Re: Not sure what to say or if I should

[Guest guest]

> I'm sorry. I haven't been here for awhile. If anyone has said

sent any messages to me I do appolijize for not having responded. I

am not sure what to say or even if I should be saying it. But I

really need help. Once my friends realized I was doing so poorly they

came up with an excuse to get me up to phoenix again. It was nice

while it lasted but didn't do much for I am just going through too

much. Well, I am back home and two nights ago my husband told me he

wanted me to start finding a way to get out. I have three weeks to

do it in. This thursday is our fourth aniversary, and next tuesday

is my birthday. I need your prayers that I make it through it all.

> Thanks,

> Norene

Okay, Norene, just to clear this up for me...what did your husband

mean by " finding a way to get out? " Are you saying you'll have 3

weeks to leave him?

Just confused....

Kathy T.

[Guest guest]

> Yes, I have no job, no insurance, bad health of course, and I have

to find a way to support myself and be out of here withing three

weeks.

> Re: Not sure what to say or

if I should

>

Norene,

My good Lord help us! Sick and everything and he wants you out?

First - and most importantly - I'll pray for you.

Now...Lawyer time! Is it both of your house together; if so, don't

leave. I'm not sure where you live, Norene, but I don't imagine that

any arbitrater or judge would allow your husband to make you homeless

with a chronic pain condition. Even if the house is his, you may be

able to get at least a part of it because you've contributed to it.

Yes, even if all you did was keep house for him.

Contact friends and get as much of a support group around you as you

can. Keep in touch with this board for our support, too. We can't

work and the drugs eat up our money, but we're good shoulders if you

need us:-)!

Be Blessed!

Kathy T.

[Guest guest]

Dear Noreen,

I am sorry that you are going through so much, Noreen, and wish I had

the right words to make everything all right. I know this will be a

bittersweet birthday, but I hope you know that everyone here is wishing

you a happy birthday. May things down 'the road look better for you.

hugs and prayers,

Sharon - Memphis, TN

Faith...with it, miracles *CAN* and *DO* happen!

[Guest guest]

> Re: Re: Not sure what to

say or if I should

>

>

> Depending on where you live, your best bet is to tell him to

leave. Go to Legal Aide & tell them your story. They may be able to

help. Never give up the house or anything else unless you have a

guarantee, in writing & witnessed as to what you do get. If he wants

out so badly, he can leave.

>

> in ville who's been divorced 4 times so has a little

experience.

>

She's right - if the house is in his name, he will want to keep

payments up. Now is the time to get nasty, Norene. Insurance? Get

it in writing that you get to stay on his. Rich parents?

Fortunately, as long as you stay in the house, all the attorneys in

the world won't drag it along because it's not in your husband's best

interests to do so. Also, divorce proceedings are quite controlled

these days. You won't see a judge until after arbitration. Start

documenting your husband's behavior towards you.

Keep your friends around you!

Be Blessed!

Kathy T.

[Guest guest]

Hang in there Norene! I agree with the others, let him leave. Once

you leave you give up any claim to that house. Even if you can't

afford to keep it, if it's awarded to you, sell it. Don't let him

bully you on this. He signed on for better or worse, sickness or

health, so push him to keep his part of the deal. I guarantee that

you hate this illness much more than he ever could!!!

We're here for you girl, so keep us posted and lean on us in this

tough time.

Hugs to you!

Janelle