Re: christmas cristis

[Guest guest]

Jana,

You do not say where you live...only that you are in the

USA.....different cities and states have different programs to assist

people in need...ESPECIALLY around Christmas time. I would advise you

to check with your local Department of Human Services, Department of

Childrens' Services, local Churches, Toys for Tots, any and all local

childrens' charities that you can find, the United Way, the Salvation

Army and if you have someone who does an " Angel Tree " in your area

find out who they are. As a rule, I have found that

churches/religious organizations may be your best bet. Just contact

those people and organizations I have mentioned, explain the

situation and they should be able to guide/assist you in your quest.

Blessings,

Pixi

> My father died on march 14th 2004, I'm 28 but my little brothers

and sisters (two brothers, and two sisters) are all under the age of

10 and below. They still believe in santa clause and I had them

write down their wish lists for this year. I am full of axiety

because these wishes will not come true. My father and my mother had

me, but my father and his third wife had 4 children. She is from a

3rd word country and even though she is very educated, she is not

educated enough in the USA so she does not apply for any jobs that

account for anything here. My fear is that my little sibblings have

gone through such a tramatic event that it will be hard for them to

believe in goodness. So, If I cannot accomplish their wishes this

chrismas all hope may be gone forever. and their innocenese lost

forever.. So I have gone to all my family. So far my mom will help

a little, my Grandmother will help, and I will help. That is not

much. I know this is off the topic but I need advice. I cannot let

my little sisters and brothers down. so if you out there, please

help.

> sincerely,

> Jana

[Guest guest]

A humble gifting is still a gift. We did not have much when I was a kid, there was a year when we each got a watch. Love and a little good food and a token from the heart is far better than stuff. Little kids really don't remember much after the packaging is swept away but they will remeber if the older people were stressed out and unhappy over it. I vote love and creativity - have fun with it, get them invoved in simple things you all do together. Don't get sucked into the materialistic hogwash - if you find a way to have fun they will, you don't have to do everything.

Kate

On Sat, 11 Sep 2004 19:27:01 -0400 janahome2@... writes:

My father died on march 14th 2004, I'm 28 but my little brothers and sisters (two brothers, and two sisters) are all under the age of 10 and below. They still believe in santa clause and I had them write down their wish lists for this year. I am full of axiety because these wishes will not come true. My father and my mother had me, but my father and his third wife had 4 children. She is from a 3rd word country and even though she is very educated, she is not educated enough in the USA so she does not apply for any jobs that account for anything here. My fear is that my little sibblings have gone through such a tramatic event that it will be hard for them to believe in goodness. So, If I cannot accomplish their wishes this chrismas all hope may be gone forever. and their innocenese lost forever.. So I have gone to all my family. So far my mom will help a little, my Grandmother will help, and I will help. That is not much. I know this is off the topic but I need advice. I cannot let my little sisters and brothers down. so if you out there, please help.sincerely,Jana1. While it is wonderful to share our experiences with everyone on the list as to what treatments do and don't work for us, pls always check with your dr. Some treatments are dangerous when given along with other meds as well as to certain health conditions or just dangerous in general.2. If you are in a difficult situation (doesn't matter what it is) pls don't be afraid to ask for help. It is the first step to trying to make that situation better.Have a nice day everyone.

[Guest guest]

Hello - My name is Stella, and this is my first day in this group.

While it is absolutely true that in the long run the love of family is

the most important thing, I feel that you must be a wonderful sister

for caring so much to make your siblings happy. It sounds like this

will be a hard holiday for all of you anyway, since it is your first

one without your father.

If this is truly bothering you, maybe I can give you some ideas.

I have spent many years where I did not have much money for Christmas.

You can let them know now that they will have a nice holiday with

gifts, but Santa does not always get us what we ask for. I always

told my kids that Santa does bring the gifts, but sometimes rich

people buy presents for their kids and say it's from Santa, which is

why the kids they know in school get the expensive stuff. I know this

sounds mercenary, but life is life.

If you start now, here are several ideas, but you have to start early.

Don't be ashamed to ask for help. This isn't for you, this is for

them, so you don't have to be prideful. I don't know where you live,

so I'm not sure what resources are available to you, but you can check

around.

1. Sometimes very large companies and churches sponsor a family for

Christmas. A company did this for me once, and it was so

heartwarming. Check around with some of the social service agencies

and churches, tell them your problem, and ask if they can refer you to

someone who is helping out with Christmas gifts. If they say they

don't know, then ask for the number of someone else they can refer you

to who might know of a sponsor. Companies usually start making their

list of families or children to help early, so you need to start next

month at the latest. I know it sounds overwhelming, but if you just

make one call a day, you will make progress.

2. Do you have 99cent stores where you are? I do this for my kids:

Every week I take $4.00 and go get one thing for each of them and put

it away. The stores here have some really cool stuff, but it doesn't

last long, so I go every week and then hide the gifts away. If you

start now,you will have quite an accumulation by Christmas. Also,

this only takes about 1/2 hour, so I can usually handle this shopping

without getting too tired.

3. Make at least one special thing by hand for each of them. Most of

the women's magazines now are full of ideas that can be done with

stuff you might have around the house.

That's all I can think of. Does anyone else have any ideas?

Have a great day, and I'll be saying a prayer that something works out

for you.