Re: hi~ to moms with toddlers, how to deal

[Guest guest]

Welcome Gaby,.....I'm so glad that your here, and hope you enjoy the

group. You will find a lot of good information here, great tips, and

wonderful people.

I'm sorry about your dx with RA, but glad that your catching it

early. My rheumy thinks that I have had the RA since childhood, but

only dx a few years ago.

When were you dx with RA? Do you have a rheumy? Sometimes, you have

to change your meds, until you find the right one for you, which

isn't always easy. But, if you have a good rheumy, he can keep tabs

on your meds, and find out if they are really working for you. Are

you on the Prednisone temporarily?

I am 41 years old, and have a lot of problems with the RA right now.

But, my advise to you is just keep moving. If you can walk some, do

that even if it's around the block. Stretching sure helps your

joints. I know it's hard to do all, with this disease especially

when you have little ones. Just do the best you can, that's all any

of us can do. Take care of yourself, Tawny

--- In , " aevasmommy " <gabymark2@j...>

wrote:

>

>

> HI! i'm Gaby (23) and i have a 14 mo old girl. i have RA, and it's

> extremely hard for me to deal with the daily chores and keeping up

> with her. i'm soooo tired all the time, and achy. i'm on

> methotrexate and prednisone, but that is not helping. do you guys

> know of ways i could gain some strength or other treatment options

> for RA?

>

> It's not fair for her and not fair for me either. i need to be

there

> for her. help?

>

> Gaby

> Aeva

[Guest guest]

Welcome Gaby,.....I'm so glad that your here, and hope you enjoy the

group. You will find a lot of good information here, great tips, and

wonderful people.

I'm sorry about your dx with RA, but glad that your catching it

early. My rheumy thinks that I have had the RA since childhood, but

only dx a few years ago.

When were you dx with RA? Do you have a rheumy? Sometimes, you have

to change your meds, until you find the right one for you, which

isn't always easy. But, if you have a good rheumy, he can keep tabs

on your meds, and find out if they are really working for you. Are

you on the Prednisone temporarily?

I am 41 years old, and have a lot of problems with the RA right now.

But, my advise to you is just keep moving. If you can walk some, do

that even if it's around the block. Stretching sure helps your

joints. I know it's hard to do all, with this disease especially

when you have little ones. Just do the best you can, that's all any

of us can do. Take care of yourself, Tawny

>

>

> HI! i'm Gaby (23) and i have a 14 mo old girl. i have RA, and it's

> extremely hard for me to deal with the daily chores and keeping up

> with her. i'm soooo tired all the time, and achy. i'm on

> methotrexate and prednisone, but that is not helping. do you guys

> know of ways i could gain some strength or other treatment options

> for RA?

>

> It's not fair for her and not fair for me either. i need to be

there

> for her. help?

>

> Gaby

> Aeva

[Guest guest]

HI Gaby,

Just HAVING a 14-mo old child is enough to make you tired! (Just ask

my daughter--she has triplets 22 mo. old and a 4-year old!) I don't

have RA ( I have Dercum's Disease and Fibro), but do know that

resting while you can and exercising the right way are important, as

well as proper medication. Hopefully as you're pretty young, with

all the new strides being made, they will be able to get you into

remission so you can enjoy that little one!

Judi

[Guest guest]

HI Gaby,

Just HAVING a 14-mo old child is enough to make you tired! (Just ask

my daughter--she has triplets 22 mo. old and a 4-year old!) I don't

have RA ( I have Dercum's Disease and Fibro), but do know that

resting while you can and exercising the right way are important, as

well as proper medication. Hopefully as you're pretty young, with

all the new strides being made, they will be able to get you into

remission so you can enjoy that little one!

Judi

[Guest guest]

Hi Gaby,

I truly understand how hard it can be to take care of little ones and have RA.

Im 31 and had 4 kids in 6 years. They are now ages 4-11. I remember when they

were younger and how difficult it was to just get out of bed. Especially when

you are on MTX. I was diagnosed a little over a year ago and believe Ive had

this for several years. I dont have any answers for you. But I can say take one

day at a time. Dont feel guilty--- because you cant control life. Dont worry or

stress about what you think you should be doing. For me what did help was

trusting that God would give me the strength I needed for what had to be done.

Everyday at the end of the day I think I didnt do this or that and my husband

saysto me often well if it was that important then God would helped you do

that. I have had to look at things differently and figure out whats really

important and not. There are some days I feed the kids and thats all nothing

else. Not even the dishes get done. And some days we get alot done

and I try to catch up. I have learned to swallow my pride and ask for the help

of my husband. When we lived in CA and I had friends and family I asked them for

help. Here in Missouri I dont have anyone yet and my kids are getting older so I

depend on them alot. I am still trying to learn to not stress about it and

remember all that matters is you daughter knows you love her and give her lots

of hugs and kisses. She doesnt need a stressed out mom or a guilty mom just one

that loves her and cuddles her. Remember to not look around the messy house when

you cant clean it I wish I could more or even help out some. You dont happen

to live near St. Louis do you? If so let me know. Take care and I will be

praying for you. Love, Latisha

aevasmommy <gabymark2@...> wrote:

HI! i'm Gaby (23) and i have a 14 mo old girl. i have RA, and it's

extremely hard for me to deal with the daily chores and keeping up

with her. i'm soooo tired all the time, and achy. i'm on

methotrexate and prednisone, but that is not helping. do you guys

know of ways i could gain some strength or other treatment options

for RA?

It's not fair for her and not fair for me either. i need to be there

for her. help?

Gaby

Aeva

[Guest guest]

Hi Gaby,

I truly understand how hard it can be to take care of little ones and have RA.

Im 31 and had 4 kids in 6 years. They are now ages 4-11. I remember when they

were younger and how difficult it was to just get out of bed. Especially when

you are on MTX. I was diagnosed a little over a year ago and believe Ive had

this for several years. I dont have any answers for you. But I can say take one

day at a time. Dont feel guilty--- because you cant control life. Dont worry or

stress about what you think you should be doing. For me what did help was

trusting that God would give me the strength I needed for what had to be done.

Everyday at the end of the day I think I didnt do this or that and my husband

saysto me often well if it was that important then God would helped you do

that. I have had to look at things differently and figure out whats really

important and not. There are some days I feed the kids and thats all nothing

else. Not even the dishes get done. And some days we get alot done

and I try to catch up. I have learned to swallow my pride and ask for the help

of my husband. When we lived in CA and I had friends and family I asked them for

help. Here in Missouri I dont have anyone yet and my kids are getting older so I

depend on them alot. I am still trying to learn to not stress about it and

remember all that matters is you daughter knows you love her and give her lots

of hugs and kisses. She doesnt need a stressed out mom or a guilty mom just one

that loves her and cuddles her. Remember to not look around the messy house when

you cant clean it I wish I could more or even help out some. You dont happen

to live near St. Louis do you? If so let me know. Take care and I will be

praying for you. Love, Latisha

aevasmommy <gabymark2@...> wrote:

HI! i'm Gaby (23) and i have a 14 mo old girl. i have RA, and it's

extremely hard for me to deal with the daily chores and keeping up

with her. i'm soooo tired all the time, and achy. i'm on

methotrexate and prednisone, but that is not helping. do you guys

know of ways i could gain some strength or other treatment options

for RA?

It's not fair for her and not fair for me either. i need to be there

for her. help?

Gaby

Aeva

[Guest guest]

I completely understand how hard it can be with little ones in the house.

My kids are grown now, but my oldest son moved back into our house with his

two children, ages 4 and 6.

, the 6 yr old is in kindergarden and is very easy to deal with.

na, the 4yr old has ADHD. She is VERY difficult to deal with. She

can't concentrate on anything, and is very clingy. Things are better with

her since she was put on medication. She is actually learning now in

preschool - her teacher calls her a " smartie-cookie " these days!

It is really hard for me to cope some days. I can't keep up with all the

messes these new additions make, and the stress is unreal! I had forgotten

how hard it is when someone is constantly interrupting you and demanding

that you " come look at this " or " please get me that " . I don't have that

much energy to begin with, and all those extra steps around the house really

add up to sap what little strength I have left.

Compounding all this is the fact that my son works 3rd shift. That means we

have to watch the kids (without his help) for what amounts to two shifts -

one where he is working and one where he is sleeping. He is sleep-deprived

all the time, but he tries his best to take care of the kids. His goal was

to move out as soon as he could, but I don't see this happening anytime soon

with his work schedule. He needs live-in help.

My husband is having a hard time dealing with everything. He comes home

tired anyway, and then has to deal with " babysitting " every night. He's a

good guy and loves the grandkids, but somebody please give us a break!

Anyway, that's enough of a rant! Live ain't easy sometimes, but it's what

we've got, so we just have to learn to deal with it! Take it easy and good

luck with the little ones!

Vikki

Re: [ ] hi~ to moms with toddlers, how to deal

Hi Gaby,

I truly understand how hard it can be to take care of little ones and have

RA. Im 31 and had 4 kids in 6 years. They are now ages 4-11. I remember when

they were younger and how difficult it was to just get out of bed.

Especially when you are on MTX. I was diagnosed a little over a year ago and

believe Ive had this for several years. I dont have any answers for you. But

I can say take one day at a time. Dont feel guilty--- because you cant

control life. Dont worry or stress about what you think you should be doing.

For me what did help was trusting that God would give me the strength I

needed for what had to be done. Everyday at the end of the day I think I

didnt do this or that and my husband saysto me often well if it was that

important then God would helped you do that. I have had to look at things

differently and figure out whats really important and not. There are some

days I feed the kids and thats all nothing else. Not even the dishes get

done. And some days we get alot done

and I try to catch up. I have learned to swallow my pride and ask for the

help of my husband. When we lived in CA and I had friends and family I asked

them for help. Here in Missouri I dont have anyone yet and my kids are

getting older so I depend on them alot. I am still trying to learn to not

stress about it and remember all that matters is you daughter knows you love

her and give her lots of hugs and kisses. She doesnt need a stressed out mom

or a guilty mom just one that loves her and cuddles her. Remember to not

look around the messy house when you cant clean it I wish I could more or

even help out some. You dont happen to live near St. Louis do you? If so let

me know. Take care and I will be praying for you. Love, Latisha

aevasmommy <gabymark2@...> wrote:

HI! i'm Gaby (23) and i have a 14 mo old girl. i have RA, and it's

extremely hard for me to deal with the daily chores and keeping up

with her. i'm soooo tired all the time, and achy. i'm on

methotrexate and prednisone, but that is not helping. do you guys

know of ways i could gain some strength or other treatment options

for RA?

It's not fair for her and not fair for me either. i need to be there

for her. help?

Gaby

Aeva

[Guest guest]

I completely understand how hard it can be with little ones in the house.

My kids are grown now, but my oldest son moved back into our house with his

two children, ages 4 and 6.

, the 6 yr old is in kindergarden and is very easy to deal with.

na, the 4yr old has ADHD. She is VERY difficult to deal with. She

can't concentrate on anything, and is very clingy. Things are better with

her since she was put on medication. She is actually learning now in

preschool - her teacher calls her a " smartie-cookie " these days!

It is really hard for me to cope some days. I can't keep up with all the

messes these new additions make, and the stress is unreal! I had forgotten

how hard it is when someone is constantly interrupting you and demanding

that you " come look at this " or " please get me that " . I don't have that

much energy to begin with, and all those extra steps around the house really

add up to sap what little strength I have left.

Compounding all this is the fact that my son works 3rd shift. That means we

have to watch the kids (without his help) for what amounts to two shifts -

one where he is working and one where he is sleeping. He is sleep-deprived

all the time, but he tries his best to take care of the kids. His goal was

to move out as soon as he could, but I don't see this happening anytime soon

with his work schedule. He needs live-in help.

My husband is having a hard time dealing with everything. He comes home

tired anyway, and then has to deal with " babysitting " every night. He's a

good guy and loves the grandkids, but somebody please give us a break!

Anyway, that's enough of a rant! Live ain't easy sometimes, but it's what

we've got, so we just have to learn to deal with it! Take it easy and good

luck with the little ones!

Vikki

Re: [ ] hi~ to moms with toddlers, how to deal

Hi Gaby,

I truly understand how hard it can be to take care of little ones and have

RA. Im 31 and had 4 kids in 6 years. They are now ages 4-11. I remember when

they were younger and how difficult it was to just get out of bed.

Especially when you are on MTX. I was diagnosed a little over a year ago and

believe Ive had this for several years. I dont have any answers for you. But

I can say take one day at a time. Dont feel guilty--- because you cant

control life. Dont worry or stress about what you think you should be doing.

For me what did help was trusting that God would give me the strength I

needed for what had to be done. Everyday at the end of the day I think I

didnt do this or that and my husband saysto me often well if it was that

important then God would helped you do that. I have had to look at things

differently and figure out whats really important and not. There are some

days I feed the kids and thats all nothing else. Not even the dishes get

done. And some days we get alot done

and I try to catch up. I have learned to swallow my pride and ask for the

help of my husband. When we lived in CA and I had friends and family I asked

them for help. Here in Missouri I dont have anyone yet and my kids are

getting older so I depend on them alot. I am still trying to learn to not

stress about it and remember all that matters is you daughter knows you love

her and give her lots of hugs and kisses. She doesnt need a stressed out mom

or a guilty mom just one that loves her and cuddles her. Remember to not

look around the messy house when you cant clean it I wish I could more or

even help out some. You dont happen to live near St. Louis do you? If so let

me know. Take care and I will be praying for you. Love, Latisha

aevasmommy <gabymark2@...> wrote:

HI! i'm Gaby (23) and i have a 14 mo old girl. i have RA, and it's

extremely hard for me to deal with the daily chores and keeping up

with her. i'm soooo tired all the time, and achy. i'm on

methotrexate and prednisone, but that is not helping. do you guys

know of ways i could gain some strength or other treatment options

for RA?

It's not fair for her and not fair for me either. i need to be there

for her. help?

Gaby

Aeva