Re: Bite your tongue, AC's coming

[Guest guest]

lol

Anas, I so relate to that self-dx... you're funny... thanx for the giggle.

danigrrrl

xenoruh@... wrote:

> I remember reading one post on this list (I think it was ).

> He was defending one message which greatly upset another member.

> The defending author opined that since we are all autistic, we should

> expect to find sometimes harsh messages.

>

> After just making a similar mistake at upsetting fellow members on

> another AC list, I was reminded by my wife, (who I just recently also

> upset) how sensitive I would be if the tables had been turned in our

> own private example.

>

> IMHO I think the dilemna is that; we are quick to inadvertantly and

> sometimes purposely offend, more so than NTs but at the same time we

> tend to be more sensitive regarding apparent insults towards us, more

> so than NTs.

>

> Anas

> Self DXed with 'What have I said now?' syndrome.

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Anas wrote:

>IMHO I think the dilemna is that; we are quick to inadvertantly and

>sometimes purposely offend, more so than NTs but at the same time we

>tend to be more sensitive regarding apparent insults towards us, more

>so than NTs.

I don't think I am especially sensitive to insults. In fact,

I tend either not to notice them or to find them funny.

Jane

[Guest guest]

> IMHO I think the dilemna is that; we are quick to inadvertantly and

> sometimes purposely offend, more so than NTs but at the same time we

> tend to be more sensitive regarding apparent insults towards us, more

> so than NTs.

" Just kidding " insults tend to yank my chain more than others. E.g, " I

fucking hate you, you stupid fuck.... JUST KIDDING! " The whole play-teasing

and " ball-busting " is something that I just cannot fathom the reason for.

However, I tend to be less reactive to group-based insults (e.g. " Irish are

the scum of the earth " ), and to lack-of-acknowledgement " slightings, " (e.g.

ME: " How are you today, sir? " SIR: *blank silence*).

[Guest guest]

I have to say that I am terribly sensitive to people calling me names and

saying what I perceive to be " mean " things to me or about me. For example,

my neighbor's boyfriend refers to me as " the bitch next door " , which makes

me want to crawl into a hole. My husband wants to kill him.

I used to think that people were looking at me, I was so self-conscious and

afraid to draw attention to myself, and my clumsiness didn't help. One day I

decided that I must be terribly egocentric to think that people are always

looking at me, but I still can't shake the feeling, and it doesn't help when

I look around and people really are looking at me.

Louis

In my house, " normal " is only a setting on the dryer.

xenoruh@... wrote:

> I remember reading one post on this list (I think it was ).

> He was defending one message which greatly upset another member.

> The defending author opined that since we are all autistic, we should

> expect to find sometimes harsh messages.

>

> After just making a similar mistake at upsetting fellow members on

> another AC list, I was reminded by my wife, (who I just recently also

> upset) how sensitive I would be if the tables had been turned in our

> own private example.

>

> IMHO I think the dilemna is that; we are quick to inadvertantly and

> sometimes purposely offend, more so than NTs but at the same time we

> tend to be more sensitive regarding apparent insults towards us, more

> so than NTs.

>

> Anas

> Self DXed with 'What have I said now?' syndrome.

[Guest guest]

Louise Gainor wrote:

>I have to say that I am terribly sensitive to people calling me names and

>saying what I perceive to be " mean " things to me or about me. For example,

>my neighbor's boyfriend refers to me as " the bitch next door "

>

You could act the part and growl at him like a she-wolf.

It would probably scare the hell out of him.

(He is probably afraid of you to begin with).

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