Re: nonverbal language (was: Disproving my theory)

[Guest guest]

> >...Nonverbal language predated humans, and primates for that

> >matter. It was necessary then. It isn't now; we have something

> >better. Nonverbal language is like the appendix now, or the

> >vestigial feet in boa constrictors.

> That's an odd thing to say. Nonverbal language (or rather,

> inability to do it) is what gets many auties fired from their

> jobs. It keeps many auties from being hired in the first place.

> It's what keeps auties longing for friends and/or romance alone

> in their lives. It gets some auties locked up (by cops or docs).

> My appendix never did any of that to me.

<grin>

Seriously, actually, I *like* nonverbal language, and prefer it to

verbal (written, spoken, or signed) language when I can get away with

it. I just don't like dealing with *NT* nonverbal language, or more

precisely, NT " social " nonverbal language. And I think there can be a

big difference there, between autistic nonverbal language, NT

nonverbal " social " language, and NT inadvertant nonverbal language. I

do seem to send off and receive nonverbal signals, but I don't send

off NT ones and I don't easily receive NT-social ones or some

NT-inadvertent ones. I seem to be able to read a fair amount of

autistics, and vice-versa, to varying degrees of accuracy, and I find

it much more relaxing to deal with that than to have to deal with

forming words or dealing with excessive word-input.

I know autistics vary a lot on this, however. Certainly one of the

first real friendships I ever formed was with someone who barely ever

talked to me with words and vice-versa, and communication was much

less stressful that way. (She's shown with me in the pictures section.)

[Guest guest]

> >...Nonverbal language predated humans, and primates for

that

> >matter. It was necessary then. It isn't now; we have

something

> >better. Nonverbal language is like the appendix now, or the

vestigial

> >feet in boa constrictors.

>

> That's an odd thing to say. Nonverbal language (or rather,

> inability to do it) is what gets many auties fired from their

> jobs. It keeps many auties from being hired in the first place.

> It's what keeps auties longing for friends and/or romance

alone

> in their lives. It gets some auties locked up (by cops or docs).

>

> My appendix never did any of that to me.

>

> Jane

Say, I hadn't thought of that. I always took my appendix for

granted, but now I feel guilty. After 39 years, it took someone

else's prompting for me to realize that my dear old appendix has

always accepted me for who I am, no matter what.

(*looking down*)

Ah, my dear old friend, I promise I'll never take you for granted

again! C'mon---let's go have some grapefruit!

:-)

--DKM

[Guest guest]

wrote:

>Seriously, actually, I *like* nonverbal language, and prefer it to

>verbal (written, spoken, or signed) language when I can get away with

>it. I just don't like dealing with *NT* nonverbal language, or more

>precisely, NT " social " nonverbal language. And I think there can be a

>big difference there, between autistic nonverbal language, NT

>nonverbal " social " language, and NT inadvertant nonverbal language.

It all sounds very interesting, but I've never had a chance

to experience autitistic nonverbal language. Persumably I

have some myself, but the only evidence is when NTs react

weirdly to it. :-/

Jane