Re: Gloria's Update> Lyncia

March 27, 2010

Lyncia ? I hope you are ok. What do you mean that you are " through " ? I know

it's hard. Is there anyway that you can financially manage to come to Fla. to

spend time with your friends ? I think that would do so much to lift your

spirits ! And we could meet and kick up our heels. You would feel very tiny next

to me. Yes, I'm tall at 5' 8 " but I weigh 184lbs. And ANYONE that would be

shallow enough to be affected by your weight really isn't worth worrying about.

I saw your picture and you're a VERY pretty lady. Maybe you're just having

trouble seeing that for yourself because you're buried under so much strain. I'm

truly considering trying to check myself into a psych ward just as a vacation.

I'm so very drained physically and emotionally that I go to bed and get up each

day thinking I can't and don't want to make it through another one. BUT, I can't

take that into my own hands so I'm just trying to do the best I can. Please know

we ALL think so very highly of you and PLEASE let us know you're ok...Debbie

> >

> > From: Gloria <gadamscanyahoo (DOT) ca>

> > Subject: Gloria's Update

> > To: livercirrhosissuppo rtyahoogroups (DOT) com

> > Date: Saturday, March 27, 2010, 12:23 AM

> >

> > Sorry I have not been in contact everyone!!! Just been an extremely

> > emotional and busy time.

> > Well, I imagine that everyone here, whether male or female, can

> > understand that my husband is really going through a great deal of fear

> > himself. Doesn't know nor wants to think it possible that his wife

> > might not always be able to keep the decks clear for him. He's just not

> > easily able to express the fear as an emotion!! Therefore, anytime that

> > things get scary for him, he prefers to go into his cave and bury

> > himself deep. This time, of course which had already been quite awhile,

> > I had to tread to that opening and haul him out!! That's always when he

> > turns his anger on me; because, he wasn't finished getting his mind

> > sorted. (This is from Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus)

> > We even went for a counselling session together and with a fella that is

> > a long timer in our step 12 program. Even though Hank tried his hardest

> > that first day, hubby still wasn't ready to admit an emotion (at least

> > not without the " but " she). Instead, he felt picked on!! I've worked

> > at pointing out that no one was ganging up on him. It was simple - he

> > had to let his face know that he didn't think he was angry because it

> > showed clearly.

> > It has taken until probably last night; but, I believe the light is

> > beginning to get into that cave and he's on the verge of coming out with

> > a much healthier attitude!!! Besides, as I've made it extremely clear -

> > I have no more time nor the emotional stamina to wait any longer. He

> > just has to put his " run away " attitude totally away now - or he will

> > regret it for the rest of the days that HP allows him. This was

> > definitely not the time to somehow patiently wait until he was ready to

> > come out of that cave. It was time for him to stand up and be my white

> > knight!!!

> > So, for now, the news is much better. He actually gave me a surprising

> > and warm kiss on his way out to his meeting tonight!!

> > Thanks to everyone for your understanding and support. I truly have the

> > highest regard for all of you!!!!

> > Gloria

> >

March 27, 2010