Re: Praters for a dear friend

[Guest guest]

Dear Marina,

I'm so sorry for your friend Debbie. What a sad time for you, I wish

that I could be there to hold your hand. You will always have the

wonderful memories of her to hold on to forever. I will be praying

for her, and her family. I will keep you also in my prayers for

strength, courage, and your health during this time. If you need to

talk, I'm here for you.

Thinking of you, Tawny

--- In , " marina_troi " <marina_troi@y...>

wrote:

> Hello, my friends. I was wondering if I could impose upon all of

> you for a moment. My best friend, Debbie, was diagnosed with

liver

> cancer 4 years ago. At that time she was given only 6 months to

> live.

>

> Well, I started a prayer line through email and her family is such

a

> wonderful loving support group for her. I, too was there for

her.

> We have been friends for about 8 years, now. I tried to be as

best

> a friend as I could be. When I was diagnosed with RA, she was

> there, at my side.

>

> We came to depend on each other for support. Though we had

entirely

> different medical problems, we had the same need for unconditional

> love and understanding. Even if we didn't fully understand what

was

> going on, we were always there for each other.

>

> She was the only, I mean ONLY person I felt could empathize with

> what I was going through. You know how it is trying to get people

> who don't have a clue about RA to understand? Well, even if she

> didn't understand, she was always a pillar of strength in my

life.

> She actually got pissed off at me because when she would ask me

how

> I was doing, I would just tell her I was fine, even if I wasn't.

I

> think that by talking to each other, telling of our woes to each

> other, was actually very theraputic. We helped ourselves by

helping

> each other, by being there for each other.

>

> We became fast friends, first meeting each other at work. Even

> though I am young enough to be her daughter (her daughter is

> actually my age) I felt as though she were more like a sister to

> me.

>

> I love her soooo much. I got a call from her husband today. She

> took a turn for the worst. She waqs doing so well. She had her

low

> times, but they were out numbered by her great days. In fact, she

> was feeling so well that she and her family had made plans to fly

to

> Hawaii in 2 weeks to celebrate her life. If she should pass away

> before that date, I told her husband that they should still go.

Go

> there to the place that she loved so much, were they spent their

> honeymoon and other vacations, and celebrate her life.

>

> She is sooo strong. Liver cancer does not come with a pretty

> prognosis. When I found out four years ago, I just cried and

> cried. How could this be? Why her? She is such a wonderful

person,

> she just got married to a wonderful man, and she had so much life

in

> her. She had so much life in her that she made it 4 more years

than

> she was given. Seeing her strength gave me strength. She was,

is,

> my best friend and I can't stand it that I am loosing her. I know

> it is only from this world, that she is leaving, but I have never

> lost a friend like this before. I have lost many family members

> through out my life, as does any one. This is the first time I am

> losing a friend. But, she has always been more than a friend.

She

> has always been my sister.

>

> Well, I just ask that you say a prayer for her as you read this.

> She currently on the pallative care floor at a local hospital.

She

> won't be with us for much longer. She is comfortable and they

will

> continue to do what they must to keep her that way. I am sooo

> greatful for the extra 4 years we had together. I like to think

> that my life is better for having known her.

>

> Thank you, everyone, for listening to me. Even now I am having

> trouble typing this post because my tears are clouding my site.

>

> Thank you for your prayers, my family. Thank you...Marina

[Guest guest]

Dear Marina,

I'm so sorry for your friend Debbie. What a sad time for you, I wish

that I could be there to hold your hand. You will always have the

wonderful memories of her to hold on to forever. I will be praying

for her, and her family. I will keep you also in my prayers for

strength, courage, and your health during this time. If you need to

talk, I'm here for you.

Thinking of you, Tawny

> Hello, my friends. I was wondering if I could impose upon all of

> you for a moment. My best friend, Debbie, was diagnosed with

liver

> cancer 4 years ago. At that time she was given only 6 months to

> live.

>

> Well, I started a prayer line through email and her family is such

a

> wonderful loving support group for her. I, too was there for

her.

> We have been friends for about 8 years, now. I tried to be as

best

> a friend as I could be. When I was diagnosed with RA, she was

> there, at my side.

>

> We came to depend on each other for support. Though we had

entirely

> different medical problems, we had the same need for unconditional

> love and understanding. Even if we didn't fully understand what

was

> going on, we were always there for each other.

>

> She was the only, I mean ONLY person I felt could empathize with

> what I was going through. You know how it is trying to get people

> who don't have a clue about RA to understand? Well, even if she

> didn't understand, she was always a pillar of strength in my

life.

> She actually got pissed off at me because when she would ask me

how

> I was doing, I would just tell her I was fine, even if I wasn't.

I

> think that by talking to each other, telling of our woes to each

> other, was actually very theraputic. We helped ourselves by

helping

> each other, by being there for each other.

>

> We became fast friends, first meeting each other at work. Even

> though I am young enough to be her daughter (her daughter is

> actually my age) I felt as though she were more like a sister to

> me.

>

> I love her soooo much. I got a call from her husband today. She

> took a turn for the worst. She waqs doing so well. She had her

low

> times, but they were out numbered by her great days. In fact, she

> was feeling so well that she and her family had made plans to fly

to

> Hawaii in 2 weeks to celebrate her life. If she should pass away

> before that date, I told her husband that they should still go.

Go

> there to the place that she loved so much, were they spent their

> honeymoon and other vacations, and celebrate her life.

>

> She is sooo strong. Liver cancer does not come with a pretty

> prognosis. When I found out four years ago, I just cried and

> cried. How could this be? Why her? She is such a wonderful

person,

> she just got married to a wonderful man, and she had so much life

in

> her. She had so much life in her that she made it 4 more years

than

> she was given. Seeing her strength gave me strength. She was,

is,

> my best friend and I can't stand it that I am loosing her. I know

> it is only from this world, that she is leaving, but I have never

> lost a friend like this before. I have lost many family members

> through out my life, as does any one. This is the first time I am

> losing a friend. But, she has always been more than a friend.

She

> has always been my sister.

>

> Well, I just ask that you say a prayer for her as you read this.

> She currently on the pallative care floor at a local hospital.

She

> won't be with us for much longer. She is comfortable and they

will

> continue to do what they must to keep her that way. I am sooo

> greatful for the extra 4 years we had together. I like to think

> that my life is better for having known her.

>

> Thank you, everyone, for listening to me. Even now I am having

> trouble typing this post because my tears are clouding my site.

>

> Thank you for your prayers, my family. Thank you...Marina

[Guest guest]

Dearest Marina,It is an honor to be able to pray for you and for

Debbie and all who are close to you both, as well as for all who are

in this group. I prayed,as I read your post. I often do as I feel so

deeply the heart felt needs of all who write. I ask God to give us

all strength. God knows we need it. What a blessing for you both to

have such a special relationship. I know we would all benefit from

having a friend who loved us unconditionally and that we could share

as you do with your dear friend. I am such a loner as I do not want

to be a burden to anyone and yet I have to make some changes in my

life as I have just been home for a few days from being in a psyche

ward in land. I am ashamed to say that I drove to a motel and

overdosed as I couldn't cope with all that came my way in such a

short time. I cannot believe that I did so. I was so sure that I

would never attempt suicide as I am so against it. It was like I was

no longer in control. I honestly do not know how that happened. It

is making me sick to my stomach just writing this. To think that I

came so close to succeeding. I pray to God that I never do such a

selfish act again. I was in so much pain emotionally. I am so sorry

for the pain that you are feeling. I know that when a friend is in

pain....you hurt also. When she passes on to a better place, you

will feel another kind of pain.....grief. I will feel for you as it

will be such a huge loss. Friends are priceless as family.

I have been grieving the loss of family for almost a year. And as

for my deteriorating health....I still have yet to accept and grieve.

I simply do not want to face that I am disabled. I will be in much

needed consueling now. Hopefully with a good therapist with

experience to help me deal with living with chronic pain and

depression. I hate my life as I'm sure many can relate to my

feelings. To all the group....thank you for being here. I am at a

loss for any more words other than.... You are all in my prayers

always. I do believe in the power of prayer. Please accept my

apology for my stupid, selfish act. God bless each and every one of

you. Sincerly,Marie

--- In , " marina_troi " <marina_troi@y...>

wrote:

> Hello, my friends. I was wondering if I could impose upon all of

> you for a moment. My best friend, Debbie, was diagnosed with

liver

> cancer 4 years ago. At that time she was given only 6 months to

> live.

> Well, I started a prayer line through email and her family is such

a wonderful loving support group for her. I, too was there for

her. We have been friends for about 8 years, now. I tried to be

as best a friend as I could be. When I was diagnosed with RA, she

was there, at my side.

We came to depend on each other for support. Though we had entirely

different medical problems, we had the same need for unconditional

love and understanding. Even if we didn't fully understand what was

going on, we were always there for each other.

She was the only, I mean ONLY person I felt could empathize with

what I was going through. You know how it is trying to get people

who don't have a clue about RA to understand? Well, even if she

didn't understand, she was always a pillar of strength in my life.

She actually got pissed off at me because when she would ask me how

I was doing, I would just tell her I was fine, even if I wasn't. I

think that by talking to each other, telling of our woes to each

other, was actually very theraputic. We helped ourselves by helping

each other, by being there for each other She is comfortable and

they will continue to do what they must to keep her that way. I am

sooo greatful for the extra 4 years we had together. I like to

think that my life is better for having known her.

Thank you, everyone, for listening to me. Even now I am having

trouble typing this post because my tears are clouding my site.

>

> Thank you for your prayers, my family. Thank you...Marina

[Guest guest]

Dearest Marina,It is an honor to be able to pray for you and for

Debbie and all who are close to you both, as well as for all who are

in this group. I prayed,as I read your post. I often do as I feel so

deeply the heart felt needs of all who write. I ask God to give us

all strength. God knows we need it. What a blessing for you both to

have such a special relationship. I know we would all benefit from

having a friend who loved us unconditionally and that we could share

as you do with your dear friend. I am such a loner as I do not want

to be a burden to anyone and yet I have to make some changes in my

life as I have just been home for a few days from being in a psyche

ward in land. I am ashamed to say that I drove to a motel and

overdosed as I couldn't cope with all that came my way in such a

short time. I cannot believe that I did so. I was so sure that I

would never attempt suicide as I am so against it. It was like I was

no longer in control. I honestly do not know how that happened. It

is making me sick to my stomach just writing this. To think that I

came so close to succeeding. I pray to God that I never do such a

selfish act again. I was in so much pain emotionally. I am so sorry

for the pain that you are feeling. I know that when a friend is in

pain....you hurt also. When she passes on to a better place, you

will feel another kind of pain.....grief. I will feel for you as it

will be such a huge loss. Friends are priceless as family.

I have been grieving the loss of family for almost a year. And as

for my deteriorating health....I still have yet to accept and grieve.

I simply do not want to face that I am disabled. I will be in much

needed consueling now. Hopefully with a good therapist with

experience to help me deal with living with chronic pain and

depression. I hate my life as I'm sure many can relate to my

feelings. To all the group....thank you for being here. I am at a

loss for any more words other than.... You are all in my prayers

always. I do believe in the power of prayer. Please accept my

apology for my stupid, selfish act. God bless each and every one of

you. Sincerly,Marie

> Hello, my friends. I was wondering if I could impose upon all of

> you for a moment. My best friend, Debbie, was diagnosed with

liver

> cancer 4 years ago. At that time she was given only 6 months to

> live.

> Well, I started a prayer line through email and her family is such

a wonderful loving support group for her. I, too was there for

her. We have been friends for about 8 years, now. I tried to be

as best a friend as I could be. When I was diagnosed with RA, she

was there, at my side.

We came to depend on each other for support. Though we had entirely

different medical problems, we had the same need for unconditional

love and understanding. Even if we didn't fully understand what was

going on, we were always there for each other.

She was the only, I mean ONLY person I felt could empathize with

what I was going through. You know how it is trying to get people

who don't have a clue about RA to understand? Well, even if she

didn't understand, she was always a pillar of strength in my life.

She actually got pissed off at me because when she would ask me how

I was doing, I would just tell her I was fine, even if I wasn't. I

think that by talking to each other, telling of our woes to each

other, was actually very theraputic. We helped ourselves by helping

each other, by being there for each other She is comfortable and

they will continue to do what they must to keep her that way. I am

sooo greatful for the extra 4 years we had together. I like to

think that my life is better for having known her.

Thank you, everyone, for listening to me. Even now I am having

trouble typing this post because my tears are clouding my site.

>

> Thank you for your prayers, my family. Thank you...Marina

[Guest guest]

you and Debbie's family are in my prayers.

Trudy

marina_troi <marina_troi@...> wrote:

Hello, my friends. I was wondering if I could impose upon all of

you for a moment. My best friend, Debbie, was diagnosed with liver

cancer 4 years ago. At that time she was given only 6 months to

live.

Well, I started a prayer line through email and her family is such a

wonderful loving support group for her. I, too was there for her.

We have been friends for about 8 years, now. I tried to be as best

a friend as I could be. When I was diagnosed with RA, she was

there, at my side.

We came to depend on each other for support. Though we had entirely

different medical problems, we had the same need for unconditional

love and understanding. Even if we didn't fully understand what was

going on, we were always there for each other.

She was the only, I mean ONLY person I felt could empathize with

what I was going through. You know how it is trying to get people

who don't have a clue about RA to understand? Well, even if she

didn't understand, she was always a pillar of strength in my life.

She actually got pissed off at me because when she would ask me how

I was doing, I would just tell her I was fine, even if I wasn't. I

think that by talking to each other, telling of our woes to each

other, was actually very theraputic. We helped ourselves by helping

each other, by being there for each other.

We became fast friends, first meeting each other at work. Even

though I am young enough to be her daughter (her daughter is

actually my age) I felt as though she were more like a sister to

me.

I love her soooo much. I got a call from her husband today. She

took a turn for the worst. She waqs doing so well. She had her low

times, but they were out numbered by her great days. In fact, she

was feeling so well that she and her family had made plans to fly to

Hawaii in 2 weeks to celebrate her life. If she should pass away

before that date, I told her husband that they should still go. Go

there to the place that she loved so much, were they spent their

honeymoon and other vacations, and celebrate her life.

She is sooo strong. Liver cancer does not come with a pretty

prognosis. When I found out four years ago, I just cried and

cried. How could this be? Why her? She is such a wonderful person,

she just got married to a wonderful man, and she had so much life in

her. She had so much life in her that she made it 4 more years than

she was given. Seeing her strength gave me strength. She was, is,

my best friend and I can't stand it that I am loosing her. I know

it is only from this world, that she is leaving, but I have never

lost a friend like this before. I have lost many family members

through out my life, as does any one. This is the first time I am

losing a friend. But, she has always been more than a friend. She

has always been my sister.

Well, I just ask that you say a prayer for her as you read this.

She currently on the pallative care floor at a local hospital. She

won't be with us for much longer. She is comfortable and they will

continue to do what they must to keep her that way. I am sooo

greatful for the extra 4 years we had together. I like to think

that my life is better for having known her.

Thank you, everyone, for listening to me. Even now I am having

trouble typing this post because my tears are clouding my site.

Thank you for your prayers, my family. Thank you...Marina

[Guest guest]

you and Debbie's family are in my prayers.

Trudy

marina_troi <marina_troi@...> wrote:

Hello, my friends. I was wondering if I could impose upon all of

you for a moment. My best friend, Debbie, was diagnosed with liver

cancer 4 years ago. At that time she was given only 6 months to

live.

Well, I started a prayer line through email and her family is such a

wonderful loving support group for her. I, too was there for her.

We have been friends for about 8 years, now. I tried to be as best

a friend as I could be. When I was diagnosed with RA, she was

there, at my side.

We came to depend on each other for support. Though we had entirely

different medical problems, we had the same need for unconditional

love and understanding. Even if we didn't fully understand what was

going on, we were always there for each other.

She was the only, I mean ONLY person I felt could empathize with

what I was going through. You know how it is trying to get people

who don't have a clue about RA to understand? Well, even if she

didn't understand, she was always a pillar of strength in my life.

She actually got pissed off at me because when she would ask me how

I was doing, I would just tell her I was fine, even if I wasn't. I

think that by talking to each other, telling of our woes to each

other, was actually very theraputic. We helped ourselves by helping

each other, by being there for each other.

We became fast friends, first meeting each other at work. Even

though I am young enough to be her daughter (her daughter is

actually my age) I felt as though she were more like a sister to

me.

I love her soooo much. I got a call from her husband today. She

took a turn for the worst. She waqs doing so well. She had her low

times, but they were out numbered by her great days. In fact, she

was feeling so well that she and her family had made plans to fly to

Hawaii in 2 weeks to celebrate her life. If she should pass away

before that date, I told her husband that they should still go. Go

there to the place that she loved so much, were they spent their

honeymoon and other vacations, and celebrate her life.

She is sooo strong. Liver cancer does not come with a pretty

prognosis. When I found out four years ago, I just cried and

cried. How could this be? Why her? She is such a wonderful person,

she just got married to a wonderful man, and she had so much life in

her. She had so much life in her that she made it 4 more years than

she was given. Seeing her strength gave me strength. She was, is,

my best friend and I can't stand it that I am loosing her. I know

it is only from this world, that she is leaving, but I have never

lost a friend like this before. I have lost many family members

through out my life, as does any one. This is the first time I am

losing a friend. But, she has always been more than a friend. She

has always been my sister.

Well, I just ask that you say a prayer for her as you read this.

She currently on the pallative care floor at a local hospital. She

won't be with us for much longer. She is comfortable and they will

continue to do what they must to keep her that way. I am sooo

greatful for the extra 4 years we had together. I like to think

that my life is better for having known her.

Thank you, everyone, for listening to me. Even now I am having

trouble typing this post because my tears are clouding my site.

Thank you for your prayers, my family. Thank you...Marina

[Guest guest]

Marina, I'm very sorry to hear about Debbie. That is so sad. I'm praying for

both of you and everyone involved.

Not an MD

I'll tell you where to go!

Mayo Clinic in Rochester

http://www.mayoclinic.org/rochester

s Hopkins Medicine

http://www.hopkinsmedicine.org

[ ] Praters for a dear friend

> Hello, my friends. I was wondering if I could impose upon all of

> you for a moment. My best friend, Debbie, was diagnosed with liver

> cancer 4 years ago. At that time she was given only 6 months to

> live.

>

> Well, I started a prayer line through email and her family is such a

> wonderful loving support group for her. I, too was there for her.

> We have been friends for about 8 years, now. I tried to be as best

> a friend as I could be. When I was diagnosed with RA, she was

> there, at my side.

>

> We came to depend on each other for support. Though we had entirely

> different medical problems, we had the same need for unconditional

> love and understanding. Even if we didn't fully understand what was

> going on, we were always there for each other.

>

> She was the only, I mean ONLY person I felt could empathize with

> what I was going through. You know how it is trying to get people

> who don't have a clue about RA to understand? Well, even if she

> didn't understand, she was always a pillar of strength in my life.

> She actually got pissed off at me because when she would ask me how

> I was doing, I would just tell her I was fine, even if I wasn't. I

> think that by talking to each other, telling of our woes to each

> other, was actually very theraputic. We helped ourselves by helping

> each other, by being there for each other.

>

> We became fast friends, first meeting each other at work. Even

> though I am young enough to be her daughter (her daughter is

> actually my age) I felt as though she were more like a sister to

> me.

>

> I love her soooo much. I got a call from her husband today. She

> took a turn for the worst. She waqs doing so well. She had her low

> times, but they were out numbered by her great days. In fact, she

> was feeling so well that she and her family had made plans to fly to

> Hawaii in 2 weeks to celebrate her life. If she should pass away

> before that date, I told her husband that they should still go. Go

> there to the place that she loved so much, were they spent their

> honeymoon and other vacations, and celebrate her life.

>

> She is sooo strong. Liver cancer does not come with a pretty

> prognosis. When I found out four years ago, I just cried and

> cried. How could this be? Why her? She is such a wonderful person,

> she just got married to a wonderful man, and she had so much life in

> her. She had so much life in her that she made it 4 more years than

> she was given. Seeing her strength gave me strength. She was, is,

> my best friend and I can't stand it that I am loosing her. I know

> it is only from this world, that she is leaving, but I have never

> lost a friend like this before. I have lost many family members

> through out my life, as does any one. This is the first time I am

> losing a friend. But, she has always been more than a friend. She

> has always been my sister.

>

> Well, I just ask that you say a prayer for her as you read this.

> She currently on the pallative care floor at a local hospital. She

> won't be with us for much longer. She is comfortable and they will

> continue to do what they must to keep her that way. I am sooo

> greatful for the extra 4 years we had together. I like to think

> that my life is better for having known her.

>

> Thank you, everyone, for listening to me. Even now I am having

> trouble typing this post because my tears are clouding my site.

>

> Thank you for your prayers, my family. Thank you...Marina

[Guest guest]

Marina, I'm very sorry to hear about Debbie. That is so sad. I'm praying for

both of you and everyone involved.

Not an MD

I'll tell you where to go!

Mayo Clinic in Rochester

http://www.mayoclinic.org/rochester

s Hopkins Medicine

http://www.hopkinsmedicine.org

[ ] Praters for a dear friend

> Hello, my friends. I was wondering if I could impose upon all of

> you for a moment. My best friend, Debbie, was diagnosed with liver

> cancer 4 years ago. At that time she was given only 6 months to

> live.

>

> Well, I started a prayer line through email and her family is such a

> wonderful loving support group for her. I, too was there for her.

> We have been friends for about 8 years, now. I tried to be as best

> a friend as I could be. When I was diagnosed with RA, she was

> there, at my side.

>

> We came to depend on each other for support. Though we had entirely

> different medical problems, we had the same need for unconditional

> love and understanding. Even if we didn't fully understand what was

> going on, we were always there for each other.

>

> She was the only, I mean ONLY person I felt could empathize with

> what I was going through. You know how it is trying to get people

> who don't have a clue about RA to understand? Well, even if she

> didn't understand, she was always a pillar of strength in my life.

> She actually got pissed off at me because when she would ask me how

> I was doing, I would just tell her I was fine, even if I wasn't. I

> think that by talking to each other, telling of our woes to each

> other, was actually very theraputic. We helped ourselves by helping

> each other, by being there for each other.

>

> We became fast friends, first meeting each other at work. Even

> though I am young enough to be her daughter (her daughter is

> actually my age) I felt as though she were more like a sister to

> me.

>

> I love her soooo much. I got a call from her husband today. She

> took a turn for the worst. She waqs doing so well. She had her low

> times, but they were out numbered by her great days. In fact, she

> was feeling so well that she and her family had made plans to fly to

> Hawaii in 2 weeks to celebrate her life. If she should pass away

> before that date, I told her husband that they should still go. Go

> there to the place that she loved so much, were they spent their

> honeymoon and other vacations, and celebrate her life.

>

> She is sooo strong. Liver cancer does not come with a pretty

> prognosis. When I found out four years ago, I just cried and

> cried. How could this be? Why her? She is such a wonderful person,

> she just got married to a wonderful man, and she had so much life in

> her. She had so much life in her that she made it 4 more years than

> she was given. Seeing her strength gave me strength. She was, is,

> my best friend and I can't stand it that I am loosing her. I know

> it is only from this world, that she is leaving, but I have never

> lost a friend like this before. I have lost many family members

> through out my life, as does any one. This is the first time I am

> losing a friend. But, she has always been more than a friend. She

> has always been my sister.

>

> Well, I just ask that you say a prayer for her as you read this.

> She currently on the pallative care floor at a local hospital. She

> won't be with us for much longer. She is comfortable and they will

> continue to do what they must to keep her that way. I am sooo

> greatful for the extra 4 years we had together. I like to think

> that my life is better for having known her.

>

> Thank you, everyone, for listening to me. Even now I am having

> trouble typing this post because my tears are clouding my site.

>

> Thank you for your prayers, my family. Thank you...Marina

[Guest guest]

Dear AnneMarie: I am so sorry for the trouble you have endured lately. I

wish I could do more to help you and be your friend. It is hard with the

distance between us. I haven't been too well lately either. I still have

trouble

with hearing because of a cold in my ear which sounds like a little thing but

it is very upsetting. I can hardly hear people on the phone or hear the TV

and talking to people is very difficult. The Doctor said it will get better but

it has been about 2 months and I still can't hear too well.

I know it is hard for you to accept having RA, it is for me too. However, I

try to take one day at a time. Please try that and stay with us. We need

you. Write to me please, and stay well.

Sincerely,

[Guest guest]

Dear AnneMarie: I am so sorry for the trouble you have endured lately. I

wish I could do more to help you and be your friend. It is hard with the

distance between us. I haven't been too well lately either. I still have

trouble

with hearing because of a cold in my ear which sounds like a little thing but

it is very upsetting. I can hardly hear people on the phone or hear the TV

and talking to people is very difficult. The Doctor said it will get better but

it has been about 2 months and I still can't hear too well.

I know it is hard for you to accept having RA, it is for me too. However, I

try to take one day at a time. Please try that and stay with us. We need

you. Write to me please, and stay well.

Sincerely,

[Guest guest]

Marina,

This brings so many tears to my eyes. I know just how you feel. I

lost my husband to liver cancer.

A few months ago I lost my best friend of over 30 years to cancer that

metasticised to her liver. Her and I had the same kind of relationship

that you and Debbie have. It is such a helpless feeling. We just have

to be so thankful for having such wonderful people in our life, even

though they won't be with us for as long as we'd like. Where there is

life, there is hope. Miracles happen every day. I will keep Debbie

in my prayers.

a

On Jun 9, 2005, at 10:27 PM, marina_troi wrote:

> Hello, my friends.  I was wondering if I could impose upon all of

> you for a moment.  My best friend, Debbie, was diagnosed with liver

> cancer 4 years ago.  At that time she was given only 6 months to

> live. 

>

> Well, I started a prayer line through email and her family is such a

> wonderful loving support group for her.  I, too was there for her. 

> We have been friends for about 8 years, now.  I tried to be as best

> a friend as I could be.  When I was diagnosed with RA, she was

> there, at my side. 

>

> We came to depend on each other for support.  Though we had entirely

> different medical problems, we had the same need for unconditional

> love and understanding.  Even if we didn't fully understand what was

> going on, we were always there for each other. 

>

> She was the only, I mean ONLY person I felt could empathize with

> what I was going through.  You know how it is trying to get people

> who don't have a clue about RA to understand?  Well, even if she

> didn't understand, she was always a pillar of strength in my life. 

> She actually got pissed off at me because when she would ask me how

> I was doing, I would just tell her I was fine, even if I wasn't.  I

> think that by talking to each other, telling of our woes to each

> other, was actually very theraputic.  We helped ourselves by helping

> each other, by being there for each other.

>

> We became fast friends, first meeting each other at work.  Even

> though I am young enough to be her daughter (her daughter is

> actually my age) I felt as though she were more like a sister to

> me. 

>

> I love her soooo much.  I got a call from her husband today.  She

> took a turn for the worst.  She waqs doing so well.  She had her low

> times, but they were out numbered by her great days.  In fact, she

> was feeling so well that she and her family had made plans to fly to

> Hawaii in 2 weeks to celebrate her life.  If she should pass away

> before that date, I told her husband that they should still go.  Go

> there to the place that she loved so much, were they spent their

> honeymoon and other vacations, and celebrate her life. 

>

> She is sooo strong.  Liver cancer does not come with a pretty

> prognosis.  When I found out four years ago, I just cried and

> cried.  How could this be? Why her? She is such a wonderful person,

> she just got married to a wonderful man, and she had so much life in

> her.  She had so much life in her that she made it 4 more years than

> she was given.  Seeing her strength gave me strength.  She was, is,

> my best friend and I can't stand it that I am loosing her.  I know

> it is only from this world, that she is leaving, but I have never

> lost a friend like this before.  I have lost many family members

> through out my life, as does any one.  This is the first time I am

> losing a friend.  But, she has always been more than a friend.  She

> has always been my sister. 

>

> Well, I just ask that you say a prayer for her as you read this. 

> She currently on the pallative care floor at a local hospital.  She

> won't be with us for much longer.  She is comfortable and they will

> continue to do what they must to keep her that way.  I am sooo

> greatful for the extra 4 years we had together.  I like to think

> that my life is better for having known her.

>

> Thank you, everyone, for listening to me.  Even now I am having

> trouble typing this post because my tears are clouding my site. 

>

> Thank you for your prayers, my family.  Thank you...Marina 

>

>

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Marina,

This brings so many tears to my eyes. I know just how you feel. I

lost my husband to liver cancer.

A few months ago I lost my best friend of over 30 years to cancer that

metasticised to her liver. Her and I had the same kind of relationship

that you and Debbie have. It is such a helpless feeling. We just have

to be so thankful for having such wonderful people in our life, even

though they won't be with us for as long as we'd like. Where there is

life, there is hope. Miracles happen every day. I will keep Debbie

in my prayers.

a

On Jun 9, 2005, at 10:27 PM, marina_troi wrote:

> Hello, my friends.  I was wondering if I could impose upon all of

> you for a moment.  My best friend, Debbie, was diagnosed with liver

> cancer 4 years ago.  At that time she was given only 6 months to

> live. 

>

> Well, I started a prayer line through email and her family is such a

> wonderful loving support group for her.  I, too was there for her. 

> We have been friends for about 8 years, now.  I tried to be as best

> a friend as I could be.  When I was diagnosed with RA, she was

> there, at my side. 

>

> We came to depend on each other for support.  Though we had entirely

> different medical problems, we had the same need for unconditional

> love and understanding.  Even if we didn't fully understand what was

> going on, we were always there for each other. 

>

> She was the only, I mean ONLY person I felt could empathize with

> what I was going through.  You know how it is trying to get people

> who don't have a clue about RA to understand?  Well, even if she

> didn't understand, she was always a pillar of strength in my life. 

> She actually got pissed off at me because when she would ask me how

> I was doing, I would just tell her I was fine, even if I wasn't.  I

> think that by talking to each other, telling of our woes to each

> other, was actually very theraputic.  We helped ourselves by helping

> each other, by being there for each other.

>

> We became fast friends, first meeting each other at work.  Even

> though I am young enough to be her daughter (her daughter is

> actually my age) I felt as though she were more like a sister to

> me. 

>

> I love her soooo much.  I got a call from her husband today.  She

> took a turn for the worst.  She waqs doing so well.  She had her low

> times, but they were out numbered by her great days.  In fact, she

> was feeling so well that she and her family had made plans to fly to

> Hawaii in 2 weeks to celebrate her life.  If she should pass away

> before that date, I told her husband that they should still go.  Go

> there to the place that she loved so much, were they spent their

> honeymoon and other vacations, and celebrate her life. 

>

> She is sooo strong.  Liver cancer does not come with a pretty

> prognosis.  When I found out four years ago, I just cried and

> cried.  How could this be? Why her? She is such a wonderful person,

> she just got married to a wonderful man, and she had so much life in

> her.  She had so much life in her that she made it 4 more years than

> she was given.  Seeing her strength gave me strength.  She was, is,

> my best friend and I can't stand it that I am loosing her.  I know

> it is only from this world, that she is leaving, but I have never

> lost a friend like this before.  I have lost many family members

> through out my life, as does any one.  This is the first time I am

> losing a friend.  But, she has always been more than a friend.  She

> has always been my sister. 

>

> Well, I just ask that you say a prayer for her as you read this. 

> She currently on the pallative care floor at a local hospital.  She

> won't be with us for much longer.  She is comfortable and they will

> continue to do what they must to keep her that way.  I am sooo

> greatful for the extra 4 years we had together.  I like to think

> that my life is better for having known her.

>

> Thank you, everyone, for listening to me.  Even now I am having

> trouble typing this post because my tears are clouding my site. 

>

> Thank you for your prayers, my family.  Thank you...Marina 

>

>

>

>

>

>