Guest guest Posted April 23, 2007 Report Share Posted April 23, 2007 YES! Yeti would resort to suicide threats too, but because she's N/BPD she's never attempted to follow through on them. (that would mean depriving the world of her Very Important Personality) Can be pretty spooky when those memories are triggered can't it! _____ << ella for Spam Control >> has removed 1328 Spam messages and set aside 0 Newsletters for me You can use it too - and it's FREE! www.ellaforspam.com Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 23, 2007 Report Share Posted April 23, 2007 yup! momster threatens all the time. once she even threatened with my little sister in the car that she was just going to drive into an electric post, which would make that a homicide/suicide threat! i worry about it a lot, or i used to, because she is so isolated, i don't doubt one day could be the day. my therapist said next time she threatens, call the police. if she is serious, the police will get her help, if she's just doing it for attention, she won't make the threat again. i haven't been brave enough to try it yet. i can't even imagine the revenge she will exact if i call the police on her for that, but she will make me pay for it. my sister has the best response, she says " go ahead, it's your life " which sounds cold and mean, but guess what??? she doesn't make those threats around my sister much anymore, only to me. > > My nada's most extreme method of control was " the suicide threat " : > that she would gas herself in the car or take my dad's hunting rifle > and shoot herself. Her other extreme method of control involved > graphic descriptions of how she would succumb from disease--all > relating to her lingering pain and suffering from having given birth > to me and my sister. I've since learned that most of my triggers are > offshoots of these threats. I've had a year of NC and still wonder > about the potential of actual suicide. (I've heard that Amy Tan > experienced the same treatment from her nada who then managed to live > to a ripe old age.) Anyone else out there? > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 24, 2007 Report Share Posted April 24, 2007 Its ok, even at the time the situation was so redicules that it was funny. Ok nada didn't think it was funny, but you know. Some times you have just taken all you can take. Lilly wrote: Im sorry to laugh,,,, But what you said , Lilly is too funny ! lolol... My nada never threatened when I was young that I can remember anyway, but this last couple years she has mentioned it a couple times,, just said she had felt like killing herself but did have the decency to say she wouldnt follow through being she was too chicken,, Kind of like me,, When I have been really depressed and hormonal lol I have felt I wish I could die, but wouldnt leave my dogs and am too chicken. Guess I got the chicken part from my nada Lol.. I think most peeps at one time or another think about it in thier lives. > > > > > > My nada's most extreme method of control was " the suicide > threat " : > > > that she would gas herself in the car or take my dad's hunting > > rifle > > > and shoot herself. Her other extreme method of control involved > > > graphic descriptions of how she would succumb from disease--all > > > relating to her lingering pain and suffering from having given > > birth > > > to me and my sister. I've since learned that most of my triggers > > are > > > offshoots of these threats. I've had a year of NC and still > wonder > > > about the potential of actual suicide. (I've heard that Amy Tan > > > experienced the same treatment from her nada who then managed to > > live > > > to a ripe old age.) Anyone else out there? > > > > > > > > > > > > --------------------------------- > Ahhh...imagining that irresistible " new car " smell? > Check outnew cars at Yahoo! Autos. > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 24, 2007 Report Share Posted April 24, 2007 I am so sorry that this happened in your life. I hope that my humors way of dealing with it didn't upset you. Humor is just my way of surviving. Lilly mitchell_kristin wrote: The potential for suicide is there- my mom did commit suicide almost 4 years ago. For many years she threatened and made half ass attempts at suicide which were more of a cry for attention. The difference from this and her actually doing it was that she did not threaten or talk about it, her suicide came out of nowhere. Experts say most people who actually commit suicide don't talk about it and threaten. I wouldn't worry until she stops threatening. I never took my moms threats seriously because she threatened for about 15 years, so I never thought she would actually go through with it. I hope this helps. > > My nada's most extreme method of control was " the suicide threat " : > that she would gas herself in the car or take my dad's hunting rifle > and shoot herself. Her other extreme method of control involved > graphic descriptions of how she would succumb from disease--all > relating to her lingering pain and suffering from having given birth > to me and my sister. I've since learned that most of my triggers are > offshoots of these threats. I've had a year of NC and still wonder > about the potential of actual suicide. (I've heard that Amy Tan > experienced the same treatment from her nada who then managed to live > to a ripe old age.) Anyone else out there? > --------------------------------- Ahhh...imagining that irresistible " new car " smell? Check outnew cars at Yahoo! Autos. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 24, 2007 Report Share Posted April 24, 2007 Don't worry, I'm not upset at all. Believe me, I would always call mom's bluff like you when she was around. When she treatened, I said go for it. We all need our humor to keep going! > > > > My nada's most extreme method of control was " the suicide threat " : > > that she would gas herself in the car or take my dad's hunting rifle > > and shoot herself. Her other extreme method of control involved > > graphic descriptions of how she would succumb from disease--all > > relating to her lingering pain and suffering from having given birth > > to me and my sister. I've since learned that most of my triggers are > > offshoots of these threats. I've had a year of NC and still wonder > > about the potential of actual suicide. (I've heard that Amy Tan > > experienced the same treatment from her nada who then managed to > live > > to a ripe old age.) Anyone else out there? > > > > > > > > > --------------------------------- > Ahhh...imagining that irresistible " new car " smell? > Check outnew cars at Yahoo! Autos. > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 24, 2007 Report Share Posted April 24, 2007 My mother has never threatened to commit suicide. Not all BPDs do that. But a few months ago, I was very depressed and was thinking about it myself (but didn't tell anyone) and one thing that ran through my mind was the panic of " If I do that, then she'll come over and go through my stuff and invade my privacy after I'm dead. " And I knew that was really messed up and I thought " wow, she has way too much control over me, a 36 year old woman. " Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 24, 2007 Report Share Posted April 24, 2007 Lilly wrote: Believe me, I would always call mom's bluff like you when she was around. When she treatened, I said go for it. ____________________ To Yeti: " If you need any help all you have to do is ask " ... She hasn't even hinted at threatening since. They can't control themselves? Pigs arse... _____ << ella for Spam Control >> has removed 1353 Spam messages and set aside 0 Newsletters for me You can use it too - and it's FREE! www.ellaforspam.com Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 24, 2007 Report Share Posted April 24, 2007 Lilly wrote: Believe me, I would always call mom's bluff like you when she was around. When she treatened, I said go for it. ____________________ To Yeti: " If you need any help all you have to do is ask " ... She hasn't even hinted at threatening since. They can't control themselves? Pigs arse... _____ << ella for Spam Control >> has removed 1353 Spam messages and set aside 0 Newsletters for me You can use it too - and it's FREE! www.ellaforspam.com Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 24, 2007 Report Share Posted April 24, 2007 Lilly wrote: Believe me, I would always call mom's bluff like you when she was around. When she treatened, I said go for it. ____________________ To Yeti: " If you need any help all you have to do is ask " ... She hasn't even hinted at threatening since. They can't control themselves? Pigs arse... _____ << ella for Spam Control >> has removed 1353 Spam messages and set aside 0 Newsletters for me You can use it too - and it's FREE! www.ellaforspam.com Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 24, 2007 Report Share Posted April 24, 2007 Hi . I dont have anything new to add, but I also want to say I'm sorry that you went through what you went through with your mom. > > > > My nada's most extreme method of control was " the suicide threat " : > > that she would gas herself in the car or take my dad's hunting rifle > > and shoot herself. Her other extreme method of control involved > > graphic descriptions of how she would succumb from disease--all > > relating to her lingering pain and suffering from having given birth > > to me and my sister. I've since learned that most of my triggers are > > offshoots of these threats. I've had a year of NC and still wonder > > about the potential of actual suicide. (I've heard that Amy Tan > > experienced the same treatment from her nada who then managed to > live > > to a ripe old age.) Anyone else out there? > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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