Re: Crazy Bedtime Punishment

April 20, 2007

Sorta the opposite here, my nada had some kind of power struggle

with her mother about bedtimes, I guess my grandmother was very

strict and thought " good " children had set bedtimes. So to rebel,

my mother never gave me a bedtime, and I would stay up as late as I

wanted and be exhausted every morning.

>

> I'm going to throw out yet another topic.

> How many out there were punished for not going to bed and

immediately

> sleeping like a perfect angel? I shared a room with my sister.

> Sometimes we'd talk, giggle, throw toys around-- & not sleep. Normal

> silly kid stuff. (I was a night-owl then, and I'm still one now!)

> Our punishment would be to be:

> 1) a verbal warning

> 2) a hard wack on the butt

> 3) yanking us out of bed and forcing us to sit on the cellar

stairs,

> in the dark, behind a locked door. (twice we were locked out of the

> house--once in the winter wearing just PJs.) I wish I had the video

> tape. As a kid I always wondered if other kids got this same

treatment

> or worse. Yes, I know the answer...but these memories just won't

die.

> Anyone have other stories?

>

April 20, 2007

I don't remember having a strict bedtime, but I do remember that every

night was a ritual of Fada coming to say good-night to me, saying

prayers with me, and he'd often lie in bed beside me (on top of the

sheets, nothing perverse) but he'd fall asleep in my bed before I did!

It was often quite annoying. I'd have this grown adult snoring in

bed beside me, keeping me awake... I think on more than one occasion

I'd get up to get mom to wake him up & take him to bed.

Fada would often fall asleep in front of the TV, but damn you if you

change the channel! He's watching TV! Never mind the snoring....

>

> I'm going to throw out yet another topic.

> How many out there were punished for not going to bed and immediately

> sleeping like a perfect angel? I shared a room with my sister.

> Sometimes we'd talk, giggle, throw toys around-- & not sleep. Normal

> silly kid stuff. (I was a night-owl then, and I'm still one now!)

> Our punishment would be to be:

> 1) a verbal warning

> 2) a hard wack on the butt

> 3) yanking us out of bed and forcing us to sit on the cellar stairs,

> in the dark, behind a locked door. (twice we were locked out of the

> house--once in the winter wearing just PJs.) I wish I had the video

> tape. As a kid I always wondered if other kids got this same treatment

> or worse. Yes, I know the answer...but these memories just won't die.

> Anyone have other stories?

>

April 20, 2007

Yikes!! wow...that is harsh!

I didn't experience this as a kid, but my husband did...and he and I went round

and round when my children were little. He could not understand how someone

can't just simply go to bed, close their eyes and go to sleep immediately! I

remember on time when my kids were little they had gone to bed and he had gone

out on a fire call (we were in the volunteer fire department at the time). He

called me from the firehouse and asked me if the kids were in bed. I replied

" yes, they are all tucked in and I just settled into bed to watch Picked Fences "

He arrived home about 45 minutes later and as he crept into the girls' room, my

youngest daughter was laying down and quietly playing with a stuffed animal...he

started yelling at her because she wasn't asleep yet, took all her toys and

stood over top of her yelling " go to sleep!...you are just laying there with

your eyes closed...sleep!...SLEEP! " He would do the same thing to them if they

were crying...he would grab them up and

yell " turn it off! " Well, the momma bear in me took over, and lets just say it

was the very last time he EVER did something like that...EVER! Come to find

out, that is what his grandfather did to to him...so he had adopted that as

acceptable. I am an insomniac so he and I really battle the bedtime thing...he

can't understand why I just can't " turn-off " ...like i do it because i choose

too.

" mr.zarkley " wrote: I'm

going to throw out yet another topic.

How many out there were punished for not going to bed and immediately

sleeping like a perfect angel? I shared a room with my sister.

Sometimes we'd talk, giggle, throw toys around-- & not sleep. Normal

silly kid stuff. (I was a night-owl then, and I'm still one now!)

Our punishment would be to be:

1) a verbal warning

2) a hard wack on the butt

3) yanking us out of bed and forcing us to sit on the cellar stairs,

in the dark, behind a locked door. (twice we were locked out of the

house--once in the winter wearing just PJs.) I wish I had the video

tape. As a kid I always wondered if other kids got this same treatment

or worse. Yes, I know the answer...but these memories just won't die.

Anyone have other stories?

April 20, 2007

It's so great that you recognized that your husband's behavior was

odd/wrong--and that you protected your kids. Having even just one

parent's validation is HUGE!

My Dad let nada rule the house. No matter how crazy the punishment, he

went along with her: " parents need to have a united front " " or kids

can manipulate the hell out of their parents " ...therefore any

punishment that nada dished out was OK. I think so much of this is

about CONTROL.

I'm going to throw out yet another topic.

> How many out there were punished for not going to bed and immediately

> sleeping like a perfect angel? I shared a room with my sister.

> Sometimes we'd talk, giggle, throw toys around-- & not sleep. Normal

> silly kid stuff. (I was a night-owl then, and I'm still one now!)

> Our punishment would be to be:

> 1) a verbal warning

> 2) a hard wack on the butt

> 3) yanking us out of bed and forcing us to sit on the cellar stairs,

> in the dark, behind a locked door. (twice we were locked out of the

> house--once in the winter wearing just PJs.) I wish I had the video

> tape. As a kid I always wondered if other kids got this same treatment

> or worse. Yes, I know the answer...but these memories just won't die.

> Anyone have other stories?

>

April 20, 2007

It's so great that you recognized that your husband's behavior was

odd/wrong--and that you protected your kids. Having even just one

parent's validation is HUGE!

My Dad let nada rule the house. No matter how crazy the punishment, he

went along with her: " parents need to have a united front " " or kids

can manipulate the hell out of their parents " ...therefore any

punishment that nada dished out was OK. I think so much of this is

about CONTROL.

I'm going to throw out yet another topic.

> How many out there were punished for not going to bed and immediately

> sleeping like a perfect angel? I shared a room with my sister.

> Sometimes we'd talk, giggle, throw toys around-- & not sleep. Normal

> silly kid stuff. (I was a night-owl then, and I'm still one now!)

> Our punishment would be to be:

> 1) a verbal warning

> 2) a hard wack on the butt

> 3) yanking us out of bed and forcing us to sit on the cellar stairs,

> in the dark, behind a locked door. (twice we were locked out of the

> house--once in the winter wearing just PJs.) I wish I had the video

> tape. As a kid I always wondered if other kids got this same treatment

> or worse. Yes, I know the answer...but these memories just won't die.

> Anyone have other stories?

>

April 20, 2007

oh, yes, this was what happened to me too !! and nada did not put me to

bed...I had to do that myself even in kindergarten..had to brush my teeth

alone, wash my face, and climb into bed...no books were ever read to me, no

night light was allowed..I used to stand at the stairs and say " good night "

and NO ONE would ever answer...worried that she left ( as she always

threatened to do some night while we were sleeping) I would repeat it until

she finally screamed at me to shut up and go to bed....I was in kindergarten

through 2nd grade before I finally stopped saying good night to her...

Jackie

I'm going to throw out yet another topic.

How many out there were punished for not going to bed and immediately

sleeping like a perfect angel? I shared a room with my sister.

Sometimes we'd talk, giggle, throw toys around-- & not sleep. Normal

silly kid stuff. (I was a night-owl then, and I'm still one now!)

Our punishment would be to be:

1) a verbal warning

2) a hard wack on the butt

3) yanking us out of bed and forcing us to sit on the cellar stairs,

in the dark, behind a locked door. (twice we were locked out of the

house--once in the winter wearing just PJs.) I wish I had the video

tape. As a kid I always wondered if other kids got this same treatment

or worse. Yes, I know the answer...but these memories just won't die.

Anyone have other stories?

April 20, 2007

Fada would often fall asleep in front of the TV, but damn you if you

change the channel! He's watching TV! Never mind the snoring....

my dad is that way too...he's not BPD nor NP, but heaven help you if you

changed the channel while he was snoring away...he'd instantly awaken and

yell, " I was watching that " but if I'd say " what did (one of the

charactures) just say to (another) and he couldn't answer, then he'd say he

guesses he wasn't watching so let me change the channel

Jackie

April 20, 2007

I was still living with my parents at 23, and when my brother and his

wife to be, Nikki, came into town, we would stay up and talk. Every

half hour, after going to bed, my mother would come out and tell us to

" go to bed " . Always insisting on controlling everything. It's absurd.

April 20, 2007

I was still living with my parents at 23, and when my brother and his

wife to be, Nikki, came into town, we would stay up and talk. Every

half hour, after going to bed, my mother would come out and tell us to

" go to bed " . Always insisting on controlling everything. It's absurd.

April 20, 2007

I was still living with my parents at 23, and when my brother and his

wife to be, Nikki, came into town, we would stay up and talk. Every

half hour, after going to bed, my mother would come out and tell us to

" go to bed " . Always insisting on controlling everything. It's absurd.

April 21, 2007

awesome posts onthe subject of bedtime punishment. Here is my bedtime

story. My Nada would come into my room out of nowhere and make noises

that woke me up. I would stir and she woudl scream at me " turn over

and go to sleep. " she also did this on occasions where we all slept in

the same room/space such as visiting relatives, camping trips, hotels,

etc. She would also gripe at me if i had to get up in the night and go

to the bathroom. I got to be a habitual bedwetter. surprise surprise.

odly she never ever said a damn thing about me wetting the bed. odd.

heres another one. On occasions where we had to share a bed. SHe would

wait till i fell asleep and then reach out with her foot to touch me

somewhere, no matter how far on the other side of the bed i was. I just

cringed then wait til she was dead asleep and roll away. she tried this

again in later adult years while visiting. I just got up and went into

the ohter room to sleep on the couch.

NN

>

> I'm going to throw out yet another topic.

> How many out there were punished for not going to bed and immediately

> sleeping like a perfect angel? I shared a room with my sister.

> Sometimes we'd talk, giggle, throw toys around-- & not sleep. Normal

> silly kid stuff. (I was a night-owl then, and I'm still one now!)

> Our punishment would be to be:

> 1) a verbal warning

> 2) a hard wack on the butt

> 3) yanking us out of bed and forcing us to sit on the cellar stairs,

> in the dark, behind a locked door. (twice we were locked out of the

> house--once in the winter wearing just PJs.) I wish I had the video

> tape. As a kid I always wondered if other kids got this same treatment

> or worse. Yes, I know the answer...but these memories just won't die.

> Anyone have other stories?

>

April 21, 2007