Re: Life with Nada...

[Guest guest]

Thanks, Greg. Yeah, it ain't always pleasant, more like living in La-La

Land. But, I do laugh at it a lot. I read UBM maybe a year and a half ago.

Since then it's been buried in this mess since we've moved, but I'm looking

for my copy again. (Hate to buy another one, money's tight.) In the

meantime I went and got I Hate You, Don't Leave Me and STWOE. I'm reading I

Hate

You now,

The things I laugh at are the most obvious isanities. Like the Golden

Child. Just over a year ago, he kicked her out, very literally, of his house.

Yet, I let her live with me, and somehow I'm the bad guy... somehow... Anyway,

it just makes such little sense, that ya gotta laugh. Or how she's sure

Golden Child had a " talk " with his SO... Just to please Nada. When in

reality,

he just let Nada say her piece (mostly b/c she was buying him dinner at the

time at a nice restaurant) and then completely ignored her. Or when she

calls my SO selfish. HA!!! They all seem like things that would infuriate,

but

if ya don't laugh, you'll cry, you know?

OMG Your meth story reminded me of my mom and Golden Child. They used to

have these " contests... " Who could roll the best joint. This was in high

school, before I left so he must've been a freshman/sophmore? Nice, huh? The

bad part was, Golden Boy always won. <<rolls eyes>>

I don't think I " m ready for NC yet. But I " m definately ready for some

SERIOUS distance put between us. DH is trying to get back into the Army. I'm

hoping they'll send us somewhere far, far away. Like Iceland...

Kristi

In a message dated 12/28/2006 5:18:21 PM Eastern Standard Time,

psychfred@... writes:

Kristi,

That is the worst nightmare I can think of: Nada moving in and destroying

lives. In reading UBM, it states in there that unless you are the golden child

110%, her unconscious job is to annihilate you - even with a smile. GET HER

OUT OF YOUR HOUSE AND LIFE. If you signed a lease, let her know that the

manager told (hell, have the manager stop by and tell her to get out) as part

of not violating the lease, etc. Video tape it so that she will be on her

best behavior if you need it for court. The sad thing is that it reminds me of

times when me and my mother made christmas cookies together and frosted them,

and then washed the dishes together and then used teh very same pots to make

crystal meth for the street children and yuppies. Yep, those were the

days..........JUST KIDDING !! YOu must laugh at your situation, Kristi. You

have

to find soemthing funny about it, so that she doesn't get to your rage and

tap into it. They know all too well how to push that button;

laughter inhibits that. But the cool thing about reading UBM is that I have

found some very simple ways to manipulate them and drive them crazy. I've

been debating whether or not to do such things, but it gives me great comfort

in knowing that they can be manipulated into their own insanity and can lose

their mind. So I say, Party Ohn, with your nada and turn the table on her,

over her, on top of her. OOOPS!! ;o)

Take great care of you and your famille; ditch the witch.

Greg.

[Guest guest]

Kristi,

That is the worst nightmare I can think of: Nada moving in and destroying lives.

In reading UBM, it states in there that unless you are the golden child 110%,

her unconscious job is to annihilate you - even with a smile. GET HER OUT OF

YOUR HOUSE AND LIFE. If you signed a lease, let her know that the manager told

(hell, have the manager stop by and tell her to get out) as part of not

violating the lease, etc. Video tape it so that she will be on her best

behavior if you need it for court. The sad thing is that it reminds me of times

when me and my mother made christmas cookies together and frosted them, and then

washed the dishes together and then used teh very same pots to make crystal meth

for the street children and yuppies. Yep, those were the days..........JUST

KIDDING !! YOu must laugh at your situation, Kristi. You have to find soemthing

funny about it, so that she doesn't get to your rage and tap into it. They know

all too well how to push that button;

laughter inhibits that. But the cool thing about reading UBM is that I have

found some very simple ways to manipulate them and drive them crazy. I've been

debating whether or not to do such things, but it gives me great comfort in

knowing that they can be manipulated into their own insanity and can lose their

mind. So I say, Party Ohn, with your nada and turn the table on her, over her,

on top of her. OOOPS!! ;o)

Take great care of you and your famille; ditch the witch.

Greg.

Life with Nada...

OK, you guys know Nada is living with me right now. ARGGHHHH I'M LOSING

IT!!! First of all, when I agreed for her to move in, it was for a couple of

weeks. So she moved up here from out of state, arrives and that DAY says she

thinks she'll stay through the holidays. OMG..That was in July. I'm sure you

can imagine the insanity, but these past couple of weeks, due to Christmas,

I'm sure, were really bad.

First off, you should know, when she arrived she said she'd pay us 200 a

month in rent, bills, groceries, ect. She paid August. Paid September. In

October, she used what I call " Nada-math " to write off that month, and November

and December didn't even bother. Of course, when I bring it up, she says,

" Well, you said I din't *have* to pay. " Yeah, b/c I told her to save her money

for her own damn place!! Instead, she spent over $2000 on CHRISTMAS!!! I'm

not kidding, I about DIED when I saw what she had done!! In addition to the

2 grand, she's paying next month to get my brother's college bills paid up

so he can start clinicals next semester, and getting NFL season tickets (well,

the down payment at least). She says the down payment for the tix is only

100 bucks. She must really think I'm stupid, we had those tickets last year.

Now, in my lease, it says our family plus two dogs, right? For some reason,

she doesn't think having her move in and *her* two freakin dogs is a

problem. Besides the fact that I've had to go to a more expensive dogfood (one

of

them had a GI bleed when she got here, don't ask me how, I doubt I want to

know, but she's better now) and have to deal with their spoiled rotten selves

not only causing havoc, but any training my dogs had is out the window now, she

refuses to put them on a leash. We live in the MIDDLE of a city. Not the

suburbs, not the outskirts, the freakin middle. You can see downtown. And,

yes, there are leash laws. Of course, she won't put the damn dogs on leashes,

just lets them outside by themselves to go in all the neighbor's yards and

such. So the other night after she left for work, the neighbors on both sides

started complaining. Bitterly. So I call her and tell her from now on,

they WILL be on leashes We simply can't afford to get kicked out for something

so utterly stupid. Of course, she screams at me why are you telling me this

on my way to work (like her job's so freakin' stressful, she works nights and

sleeps most of the night) and I hung up on her. She was much better behaved

in the morning, even bought us breakfast. This was Christmas Eve.

Oh, and last Friday, we were short on cash, so I had to borrow some money

from her for groceries. $80 for a week of 5 people and 4 dogs, including what

we needed for Christmas dinner, I think that's pretty damn good. You

would've thought I bought half the freaking store, the way she acted. HELLO!!???

She eats too!!!

Christmas night, we go over to my brother's house for dinner and cards. Of

course, her and the Golden Child get rip roaring drunk, and she gets more

obnoxious than usual. Oh, and she can't stand his live in girlfriend. I mean

can't STAND her. So she has this long talk a couple of months ago with the

Golden One, and for some reason, now she thinks he's " reeled T in. " HA She

can't see that T acts the EXACT same way she's always acted, nothing's changed,

just Nada thinking someone payed a damn bit of attention to anything she had

to say. The Golden Child didn't talk to his girlfriend, it's all in her

head. INSANE!!!

Things have been relitivally quiet the past couple of days, the usual crap,

but nothing too bad. Yesterday she deposited $400 into her acct.. She was

alread overdrawn, but that left quite a bit in there. I asked her if I could

use her card and run to Mc's for the kids, they hadn't eaten yet. She

said ok, and on the way out, I shouted that I'm taking her car too, b/c DH

has my keys by mistake. No problem. Get there, run through drive through, get

back, send my daughter in to give her her keys and card and say thanks, and

she FREAKS, and I mean FREAKS. Apparently, I didn't ask for her " debit

card, " I asked for her " debit car, " whatever the hell that is. <<rolls eyes>>

So she storms out of the house, and I mean screaming like a two year old. I

have enough kids to raise, thank you very much... That woman really thinks

the world revolves around her. Never mind that our lives have been turned

upside down for the THIRD TIME (I know, I know, you'd think I'd learn... it's

that damned FOG, I'm workin on it), WITHOUT any payment, instead, her telling

everyone that I somehow owe HER money! Nevermind that the kids (who are 5 and

4, btw) have to keep silent all day so that she can sleep because some genius

took a night job, nevermind that she causes problems in my marriage and

KNOWS it, and that we're trying to move out of state because of HER... And she

KNOWS all of this. Somehow, she still thinks that there is NO WAY that

someone couldn't POSSIBLY want her highness in thier house, I mean, who WOULDN'T

want to live with her?? <<bangs head against brick wall>>

On top of all of this, my daughter has begun to mimic her, I mean, to the

letter. Talk about emeshment. It's freaky, the things that will come out of

her mouth. And, of course, it's directed at yours truely. Apparently,

somewhere along the line, Grammy has told her that Grammy's in charge, not

Mommy.

OOOHHH YEAH that's going over well. But, really, why should DD respect me

when Grammy doesn't?? And Nada SERIOUSLY believes that if anything happens to

us, SHE'S getting the kids. HAHAHAHA No. I don't think so.

OK, I'm starting to ramble. If I had the cash, I'd go downtown right now

and start eviction proceedings. (She won't leave without an eviction, don't

ask me why. Just to make my life difficult.) I'm not mad, I'm just tired of

living with the insanity!

Kristi