Always to blame and I'm petrified of her, can you advise me?

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Hi I'm new to this group, My Mum i believe is suffering from BPD but

she won't get help.

My Mum has a really hard problem at saying " ok it was my fault "

or " these things happen in life! " She always has to put blame on

someone.

She blamed my Dad for having a breakdown last year cause he didn't mow

the lawn! Neither did she, I used to walk to their house and do it.

She blamed my sister and I because we hadn't achieved what she had

wanted us to achieve in life.

She blamed me because I was born disabled. she blamed a work colleague

for bullying and then she said her sis who lived in Australia had died.

She was disgnosed with Heart disease and blamed the family for it!

We've also been forbidden to tell anyone or she'll kick us out of the

family!!!

I'm petrified of her and I'm 32 and 5'10 while she's 56 and 4'9. I just

don't know what to do. when she did go to the psychologists she told

them what she felt the situation was, instead of the facts.

How can I help her. Can you advise me please.