Guest guest Posted March 26, 2005 Report Share Posted March 26, 2005 DEAR CATHE, I AGREE 100% WITH YOU SAYING THAT YOU HAVE TOLD OR SHOWN YOUR DOCTOR THINGS THAT HE DID NOT KNOW FROM LEARNING IT ON GROUP...AT LEAST HE IS RECEPTIVE. HERE IS MY LATEST STORY, I NEEDED MY DOCTORS SIGNATURE ON A LEGAL DOCUMENT TO MOVE OUT OF A RETIREMENT ACCOUNT A FEW THOUSAND DOLLAR TO PUT IN AN IRA. BECAUSE, I AM TOTALLY DISABLED AND NOT WORKING THE MONEY HAD TO BE MOVED, IT REQUIRED HIS SIGNATURE THAT I WAS TOTALLY DISABLED. HE MUST HAVE BEEN A BIT CONFUSED BECAUSE HE ALSO SENT ME SEVERAL WRITTEN APPTS. THAT HE HAD HAD WITH ME.... I READ THEM, THEY WERE FROM MY MEDICAL RECORDS... IN IT AS I WAS READING ALONG, I SAW THIS : SHE IS ALSO ON THE INTERNET FINDING INFORMATION AND ASKING ABOUT CERTAIN MEDICATIONS THAT MIGHT HELP HER MORE THAN WHAT I AM PRESCRIBING. THE REFERENCE TO MY BEING ON THE INTERNET WAS DEFINITELY WRITTEN IN A DEROGATORY WAY AND LIKE HE WAS ANGRY THAT I WAS " PLAYING DOCTOR " , PERHAPS QUESTIONING MY CARE ? BUT HE WAS DEFINITELY UNHAPPY ABOUT IT, IF YOU WERE TO READ THE WHOLE TEXT IT IS BLATANTLY OBVIOUS THAT THIS MAN, DOES NOT WANT AN INFORMED PATIENT THAT IS GOING TO QUESTION HIM AND SLOW DOWN HIS DAY ETC..... I WILL CONTINUE TO BE INFORMED, BUT NEVER EVER AGAIN WILL I MENTION ANYTHING I SEE ON THE INTERNET OR ELSEWHERE.. FOR SEVERAL APPTS AFTER THAT, BOTH MY HUSBAND, WHO GOES TO EVERY APPT WITH ME, BECAUSE I CAN NOT DRIVE ANYMORE, NOTICED A COOLNESS AND BRUSKNESS WITH HIM. IT WAS SO OBVIOUS THAT MY HUSBAND SUGGESTED I FIND A NEW RHEUMATOLOGIST, BECAUSE HE FELT AS DID I, THAT MY DOCTOR HAD NO FURTHER INTEREST IN TREATING ME.... I HAVE SUBSEQUENTLY CANCELED MY APPTS WITH HIM, AND I WILL MAKE ONE SOON SINCE I AM 3 MONTHS OVERDO FOR A VISIT, MORE IMPORTANTLY MY BLOOD WORK..... JUST REMEMBER, EVERYONE.... THAT SOME THINGS YOU SAY, IN AN OFFICE VISIT, YOU THINK THAT A DOCTOR DOESN'T HEAR, OR YOU THINK IS INOCCUOUS, HE MAY TAKE THE WRONG WAY OR BE OFFENDED. BE CAREFUL WHAT YOU SAY, EVEN IN JOKING IF YOUR DOCTOR DOES NOT HAVE A GOOD SENSE OF HUMOR. HE MAY TAKE YOU LITERALLY....I WILL FROM THIS EXPERIENCE FOREVER BE VERY CAREFUL OF WHAT I SAY....THIS HAS HURT ME, BROKEN A TRUST I THOUGHT AFTER 3 YEARS I HAD FINALLY ESTABLISHED WITH HIM, BECAUSE HIS BED SIDE MANNER IS TERRIBLE...YES, THIS HAS DEFINITELY CHANGED ME. SINCERELY, CINDI Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 26, 2005 Report Share Posted March 26, 2005 DEAR CATHE, I AGREE 100% WITH YOU SAYING THAT YOU HAVE TOLD OR SHOWN YOUR DOCTOR THINGS THAT HE DID NOT KNOW FROM LEARNING IT ON GROUP...AT LEAST HE IS RECEPTIVE. HERE IS MY LATEST STORY, I NEEDED MY DOCTORS SIGNATURE ON A LEGAL DOCUMENT TO MOVE OUT OF A RETIREMENT ACCOUNT A FEW THOUSAND DOLLAR TO PUT IN AN IRA. BECAUSE, I AM TOTALLY DISABLED AND NOT WORKING THE MONEY HAD TO BE MOVED, IT REQUIRED HIS SIGNATURE THAT I WAS TOTALLY DISABLED. HE MUST HAVE BEEN A BIT CONFUSED BECAUSE HE ALSO SENT ME SEVERAL WRITTEN APPTS. THAT HE HAD HAD WITH ME.... I READ THEM, THEY WERE FROM MY MEDICAL RECORDS... IN IT AS I WAS READING ALONG, I SAW THIS : SHE IS ALSO ON THE INTERNET FINDING INFORMATION AND ASKING ABOUT CERTAIN MEDICATIONS THAT MIGHT HELP HER MORE THAN WHAT I AM PRESCRIBING. THE REFERENCE TO MY BEING ON THE INTERNET WAS DEFINITELY WRITTEN IN A DEROGATORY WAY AND LIKE HE WAS ANGRY THAT I WAS " PLAYING DOCTOR " , PERHAPS QUESTIONING MY CARE ? BUT HE WAS DEFINITELY UNHAPPY ABOUT IT, IF YOU WERE TO READ THE WHOLE TEXT IT IS BLATANTLY OBVIOUS THAT THIS MAN, DOES NOT WANT AN INFORMED PATIENT THAT IS GOING TO QUESTION HIM AND SLOW DOWN HIS DAY ETC..... I WILL CONTINUE TO BE INFORMED, BUT NEVER EVER AGAIN WILL I MENTION ANYTHING I SEE ON THE INTERNET OR ELSEWHERE.. FOR SEVERAL APPTS AFTER THAT, BOTH MY HUSBAND, WHO GOES TO EVERY APPT WITH ME, BECAUSE I CAN NOT DRIVE ANYMORE, NOTICED A COOLNESS AND BRUSKNESS WITH HIM. IT WAS SO OBVIOUS THAT MY HUSBAND SUGGESTED I FIND A NEW RHEUMATOLOGIST, BECAUSE HE FELT AS DID I, THAT MY DOCTOR HAD NO FURTHER INTEREST IN TREATING ME.... I HAVE SUBSEQUENTLY CANCELED MY APPTS WITH HIM, AND I WILL MAKE ONE SOON SINCE I AM 3 MONTHS OVERDO FOR A VISIT, MORE IMPORTANTLY MY BLOOD WORK..... JUST REMEMBER, EVERYONE.... THAT SOME THINGS YOU SAY, IN AN OFFICE VISIT, YOU THINK THAT A DOCTOR DOESN'T HEAR, OR YOU THINK IS INOCCUOUS, HE MAY TAKE THE WRONG WAY OR BE OFFENDED. BE CAREFUL WHAT YOU SAY, EVEN IN JOKING IF YOUR DOCTOR DOES NOT HAVE A GOOD SENSE OF HUMOR. HE MAY TAKE YOU LITERALLY....I WILL FROM THIS EXPERIENCE FOREVER BE VERY CAREFUL OF WHAT I SAY....THIS HAS HURT ME, BROKEN A TRUST I THOUGHT AFTER 3 YEARS I HAD FINALLY ESTABLISHED WITH HIM, BECAUSE HIS BED SIDE MANNER IS TERRIBLE...YES, THIS HAS DEFINITELY CHANGED ME. SINCERELY, CINDI Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 26, 2005 Report Share Posted March 26, 2005 ----- Original Message ----- From: CINDI > JUST REMEMBER, EVERYONE.... THAT SOME THINGS YOU SAY, IN AN OFFICE VISIT, YOU THINK THAT A DOCTOR DOESN'T HEAR, OR YOU THINK IS INOCCUOUS, HE MAY TAKE THE WRONG WAY OR BE OFFENDED. BE CAREFUL WHAT YOU SAY, EVEN IN JOKING IF YOUR DOCTOR DOES NOT HAVE A GOOD SENSE OF HUMOR. HE MAY TAKE YOU LITERALLY....I WILL FROM THIS EXPERIENCE FOREVER BE VERY CAREFUL OF WHAT I SAY....THIS HAS HURT ME, BROKEN A TRUST I THOUGHT AFTER 3 YEARS I HAD FINALLY ESTABLISHED WITH HIM, BECAUSE HIS BED SIDE MANNER IS TERRIBLE...YES, THIS HAS DEFINITELY CHANGED ME. And they will more often than not write it down. I read my records one day and was surprised at some of the stuff in them. Little comments I had made, etc. And one big one ... I had tried to get my first rheumatologist to give me handicap car tags. She said I would have to get my PCP to do it. My husband was with me and made a comment about what were we paying her the big bucks for. Later when I read my records from her, she had written that " I " had a fit in the front office wanting tags. Nothing of the sort happened. My husband made the comment and no one had a fit. Now I only say what I have to say to them. Nina Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 26, 2005 Report Share Posted March 26, 2005 ----- Original Message ----- From: CINDI > JUST REMEMBER, EVERYONE.... THAT SOME THINGS YOU SAY, IN AN OFFICE VISIT, YOU THINK THAT A DOCTOR DOESN'T HEAR, OR YOU THINK IS INOCCUOUS, HE MAY TAKE THE WRONG WAY OR BE OFFENDED. BE CAREFUL WHAT YOU SAY, EVEN IN JOKING IF YOUR DOCTOR DOES NOT HAVE A GOOD SENSE OF HUMOR. HE MAY TAKE YOU LITERALLY....I WILL FROM THIS EXPERIENCE FOREVER BE VERY CAREFUL OF WHAT I SAY....THIS HAS HURT ME, BROKEN A TRUST I THOUGHT AFTER 3 YEARS I HAD FINALLY ESTABLISHED WITH HIM, BECAUSE HIS BED SIDE MANNER IS TERRIBLE...YES, THIS HAS DEFINITELY CHANGED ME. And they will more often than not write it down. I read my records one day and was surprised at some of the stuff in them. Little comments I had made, etc. And one big one ... I had tried to get my first rheumatologist to give me handicap car tags. She said I would have to get my PCP to do it. My husband was with me and made a comment about what were we paying her the big bucks for. Later when I read my records from her, she had written that " I " had a fit in the front office wanting tags. Nothing of the sort happened. My husband made the comment and no one had a fit. Now I only say what I have to say to them. Nina Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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