Just another way for nada to say eff you to me

[Guest guest]

Ok, so every year my grandmother sends me (and my DH) money for

Christmas. Not just a little, but a good amount, at least to me. Each

year I look forward to having around $100 all to myself, to do

whatever I want with. My grandmother is in the habit of sending all

the money to nada, to divy it up and hand out to the kids, assuming

nada has a relationship with anyone that year, which is often

doubtful.

So this year, I am the " bad daughter " and my brother and stepsister

(who hate her but still have a superficial relationship with nada

that won't last long, according to them) rec'd their share. My

brother, who is in town, rec'd nice gifts (lots of tools) that nada

bought w/ my grandmother's money. My stepsister (who is across the

country) rec'd a rather generous amount for her and her husband. Each

year we usually just get the cash from nada, so for my brother to

receive gifts was odd, but I think she had to buy things for him

because what did she do with me? She blew my money on a bunch of

crap, USED crap, may I add.

Yep, a bunch of random, used gifts that are obviously from the

consignment shop. And I know she had at LEAST a couple of hundred

dollars to spend, and there's no way the garbage she sent over (via

my brother, who did see her on Christmas) added up to that amount.

The other thing that gets me mad is that she threw in a couple of

sentimental things. A book for my daughter clld, " I'm a Big Sister, "

which is obviously her way of letting me know that she knows I'm

pregnant again. Family must have told her. I'm close w/ my extended

family, and someone must have mentioned it, which I assumed and

doesn't bother me at all. What does bother me is her passive

aggressive approach to letting me know that she knows.

She also got a couple of small sentamental things for me, I'm sure to

pull at the heart strings. But I'll have fun throwing them away.

It's just a shame that my grandmother wanted to do a nice thing,

which she does every year (my grandmother is really sweet, very very

sweet... nada must have been adopted) and nada just blew through it

and ruined it.

She probably kept some for herself, or allocated the rest of mine to

the " good kids. " I know she steals. She charges dishrag when he makes

her mad. Yep. She charges him $20 when he makes her mad, and she

tucks it away in a book, or a shoe. Growing up she would tell me

periodically, " ok Grace, if something happens to me, I want you to

know that I have $500 in my left boot.... " While it is THEIR money as

a married couple, it's still wrong to deceive your spouse and charge

him money. She would spend it, or give it to me to spend, and he

would never know. And we weren't exactly rich. Very tight, actually.

She stayed at home w/ kids, and he worked second shift in a factory.

And they had four kids. Not a lot of wiggle room for her to be

slipping $20 bills into her freaking shoes or books each time he made

her mad.

Anyway, just needed to vent. I feel emotionally detached from her. I

think it's happened. I just am. ERRGGG!!!! Am I cold? I think not. I

am just mad, and tired of being hurt by her.

I am thankful for NC. Yea! Still going strong, as of early Oct with

two exceptions of fights over the phone, the second fight being the

one that established NC.

Grace