Guest guest Posted April 20, 1999 Report Share Posted April 20, 1999 Gail, I am not fed up with the way this list is being handled. I don't think the plug should be pulled. And I'm not sure if we subscribers have that power anyway. Differences of opinion are not unwelcome. Words are potent forces. We can offer differing opinions that may in fact alienate others, but they should not be personally inflammatory or insulting. It may be a trite cliche, but, can't we disagree without being so disagreeable? All of us suffer stress either as a result of our condition, and maybe as a contributing cause of our condition, or it may have just become a vicious cycle. But we're hear to learn from and help each other, not cause more stress. Sometimes I feel like I'm drawn to this list, look it over, and then just lurk for awhile. Please, I'm not being facetious nor covertly unpleasant, but, maybe we need to back off and only post things that are explicitly relevant to VulvarDisorders. We have so much to give each other, NOT THE LEAST OF WHICH IS COMPASSION AND FORGIVENESS. Gail, you've given us some humorous funnies in the past; we could use a dose of humour now. Be the first to lighten our tone and get us back on track! Thanks for being there. Donna -------- >From: glrodney@... >To: Donna.Storter@... >Subject: RE: Re: Re: You have had it! >Date: April 19, 1999 > > > Fwd: Re: You have had it! > >Ladies: > >Is anyone else as fed up with Heidi's attitude as I am? I think her >behavior toward Michele was insensitive, unprofessional and inappropriate. >She sent me a similar letter awhile back, though nowhere near as nasty, for >similar reasons: a difference of opinion. I realize she's going through a >hard time, but if things are THAT difficult for her, then perhaps she needs >to step down as moderator and leave the rest of us alone. I don't >appreciate her intrusive methods, and I doubt that anyone else enjoys being >shot down every time we disagree with her " theories " or opinions. There ARE >other lists to belong to. I'm about ready to pull the plug on this one and >move on. It's creating more stress in my life, and that's the last thing >any of us needs, right?? > >I realizing I may be going out on a limb here, but I'm curious just how many >other women are silently fuming, disgusted, or otherwise upset by the list >messages lately. I also realize it might just calm down and then be fine >eventually, but as long as Heidi's the moderator and she continues in this >same fashion, I won't be comfortable sending any messages to the list, even >if I don't really care if she wants to kick me off. It's immature and I >won't play her game, and I don't like that she's been doing this to others >on the list as well. I do value the list as a resource and a means of >support, but there ARE other ways. If anyone is just as tired of this " big >fish in a small pond " garbage as I am, I say we do something about it. > >Replies? > >Sincerely, >Gail > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 20, 1999 Report Share Posted April 20, 1999 , We don't know what inflammatory messages Heidi had to resond to. We only know what she privately emailed that was illegally forwarded to us. My grandfather always said, It's a mighty thin board that only has one side. Every story has two sides/viewpoints. We should not harshly judge without knowledge of ALL the FACTS. I certainly don't have all the facts, but I do know that if I don't follow the rules that I agreed to when I subscribed, then I too will be subject to being removed from the list. I think the moderator has a duty to protect all us us, herself included, from personal flames. , you have a great point about our leader being the catalyst. She's not perfect, and I'm sure she knows mistakes are made on both ends of the list. Let's work together to keep this list the great resource it has been. I know I'm grateful to you, Gail, and all the others for you input. I need you too. Thanks for listening. Donna -------- >From: akemann@... >To: Donna.Storter@... >Subject: RE: Re: Re: You have had it! >Date: April 19, 1999 > >I ditto much of what you said. >If funny that a lot of the things she took issue with Dr. about, she >is doing herself! >Does absolute power really corrupt absolutely? I see these lists as " the >people's lists " .We are like grassworks organizers trying to stablish a >community of support and a voice. Leaders should be catalysts for that >effort, not " all powerful moderators " ! >What do you propose? I'll think on it. > > Fwd: Re: You have had it! >> >>Ladies: >> >>Is anyone else as fed up with Heidi's attitude as I am? I think her >>behavior toward Michele was insensitive, unprofessional and inappropriate. >>She sent me a similar letter awhile back, though nowhere near as nasty, for >>similar reasons: a difference of opinion. I realize she's going through >a >>hard time, but if things are THAT difficult for her, then perhaps she needs >>to step down as moderator and leave the rest of us alone. I don't >>appreciate her intrusive methods, and I doubt that anyone else enjoys being >>shot down every time we disagree with her " theories " or opinions. There >ARE >>other lists to belong to. I'm about ready to pull the plug on this one and >>move on. It's creating more stress in my life, and that's the last thing >>any of us needs, right?? >> >>I realizing I may be going out on a limb here, but I'm curious just how >many >>other women are silently fuming, disgusted, or otherwise upset by the list >>messages lately. I also realize it might just calm down and then be fine >>eventually, but as long as Heidi's the moderator and she continues in this >>same fashion, I won't be comfortable sending any messages to the list, even >>if I don't really care if she wants to kick me off. It's immature and I >>won't play her game, and I don't like that she's been doing this to others >>on the list as well. I do value the list as a resource and a means of >>support, but there ARE other ways. If anyone is just as tired of this " big >>fish in a small pond " garbage as I am, I say we do something about it. >> >>Replies? >> >>Sincerely, >>Gail >> >> >> >> > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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