm waiting for it to kick in so that I can get some more sleep. I didn't have them with me while at mom's because they knock me out, so I had to wait until I got home. I will try to start catching up on my e-mails later today or else sometime this week. I know that it will take me awhile. Hope everyone is doing ok and has as little as pain as possible. Hugs to all Diane-Minnesota To read these messages on the Hugs web site go to: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/Hugs-N-Pain you can contact me privately at starlyin@... Rose Owner/ Moderator Hugs N Pain God Bless our Troops Please Pray for them Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 8, 2007 Report Share Posted May 8, 2007 Diane,....I'm sorry for the loss of your Father. I'm glad you, and the family were with him when he needed you most. I hope you can get a lot of rest and take your meds now. I will be keeping you, and the family in my prayers, Tawny Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 9, 2007 Report Share Posted May 9, 2007 Thanks Misty. Just knowing that you are here and willing to talk and listen if I need someone helps. Right now I'm just trying to get life back to normal. I'm taking one day at a time. Going out to the property with Dean and trying to help him clean it up - I can't do much - helps. Hugs Diane-Minnesota > > Dear Diane, > > Please accept my condolences on the loss of your father. > > My father died 21 years ago, after lingering for 15 years, so I'm so glad your father didn't suffer long. Still, losing a parent is hard, and the stress is unbearable. > > Please let me know if there is anything I can do to make this time easier for you. > > Best Wishes, > > Misty > > Patient & Owner > FM/CFS/ME Resources > http://fmcfsme.d-3systems.com/ > > > --------------------------------- > Ahhh...imagining that irresistible " new car " smell? > Check outnew cars at Yahoo! Autos. > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 9, 2007 Report Share Posted May 9, 2007 Diane, In some ways I'm sure it's helped to have something to focus on...a new place, etc. Hopefully the bank got their act together for you. Nothing more stressful than buying a home AND losing a parent. Shheeesh! The offer stands anytime. Best Wishes, Misty Patient & Owner FM/CFS/ME Resources http://fmcfsme.d-3systems.com/ P.S. my boyfriend's name is Dean. --------------------------------- Finding fabulous fares is fun. Let Yahoo! FareChase search your favorite travel sites to find flight and hotel bargains. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 10, 2007 Report Share Posted May 10, 2007 Dear Diane, I'm so very sorry to read about the passing of your Father May God keep you and your family safe in his care. I am continuing to pray for you and your family. Especially for you Mom. Take care and as always, take special care of yourself during this time. As you know, you are no good to anyone if you are in bad shape. Warm hugs and Blessings, Tommie Update/Dad Good Morning Everyone I would like to thank everyone for keeping me and my family in their prayers and thoughts these last couple of weeks. It was very much appreciated. My Dad passed away on Sat. afternoon 4/28. My Mom, brother and his family and myself were by his side. I spent the next two nights with mom so she wouldn't be alone. My two sisters - one from Colorado Springs, CO and the other with her husband from Stafford, VA flew in the next day. Last week was a hectic week. Dean and I were suppose to close on our property on 4/27, but the bank didn't have their ducks in order, so it was set for 4/30 - the last day of the extension that we had granted to the sellers because they ran into some unexpected delays. Well, I came home from Mom's that morning (4/30)and I had been on the phone with the bank on and off all the way home. We waited around to see if we were going to close or not. One of my last conversations with the bank was that if we didn't close today like the contract stated we needed to, then the bank would have to pay the $750 fine because I wasn't. The bank knew back in March when the closing was going to be. We ended up just signing on the property on 4/30. I told the bank that I wanted to sign the financial part of it first thing in the morning (5/1) because I was going to go back up to Mom's. Well that didn't happen. We finally signed the financial papers at 3:00 on May 1st. I was pissed and I let the bank know that. They kept saying that they didn't get all the information in on time. I just told them that if they had started 4 weeks earlier instead of 4 days then they would of had everything in on time. I spent the rest of the week at Mom's. Dad's funeral was on Wednesday 5/2. Everything turned out beautiful. The weather cooperated. Sunshine, blue skies with some high white clouds and warm temps. I took my sister and brother in law to the airport on Thursday and my other sister to the airport on Saturday. My sister- that lives in state- and I helped mom do the thank you cards on saturday afternoon and I finished them up on sunday afternoon. I finally came back home on Monday. Mom is doing ok. We knew that this was coming when Dad go sick the end of January. Everytime we turned around, it seemed like something else was going wrong. At the end, there were only two days when Dad was somewhat unresponsive before he died. He went down hill fast and I know that was hard for me. You have lunch with him on Wednesday, and by Thursday afternoon he's somewhat unresponsive and by Saturday afternoon he's dead. I'm glad it went fast, because I know that he wouldn't want to suffer. He was in some pain at the end, but they kept him comfortable by giving him risperdol(?sp) fast acting breakthrough pain med. They would just slip it under his tongue and it would dissolve quickly and go to work just as quickly. My neuropathy throughout all of this has been unreal (my pain levels are sky high). My pain levels are typically moderate to high depending on how much I'm on my feet. I haven't been sleeping too well because of the pain and last night was no exception. I think / I know I broke all of the Dr.s restrictions that he has me under during the last 2 weeks. Right now, I can't feel my feet at all. I took an oxycod this morning and I'm waiting for it to kick in so that I can get some more sleep. I didn't have them with me while at mom's because they knock me out, so I had to wait until I got home. I will try to start catching up on my e-mails later today or else sometime this week. I know that it will take me awhile. Hope everyone is doing ok and has as little as pain as possible. Hugs to all Diane-Minnesota Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 11, 2007 Report Share Posted May 11, 2007 Thanks No the bank is not doing anything. They kept offering their condolences, but that was it. I'm just taking one day at a time. I've been trying to keep myself busy, but it's hard. I've been going out to the property and just walking around cleaning/picking up. Hugs Diane-Minnesota > Good Morning Everyone > > I would like to thank everyone for keeping me and my family in their > prayers and thoughts these last couple of weeks. It was very much > appreciated. > > My Dad passed away on Sat. afternoon 4/28. My Mom, brother and his > family and myself were by his side. I spent the next two nights > with mom so she wouldn't be alone. My two sisters - one from > Colorado Springs, CO and the other with her husband from Stafford, > VA flew in the next day. > > Last week was a hectic week. Dean and I were suppose to close on > our property on 4/27, but the bank didn't have their ducks in order, > so it was set for 4/30 - the last day of the extension that we had > granted to the sellers because they ran into some unexpected > delays. Well, I came home from Mom's that morning (4/30)and I had > been on the phone with the bank on and off all the way home. We > waited around to see if we were going to close or not. One of my > last conversations with the bank was that if we didn't close today > like the contract stated we needed to, then the bank would have to > pay the $750 fine because I wasn't. The bank knew back in March > when the closing was going to be. We ended up just signing on the > property on 4/30. I told the bank that I wanted to sign the > financial part of it first thing in the morning (5/1) because I was > going to go back up to Mom's. Well that didn't happen. We finally > signed the financial papers at 3:00 on May 1st. I was pissed and I > let the bank know that. They kept saying that they didn't get all > the information in on time. I just told them that if they had > started 4 weeks earlier instead of 4 days then they would of had > everything in on time. > > I spent the rest of the week at Mom's. Dad's funeral was on > Wednesday 5/2. Everything turned out beautiful. The weather > cooperated. Sunshine, blue skies with some high white clouds and > warm temps. I took my sister and brother in law to the airport on > Thursday and my other sister to the airport on Saturday. My sister- > that lives in state- and I helped mom do the thank you cards on > saturday afternoon and I finished them up on sunday afternoon. I > finally came back home on Monday. Mom is doing ok. We knew that > this was coming when Dad go sick the end of January. Everytime we > turned around, it seemed like something else was going wrong. At > the end, there were only two days when Dad was somewhat unresponsive > before he died. He went down hill fast and I know that was hard for > me. You have lunch with him on Wednesday, and by Thursday afternoon > he's somewhat unresponsive and by Saturday afternoon he's dead. I'm > glad it went fast, because I know that he wouldn't want to suffer. > He was in some pain at the end, but they kept him comfortable by > giving him risperdol(?sp) fast acting breakthrough pain med. They > would just slip it under his tongue and it would dissolve quickly > and go to work just as quickly. > > My neuropathy throughout all of this has been unreal (my pain levels > are sky high). My pain levels are typically moderate to high > depending on how much I'm on my feet. I haven't been sleeping too > well because of the pain and last night was no exception. I think / > I know I broke all of the Dr.s restrictions that he has me under > during the last 2 weeks. Right now, I can't feel my feet at all. I > took an oxycod this morning and I'm waiting for it to kick in so > that I can get some more sleep. I didn't have them with me while at > mom's because they knock me out, so I had to wait until I got home. > > I will try to start catching up on my e-mails later today or else > sometime this week. I know that it will take me awhile. > > Hope everyone is doing ok and has as little as pain as possible. > > Hugs to all > Diane-Minnesota > > > > To read these messages on the Hugs web site go to: > http://groups.yahoo.com/group/Hugs-N-Pain > you can contact me privately at starlyin@... > Rose > Owner/ Moderator Hugs N Pain > God Bless our Troops > Please Pray for them > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 11, 2007 Report Share Posted May 11, 2007 Thanks Tawny. I appreciate it. Yes I am glad that I was at least able to be their at the end. Hugs Diane-Minnesota > > Diane,....I'm sorry for the loss of your Father. I'm glad you, and > the family were with him when he needed you most. I hope you can get > a lot of rest and take your meds now. I will be keeping you, and the > family in my prayers, Tawny > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 11, 2007 Report Share Posted May 11, 2007 Thanks Tommie. I appreciate it. Hugs Diane-Minnesota > > Dear Diane, > > I'm so very sorry to read about the passing of your Father > May God keep you and your family safe in his care. I am continuing to pray for you and your family. Especially for you Mom. > > Take care and as always, take special care of yourself during this time. As you know, you are no good to anyone if you are in bad shape. > > Warm hugs and Blessings, > Tommie > > Update/Dad > > > Good Morning Everyone > > I would like to thank everyone for keeping me and my family in their > prayers and thoughts these last couple of weeks. It was very much > appreciated. > > My Dad passed away on Sat. afternoon 4/28. My Mom, brother and his > family and myself were by his side. I spent the next two nights > with mom so she wouldn't be alone. My two sisters - one from > Colorado Springs, CO and the other with her husband from Stafford, > VA flew in the next day. > > Last week was a hectic week. Dean and I were suppose to close on > our property on 4/27, but the bank didn't have their ducks in order, > so it was set for 4/30 - the last day of the extension that we had > granted to the sellers because they ran into some unexpected > delays. Well, I came home from Mom's that morning (4/30)and I had > been on the phone with the bank on and off all the way home. We > waited around to see if we were going to close or not. One of my > last conversations with the bank was that if we didn't close today > like the contract stated we needed to, then the bank would have to > pay the $750 fine because I wasn't. The bank knew back in March > when the closing was going to be. We ended up just signing on the > property on 4/30. I told the bank that I wanted to sign the > financial part of it first thing in the morning (5/1) because I was > going to go back up to Mom's. Well that didn't happen. We finally > signed the financial papers at 3:00 on May 1st. I was pissed and I > let the bank know that. They kept saying that they didn't get all > the information in on time. I just told them that if they had > started 4 weeks earlier instead of 4 days then they would of had > everything in on time. > > I spent the rest of the week at Mom's. Dad's funeral was on > Wednesday 5/2. Everything turned out beautiful. The weather > cooperated. Sunshine, blue skies with some high white clouds and > warm temps. I took my sister and brother in law to the airport on > Thursday and my other sister to the airport on Saturday. My sister- > that lives in state- and I helped mom do the thank you cards on > saturday afternoon and I finished them up on sunday afternoon. I > finally came back home on Monday. Mom is doing ok. We knew that > this was coming when Dad go sick the end of January. Everytime we > turned around, it seemed like something else was going wrong. At > the end, there were only two days when Dad was somewhat unresponsive > before he died. He went down hill fast and I know that was hard for > me. You have lunch with him on Wednesday, and by Thursday afternoon > he's somewhat unresponsive and by Saturday afternoon he's dead. I'm > glad it went fast, because I know that he wouldn't want to suffer. > He was in some pain at the end, but they kept him comfortable by > giving him risperdol(?sp) fast acting breakthrough pain med. They > would just slip it under his tongue and it would dissolve quickly > and go to work just as quickly. > > My neuropathy throughout all of this has been unreal (my pain levels > are sky high). My pain levels are typically moderate to high > depending on how much I'm on my feet. I haven't been sleeping too > well because of the pain and last night was no exception. I think / > I know I broke all of the Dr.s restrictions that he has me under > during the last 2 weeks. Right now, I can't feel my feet at all. I > took an oxycod this morning and I'm waiting for it to kick in so > that I can get some more sleep. I didn't have them with me while at > mom's because they knock me out, so I had to wait until I got home. > > I will try to start catching up on my e-mails later today or else > sometime this week. I know that it will take me awhile. > > Hope everyone is doing ok and has as little as pain as possible. > > Hugs to all > Diane-Minnesota > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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