Re: some good thoughts

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Thank you, Jill.  Think of all those days that our hubbies took care of the

whole family.  Mine would go food shopping late at night when our twins were

babies and make a separate trip just for the baby items.  Now it's my turn to

do for him what he can't do.  Enjoy your wonderful guy and thank God for each

new day together.  (((hugs))) Jackie

Subject: Re: some good thoughts

To: livercirrhosissupport

Date: Saturday, February 27, 2010, 12:29 AM

 

Thanks for this post Jackie....I' m  so glad we are free to discuss thes

ethings here. Ed still frequently lhas uncontrollable diarrhea. I mean when it

hits...there' s no stopping it and it happens so fast with no warning.....

probably due to the ischemia from the clots....and he tries to clean up

his underwear etc without me knowing...but I do the laundry. .  I've laundered

and Spray and Washed " so many articles of clothing and even thrown away the

worst ones. . Thought those days pof poopy clothes were over.LOL!!  I know it's

embarrassing for him...even with everything we've been through all these many

years I don't mind either....It' 's so much harder on him than me,emotionally.

.... So thans for making me feel I'm not alone in this...It's difficult. Your

hubby is one very blessed man! I just can't praise you enough...even though I

know you'd never do it any other way.

                                       

                                    Love,Jill

 

We don't remember days, we remember moments.

Life is not measured by the breaths we take,but by the moments that take our

breath away.

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From: jckellermann <jckellermann@ yahoo.com>

To: livercirrhosderissu pport@yahoogroup s.com

Sent: Fri, February 26, 2010 9:20:14 PM

Subject: some good thoughts

 

Hi Everyone: Hope you're all having as good a day as can be today. Sometimes I

get time to just sit and think and relax. Today was one of those days. My

husband is pretty weak from having to take lactulose 3 times a day and not

having a big appetite besides. He has lost quite a bit of muscle mass and has a

hard time with routine things. Last week when we had the ambulance here, one of

the ambulance guys said to me that I might at some time have to consider putting

him in a nursing home. That was the day he went to the hospital, not one of his

good days. Today we got up and I got him into the shower. We have a nice shower

seat he can sit on, and my son installed a hand held shower head a couple of

days ago. That thing is a real Godsend. He sat on his seat and enjoyed a good

soaking and shampoo with a nice head massage. The portable shower head sure came

in handy a few nights ago when he had one of his " lactulose episodes " if you

know what I mean. I got

him into the shower, hosed him down, got clean clothes on him and got him back

to bed. Then I took the portable seat that goes over the toilet and stood it in

the shower and hosed it down. Much faster clean-up. Well, this morning, my

husband was remembering the episode from the other night and said he feels bad

for me that I have to do all this stuff for him. He said maybe he should go in a

nursing home. I got him all dressed and into his recliner, then I checked his

blood sugar, gave him his meds, breakfast and a shave and haircut. After that he

said he felt like a million bucks. I said to him " why should I put you in a

nursing home and pay them thousands of dollars to do what I can do for you? "

Then I told him it's kind of like being a baby the 2nd time around but this time

you're aware of it and you get to enjoy it. That got me thinking--I can remember

how scared I was 28 years ago when our twins were born. We only expected one

baby. Jimmy came into

the world without a name. I remember how scared I was when I brought them home

and wondered how would I know what to do to take care of them. Like everything

else, you learn as you go. Life is an adventure--a wonderful one. As the months

turned to years I learned many new things and had lots of fun being their mom.

On the days that I didn't get it right I tried something else until I did get it

right. Now 28 years later they have become nice young men. Now I'm dealing with

my " big baby. " On the days that I don't get it quite right I try something else

and I enjoy the good days when all is well in his world. We will be able to look

back on this experience someday and say " we done good! " There are blessings to

be found in each day. May you all be blessed with those good days frequently.

Jackie