Re: Jane {{JAN}}}

February 28, 2005

Jan Honey

Thank you for your willingness to share what you went through. The

county provided a counselor for the kids, and the school counselor is

in the loop on all this. is going to talk to the D.A. and see

what we can do about the testimony situation. The boy's mother called

my daughter a b---h on the way out of the courthouse, fortunately I

was not able to be there or I don't know what would have happened.

The court date I think is in two weeks, I am going to take off work

if there is any way I can, and go with them. This has been tough on

the whole family. Thank you for your prayers. You have a gift of

sharing your sweet spirit, and you have been a blessing to me.

Love

jane

> This subject is one that is near to me but not near and dear as I

was subjected to the sexual and child abuse during my childhood. The

sexual went on from age 7 until age 12 when I was able to make a

stand though the perpetrator continued clear into my 20's to try to

convince me it was what " I " wanted. This was at the hands of my

mother's husband. The physical and emotional abuse was from ages 7

throughout my teenage years from my mother...especially after she

learned about the other and decided I was trying to " take " him from

her...I was never forgiven. It was the last thing I ever wanted in

my life and would never want anyone else to go through it. My family

(aunt in particular) turned a deaf ear and I was able to ask her

about 18 years ago before she died why the family never took steps to

stop it. I was told in essence you did that in those days...didn't

admit it was happening and therefore it wasn't. I was also told that

I survived and should leave it in the past and

> forget about it....I was a big girl. I found the experience

shaped my whole life...some good and some bad. The bad I am still

working on and it is receding into the past... The good is in that

after my own daughter was molested by a " family friend " and she

carried the secret for 7 years even after admonitions all her life to

never let anyone touch her inappropriately and that I would take care

of it immediately if it ever happened, I no longer remain silent or

keep it within the family. He had convinced her he would kill me and

her younger sister if it came to it..... This is a horrible crime

against not only the child involved but the whole community. What is

done for those children now in the way of recovery will give them the

tools for a better lived life free hopefully of insecurities and

desperation. I hope you are able to seek and get the help they

need. I will most certainly keep them and your family in prayer. I

do not believe this is something a molester can bury

> and be free on probation with. So with a gentle reminder from the

Good Word.... " ...where more than two are gathered together in my

name, there I am also. " With unity in prayer from so many, there

just has to be a good ending to this.

> With love, ((((HUGS)))) and prayers..

> (I don't feel like the SMILES with reading this today)

> JAN in AZ (formerly CA)

>

> ~ " We all take different paths in life, but no matter where we go,

we take a little of each other everywhere. " ~ ~ " If I could reach up

and hold a star for every time you've made me smile, the entire

evening sky would be in the palm of my hand. " ~

>

February 28, 2005