I Need Guidance & Support!!

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Recently (2 weeks ago) my mothers psychiatrist changed her diagnosis

from depression to BiPolar Type 2. However, my mother clearly meets

a lot of the criteria established in the DSM IV for BPD. This has

been going on for way to long (20+ years) I am now 27, in therapy

myself and taking medications for anxiety. My mother feels the need

to control my life and everything in it. If her needs are being met,

then I am free to do as I choose. However, let things not be going

her way... and look out!! Sometimes 10-20 phone calls, threats of

self harm, violence, unreasonable threats, and attempts to make me

believe that her problems or consequences for her actions will be my

problems and not hers to deal with. I can no longer take this

anymore!! I have considered selling my house (I live 2 miles from

her) and breaking off entire contact with her. More or less

abandoning her. I am not mentally ready to do this yet. I have a

girlfriend of 9 years. She has become very supportive, especially

here lately. However, I do not want to get married because of this

for two reasons. First of all, my mother interferes too much with my

life to dedicate it properly to a wife, and secondly when these

episodes occur my anxiety is so extreme I cannot deal with people

anywhere near me... except of course for my mother. That I suppose

is the emotional hook. Has anyone had any similiar situations that

can give me advice or just advice in general from anyone who has

experience dealing with this people. Thanks sooo much in advance!!!