Guest guest Posted March 12, 2002 Report Share Posted March 12, 2002 I have never had this type problem as I was very open with my friends and associates from the start. I felt that , if my having surgery to lose weight and become more healthy, I could inspire someone to take a good look at theirselves and do something serious about thier weight and health, then great. I dont mind being asked questions... and hope that I have at least caused one person to seriously consider wls as an option for weight loss and better health. However, I do understand that all wls patients do not feel that they want or need to disclose how they are maintaining weight loss or becoming more healthy individuals and I respect their right to their privacy. Take care Hugs, Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 12, 2002 Report Share Posted March 12, 2002 I have never had this type problem as I was very open with my friends and associates from the start. I felt that , if my having surgery to lose weight and become more healthy, I could inspire someone to take a good look at theirselves and do something serious about thier weight and health, then great. I dont mind being asked questions... and hope that I have at least caused one person to seriously consider wls as an option for weight loss and better health. However, I do understand that all wls patients do not feel that they want or need to disclose how they are maintaining weight loss or becoming more healthy individuals and I respect their right to their privacy. Take care Hugs, Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 12, 2002 Report Share Posted March 12, 2002 Hi I though I would warn the pre ops about so called friends and who to trust. I had a incident this morning.Ok to be fair it was not a nasty one but I still felt very uneasy. I have only told a couple of people about my surgery. Other folk know I have been in hospital for a op but dont know what for. I dont really consider it any one elses business but my own. I walk into my local Mother and toddler group this morning not having been for a while.About a dozen mums were sitting and they all instantly started to ask questions. How much weight I had lost,what do I eat Ect. I was taken aback and really embarrassed.I didnt want to talk about it but answered the questions politely. I left not much later before more people and more questions. Out of the dozen mums I had only talked to one about it. Some one I thought I could trust. I never said to her keep it to your self I just assumed she would. So let this be a lesson to you. I am suppose to be out tonight but I cant face it now as it is a school thing and I know more of the mums will be there and I just cant face more public humiliation. I have a very upset daughter as I have let her down again. So pre ops watch who you are talking to. You may think before the op you are not bothered by what people think but believe me after you feel like the local freak. I am suffering with depression at the moment and this hasnt helped. Dont let this put you of just be careful what you say. Please reply to: gm4wll@... () gm4wll@... () See our web-site: www.qsl.net/gm4wll ---------- --- Outgoing mail is certified Virus Free. Checked by AVG anti-virus system (http://www.grisoft.com). Version: 6.0.333 / Virus Database: 187 - Release Date: 08/03/02 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 12, 2002 Report Share Posted March 12, 2002 : Ok, at the risk of opening my mouth too soon here in this group, let me respond to your warning. I also haven't told very many people. Basically about 5 people know, my mother, one of my sisters, my cousin, my roomate, my friend , and my best friend's little sister.. so that is 6 actually.. Anyway, my reasoning for not telling everyone is that 1- I know from certain parts of my family I will get flack. My friend is discussing this procedure with her doctor, and she weighs in at just about 400lbs, she went home and talked to her family and she was so excited.. Then her aunt, who has weighed no more then 120lbs her entire life told her that this was a cop out for all those who were fat. I definitely know that i'd get that response from some people. I come from a large family, large meaning many, and not one of them are overweight. I am the throwback. I was always big, and have heard for my entire life that I was doing this to myself. Whether I ate myself into this condition is neither here nor there. That I can dig myself out of it, that is the main point here. The fact that my mother didn't approve at first was very hard on me, but I have to say that in her defense, she didn't know verymuch about it, and her disapproval was due to ignorance. She thought I was hurting myself, that by having this surgery done I was going to ruin my body and never really be healthy again just in order to be skinny. Now that she has asked around and investigated for herself, she is behind me 300%. Ignorance is definitely an issue with people, and so maybe the fact that they were asking questions wasn't out of ugliness, but genuine curiousity. I am definitely not embarassed by what i am going to have done. By having this surgery I'll be able to sleep at night, I'll get rid of my poor circulation, my reproductive system, which has shut down due to my weight, will be kick started, and my headaches will ease.. I will feel better about myself, I will look better, and I will enjoy living my own skin. I will, however, not tell alot of people till after it is done. I never intend it to be a secret, i want people my size and larger to know how I accomplished what I did, so that they know their options in life aren't to hide in a house. I dread the conversations with people who are going to be judgmental, but I know it can't be avoided. I will be weeding out friends who aren't really friends.. Maybe this is just another step for me in healing. Perhaps all those people who's opinions have the ability to drag me down are some of the reasons why I am miserable the way I am? Who knows.. I do know this.. Put your chin up , and it will all be good! There will be those who are looking for gossip, but there are also going to be those who are looking for guidance!! They are the ones that matter!! Thinking of you!! Mikki (btw, if i was out of line, you may send me ugly emails! ) Ava.. maybe you decided i was harmless too soon Pffft!! > Hi > I though I would warn the pre ops about so called friends and who to trust. I had a incident this morning.Ok to be fair it was not a nasty one but I still felt very uneasy. I have only told a couple of people about my surgery. Other folk know I have been in hospital for a op but dont know what for. I dont really consider it any one elses business but my own. > > I walk into my local Mother and toddler group this morning not having been for a while.About a dozen mums were sitting and they all instantly started to ask questions. How much weight I had lost,what do I eat Ect. I was taken aback and really embarrassed.I didnt want to talk about it but answered the questions politely. I left not much later before more people and more questions. > Out of the dozen mums I had only talked to one about it. Some one I thought I could trust. I never said to her keep it to your self I just assumed she would. > > So let this be a lesson to you. I am suppose to be out tonight but I cant face it now as it is a school thing and I know more of the mums will be there and I just cant face more public humiliation. I have a very upset daughter as I have let her down again. > > So pre ops watch who you are talking to. You may think before the op you are not bothered by what people think but believe me after you feel like the local freak. I am suffering with depression at the moment and this hasnt helped. > > Dont let this put you of just be careful what you say. > > > > > > Please reply to: > gm4wll@t... () > gm4wll@q... () > > See our web-site: www.qsl.net/gm4wll > > ---------- > > > --- > Outgoing mail is certified Virus Free. > Checked by AVG anti-virus system (http://www.grisoft.com). > Version: 6.0.333 / Virus Database: 187 - Release Date: 08/03/02 > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 12, 2002 Report Share Posted March 12, 2002 DEAR MIKKI--No, I'm not gonna zot you! Telling the truth is quite different than 'flaming' someone, or trying to tell folks what THEIR experience will be like! In your post, you just told the truth--and, most generally, nobody here sends each other nasty emails!!! I, for one, like what you said... I particularly liked your problem- solving. I, too, can't address all the reasons I got to be 287 pounds. However, I knew how I could solve the problem--so that's what I did. I just had to start from where I was; I couldn't go back to being 22 years old, weighing 206 and solve the problem at that point. I was over 40 and 287--and that's where I started to solve it! I feel bad for your 400+ pound friend; if she allows anyone to talk her out of it--if WLS is something she has decided for herself--then she may be seriously shortening her future... I wish her good luck in whatever she goes for--she's certainly welcome to join our little group! Love, Ava Lee In GastricBypass-InfoCentral@y..., " cajunfrys " <Mikki@c...> wrote: > : > > Ok, at the risk of opening my mouth too soon here in this group, let > me respond to your warning. > > I also haven't told very many people. Basically about 5 people know, > my mother, one of my sisters, my cousin, my roomate, my friend > , and my best friend's little sister.. so that is 6 actually.. > > Anyway, my reasoning for not telling everyone is that 1- I know from > certain parts of my family I will get flack. My friend is > discussing this procedure with her doctor, and she weighs in at just > about 400lbs, she went home and talked to her family and she was so > excited.. Then her aunt, who has weighed no more then 120lbs her > entire life told her that this was a cop out for all those who were > fat. > > I definitely know that i'd get that response from some people. I > come from a large family, large meaning many, and not one of them are > overweight. I am the throwback. I was always big, and have heard > for my entire life that I was doing this to myself. Whether I ate > myself into this condition is neither here nor there. That I can dig > myself out of it, that is the main point here. > > The fact that my mother didn't approve at first was very hard on me, > but I have to say that in her defense, she didn't know verymuch about > it, and her disapproval was due to ignorance. She thought I was > hurting myself, that by having this surgery done I was going to ruin > my body and never really be healthy again just in order to be > skinny. Now that she has asked around and investigated for herself, > she is behind me 300%. > > Ignorance is definitely an issue with people, and so maybe the fact > that they were asking questions wasn't out of ugliness, but genuine > curiousity. > > I am definitely not embarassed by what i am going to have done. By > having this surgery I'll be able to sleep at night, I'll get rid of > my poor circulation, my reproductive system, which has shut down due > to my weight, will be kick started, and my headaches will ease.. I > will feel better about myself, I will look better, and I will enjoy > living my own skin. > > I will, however, not tell alot of people till after it is done. I > never intend it to be a secret, i want people my size and larger to > know how I accomplished what I did, so that they know their options > in life aren't to hide in a house. > > I dread the conversations with people who are going to be judgmental, > but I know it can't be avoided. I will be weeding out friends who > aren't really friends.. Maybe this is just another step for me in > healing. Perhaps all those people who's opinions have the ability to > drag me down are some of the reasons why I am miserable the way I > am? Who knows.. > > I do know this.. Put your chin up , and it will all be good! > There will be those who are looking for gossip, but there are also > going to be those who are looking for guidance!! They are the ones > that matter!! > > Thinking of you!! > > Mikki (btw, if i was out of line, you may send me ugly emails! ) > > Ava.. maybe you decided i was harmless too soon Pffft!! > > > > Hi > > I though I would warn the pre ops about so called friends and who > to trust. I had a incident this morning.Ok to be fair it was not a > nasty one but I still felt very uneasy. I have only told a couple of > people about my surgery. Other folk know I have been in hospital for > a op but dont know what for. I dont really consider it any one elses > business but my own. > > > > I walk into my local Mother and toddler group this morning not > having been for a while.About a dozen mums were sitting and they all > instantly started to ask questions. How much weight I had lost,what > do I eat Ect. I was taken aback and really embarrassed.I didnt want > to talk about it but answered the questions politely. I left not much > later before more people and more questions. > > Out of the dozen mums I had only talked to one about it. Some one I > thought I could trust. I never said to her keep it to your self I > just assumed she would. > > > > So let this be a lesson to you. I am suppose to be out tonight but > I cant face it now as it is a school thing and I know more of the > mums will be there and I just cant face more public humiliation. I > have a very upset daughter as I have let her down again. > > > > So pre ops watch who you are talking to. You may think before the > op you are not bothered by what people think but believe me after you > feel like the local freak. I am suffering with depression at the > moment and this hasnt helped. > > > > Dont let this put you of just be careful what you say. > > > > > > > > > > > > Please reply to: > > gm4wll@t... () > > gm4wll@q... () > > > > See our web-site: www.qsl.net/gm4wll > > > > ---------- > > > > > > --- > > Outgoing mail is certified Virus Free. > > Checked by AVG anti-virus system (http://www.grisoft.com). > > Version: 6.0.333 / Virus Database: 187 - Release Date: 08/03/02 > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 12, 2002 Report Share Posted March 12, 2002 DEAR MIKKI--No, I'm not gonna zot you! Telling the truth is quite different than 'flaming' someone, or trying to tell folks what THEIR experience will be like! In your post, you just told the truth--and, most generally, nobody here sends each other nasty emails!!! I, for one, like what you said... I particularly liked your problem- solving. I, too, can't address all the reasons I got to be 287 pounds. However, I knew how I could solve the problem--so that's what I did. I just had to start from where I was; I couldn't go back to being 22 years old, weighing 206 and solve the problem at that point. I was over 40 and 287--and that's where I started to solve it! I feel bad for your 400+ pound friend; if she allows anyone to talk her out of it--if WLS is something she has decided for herself--then she may be seriously shortening her future... I wish her good luck in whatever she goes for--she's certainly welcome to join our little group! Love, Ava Lee In GastricBypass-InfoCentral@y..., " cajunfrys " <Mikki@c...> wrote: > : > > Ok, at the risk of opening my mouth too soon here in this group, let > me respond to your warning. > > I also haven't told very many people. Basically about 5 people know, > my mother, one of my sisters, my cousin, my roomate, my friend > , and my best friend's little sister.. so that is 6 actually.. > > Anyway, my reasoning for not telling everyone is that 1- I know from > certain parts of my family I will get flack. My friend is > discussing this procedure with her doctor, and she weighs in at just > about 400lbs, she went home and talked to her family and she was so > excited.. Then her aunt, who has weighed no more then 120lbs her > entire life told her that this was a cop out for all those who were > fat. > > I definitely know that i'd get that response from some people. I > come from a large family, large meaning many, and not one of them are > overweight. I am the throwback. I was always big, and have heard > for my entire life that I was doing this to myself. Whether I ate > myself into this condition is neither here nor there. That I can dig > myself out of it, that is the main point here. > > The fact that my mother didn't approve at first was very hard on me, > but I have to say that in her defense, she didn't know verymuch about > it, and her disapproval was due to ignorance. She thought I was > hurting myself, that by having this surgery done I was going to ruin > my body and never really be healthy again just in order to be > skinny. Now that she has asked around and investigated for herself, > she is behind me 300%. > > Ignorance is definitely an issue with people, and so maybe the fact > that they were asking questions wasn't out of ugliness, but genuine > curiousity. > > I am definitely not embarassed by what i am going to have done. By > having this surgery I'll be able to sleep at night, I'll get rid of > my poor circulation, my reproductive system, which has shut down due > to my weight, will be kick started, and my headaches will ease.. I > will feel better about myself, I will look better, and I will enjoy > living my own skin. > > I will, however, not tell alot of people till after it is done. I > never intend it to be a secret, i want people my size and larger to > know how I accomplished what I did, so that they know their options > in life aren't to hide in a house. > > I dread the conversations with people who are going to be judgmental, > but I know it can't be avoided. I will be weeding out friends who > aren't really friends.. Maybe this is just another step for me in > healing. Perhaps all those people who's opinions have the ability to > drag me down are some of the reasons why I am miserable the way I > am? Who knows.. > > I do know this.. Put your chin up , and it will all be good! > There will be those who are looking for gossip, but there are also > going to be those who are looking for guidance!! They are the ones > that matter!! > > Thinking of you!! > > Mikki (btw, if i was out of line, you may send me ugly emails! ) > > Ava.. maybe you decided i was harmless too soon Pffft!! > > > > Hi > > I though I would warn the pre ops about so called friends and who > to trust. I had a incident this morning.Ok to be fair it was not a > nasty one but I still felt very uneasy. I have only told a couple of > people about my surgery. Other folk know I have been in hospital for > a op but dont know what for. I dont really consider it any one elses > business but my own. > > > > I walk into my local Mother and toddler group this morning not > having been for a while.About a dozen mums were sitting and they all > instantly started to ask questions. How much weight I had lost,what > do I eat Ect. I was taken aback and really embarrassed.I didnt want > to talk about it but answered the questions politely. I left not much > later before more people and more questions. > > Out of the dozen mums I had only talked to one about it. Some one I > thought I could trust. I never said to her keep it to your self I > just assumed she would. > > > > So let this be a lesson to you. I am suppose to be out tonight but > I cant face it now as it is a school thing and I know more of the > mums will be there and I just cant face more public humiliation. I > have a very upset daughter as I have let her down again. > > > > So pre ops watch who you are talking to. You may think before the > op you are not bothered by what people think but believe me after you > feel like the local freak. I am suffering with depression at the > moment and this hasnt helped. > > > > Dont let this put you of just be careful what you say. > > > > > > > > > > > > Please reply to: > > gm4wll@t... () > > gm4wll@q... () > > > > See our web-site: www.qsl.net/gm4wll > > > > ---------- > > > > > > --- > > Outgoing mail is certified Virus Free. > > Checked by AVG anti-virus system (http://www.grisoft.com). > > Version: 6.0.333 / Virus Database: 187 - Release Date: 08/03/02 > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 12, 2002 Report Share Posted March 12, 2002 Hi Mikki No nothing you have said has offended me. All my family and close friends are write behind me. I just dont want to be the subject of school gossip. I told certain people who I thought would understand and keep it to them selfs. If I wanted the whole place to know it is for me to tell them. So far everyone has been very kind but it bothers me what they are saying behind my back. I am feeling very sensitive at the moment so may be I am reading more into it than there is. Im sure they have more interesting things to talk about than me LOl. And if another person tells me they are going to get the op done to as it is so easy to lose weight I am going to scream LOL >: > >Ok, at the risk of opening my mouth too soon here in this group, let >me respond to your warning. > >I also haven't told very many people. Basically about 5 people know, >my mother, one of my sisters, my cousin, my roomate, my friend >, and my best friend's little sister.. so that is 6 actually.. > >Anyway, my reasoning for not telling everyone is that 1- I know from >certain parts of my family I will get flack. My friend is >discussing this procedure with her doctor, and she weighs in at just >about 400lbs, she went home and talked to her family and she was so >excited.. Then her aunt, who has weighed no more then 120lbs her >entire life told her that this was a cop out for all those who were >fat. > >I definitely know that i'd get that response from some people. I >come from a large family, large meaning many, and not one of them are >overweight. I am the throwback. I was always big, and have heard >for my entire life that I was doing this to myself. Whether I ate >myself into this condition is neither here nor there. That I can dig >myself out of it, that is the main point here. > >The fact that my mother didn't approve at first was very hard on me, >but I have to say that in her defense, she didn't know verymuch about >it, and her disapproval was due to ignorance. She thought I was >hurting myself, that by having this surgery done I was going to ruin >my body and never really be healthy again just in order to be >skinny. Now that she has asked around and investigated for herself, >she is behind me 300%. > >Ignorance is definitely an issue with people, and so maybe the fact >that they were asking questions wasn't out of ugliness, but genuine >curiousity. > >I am definitely not embarassed by what i am going to have done. By >having this surgery I'll be able to sleep at night, I'll get rid of >my poor circulation, my reproductive system, which has shut down due >to my weight, will be kick started, and my headaches will ease.. I >will feel better about myself, I will look better, and I will enjoy >living my own skin. > >I will, however, not tell alot of people till after it is done. I >never intend it to be a secret, i want people my size and larger to >know how I accomplished what I did, so that they know their options >in life aren't to hide in a house. > >I dread the conversations with people who are going to be judgmental, >but I know it can't be avoided. I will be weeding out friends who >aren't really friends.. Maybe this is just another step for me in >healing. Perhaps all those people who's opinions have the ability to >drag me down are some of the reasons why I am miserable the way I >am? Who knows.. > >I do know this.. Put your chin up , and it will all be good! >There will be those who are looking for gossip, but there are also >going to be those who are looking for guidance!! They are the ones >that matter!! > >Thinking of you!! > >Mikki (btw, if i was out of line, you may send me ugly emails! ) > > Ava.. maybe you decided i was harmless too soon Pffft!! > >- ---------- --- Outgoing mail is certified Virus Free. Checked by AVG anti-virus system (http://www.grisoft.com). Version: 6.0.333 / Virus Database: 187 - Release Date: 08/03/02 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 12, 2002 Report Share Posted March 12, 2002 Hi Mikki No nothing you have said has offended me. All my family and close friends are write behind me. I just dont want to be the subject of school gossip. I told certain people who I thought would understand and keep it to them selfs. If I wanted the whole place to know it is for me to tell them. So far everyone has been very kind but it bothers me what they are saying behind my back. I am feeling very sensitive at the moment so may be I am reading more into it than there is. Im sure they have more interesting things to talk about than me LOl. And if another person tells me they are going to get the op done to as it is so easy to lose weight I am going to scream LOL >: > >Ok, at the risk of opening my mouth too soon here in this group, let >me respond to your warning. > >I also haven't told very many people. Basically about 5 people know, >my mother, one of my sisters, my cousin, my roomate, my friend >, and my best friend's little sister.. so that is 6 actually.. > >Anyway, my reasoning for not telling everyone is that 1- I know from >certain parts of my family I will get flack. My friend is >discussing this procedure with her doctor, and she weighs in at just >about 400lbs, she went home and talked to her family and she was so >excited.. Then her aunt, who has weighed no more then 120lbs her >entire life told her that this was a cop out for all those who were >fat. > >I definitely know that i'd get that response from some people. I >come from a large family, large meaning many, and not one of them are >overweight. I am the throwback. I was always big, and have heard >for my entire life that I was doing this to myself. Whether I ate >myself into this condition is neither here nor there. That I can dig >myself out of it, that is the main point here. > >The fact that my mother didn't approve at first was very hard on me, >but I have to say that in her defense, she didn't know verymuch about >it, and her disapproval was due to ignorance. She thought I was >hurting myself, that by having this surgery done I was going to ruin >my body and never really be healthy again just in order to be >skinny. Now that she has asked around and investigated for herself, >she is behind me 300%. > >Ignorance is definitely an issue with people, and so maybe the fact >that they were asking questions wasn't out of ugliness, but genuine >curiousity. > >I am definitely not embarassed by what i am going to have done. By >having this surgery I'll be able to sleep at night, I'll get rid of >my poor circulation, my reproductive system, which has shut down due >to my weight, will be kick started, and my headaches will ease.. I >will feel better about myself, I will look better, and I will enjoy >living my own skin. > >I will, however, not tell alot of people till after it is done. I >never intend it to be a secret, i want people my size and larger to >know how I accomplished what I did, so that they know their options >in life aren't to hide in a house. > >I dread the conversations with people who are going to be judgmental, >but I know it can't be avoided. I will be weeding out friends who >aren't really friends.. Maybe this is just another step for me in >healing. Perhaps all those people who's opinions have the ability to >drag me down are some of the reasons why I am miserable the way I >am? Who knows.. > >I do know this.. Put your chin up , and it will all be good! >There will be those who are looking for gossip, but there are also >going to be those who are looking for guidance!! They are the ones >that matter!! > >Thinking of you!! > >Mikki (btw, if i was out of line, you may send me ugly emails! ) > > Ava.. maybe you decided i was harmless too soon Pffft!! > >- ---------- --- Outgoing mail is certified Virus Free. Checked by AVG anti-virus system (http://www.grisoft.com). Version: 6.0.333 / Virus Database: 187 - Release Date: 08/03/02 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 12, 2002 Report Share Posted March 12, 2002 Your right.. Do you want me to kick their asses?.. can we say asses here? Just let me know , I have got your back! Mikki > Hi Mikki > No nothing you have said has offended me. > All my family and close friends are write behind me. I just dont want to be the subject of school gossip. I told certain people who I thought would understand and keep it to them selfs. If I wanted the whole place to know it is for me to tell them. So far everyone has been very kind but it bothers me what they are saying behind my back. I am feeling very sensitive at the moment so may be I am reading more into it than there is. Im sure they have more interesting things to talk about than me LOl. > > And if another person tells me they are going to get the op done to as it is so easy to lose weight I am going to scream LOL > > > > >: > > > >Ok, at the risk of opening my mouth too soon here in this group, let > >me respond to your warning. > > > >I also haven't told very many people. Basically about 5 people know, > >my mother, one of my sisters, my cousin, my roomate, my friend > >, and my best friend's little sister.. so that is 6 actually.. > > > >Anyway, my reasoning for not telling everyone is that 1- I know from > >certain parts of my family I will get flack. My friend is > >discussing this procedure with her doctor, and she weighs in at just > >about 400lbs, she went home and talked to her family and she was so > >excited.. Then her aunt, who has weighed no more then 120lbs her > >entire life told her that this was a cop out for all those who were > >fat. > > > >I definitely know that i'd get that response from some people. I > >come from a large family, large meaning many, and not one of them are > >overweight. I am the throwback. I was always big, and have heard > >for my entire life that I was doing this to myself. Whether I ate > >myself into this condition is neither here nor there. That I can dig > >myself out of it, that is the main point here. > > > >The fact that my mother didn't approve at first was very hard on me, > >but I have to say that in her defense, she didn't know verymuch about > >it, and her disapproval was due to ignorance. She thought I was > >hurting myself, that by having this surgery done I was going to ruin > >my body and never really be healthy again just in order to be > >skinny. Now that she has asked around and investigated for herself, > >she is behind me 300%. > > > >Ignorance is definitely an issue with people, and so maybe the fact > >that they were asking questions wasn't out of ugliness, but genuine > >curiousity. > > > >I am definitely not embarassed by what i am going to have done. By > >having this surgery I'll be able to sleep at night, I'll get rid of > >my poor circulation, my reproductive system, which has shut down due > >to my weight, will be kick started, and my headaches will ease.. I > >will feel better about myself, I will look better, and I will enjoy > >living my own skin. > > > >I will, however, not tell alot of people till after it is done. I > >never intend it to be a secret, i want people my size and larger to > >know how I accomplished what I did, so that they know their options > >in life aren't to hide in a house. > > > >I dread the conversations with people who are going to be judgmental, > >but I know it can't be avoided. I will be weeding out friends who > >aren't really friends.. Maybe this is just another step for me in > >healing. Perhaps all those people who's opinions have the ability to > >drag me down are some of the reasons why I am miserable the way I > >am? Who knows.. > > > >I do know this.. Put your chin up , and it will all be good! > >There will be those who are looking for gossip, but there are also > >going to be those who are looking for guidance!! They are the ones > >that matter!! > > > >Thinking of you!! > > > >Mikki (btw, if i was out of line, you may send me ugly emails! ) > > > > Ava.. maybe you decided i was harmless too soon Pffft!! > > > >- > > > ---------- > > > --- > Outgoing mail is certified Virus Free. > Checked by AVG anti-virus system (http://www.grisoft.com). > Version: 6.0.333 / Virus Database: 187 - Release Date: 08/03/02 > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 12, 2002 Report Share Posted March 12, 2002 Your right.. Do you want me to kick their asses?.. can we say asses here? Just let me know , I have got your back! Mikki > Hi Mikki > No nothing you have said has offended me. > All my family and close friends are write behind me. I just dont want to be the subject of school gossip. I told certain people who I thought would understand and keep it to them selfs. If I wanted the whole place to know it is for me to tell them. So far everyone has been very kind but it bothers me what they are saying behind my back. I am feeling very sensitive at the moment so may be I am reading more into it than there is. Im sure they have more interesting things to talk about than me LOl. > > And if another person tells me they are going to get the op done to as it is so easy to lose weight I am going to scream LOL > > > > >: > > > >Ok, at the risk of opening my mouth too soon here in this group, let > >me respond to your warning. > > > >I also haven't told very many people. Basically about 5 people know, > >my mother, one of my sisters, my cousin, my roomate, my friend > >, and my best friend's little sister.. so that is 6 actually.. > > > >Anyway, my reasoning for not telling everyone is that 1- I know from > >certain parts of my family I will get flack. My friend is > >discussing this procedure with her doctor, and she weighs in at just > >about 400lbs, she went home and talked to her family and she was so > >excited.. Then her aunt, who has weighed no more then 120lbs her > >entire life told her that this was a cop out for all those who were > >fat. > > > >I definitely know that i'd get that response from some people. I > >come from a large family, large meaning many, and not one of them are > >overweight. I am the throwback. I was always big, and have heard > >for my entire life that I was doing this to myself. Whether I ate > >myself into this condition is neither here nor there. That I can dig > >myself out of it, that is the main point here. > > > >The fact that my mother didn't approve at first was very hard on me, > >but I have to say that in her defense, she didn't know verymuch about > >it, and her disapproval was due to ignorance. She thought I was > >hurting myself, that by having this surgery done I was going to ruin > >my body and never really be healthy again just in order to be > >skinny. Now that she has asked around and investigated for herself, > >she is behind me 300%. > > > >Ignorance is definitely an issue with people, and so maybe the fact > >that they were asking questions wasn't out of ugliness, but genuine > >curiousity. > > > >I am definitely not embarassed by what i am going to have done. By > >having this surgery I'll be able to sleep at night, I'll get rid of > >my poor circulation, my reproductive system, which has shut down due > >to my weight, will be kick started, and my headaches will ease.. I > >will feel better about myself, I will look better, and I will enjoy > >living my own skin. > > > >I will, however, not tell alot of people till after it is done. I > >never intend it to be a secret, i want people my size and larger to > >know how I accomplished what I did, so that they know their options > >in life aren't to hide in a house. > > > >I dread the conversations with people who are going to be judgmental, > >but I know it can't be avoided. I will be weeding out friends who > >aren't really friends.. Maybe this is just another step for me in > >healing. Perhaps all those people who's opinions have the ability to > >drag me down are some of the reasons why I am miserable the way I > >am? Who knows.. > > > >I do know this.. Put your chin up , and it will all be good! > >There will be those who are looking for gossip, but there are also > >going to be those who are looking for guidance!! They are the ones > >that matter!! > > > >Thinking of you!! > > > >Mikki (btw, if i was out of line, you may send me ugly emails! ) > > > > Ava.. maybe you decided i was harmless too soon Pffft!! > > > >- > > > ---------- > > > --- > Outgoing mail is certified Virus Free. > Checked by AVG anti-virus system (http://www.grisoft.com). > Version: 6.0.333 / Virus Database: 187 - Release Date: 08/03/02 > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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