I'm confussed on something?

[Guest guest]

I am good at being able to stand back, even from myself and

analyze a situation or person. Wasn't always this way, but am now.

Here it is. My codependent sister has a husband that seem stable

and somewhat " normal " to me and everyone else. She married him 22

years ago when she had 3 little kids. He did a good job for those

not being his kids. The kids have issues, but I don't think they

came from him?

Found out when I was down there he basically raised them by himself.

He said my sister slept alot and didn't play much part in it till

they were older. She said that was true. I am disturbed by that, but

that is another story. Now here is what I am confussed about. When

your involved with a codependent person or a dysfunctional person,

something is not right with you on some level? Dysfunction goes to

dysfunction, right? Is there something I am not seeing? I know it is

very important to Janet to have everything look good from the

outside, including her relationship with her husband. They seem to

get along just find and it works for them. But how can a man that

seems stable and normal have so much dysfunction around him?