Re: A little nutrition help please.

[Guest guest]

If the food isn't in the house, you won't eat it.

Andy

> I have finally figured out why I cheat. Tends to be around the same

> time every night (7-8pm) and its carbs (cookies chips, etc). It's

out

> of boredom. I need to find a strategy that works for this. I am

> usually home watching TV. Any thoughts??

>

> Jas

[Guest guest]

I guess most of you live alone. I have several family mebers who are

not doing BFL. How do I work around them? They have choices to.

Jas

> > I have finally figured out why I cheat. Tends to be around the

same

> > time every night (7-8pm) and its carbs (cookies chips, etc). It's

> out

> > of boredom. I need to find a strategy that works for this. I am

> > usually home watching TV. Any thoughts??

> >

> > Jas

[Guest guest]

Hi Jas -

I'm not the expert that others are on the list - but here's what I do:

1. Eat much slower - so you take as long as they do to eat. You can do this by

cutting stuff up smaller, chewing slower - since

you don't finish ahead of others, it can ease the " Ok, I'm finished - boy do

those rolls look great! " issues.

2. Add freebies - salad, veggies, etc. These are good for you and can help with

everyone looking around from over their plate of

food and seeing yours and giving you a hard time.

3. They *will* get over it. It only takes a few times, a few pounds, a few

days. But they will. Like you say, they make choices,

you have to be able to as well, without their complaining.

I think though, perhaps the biggest is:

4. Above all else, think about how you feel when you stand up, are plenty full

and know you've taken one more step. It's just one

step. Might even be small, but it's a step. This is the killer one for me

personally - it's like thumbing your nose at the plate

and saying " see, I AM in charge and I can do this. "

I like the last one - I feel good about that longer than I feel bad about not

eating the same/same quantity as others.

Interestingly, rather than just being ignored and them continuing to eat what

they will, they all changed to what I'm eating.

Cliché, yes, but " lead by example " helps too - if you're all eating better

portions, better food, you all win. That one can take a

bit of time (3-4 weeks maybe?) but what a rush when you realize things have

slowly changed not only for you, but for others too...

for the better. And you didn't even have to nag.

I got grief from my kids on some of it. Then it turned to ignoring me, now they

ask for the same thing I'm having.

It IS worth it. I think eating is a " one encounter at a time " war. Win this

one, move to the next, tune. Lather, rinse, repeat.

I'm sure others will have better ways of saying it, but I hope this helps.

[Guest guest]

Jas,

What family members do you have? Wife and kids? How old are the kids?

Sara

> My family does try, but I let myself down.

>

> Jas

>

>

> >

> > laxdoctor77@y... wrote:

> > I guess most of you live alone. I have several family mebers who

> are

> > not doing BFL. How do I work around them? They have choices to.

> >

[Guest guest]

Well actually self control is really an issue here, how bad do you want this

How bad do you want to feel good about yourself. Who is in control, you or

the food. You have to make a decision to pick that food up and stick it in

your mouth, the food doesnt make the decision for you and jump there. You

have to love yourself enough to realize what you really want. Take a walk

instead of watching tv, read a book, listen to music, meditate. Find one

thing that will make you feel better and do it. Eating out of boredom is a

habit that can be broken. Food is a fuel, food is a fuel. Chant that 20

times 3 times a day. It will help.

Nora

[Guest guest]

PPPPPPHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTT!!!!!

> Well actually self control is really an issue here, how bad do you

want this

>

> How bad do you want to feel good about yourself. Who is in

control, you or

> the food. You have to make a decision to pick that food up and

stick it in

> your mouth, the food doesnt make the decision for you and jump

there. You

> have to love yourself enough to realize what you really want. Take

a walk

> instead of watching tv, read a book, listen to music, meditate.

Find one

> thing that will make you feel better and do it. Eating out of

boredom is a

> habit that can be broken. Food is a fuel, food is a fuel. Chant

that 20

> times 3 times a day. It will help.

>

> Nora

>

>

[Guest guest]

This is the same person, and he was not booted off,

just " identified " .

I'm sorry for this gentleman that he's had a rough

medical history, but like you say, many of us have.

And like I learned when I worked with AIDS

patients, just because someone has a disease does

NOT mean they're automatically absolved of their

other " issues " . A sick jerk is still a jerk.

At some point you either stop using your medical

history as an excuse and pull yourself up by your

bootstraps, or you don't. If you don't, don't

expect the universe to continue to coddle you.

My solution? I'm going on " digest " so I can scroll

past these negative messages and continue on my

POSITIVE journey. Thanks to those of you who have

shared your BFL advice and tips with me, harsh or

not! :-)

Have a great BFL day!

> > > Well actually self control is really an issue here, how bad do

you want this

> > >

> > > How bad do you want to feel good about yourself. Who is in

> > control, you or the food. You have to make a decision to pick

that food up and stick it in your mouth, the food doesnt make the

decision for you and jump there. You have to love yourself enough

to realize what you really want. Take a walk instead of watching

tv, read a book, listen to music, meditate. Find one thing that

will make you feel better and do it. Eating out of boredom is a

habit that can be broken. Food is a fuel, food is a fuel. Chant

that 20 times 3 times a day. It will help.

> > >

> > > Nora

> > >