'The better I look, the happier I'll be'

January 10, 2011

1) Is it true?

*feels that way, yes.

2) Can you absolutely know it's true?

*no

3) How do you react when you think that thought?

*I judge my imperfections so harshly. I spend valuable time searching

for solutions...but then I fail at implementing them. I resist aging and

gaining weight to the point that I focus on it. And what you resist

persists. I feel like I'm pushing against a brick wall and can't be

happy until I use up immense amounts of energy to blast a way through.

It's not working. There's always something new that doesn't look good

enough.

Can you see a reason to drop that thought? (And please don't)

*yes!

4) Who would you be without that thought?

*I would be the universe's flower...going with the flow, happy, focusing

on joy, happy to accept whatever is going on, making choices that bring

me vitality. Which would, ironically, make me look better!

Turnarounds

to myself:

" The better my thinking looks, the more happy I'll be. "

That's true. The more I focus on what I want, and loving every inch of

my body, the happier I'll be. I can be grateful for my body

communicating. Saying I've lived life...it shows. Saying I feel like

moving more. Saying I am not hungry, so I choose to entertain myself

with photography/ design/ reading/ a warm bath/ playing with make up/

playing with my son... Makes me think of something an 8 year old said

when asked who was the prettiest girl he knew: he said she was his 80

year old neighbor, and he hoped he could marry her. She was so full of

light and love, he was taken with her.

to the opposite:

" The worse I look, the more happy I'll be. "

It has been true in many ways...when I was at my prettiest, in my late

20s, I was so unhappy. Perhaps the more my body gives out/ changes, the

more I will have peace. There's a freedom from not focusing on looks.

" The better I look, the more unhappy I'll be. " Looking better may take a

lot of negative scrutinizing and money and energy...by the time I'm

done, I may look better, but I'll be unhappy by all the negativity and

hard work.

I am willing to/ I look forward to not looking my best.

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