Advice on Raging

[Guest guest]

I have a BP mother and a NP husband... what a combo as I write those

words...I have been told in therapy unfortunately this happens

because we seek what we had we our parent with our spouse. (yuck)

That is why the young people discovering all of this--Bless you,

start seeing and living in the light of healthy!!

I truly am asking for some advice here. I feel like because of my

childhood I do worry I am super sensitive to any form of raging.

I don't know if I am to find some of it acceptable, because we are

all human. I know life isn't perfect. I know I can get really anger

and rarely but I have raged...when I have had enough of the BP and NP

in my life. I am the one the very long fuse, that is how I survived

the BP and NP in my life.

My husband the NP still rages, not as much...but I hate it. This

morning he went out for breakfast sandwiches for us. When he came

back, my sandwich was wrong. I said don't worry about it, it isn't

your sandwich, I'll make do or take it back. He went off about the

idiots who make the sandwich. I told him to not waste his energies on

this, and just enjoy his sandwich. He told me, he had the right to be

upset and he is allowed to act like this. He continued about the

sandwich.

From my years of nada's and his previous constant NP's raging....I am

so turned off by this. God listen to me doubting myself again, and

questioning if my feelings are accurate.

No one knows the toll this takes on a person's emotional and mental

outlook.

Thanks for listening,

Malinda