Re: Re: new group started--ageism?

March 22, 2005

I think people often make the mistake of limiting their contacts, not just based

on age, but on other factors, too...race, socioeconomic position, location,

gender, religion...and I think that is a big mistake. If you only hang with

people exactly like you...how boring!

snowdrift52003 <snowdrift52003@...> wrote:

People too often make the mistake of separating themselves from

others based on age. Amazing relationships can happen when we stay

open to others, accepting them exactly as they are. We also need to

notice within ourselves when the feelings of discomfort with others

arise, and figure out where those feelings come from. Often, it's

false assumptions.

Sierra

__________________________________________________

March 22, 2005

I think people often make the mistake of limiting their contacts, not just based

on age, but on other factors, too...race, socioeconomic position, location,

gender, religion...and I think that is a big mistake. If you only hang with

people exactly like you...how boring!

snowdrift52003 <snowdrift52003@...> wrote:

People too often make the mistake of separating themselves from

others based on age. Amazing relationships can happen when we stay

open to others, accepting them exactly as they are. We also need to

notice within ourselves when the feelings of discomfort with others

arise, and figure out where those feelings come from. Often, it's

false assumptions.

Sierra

__________________________________________________

March 22, 2005

i kinda like the input of everyone not just people my

own age.......I am 53 but always felt I could relate

to those younger and older..........but I wish them

luck with the new group too.

Pat in So Ore

--- <melmac2525@...> wrote:

>

> I think people often make the mistake of limiting

> their contacts, not just based on age, but on other

> factors, too...race, socioeconomic position,

> location, gender, religion...and I think that is a

> big mistake. If you only hang with people exactly

> like you...how boring!

>

> snowdrift52003 <snowdrift52003@...> wrote:

> People too often make the mistake of separating

> themselves from

> others based on age. Amazing relationships can

> happen when we stay

> open to others, accepting them exactly as they are.

> We also need to

> notice within ourselves when the feelings of

> discomfort with others

> arise, and figure out where those feelings come

> from. Often, it's

> false assumptions.

>

> Sierra

>

> __________________________________________________

>

March 22, 2005

i kinda like the input of everyone not just people my

own age.......I am 53 but always felt I could relate

to those younger and older..........but I wish them

luck with the new group too.

Pat in So Ore

--- <melmac2525@...> wrote:

>

> I think people often make the mistake of limiting

> their contacts, not just based on age, but on other

> factors, too...race, socioeconomic position,

> location, gender, religion...and I think that is a

> big mistake. If you only hang with people exactly

> like you...how boring!

>

> snowdrift52003 <snowdrift52003@...> wrote:

> People too often make the mistake of separating

> themselves from

> others based on age. Amazing relationships can

> happen when we stay

> open to others, accepting them exactly as they are.

> We also need to

> notice within ourselves when the feelings of

> discomfort with others

> arise, and figure out where those feelings come

> from. Often, it's

> false assumptions.

>

> Sierra

>

> __________________________________________________

>

March 22, 2005

Hello everyone,

I've only been in this support group for two weeks now, and I never thought

about if the people who am connecting with are younger, older, richer or poor.

All I know is that I need everysingle one of you to support me cheer me up in my

bad days and that I will also be here for any of you

I like to learn things from people with experience in life not only in RA .Thank

you and god bless you all./Texas

<melmac2525@...> wrote:

I think people often make the mistake of limiting their contacts, not just based

on age, but on other factors, too...race, socioeconomic position, location,

gender, religion...and I think that is a big mistake. If you only hang with

people exactly like you...how boring!

snowdrift52003 <snowdrift52003@...> wrote:

People too often make the mistake of separating themselves from

others based on age. Amazing relationships can happen when we stay

open to others, accepting them exactly as they are. We also need to

notice within ourselves when the feelings of discomfort with others

arise, and figure out where those feelings come from. Often, it's

false assumptions.

Sierra

__________________________________________________

March 22, 2005

Hello everyone,

I've only been in this support group for two weeks now, and I never thought

about if the people who am connecting with are younger, older, richer or poor.

All I know is that I need everysingle one of you to support me cheer me up in my

bad days and that I will also be here for any of you

I like to learn things from people with experience in life not only in RA .Thank

you and god bless you all./Texas

<melmac2525@...> wrote:

I think people often make the mistake of limiting their contacts, not just based

on age, but on other factors, too...race, socioeconomic position, location,

gender, religion...and I think that is a big mistake. If you only hang with

people exactly like you...how boring!

snowdrift52003 <snowdrift52003@...> wrote:

People too often make the mistake of separating themselves from

others based on age. Amazing relationships can happen when we stay

open to others, accepting them exactly as they are. We also need to

notice within ourselves when the feelings of discomfort with others

arise, and figure out where those feelings come from. Often, it's

false assumptions.

Sierra

__________________________________________________

March 22, 2005

Sorry for everyone who thinks this is ageism, but I

think it is a good idea to have a group where a

certain age group full of people who have some things

in common could go. For example, I'm 24 years old and

having a rather hard time finding people around my age

with RA. I'm sorry, but sometimes I cannot relate to

some people who are older with the disease. I don't

think there's anything wrong with wanting to associate

with, not only others with the disease, but others

with the disease who are close in age to you. Being at

different stages in our lives we experience different

things. I'm a newlywed, work fulltime and have no

children. I would venture to say that is a little

different than a 40 yr. old. So, while I'm on the

topic, if there ARE any 20-30 somethings out there

with RA, please contact me!! I am desperate to find

people in my age bracket with this disease. We are so

young to be experiencing this, that it is probably a

little different for us.

In conclusion, this is not agesim. Thank you!

New Orleans

--- snowdrift52003 <snowdrift52003@...> wrote:

>

> People too often make the mistake of separating

> themselves from

> others based on age. Amazing relationships can

> happen when we stay

> open to others, accepting them exactly as they are.

> We also need to

> notice within ourselves when the feelings of

> discomfort with others

> arise, and figure out where those feelings come

> from. Often, it's

> false assumptions.

>

> Sierra

>

> > Is there a reason for requesting under 50 people?

> Just curious.

> > [ ] new group started

> >

> > hello. i have started my own group for people

> living with

> arthritis

> > under the age of 50. please join me if you

> like.

> > julie

> >

>

Arthritisunder50yearsold/

> >

March 22, 2005

Sorry for everyone who thinks this is ageism, but I

think it is a good idea to have a group where a

certain age group full of people who have some things

in common could go. For example, I'm 24 years old and

having a rather hard time finding people around my age

with RA. I'm sorry, but sometimes I cannot relate to

some people who are older with the disease. I don't

think there's anything wrong with wanting to associate

with, not only others with the disease, but others

with the disease who are close in age to you. Being at

different stages in our lives we experience different

things. I'm a newlywed, work fulltime and have no

children. I would venture to say that is a little

different than a 40 yr. old. So, while I'm on the

topic, if there ARE any 20-30 somethings out there

with RA, please contact me!! I am desperate to find

people in my age bracket with this disease. We are so

young to be experiencing this, that it is probably a

little different for us.

In conclusion, this is not agesim. Thank you!

New Orleans

--- snowdrift52003 <snowdrift52003@...> wrote:

>

> People too often make the mistake of separating

> themselves from

> others based on age. Amazing relationships can

> happen when we stay

> open to others, accepting them exactly as they are.

> We also need to

> notice within ourselves when the feelings of

> discomfort with others

> arise, and figure out where those feelings come

> from. Often, it's

> false assumptions.

>

> Sierra

>

> > Is there a reason for requesting under 50 people?

> Just curious.

> > [ ] new group started

> >

> > hello. i have started my own group for people

> living with

> arthritis

> > under the age of 50. please join me if you

> like.

> > julie

> >

>

Arthritisunder50yearsold/

> >

March 22, 2005

Hmmm...I'm 46, a newlywed, work full time...

Enxing <dianaenxing@...> wrote:

Sorry for everyone who thinks this is ageism, but I

think it is a good idea to have a group where a

certain age group full of people who have some things

in common could go. For example, I'm 24 years old and

having a rather hard time finding people around my age

with RA. I'm sorry, but sometimes I cannot relate to

some people who are older with the disease. I don't

think there's anything wrong with wanting to associate

with, not only others with the disease, but others

with the disease who are close in age to you. Being at

different stages in our lives we experience different

things. I'm a newlywed, work fulltime and have no

children. I would venture to say that is a little

different than a 40 yr. old. So, while I'm on the

topic, if there ARE any 20-30 somethings out there

with RA, please contact me!! I am desperate to find

people in my age bracket with this disease. We are so

young to be experiencing this, that it is probably a

little different for us.

In conclusion, this is not agesim. Thank you!

New Orleans

--- snowdrift52003 <snowdrift52003@...> wrote:

>

> People too often make the mistake of separating

> themselves from

> others based on age. Amazing relationships can

> happen when we stay

> open to others, accepting them exactly as they are.

> We also need to

> notice within ourselves when the feelings of

> discomfort with others

> arise, and figure out where those feelings come

> from. Often, it's

> false assumptions.

>

> Sierra

>

> > Is there a reason for requesting under 50 people?

> Just curious.

> > [ ] new group started

> >

> > hello. i have started my own group for people

> living with

> arthritis

> > under the age of 50. please join me if you

> like.

> > julie

> >

>

Arthritisunder50yearsold/

> >

March 22, 2005

Hmmm...I'm 46, a newlywed, work full time...

Enxing <dianaenxing@...> wrote:

Sorry for everyone who thinks this is ageism, but I

think it is a good idea to have a group where a

certain age group full of people who have some things

in common could go. For example, I'm 24 years old and

having a rather hard time finding people around my age

with RA. I'm sorry, but sometimes I cannot relate to

some people who are older with the disease. I don't

think there's anything wrong with wanting to associate

with, not only others with the disease, but others

with the disease who are close in age to you. Being at

different stages in our lives we experience different

things. I'm a newlywed, work fulltime and have no

children. I would venture to say that is a little

different than a 40 yr. old. So, while I'm on the

topic, if there ARE any 20-30 somethings out there

with RA, please contact me!! I am desperate to find

people in my age bracket with this disease. We are so

young to be experiencing this, that it is probably a

little different for us.

In conclusion, this is not agesim. Thank you!

New Orleans

--- snowdrift52003 <snowdrift52003@...> wrote:

>

> People too often make the mistake of separating

> themselves from

> others based on age. Amazing relationships can

> happen when we stay

> open to others, accepting them exactly as they are.

> We also need to

> notice within ourselves when the feelings of

> discomfort with others

> arise, and figure out where those feelings come

> from. Often, it's

> false assumptions.

>

> Sierra

>

> > Is there a reason for requesting under 50 people?

> Just curious.

> > [ ] new group started

> >

> > hello. i have started my own group for people

> living with

> arthritis

> > under the age of 50. please join me if you

> like.

> > julie

> >

>

Arthritisunder50yearsold/

> >

March 22, 2005

----- Original Message -----

From: Enxing

> I'm sorry, but sometimes I cannot relate to

some people who are older with the disease. I don't

think there's anything wrong with wanting to associate

with, not only others with the disease, but others

with the disease who are close in age to you. Being at

different stages in our lives we experience different

things. I'm a newlywed, work fulltime and have no

children. I would venture to say that is a little

different than a 40 yr. old.

Oh, I don't know about that. I'm 53, just diagnosed, have no young children,

worked full time until I was diagnosed with the other four autoimmune diseases I

have (plus RA). I bet I feel the same pain you do, the same depression, the

same frustration at not being able to do what I used to do, take similar meds,

etc.

Nina

March 22, 2005

----- Original Message -----

From: Enxing

> I'm sorry, but sometimes I cannot relate to

some people who are older with the disease. I don't

think there's anything wrong with wanting to associate

with, not only others with the disease, but others

with the disease who are close in age to you. Being at

different stages in our lives we experience different

things. I'm a newlywed, work fulltime and have no

children. I would venture to say that is a little

different than a 40 yr. old.

Oh, I don't know about that. I'm 53, just diagnosed, have no young children,

worked full time until I was diagnosed with the other four autoimmune diseases I

have (plus RA). I bet I feel the same pain you do, the same depression, the

same frustration at not being able to do what I used to do, take similar meds,

etc.