Guest guest Posted January 18, 2004 Report Share Posted January 18, 2004 Kim wrote: >Suddenly I realized hair was attached to people. We had to progress to >styling each other. Why hadn;t I realized it would lead up to that? Why >had I never ever realized >that the hair I wanted to touch was ON people who existed, who moved who >were real? Fantasy: a barber shop/salon where I could go and be a mannequin while Kim cut my hair. Not having to talk and appear " friendly " would be so lovely. For a few years (long ago) I felt compelled to let my sister-in-law (a licensed/trained beautician) cut my hair. That was awful. Because the " pay-back " for not acting " friendly " in the right way was so much worse. I don't have any contact with for-pay hair-cutters between hair cuts. But my sister-in-law was around a lot at that point, and she could take out her resentments on my brother, also. <shudder> I'm glad that phase is over with anyway. Jane Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 18, 2004 Report Share Posted January 18, 2004 I agree!! In my case I would also enjoy not being asked if I was going to a party that night, or what I was doing to celebrate Christmas, or if I had a boyfriend/husband, and then being assumed to be weird and have the hairdresser shut up at that point, which feels worse than if they didn't talk in the first place, at least for me.. > > Reply-To: AutisticSpectrumTreeHouse > Date: Sun, 18 Jan 2004 11:09:36 -0800 > To: AutisticSpectrumTreeHouse > Subject: Re: holograms,etc. > > Fantasy: a barber shop/salon where I could go and be a > mannequin while Kim cut my hair. Not having to talk and > appear " friendly " would be so lovely. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 18, 2004 Report Share Posted January 18, 2004 I used to date a hair stylist (meaning we had a one-night stand followed the next week by a nervous breakdown on her part and me actually skipping Politically Incorrect because I knew I could get the transcript online). Anyway, she had a nervous breakdown about being so gosh-darn poor, so I usually tip them $2. Seems to make up for my lack of chit-chat. I used to be more talkative, but when I was roommates with someone who was extremely obnoxious in his perseverations, I started claming up more. As Tito says, " better to be mute than to be disordered. " Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 18, 2004 Report Share Posted January 18, 2004 Kim, With my case, it was similar in hairdressing/cosmetology. Not to say I didn't learn anything though. I was lke you, good at theory, somewhat nervous with practicals. I didn't mind mannequin practice either. My hair then was perfect for being used as a model. I went through it longer than the standard mos it took for the averge NTs in class. What killed me (besides the nervousness, shakiness & perseverations Aspie & epilepsy related) was the fact you had to be a salesperson (which I didn't have the personality for) besides your standard job. We had to sell the hair products, etc. I had worked P/T at Sears taking catalog orders (which I loved) as well as scheduling service repair calls. (I didn't like these calls as much.) While there, we had to sell their laundry detergent. Needless to say, each place had their contests for top pitchpeople. I was barely lucky if I got a sale. Yet on the other hand you got some people who were highly offended-especially those who'd call in for service on an appliance. http://community.webtv.net/tikigalharkins/LETSTALKASPERGERS Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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