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I'm VERY frustrated as I just purchased calcium and Magnesium from

Kirkmans and expected it to be the best for my son as this company

makes products specifically for our kids. I now find out that the type

of calcium and magnesium are not the best choices for the source they

came from. Im trying so hard! I am trying to keep it all straight in

my head. Which types of mag. are good ,wich types of calcium are good,

how much zinc, to B or not to B etc. Im feeling overwhelmed. I feel

like I will never know as much as some of yu guys know and understand

it as well. Sorry for sounding down, thanks for listening. Patti

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I read your post and others concerning why we use particular types of

calcium and magnesium in our different products. There are a lot

confusion on the best type of products for absorption. What type of

forms of the minerals to take are somewhat complicated.

The following may be helpful....

The bottom line... we use the forms of calcium and magnesium we do

since they work the best for children with autism (also ground as a

fine talc powder for absorption and certified as lead free).

We are always happy to have anyone call us directly and talk with our

formulting chemist (Larry Newman - 30 years in vitamin manufacturing)

or our in house doctor (Dr. Hoener) to ask any question. We

can also send you clinical studies that support the blends that we

use for calcium or magnesium). In addition we see hundreds of before

and after blood tests on children with autism using our calcium and

magnesium that confirm its effectiveness.

I had posted the following information about calcium earlier (why we

use a blend of carbonate and citrate (note - other forms may have

higher absorption rates but you would need 5-6 times the volume to

equal the same elemental calcium as citrate or carbonate (carbonate

is about twice as concentrated as citrate)

You bring up a very important question of exactly what type of

calcium supplementation is absorbed the best.

The National Institutes of Health (NIH) held a conference and

published a document (about 31 pages and available on Medline)

entitled Consensus Development Conference on Optimal Calcium Intake.

The following is part of the report.

How is Calcium Absorbed in the Body?

Facts about calcium absorption include:

Only elemental calcium is available for absorption. Calcium carbonate

contains 40% of calcium in elemental form; tribasic calcium

phosphate, 39%; calcium citrate, 24%; calcium lactate, 13%; and,

calcium gluconate, 9%. In clinical terms, the availability of calcium

from these sources does not differ significantly, but some

researchers have suggested that calcium citrate is more bio available

than calcium carbonate.

Generic calcium supplements are not always bio available. The

disintegration and dissolution times of calcium supplements are

critical to calcium absorption and can be tested by placing the

tablet in white vinegar. The tablet should dissolve within 30

minutes.

------------------------------

In addition there are a number of studies comparing the absorption of

calcium carbonate and calcium citrate. In a published report that

summerises a number of studies, calcium citrate is absorbed about 25%

better but since calcium carbonate has almost twice as much elemental

calcium by volume (40% vs. 24%), calcium carbonate is more efficient

by volume. The following abstract summarizes the studies.

1: Am J Ther 1999 Nov;6(6):313-21 Related Articles, Books

Meta-analysis of calcium bioavailability: a comparison of calcium

citrate with calcium carbonate.

Sakhaee K, Bhuket T, -Huet B, Rao DS.

University of Texas Southwestern Medical School, Center for Mineral

Metabolism and Clinical Research, Dallas, TX 75235-8891, USA.

OBJECTIVE: To perform a meta-analysis of data from available

published trials comparing the bioavailability of calcium carbonate

with that of calcium citrate. DATA SOURCES: The whole set was

comprised of 15 studies involving 184 subjects who underwent

measurement of calcium absorption from calcium carbonate and calcium

citrate. Category A excluded four studies for lack of physiological

relevance, use of a mixed preparation with low content of calcium

carbonate, or wide variability in results. Category B was comprised

of five studies (from Category A) involving 71 subjects who took

calcium supplements on an empty stomach. Category C was comprised of

six studies (from Category A) involving 65 subjects who took calcium

preparations with meals. METHOD: The meta-analysis of calcium

absorption data from calcium carbonate and calcium citrate, with

calculation of effect size and 95% confidence intervals. RESULTS:

Calcium absorption from calcium citrate was consistently

significantly higher than that from calcium carbonate by 20.0% in the

whole set, by 24.0% in Category A, by 27.2% on an empty stomach, and

by 21.6% with meals. CONCLUSION: Calcium citrate is better absorbed

than calcium carbonate by approximately 22% to 27%, either on an

empty stomach or co-administered with meals.

Also note that some calcium can contain lead. This is not random but

a decision made of what grade of calcium to use by the manufacturer.

Thanks

Humphrey

> I'm VERY frustrated as I just purchased calcium and Magnesium from

> Kirkmans and expected it to be the best for my son as this company

> makes products specifically for our kids. I now find out that the

type

> of calcium and magnesium are not the best choices for the source

they

> came from. Im trying so hard! I am trying to keep it all straight

in

> my head. Which types of mag. are good ,wich types of calcium are

good,

> how much zinc, to B or not to B etc. Im feeling overwhelmed. I feel

> like I will never know as much as some of yu guys know and

understand

> it as well. Sorry for sounding down, thanks for listening. Patti

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Hi everyone:

I am so frustrated I feel like crying. I feel like there is no one that can

relate to my situation fully of where my son is at. has XYY and verbal

apraxia and apraxia of the fine and gross motor skills. I don't understand how a

child with serve speech delays can read and spell with not that much trouble.

has had a really hard time with writing and the reading and spelling. I

just get mad when I think of how long it took before I knew he had the apraxia

and got him the help he needed. When I was told about the XYY I was told that a

learing disabilities is usually common and so was the speech delay. So I

accepted that and thought it was the answer for what was wrong. Like I said

there wasn't much information. I did fight to have him tested for everything.

Until I finally found out through the school about the apraxia. I joined the

XYY group and just read the intro. and forget it. Basically they say the boys

are more aggressive because of the extra male chrom. they have. And they always

relate it to this study that was done on XYY boys that have criminal records and

the XYY is the result. Sorry, I don't even buy that maybe a nice excuse for

their actions but that's it. My son of course has been frustrated due to the

fact that he could not be understood. Can you image if we as adults could not

be understood on a regular basis? I'm sorry, of course everyone has been or

felt like this before. I tried to get him reading therapy? but the school said

it was getting pulled out too much already for the s/t, special p.e., and o/t

that the teacher needed to have time with him. But it's not working the

progress is not coming. Just like the speech wasn't until I demaned to have him

tested for apraxia after reading about it on a site. You really have to fight

to get the services they need. Is anyone else receiving the reading therapy?

And what is the listening theerapy? I just don't think him being in a group of

kids taking turns reading is what he needs. I think he needs one on one. Thank

you for listening. I hope a didn't offend anyone because I know how personal

and different everyone's situation is. And thank god for any areas of strength

our children have and for all of you parents out there that work so hard to make

it happen.

Linette, mother to 7 XYY, apraxia, 5

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Hi linette,

If the school doesn't want him pulled out more perhaps they will

approve a tutor after school.

Curious as to whether he has been tested for dyslexia. It is a common

thread with apraxic kids.

I may be wrong but I thought Listening therapy was for CAPD and

sensory issues re: sound. I haven't heard that it helps reading.

denise

>I tried to get him reading therapy? but the school said it was

getting pulled out too much already for the s/t, special p.e., and

o/t that the teacher needed to have time with him. But it's not

working the progress is not coming. Just like the speech wasn't

until I demaned to have him tested for apraxia after reading about it

on a site. You really have to fight to get the services they need.

Is anyone else receiving the reading therapy? And what is the

listening theerapy?

Linette, mother to 7 XYY, apraxia, 5

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,

Is Dyslexia when you say the word backwards? was only tested my the s/t

at his school. I really had to fight with the doctors and the shcool to get

what he needed. Do you know if the children are usually tested by a doctor? I

know when it comes to doing his reading or writing I usually have to cover up

the rest of the page so only the sentence were working on or word will show. He

is a visual learner for sure. The xyy web site turned out to be fine. I talked

to some other mom's that have the fine and gross motor skill problems and I

recommended them to this site. Thank you so much for your help.

Linette

" DMon98 <dmharrison98@...> " <dmharrison98@...> wrote:Hi

linette,

If the school doesn't want him pulled out more perhaps they will

approve a tutor after school.

Curious as to whether he has been tested for dyslexia. It is a common

thread with apraxic kids.

I may be wrong but I thought Listening therapy was for CAPD and

sensory issues re: sound. I haven't heard that it helps reading.

denise

>I tried to get him reading therapy? but the school said it was

getting pulled out too much already for the s/t, special p.e., and

o/t that the teacher needed to have time with him. But it's not

working the progress is not coming. Just like the speech wasn't

until I demaned to have him tested for apraxia after reading about it

on a site. You really have to fight to get the services they need.

Is anyone else receiving the reading therapy? And what is the

listening theerapy?

Linette, mother to 7 XYY, apraxia, 5

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Linette -

A specialist is usually recommended to diagnose dyslexia. There are

tests given by school psychs or guidance counselors, but most areas

have independent evaluators. In my well versed, yet unprofessional

opinion, I would say that the covering of the rest of the page sounds

like an indicator. Dyslexia can come in many forms. Suffice it to

say that the word is written right, the child can see it right, but

in the transference to the brain there is a " misread " . Sometimes it

appears backwards, upside down, with missing letters, or the child

may jump all over the page. Have your son try covering just one eye

(first one, then the other) and see if that helps.

Good luck - Marina

> >I tried to get him reading therapy? but the school said it was

> getting pulled out too much already for the s/t, special p.e., and

> o/t that the teacher needed to have time with him. But it's not

> working the progress is not coming. Just like the speech wasn't

> until I demaned to have him tested for apraxia after reading about

it

> on a site. You really have to fight to get the services they

need.

> Is anyone else receiving the reading therapy? And what is the

> listening theerapy?

>

> Linette, mother to 7 XYY, apraxia, 5

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marina

since you are giving advice on dyslexia, any advice for this one...

my 3 y/o son has just started lining letters up backwards., instead of

anthony it's ynohtna

also, he is limited verbally but starts counting from 10, 9, 8, can't say 7

or 6 so i fill in those, he continues with 5,4, i say 3, 2 and 1

also, with the alphabet he starts at z and works his way to a, even without

looking at the flashcards he knows what comes next backwards. he is lefty,

don't know if that makes difference.

he does do it forward also. the school told me not to worry as 3 y/o's

don't know the difference from left to right. but he also calls the number

9, the letter P. it does look like it backwards. any advice?

thanks lori

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The other thing you might want to have tested is eye problems

(tracking problems) due to motor issues. The OT at the school said

that may have tracking problems since she has motor problems.

The OT said that we might have to cover up everything except for the

word she is reading. They put a piece of paper with a window on

it. You move the window to uncover the word that is being read.

I've decided to have tested by an pediatric opthamologist

after reading this board. My doctor didn't recommend it, but I want

to see if she is tracking okay and her eyes are doing other things

okay.

Good luck.

Suzi

> ,

> Is Dyslexia when you say the word backwards? was only

tested my the s/t at his school. I really had to fight with the

doctors and the shcool to get what he needed. Do you know if the

children are usually tested by a doctor? I know when it comes to

doing his reading or writing I usually have to cover up the rest of

the page so only the sentence were working on or word will show. He

is a visual learner for sure. The xyy web site turned out to be

fine. I talked to some other mom's that have the fine and gross

motor skill problems and I recommended them to this site. Thank

you so much for your help.

> Linette

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Suzi,

Many people choose to go to a developmental optometrist, not opthamologist.

The prior will work on vision therapy, and many opthalmolgists think it is

bogus.

I would ask your OT if she has any recommendations.

[ ] Re: very frustrated

> The other thing you might want to have tested is eye problems

> (tracking problems) due to motor issues. The OT at the school said

> that may have tracking problems since she has motor problems.

> The OT said that we might have to cover up everything except for the

> word she is reading. They put a piece of paper with a window on

> it. You move the window to uncover the word that is being read.

>

> I've decided to have tested by an pediatric opthamologist

> after reading this board. My doctor didn't recommend it, but I want

> to see if she is tracking okay and her eyes are doing other things

> okay.

>

> Good luck.

>

> Suzi

>

>

>

> > ,

> > Is Dyslexia when you say the word backwards? was only

> tested my the s/t at his school. I really had to fight with the

> doctors and the shcool to get what he needed. Do you know if the

> children are usually tested by a doctor? I know when it comes to

> doing his reading or writing I usually have to cover up the rest of

> the page so only the sentence were working on or word will show. He

> is a visual learner for sure. The xyy web site turned out to be

> fine. I talked to some other mom's that have the fine and gross

> motor skill problems and I recommended them to this site. Thank

> you so much for your help.

> > Linette

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Suzi, Thanks so much for the info. I will have my son tested also and let you

know the outcome.

Take Care, Linette

" luckygmstwife <suzi_knowles@...> " <suzi_knowles@...> wrote:The

other thing you might want to have tested is eye problems

(tracking problems) due to motor issues. The OT at the school said

that may have tracking problems since she has motor problems.

The OT said that we might have to cover up everything except for the

word she is reading. They put a piece of paper with a window on

it. You move the window to uncover the word that is being read.

I've decided to have tested by an pediatric opthamologist

after reading this board. My doctor didn't recommend it, but I want

to see if she is tracking okay and her eyes are doing other things

okay.

Good luck.

Suzi

> ,

> Is Dyslexia when you say the word backwards? was only

tested my the s/t at his school. I really had to fight with the

doctors and the shcool to get what he needed. Do you know if the

children are usually tested by a doctor? I know when it comes to

doing his reading or writing I usually have to cover up the rest of

the page so only the sentence were working on or word will show. He

is a visual learner for sure. The xyy web site turned out to be

fine. I talked to some other mom's that have the fine and gross

motor skill problems and I recommended them to this site. Thank

you so much for your help.

> Linette

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Marina, Thanks for the info. I have not tried covering one eye yet but will.

And I will have him tested at school and set a new meeting if I have to. I will

post the results.

Take Care, Linette

" marina3029 <philipmary@...> " <philipmary@...> wrote:Linette

-

A specialist is usually recommended to diagnose dyslexia. There are

tests given by school psychs or guidance counselors, but most areas

have independent evaluators. In my well versed, yet unprofessional

opinion, I would say that the covering of the rest of the page sounds

like an indicator. Dyslexia can come in many forms. Suffice it to

say that the word is written right, the child can see it right, but

in the transference to the brain there is a " misread " . Sometimes it

appears backwards, upside down, with missing letters, or the child

may jump all over the page. Have your son try covering just one eye

(first one, then the other) and see if that helps.

Good luck - Marina

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marina

thanks for your reply. you seem to have a great sense of humor. i only wish

i could belong to , " my kid is so normal board " . i was concerned that he was

showing early signs of dyslexia. and was wondering whether or not a 3 y/o

could display early traits of it? my son does have alot of other things

going on. has hydrocephalus and a v-p shunt that will be in for the rest of

his life, 2 brain surgeries, sensory problems, motor planning problems and

was completely non-verbal until 2 weeks ago. thank God he has started coming

around and starting to say the first syllable of the word, like " o " for open.

he has about 15 words at 3.2. if i get his " guys " out, his are " little

people " from fisher-price, he'll line them up. and i'm trying to keep some

of the " bad " behaviors limited. we counted rice cakes today, but i'm just

starting to count them. i think adding and subtracting are way to advanced

for him. he's in a preschool 5x a week for speech and p/t. he is making

great strides and has just learned to nod yes and say " hi. " and has started

pretend playing more. i think the pro-efa has helped. he's been on it since

sept. and just had a big surge in speech. even his teachers are surprised.

his teacher said it seems like he's made some connections and seems re-wired,

more alert and more responsive. it seemed to happen on the winter vacation.

but i understand what you are saying by not looking for , " what's wrong " .

it's very hard to do that when things have gone wrong in the past, but i'll

try and be more positive.

and i know i'm going to be opening a can of worms with this one...

my son's preschool will not put him in a full day program if he is not

autistic, is apraxia under the autistic spectrum? they said no, yet online

on some websites it lists it under the spectrum. please advise.

thanks

lori

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First, in my former life, I was a highly degreed HS English teacher.

Now I'm just " mom " - so it's just an opinion...

Now, let me ask a perspective question:

Would you be worried if the only board you belonged to was the " my

kid is so normal I can't stand it " board?? :)

No - seriously, I'd say that he's QUITE clever. Has a good zeitgeist

(is that the word?) of both the alphabet and the numbers 1-10. I

would think he was just playing with the letters and numbers to see

what he can do with them. As long as he can do them in the " right "

direction, I wouldn't worry. If it turns into something that's not

just playing, then you can consult someone. In the interim, why

don't you show him all the words you can make out of the letters

in " anthony " so he learns a different (more productive??) way to play

with the letters. As for the numbers, see if you can introduce

REALLY basic addition or subtraction. Put some toy " guys " (that

means Rescue Heroes in my house) out and have him count them. Then

put the number out (say 5). Then ask him " What would happen if Ben

Choppen (makes me laugh every time) were there, too?? " (there would

be 6) and take out the number 6. Keep going - or start taking some

away. It will give him a better understanding of the " number line " .

One final note (because I generally like to reply over 100 words to

such a brief question!): when you see your child doing

something " odd " or out of the ordinary, don't think " WHAT'S WRONG?!? "

(unless it's really obviously scary or he's setting the cat on fire)

Ask how you can WORK it to their advantage. My son Riley does alot

of babbling (echolelia). I'm glad he's vocalizing, but it's a bit

worrisome. I WORK it and pick out " phrases " he's using and repeat

them to him. He repeats them back and we work on it. Now we've got

lots of phrases that actually have meaning. Another example (long

enough yet?): My older son (apraxic) was totally non-verbal but I

wanted him to begin learning so I started teaching him his ABCs - but

not with the song because he obviously couldn't sing. So instead, we

worked with flashcards identifying the letters (which, according to

Glynda's great list, is a marker for Kindergarten readiness). When

he was finally able to learn the song, it was kind of cool to him to

already know the letters. So, we did it backwards, but we did it...

Kiss your son. Give him numbers 1 - 20 and go count some Rescue

Heroes!!

Hope this helps!!

Marina

> marina

> since you are giving advice on dyslexia, any advice for this one...

> my 3 y/o son has just started lining letters up backwards., instead

of

> anthony it's ynohtna

> also, he is limited verbally but starts counting from 10, 9, 8,

can't say 7

> or 6 so i fill in those, he continues with 5,4, i say 3, 2 and 1

> also, with the alphabet he starts at z and works his way to a, even

without

> looking at the flashcards he knows what comes next backwards. he is

lefty,

> don't know if that makes difference.

> he does do it forward also. the school told me not to worry as 3

y/o's

> don't know the difference from left to right. but he also calls

the number

> 9, the letter P. it does look like it backwards. any advice?

> thanks lori

>

>

>

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I know my 6 year old left-handed daughter, , also spells things

reversely lots of times. I've heard that it is very common until

about age 6 or 7.

only has some articulation problems, and is reading quite well

for a kindegardener. with the apraxia spells everything in

the correct order.

He's young, and I think it's amazing he knows his numbers and

letters so well.

Take care!

Suzi

> marina

> since you are giving advice on dyslexia, any advice for this one...

> my 3 y/o son has just started lining letters up backwards.,

instead of

> anthony it's ynohtna

> also, he is limited verbally but starts counting from 10, 9, 8,

can't say 7

> or 6 so i fill in those, he continues with 5,4, i say 3, 2 and 1

> also, with the alphabet he starts at z and works his way to a,

even without

> looking at the flashcards he knows what comes next backwards. he

is lefty,

> don't know if that makes difference.

> he does do it forward also. the school told me not to worry as 3

y/o's

> don't know the difference from left to right. but he also calls

the number

> 9, the letter P. it does look like it backwards. any advice?

> thanks lori

>

>

>

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You've certainly got your very own can of worms...Glad that (despite

everything) your son is making progress. I hope the ProEFA helps.

If it makes you feel better, my son Riley is also 3.2 and just

started to be verbal. It's really hard. I know that you're seeing

the beginnings of things (O for Open, etc.) so work on that. It also

sounds like he's perhaps found a strength in working with numbers and

letters - just because he's weak in something else does NOT mean he's

not capable of making progress in other areas. Good luck! (by the

way, the natural transition is from Fisher Price little people to the

Rescue Heroes. It's well documented. :) )

As for the apraxia vs. autism thing, it really depends on with whom

you speak... They share many of the same traits and complications

(is that the right way to put it?) - often have sensory issues, lack

of communication abilities. My 4 year old is CLASSICALLY apraxic (I

believe it runs heartily in my husband's family). He didn't speak

until he was 2.2 or so and then took off running. He called

everything " Da " - me, dad, cup, food, juice, horse - all " Da " . He's

got some sensory issues (but he does seem to be outgrowing them),

etc.. Here's the difference (from my non-professional opinion): an

apraxic child's speech is affected, but the child will attempt to

communicate in other ways - bring you to the refridgerator to show

you he wants juice or point or create an elaborate gesturing system

to talk to you. It's not exactly a conversation, but they are

working with you. If you were told you couldn't speak or write for a

week but had to continue in life, you would do something similar. An

autistic child has problems in the development of interaction and

socialization - these compensating skills may be impared. Someone

with an autistic child jump in and help me here... There's lots in

the archives on it.

Also, the two can (and I think many believe often do) CO-EXIST -

making it diagnosis difficult. Is the child not talking because

they're severely autistic or because they're apraxic. Makes it

difficult. You have, as I said, a different can of worms. Have you

been to see a developmental pediatrician? They could really help you

I would imagine. Where are you (if you don't mind my asking)?

Not sure I've helped - email me privately if you wish - I'm not full

of knowledge, but I know that between my two boys I've had so many

sleepless nights, had stress induced hairloss, a case of shingles,

and the feeling that my life is not what I wished it to be - nor the

lives of my children. Focusing on the positive often feels like a

frivolous escape (and seems shallow) but I know it's the best thing

for my kids. This is not to say that I'm not fully prepared to rip

someone a new one for asking " What's WRONG with him? " :)

> marina

> thanks for your reply. you seem to have a great sense of humor. i

only wish

> i could belong to , " my kid is so normal board " . i was concerned

that he was

> showing early signs of dyslexia. and was wondering whether or not

a 3 y/o

> could display early traits of it? my son does have alot of other

things

> going on. has hydrocephalus and a v-p shunt that will be in for

the rest of

> his life, 2 brain surgeries, sensory problems, motor planning

problems and

> was completely non-verbal until 2 weeks ago. thank God he has

started coming

> around and starting to say the first syllable of the word, like " o "

for open.

> he has about 15 words at 3.2. if i get his " guys " out, his

are " little

> people " from fisher-price, he'll line them up. and i'm trying to

keep some

> of the " bad " behaviors limited. we counted rice cakes today, but

i'm just

> starting to count them. i think adding and subtracting are way to

advanced

> for him. he's in a preschool 5x a week for speech and p/t. he is

making

> great strides and has just learned to nod yes and say " hi. " and

has started

> pretend playing more. i think the pro-efa has helped. he's been

on it since

> sept. and just had a big surge in speech. even his teachers are

surprised.

> his teacher said it seems like he's made some connections and seems

re-wired,

> more alert and more responsive. it seemed to happen on the winter

vacation.

> but i understand what you are saying by not looking for , " what's

wrong " .

> it's very hard to do that when things have gone wrong in the past,

but i'll

> try and be more positive.

>

> and i know i'm going to be opening a can of worms with this one...

> my son's preschool will not put him in a full day program if he is

not

> autistic, is apraxia under the autistic spectrum? they said no,

yet online

> on some websites it lists it under the spectrum. please advise.

> thanks

> lori

>

>

>

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Hi Marina,

I have been reading all your emails and you seem quite knowledgeable on the

Apraxia subject.

My daughter is 3 and has been seeing a speech therapist since about August.

We are from Canada, so we don't pay for any of these services, but as a

result, our healthcare is cut back and there is only 1 SLP that covers our

Northern area (about 100 mile radius - about 20 towns or so). She is now

currently seeing the SLP about 1-2 times a month and each session is only

about 15 min. I don't exactly call 1/2 hour a month " therapy " , would you?!

They referred her to a special centre in Saskatoon, Saskatchewan (about 300

miles from us) where they work with children who have all kinds of disorders

and conditions. I was sent a letter back basically saying that she wasn't

" bad enough " for their program. I was totally disgusted. I've been

thinking that she was maybe dyslexic, but this week, the SLP told me that

she is sure she has Apraxia. That is the first I'd ever heard of it. All I

have done this past week is scour the internet for info on this disorder and

am thrilled by all the info I've found.

Kaylin understands absolutely everything,(sometimes too much - if you know

what I mean) and yet it's like when her thoughts try to go from her brain to

her mouth - there's no connection. I just read a couple days ago about the

effects of EFA's and so I've started her on a formula of that this week -

only time will tell, I guess!

The most recent frustration I have is regarding Preschool. I desperately

want to put her in right now, but we have had an awful time potty training

her (as I've heard some other parents of apraxic kids have) and I was told

by another lady this week, that they won't accept kids who aren't potty

trained. She desperately needs the interaction with other kids, so now I

feel like I'm at my wits end.

She is probably 80% trained in the fact that she can get out of bed in the

morning and go pee without telling us and she has been getting really good

at going " poop " on her own because that was one of her new words this month!

It's the inconsistency that frustrates me and I wonder if that is from the

apraxia or what. I work out of the home and I don't think my babysitter is

really strict with the potty issue, so that also doesn't help. Did you have

trouble with potty training? Do you have advice regarding the Preschool.

It's only for 2 hours, so if I tell them that she is almost completely

trained, but that she just needs to be taken and reminded and if she wears a

Pull-up there, at least her clothes wouldn't need changing. I just don't

know. I really want her to be in Preschool with the kids that she'll go to

Kindergarten with, so they get to know each other.

Thanks again for any advice and just for the listening ear. This support

site is a god-send to me. (As you can see, I like to use a minimum of 100

words or so as well!! :-)

(Mom of Kaylin (3) and Samara (19 mo.)

>From: " marina3029 <philipmary@...> " <philipmary@...>

>Reply-

>

>Subject: [ ] Re: very frustrated

>Date: Sat, 11 Jan 2003 14:34:15 -0000

>

>You've certainly got your very own can of worms...Glad that (despite

>everything) your son is making progress. I hope the ProEFA helps.

>If it makes you feel better, my son Riley is also 3.2 and just

>started to be verbal. It's really hard. I know that you're seeing

>the beginnings of things (O for Open, etc.) so work on that. It also

>sounds like he's perhaps found a strength in working with numbers and

>letters - just because he's weak in something else does NOT mean he's

>not capable of making progress in other areas. Good luck! (by the

>way, the natural transition is from Fisher Price little people to the

>Rescue Heroes. It's well documented. :) )

>

>As for the apraxia vs. autism thing, it really depends on with whom

>you speak... They share many of the same traits and complications

>(is that the right way to put it?) - often have sensory issues, lack

>of communication abilities. My 4 year old is CLASSICALLY apraxic (I

>believe it runs heartily in my husband's family). He didn't speak

>until he was 2.2 or so and then took off running. He called

>everything " Da " - me, dad, cup, food, juice, horse - all " Da " . He's

>got some sensory issues (but he does seem to be outgrowing them),

>etc.. Here's the difference (from my non-professional opinion): an

>apraxic child's speech is affected, but the child will attempt to

>communicate in other ways - bring you to the refridgerator to show

>you he wants juice or point or create an elaborate gesturing system

>to talk to you. It's not exactly a conversation, but they are

>working with you. If you were told you couldn't speak or write for a

>week but had to continue in life, you would do something similar. An

>autistic child has problems in the development of interaction and

>socialization - these compensating skills may be impared. Someone

>with an autistic child jump in and help me here... There's lots in

>the archives on it.

>

>Also, the two can (and I think many believe often do) CO-EXIST -

>making it diagnosis difficult. Is the child not talking because

>they're severely autistic or because they're apraxic. Makes it

>difficult. You have, as I said, a different can of worms. Have you

>been to see a developmental pediatrician? They could really help you

>I would imagine. Where are you (if you don't mind my asking)?

>

>Not sure I've helped - email me privately if you wish - I'm not full

>of knowledge, but I know that between my two boys I've had so many

>sleepless nights, had stress induced hairloss, a case of shingles,

>and the feeling that my life is not what I wished it to be - nor the

>lives of my children. Focusing on the positive often feels like a

>frivolous escape (and seems shallow) but I know it's the best thing

>for my kids. This is not to say that I'm not fully prepared to rip

>someone a new one for asking " What's WRONG with him? " :)

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Hi

If your daughter is 80% potty trained, I'd say to go for it and put her in

preschool. Seeing all the other potty trained kids would probably help her

to achieve that other 20%. I would tell the school that she is potty

trained but " sometimes " still has an accident here and there. Some schools

can be really funny about the " almost " potty trained kids so you should

choose your words carefully. Be careful though of putting pull ups on her

for school because this gives her an easy out and you don't want her to

regress. Just make sure she tries right before school and right when she

gets home. She may have an accident in the beginning but I'm sure they're

used to that if they deal with 3 year olds. I really think that if she is

80%, the preschool setting will be great for her.

Best of luck!

in NJ

kdr@...

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