Guest guest Posted May 15, 2010 Report Share Posted May 15, 2010 I like your email name too, . It's original & creative. You certainly have your hands full with your sister, don't you? May I ask how old your sister is? I have a hard time dealing with drunks. One of my sons is a drunk, and although it's difficult raising just accepting that fact, I just can't stand it when him and his brother get into a major fight. They are both in their 30's, live in Washington state, but both of them call me raising cane about the other. Since is a drunk, he is a constant " pity me " or " blame game " . He blames his drinking on his father, who is also an alcoholic (I divorced him in 1983). He frequently acts towards his older brother as your sister does to you. And no, you can't argue with anyone who's drunk. I hope you feel better today . Sandy ________________________________ To: Hugs-N-Pain Sent: Fri, May 14, 2010 5:35:21 PM Subject: Re: lonlinesss and pain Hi Judy. I am . I am glad you like my sn ... most people think it is a porno name.lol it started out as a joke between me and my girlfriends because our guy friends said they could only find trashy and unintellitual women online. As always, I have to put my two cents in. I will hold on... hope the meds kick in. My body is absolutely miserable. I feel like we are going to have another tornado. My primary care doctor was out of the office today but he called his nurse. She called me.He said if I got worse. Go to the ER. I hate, hate, hate the ER.....So, I will try to hold on. My little sister the drunk sent me an absolutely horrible and untrue email last night. I looked and she had forwarded the email to every person our family knows and a few I do not know. Some of her statements were so outrageous... I hope our friends do not believe them. I want to try to at least resolve the pain over my parent's deaths but she never let's anything go especially if she is in the wrong. I tried... I cannot deal with a drunk. She is mad because I would not let her see the trust papers. My parents met specifically with their lawyer. I was not even in the building. I waited outside on the phone. The lawyer told me not to show her the papers or tell her the arrangements as my papers wrote her out of the will. This is not fault.I gave her jewelery I would loved to have kept but I wanted to be fair. I let both of my brothers come in and take what they wanted, It is things.... they can be replaced...,my parents cannot be. She never once apologized for abandoning me to take care of my parents by myself nor did she apologize for calling the police on my mom and I. We had the whole SWAT team from several cities here. I told the police to come in the house... my father probably would not live more than two days. I suggested to them... If she called again. to tell her that it is against the law to make untruthful 911 calls. I said she is drunk on vodka. I started to write her back after this awful email but i have decided to let it go. A person can never argue with a drunk. So I am going to my happy place. lol I hope you are feeling better today! N. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 15, 2010 Report Share Posted May 15, 2010 My sister lives in Washington too.. I wonder if all the drunks move there. She is 50 years old. Old enough to know better but too drunk to act right. I have forgiven her so many times over the year0so for things she has done to my mother and I. I truly believe she is also bi-polar or has mental issues in addition to the drinking. She told me yesterday that she considers me dead so I guess I have done everything I can do. I am the type of person I cannot stand for anybody to be upset with me and All three of my siblings play the pity party game. Their lives are not bad but drunks are never happy. I will accept the fact I have only myself to depend upon from now. My checkbook is officially closed to them . Thank you so much for listening...   5/15/10, sandy almo wrote: Subject: Re: lonlinesss and pain/ To: Hugs-N-Pain Date: Saturday, May 15, 2010, 8:36 AM  I like your email name too, . It's original & creative.  You certainly have your hands full with your sister, don't you? May I ask how old your sister is? I have a hard time dealing with drunks. One of my sons is a drunk, and although it's difficult raising just accepting that fact, I just can't stand it when him and his brother get into a major fight. They are both in their 30's, live in Washington state, but both of them call me raising cane about the other. Since is a drunk, he is a constant " pity me " or " blame game " . He blames his drinking on his father, who is also an alcoholic (I divorced him in 1983). He frequently acts towards his older brother as your sister does to you. And no, you can't argue with anyone who's drunk.   I hope you feel better today .  Sandy   ________________________________ To: Hugs-N-Pain Sent: Fri, May 14, 2010 5:35:21 PM Subject: Re: lonlinesss and pain  Hi Judy. I am . I am glad you like my sn ... most people think it is a porno name.lol it started out as a joke between me and my girlfriends because our guy friends said they could only find trashy and unintellitual women online. As always, I have to put my two cents in. I will hold on... hope the meds kick in. My body is absolutely miserable. I feel like we are going to have another tornado. My primary care doctor was out of the office today but he called his nurse. She called me.He said if I got worse. Go to the ER. I hate, hate, hate  the ER.....So, I will try to hold on. My little sister the drunk sent me an absolutely horrible and untrue email last night. I looked and she had forwarded the email to every person our family knows and a few I do not know. Some of her statements were so outrageous... I hope our friends do not believe them. I want to try to at least resolve the pain over my parent's deaths but she never let's anything go especially if she is in the wrong. I tried... I cannot deal with a drunk. She is mad because I would not let her see the trust papers. My parents met specifically with their lawyer. I was not even in the building. I waited outside on the phone. The lawyer told me not to show her the papers or tell her the arrangements as my papers wrote her out of the will. This is not fault.I gave her jewelery I would loved to have kept but I wanted to be fair. I let both of my brothers come in and take what they wanted, It is things.... they can be replaced...,my parents cannot be. She never once apologized for abandoning me to take care of my parents by myself nor did she apologize for calling the police on my mom and I. We had the whole SWAT team from several cities here. I told the police to come in the house... my father probably would not live more than two days. I suggested to them... If she called again. to tell her that it is against the law to make untruthful 911 calls. I said she is drunk on vodka. I started to write her back after this awful email but i have decided to let it go. A person can never argue with a drunk. So I am going to my happy place. lol I hope you are feeling better today! N. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 17, 2010 Report Share Posted May 17, 2010 Hi - You certinly have had more than your share! Drunks (Alcoholics!) really can't be dealt with because you never know how they are going to react to anything or when they willl be drunk. She may be bi-polar and drinking as a way of self medicating. Sad to say you are better off without her added stress and aggravation in your life. I know it's heartbreaking..........I never had any bad words with my brother's until my Mom was gravely ill, then the older one turned into this greedy, mean, horrible person! I only tolerate him now because his son( My nephew,his wife and my nw great-nephew All my Dad's namesakes... lives in WI ) and when they come to visit they stay in a in-law apt. at my brothers. So otherwise I wouldn't get to see them much, if at all. But, you are totally right when you say that things are just that ...things. No one can take away your relationship that you had with your parents or your memories. My brother's lived in th same town and were very little help with my parents. The way I look at it is they lost. I have all the good memories and also does my son, who was the only granchild who ever really cared about my parents. And when my Mom was in the nursing home he was the only grandchild that went to visit her in 3 yrs. The others only came to see her in the end when he was " out-of-it " . Well, I'm sorry I wanted to help you and I'm venting! But the point was that I don't want you to think you are alone in this. You can't pick your family, but you can pick your friends. Take care of yourself now. Your work is done and you need to concentrate on your own health. TTYL Hope you have a better day! Judy Subject: Re: lonlinesss and pain/ To: Hugs-N-Pain Date: Saturday, May 15, 2010, 8:36 AM  I like your email name too, . It's original & creative.  You certainly have your hands full with your sister, don't you? May I ask how old your sister is? I have a hard time dealing with drunks. One of my sons is a drunk, and although it's difficult raising just accepting that fact, I just can't stand it when him and his brother get into a major fight. They are both in their 30's, live in Washington state, but both of them call me raising cane about the other. Since is a drunk, he is a constant " pity me " or " blame game " . He blames his drinking on his father, who is also an alcoholic (I divorced him in 1983). He frequently acts towards his older brother as your sister does to you. And no, you can't argue with anyone who's drunk.   I hope you feel better today .  Sandy   ________________________________ To: Hugs-N-Pain Sent: Fri, May 14, 2010 5:35:21 PM Subject: Re: lonlinesss and pain  Hi Judy. I am . I am glad you like my sn ... most people think it is a porno name.lol it started out as a joke between me and my girlfriends because our guy friends said they could only find trashy and unintellitual women online. As always, I have to put my two cents in. I will hold on... hope the meds kick in. My body is absolutely miserable. I feel like we are going to have another tornado. My primary care doctor was out of the office today but he called his nurse. She called me.He said if I got worse. Go to the ER. I hate, hate, hate  the ER.....So, I will try to hold on. My little sister the drunk sent me an absolutely horrible and untrue email last night. I looked and she had forwarded the email to every person our family knows and a few I do not know. Some of her statements were so outrageous... I hope our friends do not believe them. I want to try to at least resolve the pain over my parent's deaths but she never let's anything go especially if she is in the wrong. I tried... I cannot deal with a drunk. She is mad because I would not let her see the trust papers. My parents met specifically with their lawyer. I was not even in the building. I waited outside on the phone. The lawyer told me not to show her the papers or tell her the arrangements as my papers wrote her out of the will. This is not fault.I gave her jewelery I would loved to have kept but I wanted to be fair. I let both of my brothers come in and take what they wanted, It is things.... they can be replaced...,my parents cannot be. She never once apologized for abandoning me to take care of my parents by myself nor did she apologize for calling the police on my mom and I. We had the whole SWAT team from several cities here. I told the police to come in the house... my father probably would not live more than two days. I suggested to them... If she called again. to tell her that it is against the law to make untruthful 911 calls. I said she is drunk on vodka. I started to write her back after this awful email but i have decided to let it go. A person can never argue with a drunk. So I am going to my happy place. lol I hope you are feeling better today! N. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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