An inquiry - they shouldn't dislike her

[Guest guest]

Another day, another inquiry - this one came up this morning around

Byron and some of the criticism that she and the work gets on

the web.

I'd like any feedback and, in particular, help with the turnarounds -

examples of why it is better that they dislike her, why I shouldn't

dislike them, etc.

With love and thanks,

Jon

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Inquiry: They shouldn't dislike her

Is that true?

Yes

Can I absolutely know that this is true?

Can I absolutely know that I would be happier if I got what I want?

No, I can't know that is true

How do I react when I believe this thought?

I feel sad, anxious, I feel threatened, it makes me wonder if I've

been hoodwinked, turned into a pathetic mess by this work stuff.

I feel like they are attacking me when they attack her.

Does this thought bring peace or stress into your life?

Stress – I'm in their business and I'm wanting them to like her so

that I feel reassured that this stuff is the right thing to be doing.

Can I think of a single stress-free reason to keep this thought?

No

Can I think of a reason to drop this thought?

Yes, I'd be back with me, in my own business, doing my own thing

Who would I be without this thought?

Sleepy. I no longer feel so anxious about doing the work so much. I

do it because stuff comes up and I'm interested in learning about

what's going on.

Not making enemies of the people that appear to dislike her or

disagree with `the work'. I can see it's not personal in any way,

even if they think it is.

From here, I can admire their honesty and willingness to put

themselves out there. Criticism and cynicism are important functions

for exposing what isn't really true.

Turnarounds:

1: They should dislike her

Yes, this is true, if they do – I can't really know if they do or not

– it's just not my business.

Some reasons why they might dislike her is they've had bad experiences

with other people in the past and simply project those onto her, they

may have had bad experiences with her and she's not met their

expectations, so they're angry or have an axe to grind against her.

And it could just be they are put off by other people that are

involved in the work – tired of people suggesting it to them or

evangelising about it.

From here I can see it is their job to dislike her, if this is in fact

true – it's like it's a dog's job to chase cats, it's nothing

personal, it's just what they do.

2: I shouldn't dislike her

How is this true? Well, I'm not a fan of how the work is described on

the website – I feel uncomfortable with it and it feels a bit too

`woo-woo' for me.

I dislike her / the work (and I confuse the two) when I believe that

the work has taken me down a road towards being a pathetic mess.

Which is funny, as the reality is that I was much more of a mess

before I started with the work :-)

3: I shouldn't dislike them

Yes, this is as true / truer – I don't appreciate the job they are

doing in keeping people informed about scams and programs that

ultimately rip them off and cost them their families, livelihoods,

etc, etc. That's a good thing to do.