Guest guest Posted December 27, 2006 Report Share Posted December 27, 2006 , I had to laugh with great empathy for your situation. I remember going home for the first time after so much therapy and I booked the ticket for 11 days!!!!!!!! of pure HELL. NEVER AGAIN! I keep it to 3 days and traveling on the fourth. That is pushing now with family I do/used to keep up with. YOU ARE DOING REMARKABLY WELL!! Tell that to yourself, as it is true. Hell, I would have been snortin' that xanax and drinking all the REAL egg nog being around my famille. YUCK!! kidding. I was so touched by your very simple, yet, loving request (and you knew what you wanted to do and spoke up) about going to church! That just touched me in a special way, the way you wrote it. Next Christmas will be different without them or a 2 day visit. That will get their attention. Merry Belated Party Christmas. Greg. Too long of visit A week is too long to visit my FOO. My God the drama. In the past it may have seemed normal to me, but I have changed so much and it makes me crazy. I have handled it by Xanax and eating all the left overs. I think I gained 3 pounds. I still think I have done better than a year ago. Got here Thursday evening and cleaned and cooked for 3 1/2 days. Some vacation yeh? Xmas day I had to resort to Xanax. Yesterday my sister was on the phone for 3 hours to everyone in the family roomenating the story of her sons abuse on Xanax and alcohol. I got told what I wanted to do was a NO. I wanted to go to church Xmas eve. I got told do not add to my stress, She is trying to please everyone. Everyone but me, who she sees twice a year. This was my time to relax and have fun and it was wasted on my family. NEVER again, but we already established that before I came down here. I won't see her for awhile and when I do it will be for like 3 days. Sorry, my busy schedule just won't allow it. __________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 27, 2006 Report Share Posted December 27, 2006 Hopefully three days and a rental car. One rule I learned w/my FOO is to always have my own transportation and never rely on them to get me from here to there- like on Christmas Eve. That's really sucky that she wouldn't let you borrow the car or anything. What the heck? But I learned that after a few times of being stranded around nada and whatnot and I just don't do that to myself anymore- always have to have an escape route- always. A car is the most basic of escape routes. Ever since I told my cousin that one for when she visits her nada and FOO, its been a lot let stressful for her (though her nada hates it and pulls a lot more passive-aggressive crap). I feel for you. Thanks for sharing.Even amidst my family's current round of coughs and colds, I'm glad to have that and a rather boring holiday vs one around my FOO. Ulk! Kerrie > > > > A week is too long to visit my FOO. My God the drama. In the past it > may have seemed normal to me, but I have changed so much and it makes > me crazy. I have handled it by Xanax and eating all the left overs. I > think I gained 3 pounds. I still think I have done better than a year > ago. > > Got here Thursday evening and cleaned and cooked for 3 1/2 days. Some > vacation yeh? Xmas day I had to resort to Xanax. Yesterday my sister > was on the phone for 3 hours to everyone in the family roomenating the > story of her sons abuse on Xanax and alcohol. I got told what I wanted > to do was a NO. I wanted to go to church Xmas eve. I got told do not > add to my stress, She is trying to please everyone. Everyone but me, > who she sees twice a year. This was my time to relax and have fun and > it was wasted on my family. NEVER again, but we already established > that before I came down here. I won't see her for awhile and when I do > it will be for like 3 days. Sorry, my busy schedule just won't allow it. > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 28, 2006 Report Share Posted December 28, 2006 , I am glad you are establishing boundaries and respecting yourself. Look at it like this, so you may have gained 3 lbs and popped a few pill who cares? The good news is this you can see this is very abnormal behavior what they are doing! That is far beyond anything! That is so cool! So you had to self medicate on left overs for a few days you are out of there and you don't have to go back. Mashed potatoes are the ultimate comfort food. ;-) you were just making sure your were comforted. I love to self medicate on coffee all the time lol. I am glad you are you! And I am glad you are back. Love Lizzy > > > > A week is too long to visit my FOO. My God the drama. In the past it > may have seemed normal to me, but I have changed so much and it makes > me crazy. I have handled it by Xanax and eating all the left overs. I > think I gained 3 pounds. I still think I have done better than a year > ago. > > Got here Thursday evening and cleaned and cooked for 3 1/2 days. Some > vacation yeh? Xmas day I had to resort to Xanax. Yesterday my sister > was on the phone for 3 hours to everyone in the family roomenating the > story of her sons abuse on Xanax and alcohol. I got told what I wanted > to do was a NO. I wanted to go to church Xmas eve. I got told do not > add to my stress, She is trying to please everyone. Everyone but me, > who she sees twice a year. This was my time to relax and have fun and > it was wasted on my family. NEVER again, but we already established > that before I came down here. I won't see her for awhile and when I do > it will be for like 3 days. Sorry, my busy schedule just won't allow it. > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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