Re: Sisters

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I think she is!! She sounds almost exactly like my lil sis!! Even the part about

marriage! My future brother-in-law graduates from law school in the next year or

two and intends to make a kept woman out of her. I guess KOs just have different

ways of reacting. Little sis is quickly becoming nada. It's a horrible thing to

say, but that makes me glad she has HPV. Her gyno said she may not be able to

have kids. I should think, " poor sis " , but instead it's " thank God, she won't

have anyone to abuse " .

I forgot about nada's funniest splitting instance when I made that post. I took

my SAT in 7th grade (it had something to do with a program at Duke, I think?)

and did very well. Well enough in fact that I was accepted to a couple early

college programs (I would skip high school) and several boarding schools (oh

God, how I wanted that!!!). I didn't go, don't really remember why. Instead I

went to the same high school nada did. She never moved more than 5 miles from

the house she grew up in. Anyway, nada insisted that sis sign up for the SAT as

well when she was in 7th grade, even though she wasn't asked to, which meant she

had to go through quite a lot of paperwork for a 12 year old. She did fill

everything out, had it signed, etc, but left the envelope (stamped and

addressed) sitting on her nightstand for almost a year AFTER the test date! Nada

was mad and somehow it became my fault. You'd probably guess because I didn't

mail it for her? Because I didn't push her to mail it

herself? Something semi-logical? Nope. Apparently, I did too well on the test.

She actually yelled at me until dawn for not intentionally doing badly, for

sister's sake. How was sis supposed to be the best if I kept raising the bar?

She STILL thinks that's why. Sis has never taken the SAT or ACT and it's all

because of 12 year old me. I get to laugh about this one for some reason. If it

hurt, I don't remember. It's just so absurd.

Jae

sage153 wrote: Hey there

Jae - is your sister maybe my sister too? I also did

everything that i was " supposed " to - didn't get into trouble with

drugs or alcohol, made good grades, cared for my three siblings and

would stay up all night doing housework thinking it might make nada

happy, worked hard and handed over all my wages, worked so hard

never to ask for anything - car, computer, clothes, etc., went to

the college of their choosing, studied the subjects they insisted

and abandoned all the career goals that " upset " nada (I remember

once saying I wanted to be a journalist...she said that she would

disown me, somehow having journalists in her family is beneath her??

What the ??? Journalists??).

My younger sister, on the other hand, reacted to my nada's insanity

by simply not caring...she refused to work, has ploughed through so

much of my parents' money with totaled cars, dropped courses, broken

leases, etc. In her teens she had fights, drank heavily, chain-

smokes, had lots of boyfriends, tattooed herself. Apparently all of

this was my fault. If only I had spoken in more glowing terms about

my Catholic high school experience in my own teens (so the nada

logic goes), my sister would not have worked so hard to get herself

thrown out of same Catholic high school and would have

developed " morals "

She transferred to a state school after community college but I'm

really not sure she graduated, there was some doubt about whether

she completed her last course - which I fell for paying for!! She

cannot hold down a job and last year married (this is cynical but

I'm pretty sure the guy promising her she would never have to work

had something to do with it!!) But despite my mother pretending to

faint at the thought of my sister marrying someone with no college

education, now she is the angel of the family, a wonderful mother

and housewife. (I remember my mother telling me when I was 4 or 5

and expressed admiration for my stay-at-home aunt - I was jealous of

my cousins' non-chaotic lifestyle - that she would never ever

forgive me if I became a housewife. That was the earliest in a long

line of " I'll never forgive you ifs... The last was " I'll never

speak to you again if you get married without me there " ,

unfortunately she has not kept her promise

Sorry for rambling, those are my thoughts on sister no. 1 (other two

siblings have different pathologies)

Sara

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> I was always the bad child though. She even refered to me as that

by way of introduction, even to her new employees! " This is my

daughter, Jae. She's the bad child. And this, (little sis) is the

good one. She's my little angel. " That used to make me SO mad. I

really did do everything I was supposed to. I doted on her, waited

on her hand and foot, never got in trouble at school, got a job at

16 and still worked for free at her office, graduated with honors,

went to a good college and never asked her for money for tuition of

books, etc. Sister? Ignored nada, or complained when asked to do

something, always in trouble at school, caught with boys in her

room, cigarettes, pot, alcohol, never got a job, demanded payment to

help nada at the office, never graduated from high school and had

nada pay for her to attend community college, which she flunked out

of after bankrupting me by running up my credit cards at the mall

while I was at work and she was SUPPOSED to be in school.

> Yet, in nada's eyes, little sis can do no wrong. Even when she

had to explain to nada why she has HPV and uterine damage from an

abortion, she's the good child. I got yelled at for that, by the

way. I was apparently supposed to keep a better eye on her.

>

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