Re: Re: Anyone else feel dramatic and embarassed sharing the FOO story?

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erbussmom,

i really think that it might have more to do with that you were sharing this

incredibly personal aspect(s) of yourself and then you answered another call.

This could very easily send mixed messages: I value our relationship enough to

tell you this very personal thing, and can you hold that thought while I get

this other call? Many people find that call waiting, unless you are waiting to

get a call back on an emergency, is rude. Either way, the only way to find out

is to ask her.

I hope that you still have a friend.

Greg.

Re: Anyone else feel dramatic and embarassed

sharing the FOO story?

Very embarassed. When I posted for the first time; I had this long

story, then I read it and erased it all. It is hard. I just talked

to a person, whom I think is a good friend and shared my past with

her. I got another call, so I asked her to hold and when I returned

she was gone. I tried calling her back and her answering maching

picked up. Now in my mind I think, I trusted her to tell her this

and I may have scared her off. Here she thought for so long that I

was so together and with it, and now she was hearing different.

This is my biggest problem with having female friends. I am trying

to think in my mind that she probably had errands to run, or

something, but it never fails--friends distance themselves once they

get the whole story. Or when something cracks in the friendship

they throw your past back at you. You would think I would learn to

stop talking about my past with folks. I am glad to have found this

website full of people's stories, so now I can talk openly and not

have to talk to someone else about my issues. What's weird is I am

not looking for sympathy from my friends, but I get excited when I

overcome a hurdle, which is why I was sharing with my friend this

morning. Anyone else have friendship issues?

erbussmom

> >

> > I spent a WONDERFUL Xmas with my family (husband's side) today

and

> > yesterday. A real multigenerational event with 9 people and

> everyone

> > helping and enjoying being with one another.

> >

> > When my sister-in-law brought up whether or not I heard from the

> FOO,

> > I just feel really over dramatic and embarassed that the whole

NC

> and

> > mental illness stuff is going on. Anyone else feel that?

> >

> > Also, my SIL husband bought my 2.5 year-old son a Imaginarium

> > 115-Piece Sound City Railway Train Table for Christmas from

Santa.

> I

> > have a feeling he did it because I had told him the story about

how

> I

> > had donated a the Train trundle table that Nada had sent

for

> my

> > son for Xmas and his original response was that I shouldn't have

> done

> > that because I could have said it had come from Santa. I told

him,

> > that I could have done that, but then I would have felt really

bad

> > every time I saw it and that my son was by no means deprived of

> toys.

> >

> > This situation with the FOO just feels so dramatic, tragic, and

soap

> > operaish. I'm embarassed.

> >

> > a

> >

>

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