Attachment issues?

[Guest guest]

Hi!

Someone in a recent post mentioned those awful wire-frame monkey

mothers used in a study of attachment and bonding.

Any reference to this study makes me want to vomit. Literally. I have

to stop reading. (I have read about this study in the past.) I also

was deeply disturbed for days after watching the movie A.I. - the

little robot boy - all he wanted was for his mother to love him. I

couldn't shake the horrible, nauseated feeling for days.

Also, a few years ago, after my daughter was born, I read a book

called, " Becoming Attached, " on attachment theory (ironically given

to me by my BPD mother who works in a mental health clinic). It was a

great book and it made me very happy that I was trying my best to

practice attachment parenting, but the beginning of the book, where

children with attachment disorders and the history of attachment

research were discussed, was extremely difficult for me to read. I

cannot be subjective about this at all. When reading the part about

the babies in rows upon rows of cribs, and the one baby who was

thriving for some unknown reason - until it was discovered that the

cleaning lady stopped and rocked this baby every night - made me cry.

Hard.

So what I'm wondering is... is this a K.O. thing, or does the general

public have this reaction to stuff like this, or is it purely a me

thing?? I mean, I find it entirely impossible to be objective at all,

even when the subjects were monkeys, not people.

Just curious... (btw, I always considered myself to be attached to my

mother, but who knows? She seemed better when I was littler, but...)

Tara