Has anyone else experienced this?

[Guest guest]

I kept my relationship with my boyfriend secret from my parents for almost a

year. I felt bad about the lying, but I did it to protect myself ­ and him.

The momster ALWAYS comes out whenever I date anyone, and I just wanted to be

able to take control of one relationship in my life.

When my parents decided to ignore my boundary (call and give me notice

before you come over to my condo ­ not terribly unreasonable, I didn¹t

think) and barged into my condo one day while I was at work, they found

evidence of my boyfriend¹s existence. So, now the secret is out ­ even

though they¹re not happy about it.

The thing is ­ now that I¹m not lying to them about the relationship, I feel

more like I¹m sneaking around with my boyfriend than I did when I was

sneaking around. What¹s that about? And my boyfriend says he feels the same

way. Is it just paranoia ­ that now they know about us, they¹re going to do

something really horrible to us?