Help, please!

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Hi. I hope everyone is having a Happy New Year. I'm supposed to go over to my

grandmother's house today so that she, my momster, and my dad can yell at me for

being

such a terrible, horrible, selfish, lying daughter. I talked to momster on the

phone last night,

and she warned me about this ahead of time.

I don't want to put myself in this situation, but I'm afraid of what they might

do if I don't. I've

asked my boyfriend to come along with me - to kind of even the fight - but he

wasn't invited,

and I'm afraid it might provoke her wrath even more. He doesn't really want to

go, either,

because he knows how bad it will get, but he said he will do it for me, if I

need him there. He

did say, though, that if they tell him to leave, he will - immediately. I told

him that I'm going

with him.

According to momster, I am destroying the family with my " lies " about being

abused. She

kept harping on the fact that I keep telling people she physically abused me,

which I've never

said. She has slapped me a few times - at least once when I was over 21, so that

was really

assault (and a completely inappropriate way to handle the argument). But I was

talking more

about the emotional abuse she has put me through my entire life. So, I'm

supposed to tell my

boyfriend " the truth " - that I was never abused. I told him this when I got off

the phone with

her - he was in the room at the time - and his response was, " Don't lie to me. "

He knows how

she is, and what she does to me. He's seen it.

Anyway, I am completely at a loss as to how to handle this situation. Any

advice?