Re: Job woes

[Guest guest]

this becomes increasingly harder to do when you are so fatigued that its changing your personality and causing physical problems.

I'm trying to prepare myself for getting shot down again.

Anybody been through anything like this?

I am the same way I get up or have been up for several hours and not matter how much I hurt how tired I am I put on the happy face and go to work. It is getting harder and harder to put on that happy face and make it thru those 4 hours at work. I have 2 children 17yrs and 9 yrs. I homeschool also. Sometimes after putting on that happy face for 4 hours in major pain just wears me out..... but I love my job as a preschool teacher, love the kids and couldn't imagine not working.... much less aford to lose my small income. I know its hard I hope you find what works for you, I just wanted to let you know you weren't alone.

Heidi

[Guest guest]

Oh, God, what a timely post!

I feel like I'm in the middle of a nervous breakdown. I hurt, I'm soooooo tired and I work too much. I've cut my hours back from 50-60 a week to about 40-45 depending on the week.

I strongly associate my job with my self worth... sick, I know. I'm so afraid that some day I won't be able to do it. It scares the crap out of me!

My bosses have been wonderful. They've seen the stady decline and have gotten me help. I'm just afraid that at some point they won't be able to help me workwise anymore... afterall, they are business people.

I'm so happy of putting on that happy face. My customer know me so well that they know by my voice when I'm not well. They are great!

I'm hoping this will pass, because tonight all I've done is cry and feel sorry for myself... even knowing there are people worse of than me.

Change in pesonality is such an understatement!! I used to be bouncy and fun.. now I drag a$$ and and lucky if I can stay awake long enough to watch any TV.

I feel pathetic. Luckily I have an appt. with my doc on Wed. morning.

Thanks for listening. It's hard to type when you can't see through the tears.

Hugs,

Tigger

Re: Job woes

this becomes increasingly harder to do when you are so fatigued that its changing your personality and causing physical problems.

I'm trying to prepare myself for getting shot down again.

Anybody been through anything like this?

I am the same way I get up or have been up for several hours and not matter how much I hurt how tired I am I put on the happy face and go to work. It is getting harder and harder to put on that happy face and make it thru those 4 hours at work. I have 2 children 17yrs and 9 yrs. I homeschool also. Sometimes after putting on that happy face for 4 hours in major pain just wears me out..... but I love my job as a preschool teacher, love the kids and couldn't imagine not working.... much less aford to lose my small income. I know its hard I hope you find what works for you, I just wanted to let you know you weren't alone.

Heidi1. While it is wonderful to share our experiences with everyone on the list as to what treatments do and don't work for us, pls always check with your dr. Some treatments are dangerous when given along with other meds as well as to certain health conditions or just dangerous in general.2. If you are in a difficult situation (doesn't matter what it is) pls don't be afraid to ask for help. It is the first step to trying to make that situation better.Have a nice day everyone.

[Guest guest]

I go through stuff like that all the time. My younger sister is

severly physically handicapped and at least once a year she's in the

hospital for something.

Last summer was the worst though. Within three weeks my aunt lost her

dad, her daughter, and a really close family friend - the kind you

consider family. It was so hard, and my job was getting frusterated

with me. I couldn't even go to my cousin's funeral because my job

wouldn't let me have the day off and said if I called in sick (even

with proof I went to her funeral) I was fired. I ended up quitting

that job about a month later.

Now, things are pretty calm around here. But it's getting to be flu

season which is always sort of scarry around our house. All it can

take for my sister is one big disease/sickness that she can't get

over.

There's always those stressors we all worry about. I guess those

worries about my sister have always been there, so now they're normal.

But they always lay in the back of your mind, and often it builds up

and it takes the smallest thing to break me down.

I really hope everything works itself out for you regarding your mom

and step-dad. That's got to be so hard. I think you should keep

working, but maybe try to work something out? I mean, you love the job

and you need something you love in your life - especially if you're

going through somethign like this.

Good luck.

Loves and Hugs,

-

Re: Job woes

In a message dated 10/4/2004 4:28:15 PM Pacific Daylight Time,

rudehair@... writes:

this becomes increasingly harder to do when you are so fatigued that

its changing your personality and causing physical problems.

I'm trying to prepare myself for getting shot down again.

Anybody been through anything like this?

I am the same way I get up or have been up for several hours and not

matter how much I hurt how tired I am I put on the happy face and go

to work. It is getting harder and harder to put on that happy face

and make it thru those 4 hours at work. I have 2 children 17yrs and 9

yrs. I homeschool also. Sometimes after putting on that happy face

for 4 hours in major pain just wears me out..... but I love my job as

a preschool teacher, love the kids and couldn't imagine not

working.... much less aford to lose my small income. I know its hard

I hope you find what works for you, I just wanted to let you know you

weren't alone.

Heidi

1. While it is wonderful to share our experiences with everyone on the

list as to what treatments do and don't work for us, pls always check

with your dr. Some treatments are dangerous when given along with

other meds as well as to certain health conditions or just dangerous

in general.

2. If you are in a difficult situation (doesn't matter what it is) pls

don't be afraid to ask for help. It is the first step to trying to

make that situation better.

Have a nice day everyone.

1. While it is wonderful to share our experiences with everyone on the

list as to what treatments do and don't work for us, pls always check

with your dr. Some treatments are dangerous when given along with

other meds as well as to certain health conditions or just dangerous

in general.

2. If you are in a difficult situation (doesn't matter what it is) pls

don't be afraid to ask for help. It is the first step to trying to

make that situation better.

Have a nice day everyone.

[Guest guest]

Well I don't have any sick family members to tend to but I do work

full time, one hour drive to work, 8 hour day and then an hours drive

home. I am also a single mom with a 13 year old at home and a 19 year

old at college. You are not alone! It is extremely hard to keep up

that " normal " facade at work. I know because I do it. Nobody where I

work knows about the fibro. Usually I have to spend my weekends just

recuperating from the workweek.

I don't have any suggestions but I just wanted you to know that there

are others in similar situations.

> I'm so conflicted. My father in law has terminal lung cancer and my

> mother is doing chemo for breast cancer. I got this perfect job I really

> like and then they decided to put me on day shift so I have to get up at

> 2am! As you can imagine, I'd created a set of coping mechanisms that got

> me through the day - I hadn't called in sick the entire 6 months since I

> started. Today and yesterday I had to beg off - I just wasn't safe

to get

> in a car and drive off, not to mention I have a 12 & 5 year old so going

> to bed at 6pm was so not happening.

> In utter disgust I dropped a couple of applications for other jobs but

> they'd never be this job. I jumped through hoops to get this job. I

can't

> help it but I'm a private person who has always thought personal stuff

> didn't belong in the workplace. Having to tell my story over and over

> again to supervisors who don't seem to have answers and just pass me off

> to someone else is killing me. I can't be sick because it means I can't

> even go see my mother. Something has got to give.

> Today I came up with an idea that maybe if they just shaved one day off

> my week I might be able to adapt and care for my family as well. It

seems

> like a light at the end of a tunnel. I'm appalled at the creature I was

> in the last 7 days. First I was told I could take unpaid family leave,

> and then I was told I couldn't because it was my father in law

(meaning I

> don't think they even listened to the whole story) so I don't know how

> this last idea is going to be received. I keep thinking its better

that I

> work than not work because I really do try to leave my personal stuff at

> home - this becomes increasingly harder to do when you are so fatigued

> that its changing your personality and causing physical problems.

> I'm trying to prepare myself for getting shot down again.

> Anybody been through anything like this?

>

> Kate