Woah! I just survived a very triggering experience.

[Guest guest]

Hey all! I know earlier this week or last I mentioned my decision to

stop pandering to my obnoxious boss who wanted me to be available all

the time but only pay me if there was work--Jerk! Anyway, I told the

secretary at the company that I was cutting way back on my hours and

started working at a new place. I didn't immediately quit my job

because my boss was on vacation. When I finally saw him on Friday I

quit and it was a tough situation for me as a KO.

First of all, I already feel kind of exploited by this employer

because of the pressure to be available and not work somewhere else

but the lack of reasonable pay along side. But when I did quit, I

began to realize this guy has a problem. Here was his reaction:

First, he just sat there, not making eye contact, staring at his desk

and swallowing alot. He started a few sentences that trailed off. .

..I was kind of creeped out but just decided that awkward as it was,

this was certainly his problem, not mine.

Next, he tried to say, " I was counting on you " and asked me if I could

work for him in my spare time from now until the end of the year. I

resisted the urge to tear him a new hole about " counting on me " since

he wasn't paying me a living wage, but instead insisted on ending the

previous " contract " we had before negotiating anything further.

Finally, he said, we'll you'll have to give me notice and he even

tried calling his HR department to see if I was " legally obliged " to

give a longer than 2 weeks notice. What a jerk! Also, what a bad

business practice: keeping disgruntled employees when they don't want

to stay. Anyway, he didn't get away with that either and so it's the

typical 2 week notice AND I'll be on limited hours there because I

already gave the secretary my schedule for those next few weeks(which

I know I'm allowed to do under my contract).

Anyway, I don't think this guy has BP, but he has real problems and

I'm very glad to be out of there! I'm also proud of myself for being

able to stand up to this jerk in my second language and given my

issues with assertiveness. BUT I've been noticing that even though

it's over, I'm still turning things over and over in my head. So I'm

posting about the experience so I can stop thinking about it--and

hopefully so that some other KO's can validate my initially being

freaked out on this. My husband just doesn't understand how much this

kind of thing bugs me! Anyway, thanks for listening.

Trish