Re: Mental House Cleaning/Joan

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--- joan wrote:

> I've got to put my foot down and find other

> If I can live slowly going blind and a bad

> back I can live with a new attitude too. Other

> people feel our negativity and it can push them

> away. It's time to change our auras.

Joan

Hi Joan

I believe you are 100% correct. If strongly recommend

that you, and if possible your husband see a

counselor.

It really helps. DH, and I have been seeing one for

several months. He has had many health problems, in

the past 18 months, and I have my chronic pain, plus

I'm Bipolar.

I used to see a counselor alone, but with these new

developments have changed to seeing one together. I

might also go back to seeing my own counselor, because

she is now back from maternity leave.

Chronic pain/chronic illness require management. It

does change just, but let's not let it destroy us.

We do not have the right to abuse our partners, with

our anger and frustration. He/she is not a whipping

post.

I do know also, that a very high percentage of

disabled women/men were in abusive relationships, long

before the disability began.

It's also not unusual for an abuser to pick a disabled

person for a partner. Keeping you trapped, among other

things are all part of the cycle of abuse.

Kaylene

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