Guest guest Posted January 16, 2005 Report Share Posted January 16, 2005 I get sad a lot, too, and sometimes I get apathetic from fatigue. Today is a good day and I can move and function and am having FUN. YAY YAY! - In , GoAwayRA@a... wrote: > Hi everyone ... I don't post that often and am rather newly diagnosed with > RA (but have suffered for several years). I read your posts and just want to > tell you that I am inspired by each of you! What a wonderful community this > is! I so admire the courage, the knowledge and the inspiration found here. > > I just wanted to weigh in on the anger and outburst stuff. For me, I am > generally much more sad about this condition rather than angry. Sometimes I > just get so fatigued and overwhelmed -- like the other night when my daughter > told me we were out of cat litter and I had to go back out to get some for our > cat. Grrrrrr. I felt the flash of anger as I was so looking forward to > getting comfortable and settled in for the evening! Then horror among horrors, I > felt my eyes well up with tears! What the heck??!! All this because I needed > to get in the car and run less than 2 miles up the road to get cat litter! > This is NOT who I am! > > I do a lot of personal development work and one of the things that I am > working on now is recognizing and naming the anger when it shows up. As a person > who has a biz professionally in the people-helping business, as I see many > others are here, we tend to deny our own pain, needs, anger, etc. > > Anyhow, once I pinpoint the anger, I have been working with a distinction > that has helped me and it may help some of you too. When I feel the anger, I > can consciously choose to continue to be angry or I can choose to be > compassionate. When I am angry, I have NO CONTROL over the feelings or what is > happening. I am just REACTIVE. However, when I CHOOSE to be compassionate (toward > others, myself, my body, God, etc.) instead of angry, that is something I am > controlling. It is a chosen RESPONSE and it feels much better to me to have > more control over my situation, even if it is just a little bit. > > Please understand that like everyone here, I am most definitely a work in > progress and I certainly have not had some of the experiences that others have, > however, this is just one small thing that may be helpful. Sometimes I am > good at it and frankly, sometimes I suck at it. But the other thing is, our > RA-riddled bodies are already angry and in pain -- perhaps when we show a > little more compassion and kindness to our bodies, they heal even in the tiniest > ways. > > This may sound too " woo-wooish " to some, but, for me, I certainly would > rather focus on the good and possibilities rather than be stuck and at war with m > y body. You may want to try the technique and see how it works for you. At > the very least, it may help our blood pressures!!! :-) > > Love and Prayers to all! > Beth > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 16, 2005 Report Share Posted January 16, 2005 I get sad a lot, too, and sometimes I get apathetic from fatigue. Today is a good day and I can move and function and am having FUN. YAY YAY! - In , GoAwayRA@a... wrote: > Hi everyone ... I don't post that often and am rather newly diagnosed with > RA (but have suffered for several years). I read your posts and just want to > tell you that I am inspired by each of you! What a wonderful community this > is! I so admire the courage, the knowledge and the inspiration found here. > > I just wanted to weigh in on the anger and outburst stuff. For me, I am > generally much more sad about this condition rather than angry. Sometimes I > just get so fatigued and overwhelmed -- like the other night when my daughter > told me we were out of cat litter and I had to go back out to get some for our > cat. Grrrrrr. I felt the flash of anger as I was so looking forward to > getting comfortable and settled in for the evening! Then horror among horrors, I > felt my eyes well up with tears! What the heck??!! All this because I needed > to get in the car and run less than 2 miles up the road to get cat litter! > This is NOT who I am! > > I do a lot of personal development work and one of the things that I am > working on now is recognizing and naming the anger when it shows up. As a person > who has a biz professionally in the people-helping business, as I see many > others are here, we tend to deny our own pain, needs, anger, etc. > > Anyhow, once I pinpoint the anger, I have been working with a distinction > that has helped me and it may help some of you too. When I feel the anger, I > can consciously choose to continue to be angry or I can choose to be > compassionate. When I am angry, I have NO CONTROL over the feelings or what is > happening. I am just REACTIVE. However, when I CHOOSE to be compassionate (toward > others, myself, my body, God, etc.) instead of angry, that is something I am > controlling. It is a chosen RESPONSE and it feels much better to me to have > more control over my situation, even if it is just a little bit. > > Please understand that like everyone here, I am most definitely a work in > progress and I certainly have not had some of the experiences that others have, > however, this is just one small thing that may be helpful. Sometimes I am > good at it and frankly, sometimes I suck at it. But the other thing is, our > RA-riddled bodies are already angry and in pain -- perhaps when we show a > little more compassion and kindness to our bodies, they heal even in the tiniest > ways. > > This may sound too " woo-wooish " to some, but, for me, I certainly would > rather focus on the good and possibilities rather than be stuck and at war with m > y body. You may want to try the technique and see how it works for you. At > the very least, it may help our blood pressures!!! :-) > > Love and Prayers to all! > Beth > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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