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I took this girl [my date] for a walk [because we were on a double-date] away from the other couple and apologized for being so dry and boring and told her what was up... I don't WANT to have to tell people 'what's up'...Hello Scot,

This is from one single male PSCer to another male PSCer.

You are 24 i am 36 ,(just for the record).

The good old situation of telling females that you have PSC or not etc.(ie having to explain yourself etc)

My experience and again i am only talking about my experience is say nothing for a long time.

That way you will be able to go out on dates and have a bit of fun.

Like it or not and i am not pulling any punches here 80% will walk the minute you tell them you have PSC .

So that leaves 20% (i hope).

If you tell a girl you have just met , do not be surprised if your calls are not returned.

So keep your mouth shut , they do not need to know.

After at least 4-5 months if you think things are going some were then maybe tell them.

But be warned the 80/20 rule will still apply.

No its not nice , yes it would be nice to have a understanding partner before dx.

But you didnt and neither did i.

I know exactly what you are going through as i am in the middle of it right now.

Accept the 80/20 rule and make it work for you and not against you.(Because believe me i must have met all the wrong women in Ireland so far , but i am changing tactics very fast)

No person wants to hear that the other person is tired when they first meet.

Get out there meet as many woman as you can , keep your mouth shut, and if you are tired dont tell them and just get on with it

You can collaspe when you have got home AFTER YOU HAD FUN and felt good.

This bloody disease can pull you in to the gutter in your head if you are not careful.

Get out , make as many mistakes as you can , pick your self up (and if you cant do it on your own get somebody professional to help ) .

If you let this take over your life it will make your life a misery.

After the first 10 or so rejections, you get used to it ,accept that the 20% will be hard to find.

So keep your mouth shut and get out there.

Get as angry as hell , but when your with a girl zip it.

And maybe and its just a maybe after having had a nice date , it may allow you to feel a little better about everything else.

Regards from a single male PSCer who continues to get it wrong more times than i get it right, but i am learning and doing the best i can )