Guest guest Posted January 21, 2006 Report Share Posted January 21, 2006 Dear , I'm sorry for this new pain you are having to bear. Your love will never die, and your memories will be a real comfort. You see, two of my cousins died about a year apart in 2000, and 2001. They were just part of our big, happy family as we were growing up. Both deaths were untimely and unexpected. One had lung cancer and told no one but her husband; the other died from complications from Parkinson's disease. I was traveling when these deaths happened. In my grief, I could only think of, and remember all the special things these special people did for me. I wrote that stuff in letters to their spouses. At the time, I just felt a need to 'do something'- I couldn't be there. Those letters turned out to be worth ten times their weight in gold- to their families. It helped me a lot too. I surround you with gentle hugs, and my prayers go out for . God bless you Goodwin wrote: I just found out yesterday that my cousin, , who lives in Ohio is dying of cancer. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 21, 2006 Report Share Posted January 21, 2006 This is just a suggestion. Being a pastor' wife and mortician's mother I am always around the dying. One thing that I have seen and have even done before is to send cards. By this I mean that each day you send a card with a note saying: " do you remember when we did ......the next day send one that says, " " I love you because I remember.....The next day, I am so glad you were part of my childhood because.... and continue sending them every day except on Friday when you send two because of no mail delivery on Sunday. (Depending on where you live that might have to be Thursday. just figure out how long it will take the mail to get to where you want it to go.) I just went to the dollar store and bought 3 packs of note cards for a dollar a pack and rotated how I sent them. The family members are so appreciative and it will usually bring a smile to the one who is dying. Usually when they are gone those closest to them will comment on how they loved the cards. It is not expensive and it helps you to heal as well as is a blessing to the one who is dying and those around them. Once hospice is called it is generally believed they will only live less than 6 weeks, so not much money is involved and oh! What a blessing that goes both ways. Gwen Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 22, 2006 Report Share Posted January 22, 2006 Gwen, That is a wonderful idea. I did that sort of thing when my mother was dying of cancer. I sent frequent cards, notes and even sent her flowers which she loved. Unfortunately I could not be there when she passed away but, I had taken my children to visit her a few weeks before. At least they remember her as she was before the worst came. One thing that I have seen and have even done before is to send cards. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 22, 2006 Report Share Posted January 22, 2006 Hi Gwen, That has got to be one of the best things I have heardin a long time! It really brings peace to my heart. Thanks for the great idea. Big huggs, Sandy Moderator Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 22, 2006 Report Share Posted January 22, 2006 Not a problem! some days I have more ideas in my head than I know what to do with! I write in a journal and some days you would think I am trying to beat the world's record for the most entries! Gwen Sandy wrote: Hi Gwen, That has got to be one of the best things I have heardin a long time! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 24, 2006 Report Share Posted January 24, 2006 , My condolences to you and all your family and friends. Ron in Dallas Goodwin wrote: My Cousin died yesterday from Cancer. We were very close as children and played together when I would visit my aunt and Uncle's house in the country. I will miss him. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 24, 2006 Report Share Posted January 24, 2006 Hi , My deepest condolences to you, and your family. Death is a very hard thing to deal with. Just make sure you keep your lines of communications open, it will help you thru this. I'm really sorry, try to remember the things that you and him used to do together, that should make you smile. Maybe you can start a journal or a scrapbook of pictures of the two of you together. If you need to talk you may email me anytime. Big huggs, Sandy Moderator Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 24, 2006 Report Share Posted January 24, 2006 I am so very sorry for your sadness. It is only when someone dies that most of us can take the times to remember all that we did with each other. I am so glad you had happy memories and maybe this could be a lesson to all of the rest of us to always say " I love you " " I appreciate you " , or " do you remember when we " . Thank you for allowing us to be inside your heart for a few moments. I will be praying. Gwen @yahoo.com> wrote: My Cousin died yesterday from Cancer. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 24, 2006 Report Share Posted January 24, 2006 , Please accept my deepest sympathy. As I told you before, two of my cousins died. They were very much 'family'. I was close to them both. They live on in my mind with so many happy memories. Love just doesn't die. Ever. God bless you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 24, 2006 Report Share Posted January 24, 2006 I'm so sorry for your loss . Hope you are doing okay. Caitlin Goodwin wrote: My Cousin died yesterday from Cancer. We were very close as children and played together when I would visit my aunt and Uncle's house in the country. I will miss him. --------------------------------- Yahoo! Photos Got holiday prints? See all the ways to get quality prints in your hands ASAP. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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