Guest guest Posted December 30, 2010 Report Share Posted December 30, 2010 Thought this might interest you. It is about the death of the man who was the first succesful donor for a transplant. He died at age 79, donated to an identical twin. Jan http://www.aolhealth.com/2010/12/30/first-successful-organ-transplant/?icid=main\ %7Caim%7Cdl8%7Csec4_lnk1%7C192706 On Thu, Dec 30, 2010 at 5:44 PM, Bob Aragon wrote: > This was sent r4ight after your original post, but didnt make it on to the > site > that I know of. Sorry for the delay, or sorry for the repeat. Bobby > > Hi, Mabel. I am really sorry you are in this situation. I was in a similar > situation, when my best friend at work told me she had end stage liver > disease, > and was going to die. It was only after I began being her caretaker that I > learned that she was only going to die if she continued to drink. She did > drink, and she died. > > > My friend's name was/is Ardis Lorraine. There is a rule of life that says > you > can neither love or hate something about someone unless it is something you > love > or hate about yourself. Ardis was a lot like me, and I loved her more than > words can actually say. She said that we were kindred spirits. She is the > only > person I would ever be an enabler for. Not my wife, not my > mother,father,brother. I knew her pain, her awful childhood, her horrible > marriage to a brutal man who treated her like a piece of meat, and at > work, > our boss refused to see what I did in her ( he hated women with a > vengeance), a > vibrant , creative hard working Advanced Master Gardner. She had a secret > wish > to die, and I helped her do it. It took a piece of me permanently away, a > large > piece of my heart, and I am now, after 4 years able to to feel a bit > healed, but > I still replay a video of her every single day, a video of her saying " I > love > you " . I'll never get over her. > > I used her social security money to buy her beer and schnapps, and hid > bottles > of schnapps in all her cupboards, and under the matress, etc. In the middle > of > the night, she would call me, shaking, and afraid, lonely, and ask " are > there > any more of those schnapps any where? > I'd say, check behind the crock pot, and she would say, " Oh thank you. . I > only > need a sip , to settle my stomach I'll see you in the morning, Love you. " . > I now > understand what she meant. Because my liver is permanantly scarred, and my > spleen is enlarged and everything slowed up, I cannot filter 30% of my > blood > every 2 minutes. I get a horrible taste in my mouth, and the only cure > would be > schnapps, but I am sober 4 years now, so I use lucky charms. > > (At least they are whole grain. And have no more sugar than mini wheats.) > You are in a precarious position. You know where this leads. It takes 6 > months > sober for a person in the US to be a transplant candidate. The person has > to > want to live, or they must be convinced that drinking will kill them in the > end. > I have chaired so many AA meetings where people are still not convinced > that to > drink means to die. They are deluded, and dont realize that the dying part > is a > slow, painful, draining slog, not a quick, painless, " die in your sleep " > kind of > death. Ardis' body didnt want to die even as it died. She fought, and > fought, > and in the end she lost the fight. > > My heart goes out to you. Good luck, and this group is here for you. My > story > is here if you care to read it. > > > http://onethreezeroonethree.blogspot.com/ > > Love, Bobby Aragon > > > > > > ________________________________ > > To: livercirrhosissupport > Sent: Tue, December 28, 2010 6:11:22 PM > Subject: help am new here > > > hi,All > am new here and not sure where to start but am a caregiver to someone > how as endstage liver due to drinking in 07 she was on hopice for a year > her > liver got better then she started drinking agian and now we are in and out > of > hosptail she just had to have bands put on her verices as they were > bleeding and > had to be trained and al the fluid is > right back she is very cufused every day she seems to get worst > she wont quiet drinking she hides it al over the house she had the tips > done and they told he no more drinking but here we are she still is doing > it > sometimes she says she just wants to die am not sure how to help her > anymore so > am looking for help > Mabel > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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