Oh...things are getting juicy!

[Guest guest]

Ok...so ever have one of those moments when a topic comes up on the boards and

then nada brings something very close to what we are discussing up? Happens to

me alot and it flips me out. It happened again tonight...and things are starting

to get really interesting around here.

Here is what happened:

Ok, so right on cue nada and brother got into a knock down drag out fight. His

birthday(my brother) is next week and mother's day the next and I knew it was on

the horizon because she started in on me today. Usually it drags me down, but I

have started to begin to use it to my advantage as a type of storm warning now.

So it was the typical scene...he screamed at her for over an hour then attacked

fada as soon as he got out of the car. The entire screaming match was

completely idiotic as usual with neither of them making any real sense...my

brother just kept bringing up the fact that nada will say something nasty and

twisted and then 2 seconds later deny she said it. So they are at the climax of

the fight and it was kind of funny because the entire time, my husband and I

were in the room cracking jokes and they all totally missed it. Finally it

escalated to a point where my husband looked at me and said " whenever you are

ready " ...I waited a couple minutes then finally

said " ok...i'm done " ...hubby picked my brother up by the short hairs and out

the door they went. (Pretty cool...I'm like the queen of hearts...off with their

heads!) Eventually I sat my brother down and chilled him out and wouldn't you

know it...he gathers his composure and nada calls the police on him! (As usual)

So of course things went quickly from bad to worse and it really pissed me off

because it took me 2 hours to calm him down and she picked another fight!

Usually I keep my trap shut, but tonight I stood firmly by my brother and told

the cops that as crazy as it all sounds...he was right on the money about both

of them.

So this is where it gets interesting...so stick with me here. As soon as my

brother left (the cops gave him a ride to the gym...which is totally bizarre) my

father said something interesting...he told the cop that my brother has been

diagnosed with borderline personality disorder....i about fell over...neither

one of them has mentioned that before...so BPD is now in their

vocabulary...interesting. Well business turned into small talk and fada started

asking this guy about the police academy for my daughter...i was in shock...i

wanted to pursue a life in law and wasn't allowed because of several reasons

that boiled down to the fact that they both thought i was incapable. I asked

him about it later...why is it different and he said that was

different...she has two very strong parents who brought her up right and she can

handle anything. Ok...stop the presses...did you just call me a good parent?

Nada piped up " well of course! look at you...your kids have already

turned out better than what we did with your brother " Ok...seriously...who are

you people and what have you done with my sadistic parents? Then as nada was

trying to explain how the two of them got into the fight she mentioned the fact

that she " rambles " ...ok...a little scary because that's a new word for her, but

the exact term I used in a post just yesterday.

Fast Forward about 4 hours later...brother is finished at the gym and wants to

be picked up. Fada jumps in the car and goes to pick him up...well apparently

as soon as his butt hit the seat fada lit in to him...it got so bad, my brother

jumped out of the car...WHILE it was speeding down the road! How bad do things

have to get to make someone decide to jump out of a moving car? (He's totally

fine...a little bit of road rash, but that's it) Well, eventually they relented

that they wanted us to go pick him up and as soon as my husband left, nada took

off to go run and hide in the bedroom. (Typical) That's when it happened...fada

said " I can't take any more of this crap...I'm living with TWO people with

BPD " ...ummm...excuse me...can you repeat that?...Apparently nada has been

diagnosed with BPD!! I couldn't help it...I jumped up and said " SHUT UP!!

Seriously? " (not sarcastically)...my entire world has been validated by that one

slip! I'm on cloud 9!! When I left he thanked

me, hugged me (which he has never done in my entire life) and told me that he

was lucky to have a daughter like me. (Now this is the same man who got offended

at " hi dad " just 48 hours ago) Granted, its just a matter of time before

everything that has unfolded becomes my fault, but at least now I can confront

nada over the BPD thing.

So...basically I have now been split white and I have to say...i probably should

be offended, but i'm riding this wave until it crashes....which will be any

moment but I will take what I can get. Amazing...somebody pinch me!

Kisses and Nibbles,

Bunny

[Guest guest]

wow bunny,,,, So is your fada also BPD? he just didnt fess up? Very

interesting wonder when they got diagnosed?

>

> Ok...so ever have one of those moments when a topic comes up on the

boards and then nada brings something very close to what we are

discussing up? Happens to me alot and it flips me out. It happened

again tonight...and things are starting to get really interesting

around here.

>

> Here is what happened:

> Ok, so right on cue nada and brother got into a knock down drag out

fight. His birthday(my brother) is next week and mother's day the

next and I knew it was on the horizon because she started in on me

today. Usually it drags me down, but I have started to begin to use

it to my advantage as a type of storm warning now. So it was the

typical scene...he screamed at her for over an hour then attacked fada

as soon as he got out of the car. The entire screaming match was

completely idiotic as usual with neither of them making any real

sense...my brother just kept bringing up the fact that nada will say

something nasty and twisted and then 2 seconds later deny she said it.

So they are at the climax of the fight and it was kind of funny

because the entire time, my husband and I were in the room cracking

jokes and they all totally missed it. Finally it escalated to a point

where my husband looked at me and said " whenever you are ready " ...I

waited a couple minutes then finally

> said " ok...i'm done " ...hubby picked my brother up by the short

hairs and out the door they went. (Pretty cool...I'm like the queen of

hearts...off with their heads!) Eventually I sat my brother down and

chilled him out and wouldn't you know it...he gathers his composure

and nada calls the police on him! (As usual) So of course things went

quickly from bad to worse and it really pissed me off because it took

me 2 hours to calm him down and she picked another fight! Usually I

keep my trap shut, but tonight I stood firmly by my brother and told

the cops that as crazy as it all sounds...he was right on the money

about both of them.

>

> So this is where it gets interesting...so stick with me here. As

soon as my brother left (the cops gave him a ride to the gym...which

is totally bizarre) my father said something interesting...he told the

cop that my brother has been diagnosed with borderline personality

disorder....i about fell over...neither one of them has mentioned that

before...so BPD is now in their vocabulary...interesting. Well

business turned into small talk and fada started asking this guy about

the police academy for my daughter...i was in shock...i wanted to

pursue a life in law and wasn't allowed because of several reasons

that boiled down to the fact that they both thought i was incapable.

I asked him about it later...why is it different and he said that

was different...she has two very strong parents who brought her

up right and she can handle anything. Ok...stop the presses...did you

just call me a good parent? Nada piped up " well of course! look at

you...your kids have already

> turned out better than what we did with your brother "

Ok...seriously...who are you people and what have you done with my

sadistic parents? Then as nada was trying to explain how the two of

them got into the fight she mentioned the fact that she

" rambles " ...ok...a little scary because that's a new word for her, but

the exact term I used in a post just yesterday.

>

> Fast Forward about 4 hours later...brother is finished at the gym

and wants to be picked up. Fada jumps in the car and goes to pick him

up...well apparently as soon as his butt hit the seat fada lit in to

him...it got so bad, my brother jumped out of the car...WHILE it was

speeding down the road! How bad do things have to get to make someone

decide to jump out of a moving car? (He's totally fine...a little bit

of road rash, but that's it) Well, eventually they relented that they

wanted us to go pick him up and as soon as my husband left, nada took

off to go run and hide in the bedroom. (Typical) That's when it

happened...fada said " I can't take any more of this crap...I'm living

with TWO people with BPD " ...ummm...excuse me...can you repeat

that?...Apparently nada has been diagnosed with BPD!! I couldn't help

it...I jumped up and said " SHUT UP!! Seriously? " (not

sarcastically)...my entire world has been validated by that one slip!

I'm on cloud 9!! When I left he thanked

> me, hugged me (which he has never done in my entire life) and told

me that he was lucky to have a daughter like me. (Now this is the same

man who got offended at " hi dad " just 48 hours ago) Granted, its just

a matter of time before everything that has unfolded becomes my fault,

but at least now I can confront nada over the BPD thing.

>

> So...basically I have now been split white and I have to say...i

probably should be offended, but i'm riding this wave until it

crashes....which will be any moment but I will take what I can get.

Amazing...somebody pinch me!

>

>

>

>

> Kisses and Nibbles,

>

> Bunny

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

wow bunny,,,, So is your fada also BPD? he just didnt fess up? Very

interesting wonder when they got diagnosed?

>

> Ok...so ever have one of those moments when a topic comes up on the

boards and then nada brings something very close to what we are

discussing up? Happens to me alot and it flips me out. It happened

again tonight...and things are starting to get really interesting

around here.

>

> Here is what happened:

> Ok, so right on cue nada and brother got into a knock down drag out

fight. His birthday(my brother) is next week and mother's day the

next and I knew it was on the horizon because she started in on me

today. Usually it drags me down, but I have started to begin to use

it to my advantage as a type of storm warning now. So it was the

typical scene...he screamed at her for over an hour then attacked fada

as soon as he got out of the car. The entire screaming match was

completely idiotic as usual with neither of them making any real

sense...my brother just kept bringing up the fact that nada will say

something nasty and twisted and then 2 seconds later deny she said it.

So they are at the climax of the fight and it was kind of funny

because the entire time, my husband and I were in the room cracking

jokes and they all totally missed it. Finally it escalated to a point

where my husband looked at me and said " whenever you are ready " ...I

waited a couple minutes then finally

> said " ok...i'm done " ...hubby picked my brother up by the short

hairs and out the door they went. (Pretty cool...I'm like the queen of

hearts...off with their heads!) Eventually I sat my brother down and

chilled him out and wouldn't you know it...he gathers his composure

and nada calls the police on him! (As usual) So of course things went

quickly from bad to worse and it really pissed me off because it took

me 2 hours to calm him down and she picked another fight! Usually I

keep my trap shut, but tonight I stood firmly by my brother and told

the cops that as crazy as it all sounds...he was right on the money

about both of them.

>

> So this is where it gets interesting...so stick with me here. As

soon as my brother left (the cops gave him a ride to the gym...which

is totally bizarre) my father said something interesting...he told the

cop that my brother has been diagnosed with borderline personality

disorder....i about fell over...neither one of them has mentioned that

before...so BPD is now in their vocabulary...interesting. Well

business turned into small talk and fada started asking this guy about

the police academy for my daughter...i was in shock...i wanted to

pursue a life in law and wasn't allowed because of several reasons

that boiled down to the fact that they both thought i was incapable.

I asked him about it later...why is it different and he said that

was different...she has two very strong parents who brought her

up right and she can handle anything. Ok...stop the presses...did you

just call me a good parent? Nada piped up " well of course! look at

you...your kids have already

> turned out better than what we did with your brother "

Ok...seriously...who are you people and what have you done with my

sadistic parents? Then as nada was trying to explain how the two of

them got into the fight she mentioned the fact that she

" rambles " ...ok...a little scary because that's a new word for her, but

the exact term I used in a post just yesterday.

>

> Fast Forward about 4 hours later...brother is finished at the gym

and wants to be picked up. Fada jumps in the car and goes to pick him

up...well apparently as soon as his butt hit the seat fada lit in to

him...it got so bad, my brother jumped out of the car...WHILE it was

speeding down the road! How bad do things have to get to make someone

decide to jump out of a moving car? (He's totally fine...a little bit

of road rash, but that's it) Well, eventually they relented that they

wanted us to go pick him up and as soon as my husband left, nada took

off to go run and hide in the bedroom. (Typical) That's when it

happened...fada said " I can't take any more of this crap...I'm living

with TWO people with BPD " ...ummm...excuse me...can you repeat

that?...Apparently nada has been diagnosed with BPD!! I couldn't help

it...I jumped up and said " SHUT UP!! Seriously? " (not

sarcastically)...my entire world has been validated by that one slip!

I'm on cloud 9!! When I left he thanked

> me, hugged me (which he has never done in my entire life) and told

me that he was lucky to have a daughter like me. (Now this is the same

man who got offended at " hi dad " just 48 hours ago) Granted, its just

a matter of time before everything that has unfolded becomes my fault,

but at least now I can confront nada over the BPD thing.

>

> So...basically I have now been split white and I have to say...i

probably should be offended, but i'm riding this wave until it

crashes....which will be any moment but I will take what I can get.

Amazing...somebody pinch me!

>

>

>

>

> Kisses and Nibbles,

>

> Bunny

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

wow bunny,,,, So is your fada also BPD? he just didnt fess up? Very

interesting wonder when they got diagnosed?

>

> Ok...so ever have one of those moments when a topic comes up on the

boards and then nada brings something very close to what we are

discussing up? Happens to me alot and it flips me out. It happened

again tonight...and things are starting to get really interesting

around here.

>

> Here is what happened:

> Ok, so right on cue nada and brother got into a knock down drag out

fight. His birthday(my brother) is next week and mother's day the

next and I knew it was on the horizon because she started in on me

today. Usually it drags me down, but I have started to begin to use

it to my advantage as a type of storm warning now. So it was the

typical scene...he screamed at her for over an hour then attacked fada

as soon as he got out of the car. The entire screaming match was

completely idiotic as usual with neither of them making any real

sense...my brother just kept bringing up the fact that nada will say

something nasty and twisted and then 2 seconds later deny she said it.

So they are at the climax of the fight and it was kind of funny

because the entire time, my husband and I were in the room cracking

jokes and they all totally missed it. Finally it escalated to a point

where my husband looked at me and said " whenever you are ready " ...I

waited a couple minutes then finally

> said " ok...i'm done " ...hubby picked my brother up by the short

hairs and out the door they went. (Pretty cool...I'm like the queen of

hearts...off with their heads!) Eventually I sat my brother down and

chilled him out and wouldn't you know it...he gathers his composure

and nada calls the police on him! (As usual) So of course things went

quickly from bad to worse and it really pissed me off because it took

me 2 hours to calm him down and she picked another fight! Usually I

keep my trap shut, but tonight I stood firmly by my brother and told

the cops that as crazy as it all sounds...he was right on the money

about both of them.

>

> So this is where it gets interesting...so stick with me here. As

soon as my brother left (the cops gave him a ride to the gym...which

is totally bizarre) my father said something interesting...he told the

cop that my brother has been diagnosed with borderline personality

disorder....i about fell over...neither one of them has mentioned that

before...so BPD is now in their vocabulary...interesting. Well

business turned into small talk and fada started asking this guy about

the police academy for my daughter...i was in shock...i wanted to

pursue a life in law and wasn't allowed because of several reasons

that boiled down to the fact that they both thought i was incapable.

I asked him about it later...why is it different and he said that

was different...she has two very strong parents who brought her

up right and she can handle anything. Ok...stop the presses...did you

just call me a good parent? Nada piped up " well of course! look at

you...your kids have already

> turned out better than what we did with your brother "

Ok...seriously...who are you people and what have you done with my

sadistic parents? Then as nada was trying to explain how the two of

them got into the fight she mentioned the fact that she

" rambles " ...ok...a little scary because that's a new word for her, but

the exact term I used in a post just yesterday.

>

> Fast Forward about 4 hours later...brother is finished at the gym

and wants to be picked up. Fada jumps in the car and goes to pick him

up...well apparently as soon as his butt hit the seat fada lit in to

him...it got so bad, my brother jumped out of the car...WHILE it was

speeding down the road! How bad do things have to get to make someone

decide to jump out of a moving car? (He's totally fine...a little bit

of road rash, but that's it) Well, eventually they relented that they

wanted us to go pick him up and as soon as my husband left, nada took

off to go run and hide in the bedroom. (Typical) That's when it

happened...fada said " I can't take any more of this crap...I'm living

with TWO people with BPD " ...ummm...excuse me...can you repeat

that?...Apparently nada has been diagnosed with BPD!! I couldn't help

it...I jumped up and said " SHUT UP!! Seriously? " (not

sarcastically)...my entire world has been validated by that one slip!

I'm on cloud 9!! When I left he thanked

> me, hugged me (which he has never done in my entire life) and told

me that he was lucky to have a daughter like me. (Now this is the same

man who got offended at " hi dad " just 48 hours ago) Granted, its just

a matter of time before everything that has unfolded becomes my fault,

but at least now I can confront nada over the BPD thing.

>

> So...basically I have now been split white and I have to say...i

probably should be offended, but i'm riding this wave until it

crashes....which will be any moment but I will take what I can get.

Amazing...somebody pinch me!

>

>

>

>

> Kisses and Nibbles,

>

> Bunny

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Oh...sorry about that...i should have included that...yes, he has been diagnosed

as well...it's ironic because nada said the exact same thing about fada...word

for word just a couple minutes prior. But i've known about him being diagnosed

because my therapist confirmed it with him...his primary diagnosis is bi-polar

though..so he has been treated for that and it's kind of a two birds one stone

kind of situation...his medication pretty much takes care of both things.

Because of my brother's harping on the two of them have been going to counseling

for about a month now. I knew they were going, because nada has told me as

much, but according to her the therapist has assured them that they have done

everything right. Par for the course, because they pretty much jump from doctor

to doctor until they find one that will tell them what they want to hear. Of

course, what the doctor is saying is nada's rendition which I knew wasn't right

because there is not a perfect parent on earth...raising children is trial and

error... " perfect parent " is a total oxymoron...i'm very satisfied with the

choices my husband and I have made for our children...but there are definitely

some things i wish i could change. You live you learn and you do the best you

can.

Kisses and Nibbles,

Bunny

wrote: wow

bunny,,,, So is your fada also BPD? he just didnt fess up? Very

interesting wonder when they got diagnosed?

>

> Ok...so ever have one of those moments when a topic comes up on the

boards and then nada brings something very close to what we are

discussing up? Happens to me alot and it flips me out. It happened

again tonight...and things are starting to get really interesting

around here.

>

> Here is what happened:

> Ok, so right on cue nada and brother got into a knock down drag out

fight. His birthday(my brother) is next week and mother's day the

next and I knew it was on the horizon because she started in on me

today. Usually it drags me down, but I have started to begin to use

it to my advantage as a type of storm warning now. So it was the

typical scene...he screamed at her for over an hour then attacked fada

as soon as he got out of the car. The entire screaming match was

completely idiotic as usual with neither of them making any real

sense...my brother just kept bringing up the fact that nada will say

something nasty and twisted and then 2 seconds later deny she said it.

So they are at the climax of the fight and it was kind of funny

because the entire time, my husband and I were in the room cracking

jokes and they all totally missed it. Finally it escalated to a point

where my husband looked at me and said " whenever you are ready " ...I

waited a couple minutes then finally

> said " ok...i'm done " ...hubby picked my brother up by the short

hairs and out the door they went. (Pretty cool...I'm like the queen of

hearts...off with their heads!) Eventually I sat my brother down and

chilled him out and wouldn't you know it...he gathers his composure

and nada calls the police on him! (As usual) So of course things went

quickly from bad to worse and it really pissed me off because it took

me 2 hours to calm him down and she picked another fight! Usually I

keep my trap shut, but tonight I stood firmly by my brother and told

the cops that as crazy as it all sounds...he was right on the money

about both of them.

>

> So this is where it gets interesting...so stick with me here. As

soon as my brother left (the cops gave him a ride to the gym...which

is totally bizarre) my father said something interesting...he told the

cop that my brother has been diagnosed with borderline personality

disorder....i about fell over...neither one of them has mentioned that

before...so BPD is now in their vocabulary...interesting. Well

business turned into small talk and fada started asking this guy about

the police academy for my daughter...i was in shock...i wanted to

pursue a life in law and wasn't allowed because of several reasons

that boiled down to the fact that they both thought i was incapable.

I asked him about it later...why is it different and he said that

was different...she has two very strong parents who brought her

up right and she can handle anything. Ok...stop the presses...did you

just call me a good parent? Nada piped up " well of course! look at

you...your kids have already

> turned out better than what we did with your brother "

Ok...seriously...who are you people and what have you done with my

sadistic parents? Then as nada was trying to explain how the two of

them got into the fight she mentioned the fact that she

" rambles " ...ok...a little scary because that's a new word for her, but

the exact term I used in a post just yesterday.

>

> Fast Forward about 4 hours later...brother is finished at the gym

and wants to be picked up. Fada jumps in the car and goes to pick him

up...well apparently as soon as his butt hit the seat fada lit in to

him...it got so bad, my brother jumped out of the car...WHILE it was

speeding down the road! How bad do things have to get to make someone

decide to jump out of a moving car? (He's totally fine...a little bit

of road rash, but that's it) Well, eventually they relented that they

wanted us to go pick him up and as soon as my husband left, nada took

off to go run and hide in the bedroom. (Typical) That's when it

happened...fada said " I can't take any more of this crap...I'm living

with TWO people with BPD " ...ummm...excuse me...can you repeat

that?...Apparently nada has been diagnosed with BPD!! I couldn't help

it...I jumped up and said " SHUT UP!! Seriously? " (not

sarcastically)...my entire world has been validated by that one slip!

I'm on cloud 9!! When I left he thanked

> me, hugged me (which he has never done in my entire life) and told

me that he was lucky to have a daughter like me. (Now this is the same

man who got offended at " hi dad " just 48 hours ago) Granted, its just

a matter of time before everything that has unfolded becomes my fault,

but at least now I can confront nada over the BPD thing.

>

> So...basically I have now been split white and I have to say...i

probably should be offended, but i'm riding this wave until it

crashes....which will be any moment but I will take what I can get.

Amazing...somebody pinch me!

>

>

>

>

> Kisses and Nibbles,

>

> Bunny

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Oh...sorry about that...i should have included that...yes, he has been diagnosed

as well...it's ironic because nada said the exact same thing about fada...word

for word just a couple minutes prior. But i've known about him being diagnosed

because my therapist confirmed it with him...his primary diagnosis is bi-polar

though..so he has been treated for that and it's kind of a two birds one stone

kind of situation...his medication pretty much takes care of both things.

Because of my brother's harping on the two of them have been going to counseling

for about a month now. I knew they were going, because nada has told me as

much, but according to her the therapist has assured them that they have done

everything right. Par for the course, because they pretty much jump from doctor

to doctor until they find one that will tell them what they want to hear. Of

course, what the doctor is saying is nada's rendition which I knew wasn't right

because there is not a perfect parent on earth...raising children is trial and

error... " perfect parent " is a total oxymoron...i'm very satisfied with the

choices my husband and I have made for our children...but there are definitely

some things i wish i could change. You live you learn and you do the best you

can.

Kisses and Nibbles,

Bunny

wrote: wow

bunny,,,, So is your fada also BPD? he just didnt fess up? Very

interesting wonder when they got diagnosed?

>

> Ok...so ever have one of those moments when a topic comes up on the

boards and then nada brings something very close to what we are

discussing up? Happens to me alot and it flips me out. It happened

again tonight...and things are starting to get really interesting

around here.

>

> Here is what happened:

> Ok, so right on cue nada and brother got into a knock down drag out

fight. His birthday(my brother) is next week and mother's day the

next and I knew it was on the horizon because she started in on me

today. Usually it drags me down, but I have started to begin to use

it to my advantage as a type of storm warning now. So it was the

typical scene...he screamed at her for over an hour then attacked fada

as soon as he got out of the car. The entire screaming match was

completely idiotic as usual with neither of them making any real

sense...my brother just kept bringing up the fact that nada will say

something nasty and twisted and then 2 seconds later deny she said it.

So they are at the climax of the fight and it was kind of funny

because the entire time, my husband and I were in the room cracking

jokes and they all totally missed it. Finally it escalated to a point

where my husband looked at me and said " whenever you are ready " ...I

waited a couple minutes then finally

> said " ok...i'm done " ...hubby picked my brother up by the short

hairs and out the door they went. (Pretty cool...I'm like the queen of

hearts...off with their heads!) Eventually I sat my brother down and

chilled him out and wouldn't you know it...he gathers his composure

and nada calls the police on him! (As usual) So of course things went

quickly from bad to worse and it really pissed me off because it took

me 2 hours to calm him down and she picked another fight! Usually I

keep my trap shut, but tonight I stood firmly by my brother and told

the cops that as crazy as it all sounds...he was right on the money

about both of them.

>

> So this is where it gets interesting...so stick with me here. As

soon as my brother left (the cops gave him a ride to the gym...which

is totally bizarre) my father said something interesting...he told the

cop that my brother has been diagnosed with borderline personality

disorder....i about fell over...neither one of them has mentioned that

before...so BPD is now in their vocabulary...interesting. Well

business turned into small talk and fada started asking this guy about

the police academy for my daughter...i was in shock...i wanted to

pursue a life in law and wasn't allowed because of several reasons

that boiled down to the fact that they both thought i was incapable.

I asked him about it later...why is it different and he said that

was different...she has two very strong parents who brought her

up right and she can handle anything. Ok...stop the presses...did you

just call me a good parent? Nada piped up " well of course! look at

you...your kids have already

> turned out better than what we did with your brother "

Ok...seriously...who are you people and what have you done with my

sadistic parents? Then as nada was trying to explain how the two of

them got into the fight she mentioned the fact that she

" rambles " ...ok...a little scary because that's a new word for her, but

the exact term I used in a post just yesterday.

>

> Fast Forward about 4 hours later...brother is finished at the gym

and wants to be picked up. Fada jumps in the car and goes to pick him

up...well apparently as soon as his butt hit the seat fada lit in to

him...it got so bad, my brother jumped out of the car...WHILE it was

speeding down the road! How bad do things have to get to make someone

decide to jump out of a moving car? (He's totally fine...a little bit

of road rash, but that's it) Well, eventually they relented that they

wanted us to go pick him up and as soon as my husband left, nada took

off to go run and hide in the bedroom. (Typical) That's when it

happened...fada said " I can't take any more of this crap...I'm living

with TWO people with BPD " ...ummm...excuse me...can you repeat

that?...Apparently nada has been diagnosed with BPD!! I couldn't help

it...I jumped up and said " SHUT UP!! Seriously? " (not

sarcastically)...my entire world has been validated by that one slip!

I'm on cloud 9!! When I left he thanked

> me, hugged me (which he has never done in my entire life) and told

me that he was lucky to have a daughter like me. (Now this is the same

man who got offended at " hi dad " just 48 hours ago) Granted, its just

a matter of time before everything that has unfolded becomes my fault,

but at least now I can confront nada over the BPD thing.

>

> So...basically I have now been split white and I have to say...i

probably should be offended, but i'm riding this wave until it

crashes....which will be any moment but I will take what I can get.

Amazing...somebody pinch me!

>

>

>

>

> Kisses and Nibbles,

>

> Bunny

>

>

>

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OMG. Yeti still doesn't need counseling (probably because I'm being 'nice'

and not talking to ANY of them, my FOO can go and get stuffed!!!!!)

Interesting that bro has BPD, and yet the antiparents 'did everything

right'. was that a snow plough I passed on the way here?

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OMG. Yeti still doesn't need counseling (probably because I'm being 'nice'

and not talking to ANY of them, my FOO can go and get stuffed!!!!!)

Interesting that bro has BPD, and yet the antiparents 'did everything

right'. was that a snow plough I passed on the way here?

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You as usual are 100% correct. None of us are perfect parents. I have once or

twince said, " Ok kid I will pay for the therapy you will need over that one,

lets try again! " The only way to become a better parent is to realie that you

are not perfect, so you can try harder.

Lilly

Beach Bunny wrote:

Oh...sorry about that...i should have included that...yes, he has been

diagnosed as well...it's ironic because nada said the exact same thing about

fada...word for word just a couple minutes prior. But i've known about him being

diagnosed because my therapist confirmed it with him...his primary diagnosis is

bi-polar though..so he has been treated for that and it's kind of a two birds

one stone kind of situation...his medication pretty much takes care of both

things.

Because of my brother's harping on the two of them have been going to counseling

for about a month now. I knew they were going, because nada has told me as much,

but according to her the therapist has assured them that they have done

everything right. Par for the course, because they pretty much jump from doctor

to doctor until they find one that will tell them what they want to hear. Of

course, what the doctor is saying is nada's rendition which I knew wasn't right

because there is not a perfect parent on earth...raising children is trial and

error... " perfect parent " is a total oxymoron...i'm very satisfied with the

choices my husband and I have made for our children...but there are definitely

some things i wish i could change. You live you learn and you do the best you

can.

Kisses and Nibbles,

Bunny

wrote: wow bunny,,,, So is your fada also BPD? he

just didnt fess up? Very

interesting wonder when they got diagnosed?

>

> Ok...so ever have one of those moments when a topic comes up on the

boards and then nada brings something very close to what we are

discussing up? Happens to me alot and it flips me out. It happened

again tonight...and things are starting to get really interesting

around here.

>

> Here is what happened:

> Ok, so right on cue nada and brother got into a knock down drag out

fight. His birthday(my brother) is next week and mother's day the

next and I knew it was on the horizon because she started in on me

today. Usually it drags me down, but I have started to begin to use

it to my advantage as a type of storm warning now. So it was the

typical scene...he screamed at her for over an hour then attacked fada

as soon as he got out of the car. The entire screaming match was

completely idiotic as usual with neither of them making any real

sense...my brother just kept bringing up the fact that nada will say

something nasty and twisted and then 2 seconds later deny she said it.

So they are at the climax of the fight and it was kind of funny

because the entire time, my husband and I were in the room cracking

jokes and they all totally missed it. Finally it escalated to a point

where my husband looked at me and said " whenever you are ready " ...I

waited a couple minutes then finally

> said " ok...i'm done " ...hubby picked my brother up by the short

hairs and out the door they went. (Pretty cool...I'm like the queen of

hearts...off with their heads!) Eventually I sat my brother down and

chilled him out and wouldn't you know it...he gathers his composure

and nada calls the police on him! (As usual) So of course things went

quickly from bad to worse and it really pissed me off because it took

me 2 hours to calm him down and she picked another fight! Usually I

keep my trap shut, but tonight I stood firmly by my brother and told

the cops that as crazy as it all sounds...he was right on the money

about both of them.

>

> So this is where it gets interesting...so stick with me here. As

soon as my brother left (the cops gave him a ride to the gym...which

is totally bizarre) my father said something interesting...he told the

cop that my brother has been diagnosed with borderline personality

disorder....i about fell over...neither one of them has mentioned that

before...so BPD is now in their vocabulary...interesting. Well

business turned into small talk and fada started asking this guy about

the police academy for my daughter...i was in shock...i wanted to

pursue a life in law and wasn't allowed because of several reasons

that boiled down to the fact that they both thought i was incapable.

I asked him about it later...why is it different and he said that

was different...she has two very strong parents who brought her

up right and she can handle anything. Ok...stop the presses...did you

just call me a good parent? Nada piped up " well of course! look at

you...your kids have already

> turned out better than what we did with your brother "

Ok...seriously...who are you people and what have you done with my

sadistic parents? Then as nada was trying to explain how the two of

them got into the fight she mentioned the fact that she

" rambles " ...ok...a little scary because that's a new word for her, but

the exact term I used in a post just yesterday.

>

> Fast Forward about 4 hours later...brother is finished at the gym

and wants to be picked up. Fada jumps in the car and goes to pick him

up...well apparently as soon as his butt hit the seat fada lit in to

him...it got so bad, my brother jumped out of the car...WHILE it was

speeding down the road! How bad do things have to get to make someone

decide to jump out of a moving car? (He's totally fine...a little bit

of road rash, but that's it) Well, eventually they relented that they

wanted us to go pick him up and as soon as my husband left, nada took

off to go run and hide in the bedroom. (Typical) That's when it

happened...fada said " I can't take any more of this crap...I'm living

with TWO people with BPD " ...ummm...excuse me...can you repeat

that?...Apparently nada has been diagnosed with BPD!! I couldn't help

it...I jumped up and said " SHUT UP!! Seriously? " (not

sarcastically)...my entire world has been validated by that one slip!

I'm on cloud 9!! When I left he thanked

> me, hugged me (which he has never done in my entire life) and told

me that he was lucky to have a daughter like me. (Now this is the same

man who got offended at " hi dad " just 48 hours ago) Granted, its just

a matter of time before everything that has unfolded becomes my fault,

but at least now I can confront nada over the BPD thing.

>

> So...basically I have now been split white and I have to say...i

probably should be offended, but i'm riding this wave until it

crashes....which will be any moment but I will take what I can get.

Amazing...somebody pinch me!

>

>

>

>

> Kisses and Nibbles,

>

> Bunny

>

>

>

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LOL......you crack me up...that was my thought too...as soon as fada said

something nice my first thought was...I better go check to see if it is snowing!

Another couple of thoughts occurred to me last night...I wonder why this

therapist is treating fada and not nada...if they both have the same diagnosis,

then why wouldn't you treat them both the same?

The other realization is that I totally did what I accused everyone else

of...being stupid enough to believe the crap that comes out of their mouth.

Hubby let it go last night, but then today he nicely said " I didn't want to pop

your balloon last night, and I want you to feel positive about them if only for

a minute but...why are you buying this all of a sudden? " Oh...duh....oh

well...it was nice to live in fantasy land for a bit.

Hutton wrote:

OMG. Yeti still doesn't need counseling (probably because I'm being 'nice'

and not talking to ANY of them, my FOO can go and get stuffed!!!!!)

Interesting that bro has BPD, and yet the antiparents 'did everything

right'. was that a snow plough I passed on the way here?

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> The other realization is that I totally did what I accused everyone

else of...being stupid enough to believe the crap that comes out of

their mouth. Hubby let it go last night, but then today he nicely

said " I didn't want to pop your balloon last night, and I want you to

feel positive about them if only for a minute but...why are you buying

this all of a sudden? " Oh...duh....oh well...it was nice to live in

fantasy land for a bit.

>

Bunny, you're husband is awesome. I was kind of thinking what he was

thinking, but didn't want to " burst your bubble " so to speak. It's

nice to get validation from them, but being split good is as invalid

as being split bad: neither are based in reality, and we have to

approach both with the same skepticism.

I bet each one of them is willing to say the others have a problem.

Also, the reality they paint and believe today could be totally

different next week, or next year. I know someone who I suspect is BPD

who will believe completely opposite things within the course of one

conversation.

I know it's hard because we all want so badly to feel loved,

appreciated and approved of by our parents. The truth is, I think that

we only get those things from them when it suits their current version

of reality. And sometimes it's hard not to get duped when their

current reality is so close to actual reality.

Having said all that, your parents may actually be genuinely

progressing in terms of psychological growth. Only time will tell. But

I do recommend some caution, as this type of thing is the easiest way

to get hoovered.

Melany