& her boys

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My roommate has rsd & sometimes I try to help her with her email. She talks I type. I saw your email and my heart went out to you. I am a divorced mother of three a 20 year old girl, 17 year old son and a 14 yr. old son. NO ONE ELSE can feel our children's pain like WE (the mom) can. I know I have a lot of well meaning friends in my life & I love them to death, but unless you have been there done that & I mean (EXACTLY THE SAME CIRCUMSTANCES) no one can quite understand how it is. Just hang in there and do the best you can. I was the director for child abuse & neglect in this county for 10 years. There were many experts that did classes and they all agreed LOVE goes along ways. The most important thing you can give a child is love! I am not saying that they don't need discipline BUT everyone circumstances are different and you know what your boys need more than anyone, Hang in there! I can tell you love your boys and from many of the cases I've seen THAT is 99% of the battle. Believe me I know it is a battle raising kids today. I use to try to encourage parents to focus on the good behavior & to try to reward that behavior and amazingly it seemed to work for many. A lot of the time they just wanted attention anyway and it reinforced getting it in a positive way instead of a negative way..Teenager are a JOY! Ha. Anyway you do deserve respect - I am sure that they love you and because of your love for them I BET they will be fine adults. (Just rough teenage years) A friend in raising children -